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Expressing similarity first leads to thank you’s on favors

Posted by on May 10, 2012 312 comments
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Compliance to a simple request can be doubled by the most innocent aspect.

There’s little doubt that friends are easier to persuade than strangers. That emotional connection and shared history is often enough to get the poor wretches doing things they’d rather avoid, like helping us move home.

Forgive the mercenary language, but friendship is a fantastic lever for persuasion and influence, a lever we happily push on every day.

But how much does someone have to like us before we can start to influence them? And, more to the point, can only the most fleeting attraction[private] help us persuade

them to comply with a request?

Mere similarity

Jerry Burger and colleagues at Santa Clara University used a sneaky experimental set-up to test this out (Burger et al., 2001). On arrival at the lab, participants were told the study was about first impressions and were asked to choose 20 adjectives which best described them from a list of 50 supplied.

The idea, they were told, was that they would swap lists with another participant in the experiment, then fill out some more questionnaires. After which, experiment over; back to the student bar. In fact the real test was coming.

The 20 adjectives from the ‘other person’ weren’t really from another person, it was part of the experimental manipulation. By varying the number of adjectives the ‘other person’ had ticked, the researchers were dividing participants into three groups:

  • Similar: this group thought the other person had ticked 17 of the same adjectives.
  • Neutral: 10 adjectives matched.
  • Dissimilar: had only ticked 3 of the same adjectives.

The experimenters were manipulating liking between participants and the ‘other person’ by using what psychologists call the ‘mere similarity’ effect. This is people’s tendency to like others more because of some slight similarity with themselves. It could be a friend in common or something as trivial as their names starting with the same letter.

So, when participants left the lab, what a surprise, the person they thought they had been exchanging self-descriptive adjectives with just happened to be walking down the corridor with them.

Then the moment of truth. In passing the participant was asked for a favour: would they mind reading an 8-page essay and providing a page of feedback?

Compliance doubled

Even this seemingly trivial manipulation of adjectives-in-common had a measurable effect. People who thought they were dissimilar only complied with the request 43% of the time. This went up to 60% in the neutral condition. But in the similar condition, compliance went up to an impressive 77%, almost double the dissimilar condition.

The experimenters also did the same experiment in a couple of other ways but reached the same conclusion. Whether the fleeting attraction was caused by choosing the same adjectives or sitting together silently for a couple of minutes, it was enough to double compliance to a request.

This experiment suggests that fleeting attraction can be remarkably powerful in changing ‘no’ into ‘yes’. We process relatively small requests in an automatic way, using simple rules-of-thumb. When asked for a small favour by a stranger, we make a snap judgment on how much we like them based on trivial information, and this can have a huge influence on our response.

(http://www.spring.org.uk/2010/11/the-influence-of-fleeting-attraction.php)

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When you say ‘maintaining eye contact’

Posted by on April 2, 2012 321 comments
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…what you have are beams of your powerful energy coming from your eyes, out to the world. If you practice maintaining eye contact with [private] every person (non-person to your world yet) that you pass in a day’s travel, you will see they are most often averting their eye contact first.

They are the first to break it, you are just scanning the people you pass to see which ones look interesting enough to say hi to or something. The people that do hold it for a through a whole second and into the next moment, maybe they are interesting. A simple ‘hi’ will start you off to have the answer to that question. Any girl that holds this eye contact, I will smile at and any guy that holds it I greet “Hey what’s up?”

By practicing your eye contact with everyone you pass will strengthen this in you. Guys that hold it get a greeting or the tilt head back a bit greeting and the girls get a smile. keep practicing this with all non-people to your world that you pass in a day and it will get stronger, more naturally regular. You get like a juice, a motivation from these tiny moments of connection throughout a day. [/private]

Star Wars IV

Posted by on April 2, 2012 570 comments
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The galaxy is in a state of civil war. Spies for the Rebel Alliance have stolen plans to the Galactic Empire’s Death Star: a weaponized space station capable of annihilating an entire planet. Rebel leader Princess Leia (Carrie Fisher) is in possession of the plans, but her ship is captured by Imperial forces under the command of the evil lord Darth Vader (David Prowse). Before she is captured, Leia hides the plans in the memory of a droid called R2-D2 (Kenny Baker), along with a holographic recording. The small droid escapes to the surface of the desert planet Tatooine with fellow droid C-3PO (Anthony Daniels).

