I just read a student’s letter to a 3rd party about my help to him. Many times I am just doing what I do to get the quickest results for a guy… but to hear these things from another perspective tells me what is working best too.
“Two months ago, in January 2011, my life was turned upside down. My girlfriend of eight years and I separated. We had been together since I was fifteen, which is pretty much my entire adult life. When we separated, I was twenty-three years old and not only had I never been single, but I had also never learned how to meet, talk to, or casually date the opposite sex.
It is interesting that every child in America is taught English grammar, algebra and history, but receives no instruction in arguably the most important aspect of life: personal relationships. We are expected to learn from observation and experience, but unfortunately, the reality is that many people simply do not. Moreover, the advice that we are given by our parents or friends is usually just plain wrong. Consequently, it is no wonder that so many people are socially awkward and dissatisfied with their social abilities and situation.
Happily, I found someone who professionally teaches dating training. Over the past two months, in short blocks of time, C.J. has provided me with dating theory, tools, and most importantly, field experience. Every session he would give me some pointers on how to improve myself, ranging from fashion, to posture, and even, to positive thinking. He would also explain dating theory and illuminate— the way that women think and behave. Then, we would go out together. I would talk to dozens of different girls and C.J. would take notes. Later on we would go over each situation, and he would commend my good behavior, and point out the things that I could improve.
My life has changed dramatically. It is a revelation to discover how much fun it can be to go out and meet new people! No longer the chore that it once was, but instead, something I look forward to everyday. It is similarly liberating to cast off all that socialization that coerces us to act like boring automatons when we meet new people. C.J. has helped to allow the “true” me— the personality I wear when hanging out with my oldest and best friends— to playfully and quickly emerge when I meet new people. I highly suggest taking these first few positive steps if you are unhappy with your social situation. A coach is sure to be the best help.”
Sure my one-on-one short chunked session style at my rates may not make the most money, but it does reward and fulfill me on a deeper level to help guys make these dramatic changes in their life in such a short amount of time.[/private]