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Loving message came in 2 weeks ago, that I just found: “you are in my life right now for a reason,,,,,you are a priceless gift cj”
“hea, i tried to call you, i know youre busy. i wanted to thank you for taking the time to help me make those lists……i have alot more lists to make. you have sooo mutch to offer…..you help people find happiness, and love….that is a priceless contrubution to the world. your words are going to help me make some changes in my life. im going to take my life back, and start to live…….your kindness and support will help me…..this is going to be hard… but i have 2. i will see you soon…i know what love is suppostew be…and i dont have it…..i know what happiness is suppostew be….but i dont have that either.,…….so thank you for your love page….and all of who you are…i love every part of who you are, you are an awsome person. i am soglad we reconnected…..….the wisdom, the kindness, the self expression, the talent……the artful ways you teach……you have alot to offer…..im here for you as a student…..xoxoxand a good friend…..what can i do for you in return….?you are love….. i do love you”
Jessica Cina: “hmmm… not sure where the post you made went.. however, i was able to read its contents in my email notification and i still have the biggest smile on my face. im glad the package got to you and that you are able to use the phone to complete what you need it for and im even gladder still, lol, that you liked the kisses also.”
Cj: “Oh MY Holy-G, whizzikers…they are awesome, even very loving how you did two sheets with lotsa kisses…I’d like to pull you close right now and SWAK one right on your face, right on those beautiful lips you have…(and suck your bottom one into my mouth for good measure. Whoops, did I just say that out-loud? ”
Always remember the source. Don’t see other people as separate individuals, but think of the world as one family. Treat others as you would yourself. This is the secret of love.
To love others, you have to be able to love yourself. This is not the egotistical self-love, but an awareness of your real self. It is also important to always be true to your inner self. Love does not mean changing who we are. We first have to accept ourselves as who we really are. If we have to change our principles and identity, this is a false basis of love. But, if we can accept and love ourselves, it will be much easier to love others.
Think not what you can get from the relationship. Consider how you can serve and offer to other people. We need to give to other people in a way that also reflects our principles, and gives us joy. The secret is to feel joy from giving and helping others. Selfless love means we don’t have any expectations about how the other person will treat us.
“What is love? If love means possessing someone or something then that is not real love; that is not pure love. If love means giving and becoming one with everything, with humanity and divinity, then that is real love.”
- Sri Chinmoy 2
You don’t have to like someone to love them. It is easy to find faults with other people. In human life, it is inevitable there will be clashes of temperament and personalities. But, even if we don’t like someone, we can still love them. Perhaps someone has the habit of being annoying – they are egotistical or vain. It is hard to like that kind of person. But, we can still offer love. To do this we have to see beyond their outward human personality, we have to imagine the qualities of the soul, which may be temporarily hidden behind their ego. If we find that difficult, we can simply offer good will. You can inwardly say ‘peace be with you’ or something similar. We won’t say it outwardly as it will be misunderstood. But, if we inwardly offer some good will, some positive thoughts, it prevents us thinking of their negative qualities. It reminds us we can still love, even if there are outer difficulties.
How to Love difficult people? It is a mistake to feel that to love someone means we have to give them what they ask for. Real love means we will consider their real needs and not necessarily what they demand. If a young child wanted to take poison, the mother would never allow it. If someone places an emotional burden on us, we don’t have to encourage it. Love may require a degree of detachment, it may require point out to those who we love, there are better ways of being. It is good to have empathy and sympathy with other people, but that doesn’t mean we need to agree with their viewpoint. We can have sympathy with their position, and offer practical ways for them to choose the best course. But, we don’t have to feel responsible for their actions and choices.
“The success of love is in the loving – it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done.”
- Mother Teresa
Put yourself in other people’s position. If you can see life from other people’s point of view, you can feel that given their situation, you might have come to the same view point or way of life. Even if you wouldn’t have done the same, it is still good to see life from their perspective.
Observe don’t judge. Real love should never have a feeling of superiority or inferiority; we can observe the decisions and actions of other people, but it should be without a sense of judgement. Judgement ossifies and divides. It creates a sense of separation. Merely observe and suggest there are different ways to live, and perhaps these ways give more joy.
Forgiveness. If we observe and don’t judge, we are practising forgiveness. Forgiveness, means we forget their weakness, we feel we have not been hurt. It is quite common to hold onto the thought of being hurt by another person. In our thoughts, we think how our life has been made harder because of the other person. Real forgiveness requires a sea change in thought. Let go of these thoughts which remember how we have been maligned and hurt. If we can reject these thought patterns, we can really forgive and make room for love.
“Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.”
- Corinthians 13.4
Remember, that the feeling of being wronged requires our participation. If we hold onto thoughts we have been hurt, that is what we will experience. With this we will not want to really love the other person because we focus on how they have hurt us
However, if we practise forgiveness, we decide to no longer make an issue over past wrongs. We start our mind with a clear slate, we no longer harbour feelings of being hurt but move forward and live only in the present moment. This is perhaps easier to preach than practise, it can take real courage to forget past wrongs and let go; but we have to be aware we always have a choice what we hold onto. Don’t hold on to the wrong things if they make us unhappy and prevent us experiencing the joy of love.
Treat other people as part of yourself. It is said in the Bible, we should love the neighbour as thyself. The real secret of this statement is that our neighbour is really part of ourselves. When we love other people we are loving the wider self, and not just the narrow self. If you can really feel the common source of humanity, you will realise that love does not involve sacrifice, because who is sacrificing to whom? When we love others, we merely love a different manifestation of ourselves.