The two droids are quickly captured by Jawa traders, who sell the pair to moisture farmer Owen Lars (Phil Brown) and his nephew, Luke Skywalker (Mark Hamill). While Luke is cleaning R2-D2, he accidentally triggers part of Leia’s holographic message, in which she requests help from Obi-Wan Kenobi. The only “Kenobi” Luke knows of is an old hermit named Ben Kenobi (Alec Guinness) who lives in the nearby hills; Owen, however, dismisses any connection, suggesting that Obi-Wan is dead.

During dinner, R2-D2 escapes to seek Obi-Wan. By the time Luke discovers his escape it is too late for pursuit. The next morning Luke and C-3PO look for R2-D2, and just after finding him are attacked by Sand People. The assailants are scared off by Ben Kenobi, who reveals himself to be Obi-Wan. He takes Luke and the droids to his home, where he tells Luke of his days as a Jedi Knight. The Jedi were the guardians of peace and justice in the galaxy before being wiped out by the Empire. Obi-Wan tells of the Force, from which the Jedi draw their power. He goes on to tell Luke of his father, Anakin Skywalker, another Jedi who fought alongside Obi-Wan. Contrary to his uncle’s claims, Luke learns that his father was betrayed and killed by Darth Vader, Obi-Wan’s former pupil who turned to the “dark side of the Force”. Luke is presented with his father’s lightsaber, the Jedi’s weapon of choice.

Obi-Wan views Leia’s complete message. Leia begs Obi-Wan to take R2-D2 and the Death Star plans to her home planet of Alderaan, where her father will be able to retrieve and analyze them. Obi-Wan asks Luke to learn the ways of the Force and join him on the trip. Luke initially refuses, offering Obi-Wan transit to a local space port. When he discovers that his home has been destroyed and his aunt and uncle were killed by Imperial stormtroopers in search of the droids, Luke agrees to join Obi-Wan and travel to Alderaan. The two hire smuggler Han Solo (Harrison Ford) and his Wookiee co-pilot Chewbacca (Peter Mayhew) to transport them on their ship, the Millennium Falcon.

Meanwhile, Leia has been imprisoned on the Death Star and has resisted revealing the location of the secret Rebel base. Grand Moff Tarkin (Peter Cushing), the Death Star’s commanding officer and Vader’s superior, tries to coax information out of her by threatening to destroy Alderaan. Leia pretends to cooperate, but Tarkin destroys the planet anyway to demonstrate the power of the Empire’s new weapon. When the Falcon arrives at Alderaan’s coordinates, it finds only a cloud of rubble. They follow a TIE fighter, not realizing they are being drawn towards the Death Star. When they attempt to flee, the ship Falcon is captured by the station’s tractor beam, and is brought into its hangar bay.

The group escapes from the Falcon and takes refuge in a command room while Obi-Wan goes off to disable the tractor beam. While they are waiting, Luke discovers that Princess Leia is aboard and is scheduled to be executed. Sizing up the situation, Han, Luke, and Chewbacca stage a rescue and free the princess. After several harrowing escapes, they make their way back to the Falcon, where they witness a lightsaber duel between Obi-Wan and Darth Vader. As the others race onto the ship to escape, Obi-Wan allows himself to be struck down by Vader’s lightsaber; Kenobi disappears while his empty cloak and deactivated lightsaber fall to the ground.

As the Falcon makes its escape, Vader and Tarkin reveal that a tracking device was placed aboard the ship in order to finally find the rebel base. After fighting their way through a token defence, the Falcon flies clear of the Death Star and reaches the Yavin IV Rebel base. The Death Star plans are analyzed by the Rebels, disclosing a vulnerable exhaust port leading to the main reactor. Luke joins the assault team but Han collects his reward for the rescue and leaves, despite Luke’s request to stay and fight.

The Death Star arrives and is met by Rebel fighters. The Rebels suffer heavy losses—after several failed attack runs, few pilots survive. Vader appears in a TIE Advanced X1 and attacks the Rebel ships. Luke, one of the few Rebel pilots left, begins his attack as the Death Star moves into attack range. Vader closes on Luke, but as he is about to fire, Han arrives in the Falcon and attacks Vader’s wingmen. Vader’s ship is sent careening off into space. Guided by Obi-Wan’s voice telling him to use the Force, Luke switches off his targeting computer and fires a successful shot, destroying the Death Star seconds before it is about to fire on the Rebel base. Later, Princess Leia awards medals to Luke and Han for their heroism.

Triangular theory of love

Posted by on April 1, 2012 1,063 comments
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The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. In the context of interpersonal relationships, ‘the three components of love, according to the triangular theory, are an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component’.[1]

Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.
Passion – Which encompasses drives connected to both limerence and sexual attraction.
Commitment – Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other.

‘The amount of love one experiences depends on the absolute strength of these three components, and the type of love one experiences depends on their strengths relative to each other’.[2] Different stages and types of love can be explained as different combinations of these three elements; for example, the relative emphasis of each component changes over time as an adult romantic relationship develops. A relationship based on a single element is less likely to survive than one based on two or three elements.
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1 Forms of love
2 Criticism
3 See also
4 References
5 Further Reading

[edit] Forms of love
Combinations of intimacy, passion, commitment Intimacy Passion Commitment
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Infatuated love
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Empty love
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Companionate love
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Fatuous love
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Consummate love
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The three components, pictorially labeled on the vertices of a triangle, interact with each other and with the actions they produce so as to form seven different kinds of love experiences (nonlove is not represented). The size of the triangle functions to represent the “amount” of love – the bigger the triangle, the greater the love. The shape of the triangle functions to represent the “style” of love, which may vary over the course of the relationship:

Nonlove ‘refers simply to the absence of all three components of love. Nonlove characterizes the large majority of our personal relationships, which are simply casual interactions’.[3]

Liking/friendship is ‘used here in a nontrivial sense. Rather, it refers to the set of feelings one experiences in relationships that can truly be characterized as friendship. One feels closeness, bondedness, and warmth toward the other, without feelings of intense passion or long-term commitment’.[4]

Infatuated love: ‘infatuation results from the experiencing of passionate arousal in the absence of intimacy and decision/commitment…like Tennov’s limerance’.[5] Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.

Empty love is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. A stronger love may deteriorate into empty love. In an arranged marriage, the spouses’ relationship may begin as empty love and develop into another form, indicating ‘how empty love need not be the terminal state of a long-term relationship…[but] the beginning rather than the end’.[6]

Romantic love ‘derives from a combination of the intimate and passionate components of love…romantic lovers are not only drawn physically to each other but are also bonded emotionally’[7] – bonded both intimately and passionately, but without sustaining commitment.

Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. ‘This type of love is observed in long-term marriages where passion is no longer present’[8] but where a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.

Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage – ‘fatuous in the sense that a commitment is made on the basis of passion without the stabilizing influence of intimate involvement’.[9]

Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the “perfect couple.” According to Sternberg, these couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they cannot imagine themselves happier over the long-term with anyone else, they overcome their few difficulties gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other.[10] However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. “Without expression,” he warns, “even the greatest of loves can die”.[11] Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.

Never have I ever done a ‘love em & leave em”

Posted by on March 26, 2012 292 comments
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siege man reply my question on your page!! I checked deangelo’s sex secrets it helped me a lot but not on the question I asked =]
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Cj Clark Piona ‎…and may not yet have built up the confidence to admit they need to know..or built up the confidence to ask anybody yet.
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Cj Clark Piona AND ALWAYS FEEL FREE TO ASK, since the reason why 90+% of my time is doing these same things FOR FREE is because I lov e it so much and love love so much…and I think it the most inner fulfillment we habve here in life possible….WAY MORE than a million material luxuries so many people chase to try and have too many of….This love stuff really fills an inner
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Cj Clark Piona ‎…fills an inner place that better than all the drugs, thrill rides, a complete peace in happiness that I do find to be the ultimate secret to happiness, Love, inner love, intimate love, self love with who you love, and sex, as I see it IS the ultimate expression of loving those moments…al of that time together in it’s most intimate way :)
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Cj Clark Piona attitude like jersey Shore promotes..I fall in lve and love forever, still wholeheartedly in love with the girl I lost my virginity to…and a myriad of beautiful women I have met since..I fall in love, with girls even with no sex, to enjoy those completely moments…where as it led me to finally love myself for real, the hardest love of them all. Thank you very much Blina, feel free to send anyone you like my way, I \
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Blina Ventos Am also saying thanks for helping me as a brother am glad, am still young but HB’S here keep wondering how I sarge them and am just 20 =]
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Cj Clark Piona I will be more than happy to help and when they tell me Blina sent them, they get the same treatment as a fine getnleman such as yourself does, Thank you :)
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Cj Clark Piona Keep at it brother. I was courting girls twice my age when I was 20, loving them, and they too taught me so much about the world and about love…and they are women who already had their experience with guyus to know how to choose them, I was humbly honored to be in their hearts, and for them to be in mine :)
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Blina Ventos I like the part where you fall in love with girls even without having sex with them..I appreciate your support and I believe you gonna support me to become a pua
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Attraction between people which leads

Posted by on January 7, 2012 109 comments
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… friendships and romantic relationships. The study of interpersonal attraction is a major area of [private]research in social psychology. Interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, love, dislike, or hate someone. It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation. When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities of the attracted as well as the qualities of the attractor to achieve predictive accuracy. It is suggested that attraction between people which leads to friendships and romantic relationships. The study of interpersonal attraction is a major area of research in social psychology. Interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, love, dislike, or hate someone. It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation. When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities of the attracted as well as the qualities of the attractor to achieve predictive accuracy. It is suggested that to determine attraction, personality and situation must be taken into account.

 

“Las Vegas is the Disney World for Boys who become Men with a better taste of the REAL Pleasures in Life.”

Posted by on October 24, 2011 1,398 comments

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Men,

Las Vegas is the world’s adult Disney World. So image being there with a Dating coach guiding you along…scratch that, Image being there with 3-4 coaches!

There is a mansion in Vegas that is creating a buzz in this Seduction “Community”. Yes I said Mansion, 5 bedrooms and baths, fireplaces…yes more than one, POOL! and more!

“Hey hunny, great talking to you, you should come to the after party, AT OUR HOUSE, with a POOL, and Jacuzzi!!” ~C.J. “The Siege” to girls at team pull with JerseyBoy in LA.

Read that quote over again.

Now remeber it. Once you are rolling along in conversation with some new girls, drop that into conversation to see some girl’s eyes light up!

The from there all you have to do is work out logistics to move you all back to the Place wwhen sexy fun is abbout to ahppen.

You see, Siege is there with a single fun outcome in mind that will prioritize the others throughout what is going on. Sure He’ll be enjoying the rest ov=f Vegas, with a particular radar on.

And ALSO rememer, what he is looking to have he gets so once one girl in the group is making out, that feeling transfers to the girl you are talking to with him as your wing.

Then she want’s to making out, this increasing your ability to escalate with her ENPORMOUSLY!!

Then once back to the pad, the girl you are talking to hears/sees sexy time going on with C.J. and his girl. She too want to be having sexy-time since the mere thought of hearing her friend enjoying the pleasures she wants, willl raise her buying temperature like you’d never believe…that is unless you have singed up foro the Vegas Event

This is not your everyday meet-up or weekend boot camp, you and the coaches DO NOT part ways for hours after the outing to your respective hotel rooms. You get a text from a girl after the night is done, there is a coach right there ready to help!

This is a project house weekend in the city that parties 24/7! on Halloween weekend no less!

This isn’t just locals, this is everyone from every where, flying/driving in to party and be naughty!

Guys this is a chance to get out and broaden your horizons! Travel and bring home stories to your friends and even women in your home town. SO when she asks have you traveled your response can be something other than “Yes with my mom and dad, to Disney world, when i was FIVE!

The problem in this are of self-improvement is that there is too many who want to read material for days or months on end and never strp out of their home or their OR their comfort zone then go out with others who do that same thing, and it ends up being “The Blind leading the Blind”

Lets put a stop to that and hit Vegas with coaches and make some memories to last a life time!

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Vegas recommendations
There is some people on this forum heading to Vegas, so I thought I’d put in my recommendations and what I’ve learned:

1. Girls at tables won’t talk to you that much.

Well, if it’s tables like Craps or Roulette, they got time to talk after their turn, or during their turn, but when it comes down to card games, they would prefer not to talk, but think up ways on how to win. You can make quick and witty comments to grab her attention then pull her to a different table, but conversation wise, no- they will not talk to you.

2. Girls are easier at the slot machines.

Slot machines are designed so you can take your time with them. There is no pressure or rush to do anything. So they can stop whatever they are doing and talk to you, or play and talk at the same time.

3. Pull them from different parts of the casino.

The casinos have a lot of things to look at, and places to be. Such as bars, clubs, slot machines, tables, or even watching a game together. Pull them to different areas to create small intimate moments that you can expand on later.

4. Pull them to different casinos.

It’s like making small intimate moments inside the casino, you are now making a larger memory to help raise the attraction and comfort. Also, there is open liquor laws in Vegas. Share a drink outside by bridge that connects the Excaliber to the NYC Hotel, or watch the pirate show at the Treasure Island hotel for free.

5. Shopping Malls inside the casino and the Vegas Strip are awesome places to meet women too.

It’s like Day GSF, except you can pull them into the bedroom without leaving your hotel/casino (well, depending on where you are. I recommend Ceasars Palace. A lot of high class and beautiful girls there.)

6. Wednesday night (or was it Thursday?) at the Planet Hollywood Hotel/casino

Strippers on poles and half naked women everywhere. What’s not to enjoy?

7. Vegas has the best strip clubs in America

JUST DO IT

8. The Vegas Effect

Remember, no one REALLY lives in Vegas…and tourists are always more prone for one night stands as opposed to local natives. Why? Because it’s exciting, daring, and fun.

9. Don’t forget the 4 questions to SNL

This actually works a lot better there, I found.

10. Eat your vegetables…

Nothing is more sexy than a man who loves his vegetables.

AND HERE IS YOUR BONUS:

11. If you’re looking for drugs, late night, on the bridge the connects the NYC Hotel and the Excaliber. Dealers usually hang out there.

Overall, guys, have fun. If you’re looking for any other fun places to check out while you’re there, I visited about all the casino’s, so I know where to go.

-DSmoothMike, Assist. to Dating Coach
D as in “Damn” Smooth as in “Butter” Mike as in “The Filippino lover!”

Women fall for bastards

Posted by on September 26, 2011 647 comments

…because they don’t turn off the sexuality… [private]“nice” guys think women will be terrified of their
sexuality, so they turn it off and all they get is women responding to their androgyny.

The great part of this is, is that a guy does not have to be a bastard to keep this same attraction switch on. Keep sexual topics flowing freely from your mouth and she will see that sex is an acceptable topic to be discussing with you.

“I hear about all this equal rights talk going on. Did you know that women are capable of NINE different types of orgasms? Guys only get two types that we can have, this ‘nine’ business seems like you got a better end of that deal.”

Saying something like this opens the table for okay-ness to have sex on it and also shows a sexual intelligence that most guys do not have. If you know this much, she will go on to wonder if you know how to give her those nine types.

“Hey honey, don’t worry about it. I’m cocky for a big reason.:

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It is VERY easy to live excellent

Posted by on September 12, 2011 427 comments

Men Aren’t Needy!

Being strong in your masculinity reduces any neediness. Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to [private]focus your mind on appreciation – stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy…[private] you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.

Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. I removed compliments from my vocabulary and just went on to notice what I like about people. They appreciate it more, it is much easier (just noticing) and it is always taken as honest, not contrived.

Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them, share them with who you are with. This discussion brings you both to the same page and you can enjoy together.

Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone loves to hang with. [/private]

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Offhanded affection

Posted by on August 14, 2011 906 comments

[private][private]Uoffhanded affection can come from picking the lint from her clothes, taking the eyelash from her cheek, taking the lint from her chin.

Make no big deal out of this, get it done & keep moving along, keep talking like it’s nothing.[/private]

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Hands near mouth can be seductive

Posted by on July 22, 2011 1,115 comments

From a ‘tips for girls’ passage. Stuff to be on the lookout for:

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Rubbing finger on lips, sucking finger, anytime you lift something to your mouth, it could be sexual, licking spoon,

Nice & slow – keep tongue out ½ second longer, capsicum, does stimulate blood flow in lips…[/private]

..but I think it works both ways.

“Hey I need you to help me out with something. Are ALL girls bisexual?”

Posted by on June 26, 2011 217 comments

[private]Starts off the interaction on a good note. If nothing else, it may show you her sexual freedom she has in herself.[/private]

Embrace potential conflicts

Posted by on April 17, 2011 601 comments

Another great thing to make sure you keep in mind is that there is never a need to avoid potential conflicts. Being a highly confident and strong man, knows that the best ideas are often presented with counterpoints. This is fine. If it was a boring topic or issue, no one would spend the time trying to oppose it.

Remember that it is okay to have some conflict. Even powerful emotion will raise attraction so her quick spurt of an angry face is not a thing to take seriously. You have just met this girl she is still treating you as a non-person to her world, also seeing how you react under different situations.

If she does give you a quick angry anything in the first few minutes you have met her, take it as a joke. Make a joke of it. You can call her cute for getting all huffy about a silly joke you made. Reach across and sideways hug her as if you are consoling her little tantrum.

If you think about it on the same level, since you just met this girl, you have no reason to care what she thinks yet. She is still a new person to your world and you have not learned enough about her to see if you want her to a friend of yours, If her energy compliments yours.

When meeting new people, there is no reason to really care what they think about me or what I have to offer. They detect this lack of care, this supreme confidence which is really attractive in itself. Since they are not top priority and there is not any reason to worry. Stay focused on the feel good topics you know, those that make you feel good and seem to be contagious to those around you.

Never worry if she sees something in you that might push her away. It always good for you to have the ‘warts & all’ perspective about what you project.  If you do welcome her into your world for a longer period of time, she will see those anyways. It shows a higher confidence when a person see’s no big deal in their own faults.

It shows that you understand

Posted by on April 14, 2011 66 comments

…an underlying theme in a girl’s world but also showing that you are[private] making an exception for the girl you just met is easy.

I do this by saying something that has both ideas in it like this:

“Well I just don’t give my number to chicks that I meet in the world anymore…but if I put your name on your number, I would pick it up when you call.” As I hand her my phone.

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I see some conversation connection starting to build

Posted by on January 26, 2011 360 comments

…so I throw in a push/pull for a couple of reason.

I tell her: “I don’t think we should get to know each other.”

She asks me:[private] “Why not?”

I explain: “I think you are just too much of a nice girl for me.”

The first “Why not?” from her is what begins the momentum. She already is thinking or will be thinking of what obstacles she needs to overcome to prove herself as worthy.

Once I tell her that she is too much of a ‘nice girl’ she now knows what she has to prove her way out of. I have seen girls tell their stories of mischief, explain her duality from looking like a nice girl to her other side, and also doing a wild mischief right in front of me.

By first telling her that we shouldn’t get to know each other, removes her first assumption that I might have been hitting on her. This also flips the coin so she knows she has things to show me that would earn her my time, that I am not another guy who is going to sit there and try to impress her, trying to seem valuable enough for her to spend time with me.

Girls would rather be chasing a guy. Their little behaviors that earn them small rewards is a hell of a lot more fulfilling to them then thinking they can have a guy simply because they were born with a good part of the gene pool.

People want least what they can absolutely have no matter what. They want more of what they feel they cannot have…AND the want most what they almost can have but is always a tiny bit out of their reach. They can never have a firm grip or a sure hold, this keeps them chasing.

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We are all hardwired to want…

Posted by on January 16, 2011 464 comments

…what we think we cannot have, or almost can have.

You can use this, as you will see in posts throughout the site that keep a girl wanting you, chasing you to have little tastes [private]of what you have to offer.

Don’t indicate that you are a sure thing, you haven’t learned enough about her to know if you want her as regular part of your world. Don’t indicate to her that she has NO chance, she’ll go and find someone who she feels she can have some success with.

Keep her understanding that she may have caught your attention, yet hasn’t shown you enough to fully hold your attention yet. [private]

"Every single one"

Posted by on June 11, 2010 768 comments

Ok, here is a story to tell:

She sat down,got herself a glass of wine and this “average” girl came out with some outrageous confessions… [private]

Pretty soon the conversation got on the
topic of “Well, have you ever cheated on
your boyfriend?”

She smiled and answered candidly…
“Every… Single…. One.” [/private]