Heaven and Hell – Love is its own reward. Hate is its own penalty. If we love in a divine way, we can experience heaven on earth. If we are embittered with hate, we can also experience hell here on earth. The bridge between heaven and hell is as short as our decision whether to cultivate love.
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Creative Date Ideas
Make a movie together—find odd props around the house, then come up with a funny scenario to act out.
Have a backwards date and do everything backwards from what you normally do on a date.
Find a little stream or small river and make boats out of aluminum foil then race them! Bet little things for the winner, such as “if my boat wins you have to hold my hand” or “if my boat wins you have to show me your favorite childhood park” its fun, creative, and competative. Good ice breaker and fun!~Jenn
Put on funny accents and go around town asking for directions to places that don’t exist ~ Mark
Gather a lot of make up. Your date makes you look “pretty”. And you make your date look “pretty”. And take picture and send the pics to your best friend who decides who looks “prettier”. And Have fun!!! ~kay
Dress in all black – buy window paint and go around town drawing funny pictures on your friends cars.
Buy flowers and give them to random people on the street who look like they need a “pick-me-up”
Get a raft and put ii in a pool. Everyone get on the raft and watch “Jaws” projected on the side of the house.
Go out with some clip boards and do a survey in a public place. Use funny questions about how many times people brush their teeth and what they had for dinner.
Make something creative with clay
Cartoon date: Meet at 9am and watch cartoons while eating your favorite kids cereal…must be in your pajamas.
Go panning for gold in a river. Wear a funny hat and act like you really need to find some.
Go to a restaurant—just order appetizers
Go chat with random people and see how long people will talk with you in public place.
Make kites—go to a local park to fly them.
For a Creative group date – Go on a scavenger hunt in your neighborhood to find all the ingredients you need to make cookies. When the cookies are made, take them to a mutual friend or maybe a grandparent.
Go “people watching” at the mall—it can be fun to just sit and talk.
Go on a “Video Scavenger Hunt”
Directions: Each team has a video camera and a list of scenarios to get footage of — Here are a few possible ideas: Interview a complete stranger about something random, find a random stranger and greet them like an old friend, pretend to know them from somewhere, stage a “break up”, yell at each other and draw lots of attention, try on clothing for the opposite sex. As you can tell, this can be a ton of fun, especially when you go back and watch your footage.
Go for a bike ride in your neighborhood—maybe find a tandem bicycle to borrow or rent.
Go to the park and feed the birds
Go to random spots in your hometown and take pictures – Be creative and this date can be a lot of fun.
Go to your local animal shelter and play with the animals—Who knows, you just might find a new friend
Have a “Bring your own topping” waffle party—assign each group member to bring his or her favorite waffle toppings
Make homemade ice cream together
Make Cupcakes together – Decorate them with icing, sprinkles, or anything! Cupcake Liners & Wrappers
Lay trash bags on the floor and eat spaghetti together with your hands.
Find inner tubes and float down a nearby river
Get a role of quarters and have a contest to see who can get the best and most creative item from the 25cent machines (maybe in a shopping mall)
Go to the thrift store with 5 dollars; have a contest to see who can get the best item Or–buy clothing for your date – wear the clothing on the date
Color pictures together—find a fun coloring book or print coloring book pages off of the Internet
Creative finger painting date—put on an apron cuz this can get messy. Find some big paper or maybe a cardboard box and make a masterpiece together.
Blind-Fold Miniature Golf—miniature golf is fun, but it can be even more fun when you add some variations; play a round with blindfolds, then try playing three legged miniature golf (tie your dates left leg to your right leg)
Visit garage sales—Travel around your neighborhood on a Saturday morning and visit the garage sales.
Build a fort together out of blankets and furniture, or make your own haunted house
Take a trip to your local hobby shop – pick out a project to work on for the afternoon—maybe build a boat, or a rocket, something that you can play with!
Play the game “Bigger or Better”
Directions: Each couple starts with something small—go door to door in your neighborhood asking people to triad you for something bigger or better than the item. At the end of a specified amount of time, gather together as a group and vote on who got the biggest and best item.
Go ice blocking—slide down big hills on a large block of ice. Bring towels to lay on the ice (to sit on).
Make creative outfits for each other out of newspaper, then have a fashion show!
Set up a tent in your front room, sit in the tent and eat dinner on a blanket–build a
fake fire, or roast marshmallows over a candle.
Have a progressive meal
Directions: Select different restaurants around town and go to each one. Order drinks at one, appetizers at another, go somewhere new for the main course, and top it off with your favorite desert in town.
Go on a nature walk and pick up garbage on the way, give a prize for the strangest item found, and for the most garbage collected. Its fun, and your doing service in your community!
Go on a picnic, but choose somewhere extremely random–like on your roof
Read a book together—Choose your favorite childhood story and read aloud
Put on a play – choose a popular story from literature, or a movie
If you or your date are the Creative Musical type – Write a song together
Build a sand castle—this could be at the beach, or even in a sand box
Make your own drive in movie! Borrow or rent a projector and watch a movie in your backyard, or set your TV up in the garage and watch your favorite movies from inside your car.
Wii Olympics — get a group together and have a competition using Wii Sports
Glow sticks in a park – need we say more
Build something together with legos or lincoln Logs
Have a Fondue party – Get a good Fondue recipe (they are all over online) and have a Fondue dinner, or Fondue desserts.
Play dress up—be sure to take lots of pictures
Make life lists together—all the things you want to do before you die – Be creative and help your date come up with some fun things.
Have a Marshmallow eating contest — see who in the group can fit the most mallows in their mouth!
Directions: Dress up in your Halloween costume (any time of year) and walk around town with your date knocking on doors. Instead of asking for trick-or-treats, bring treats of your own to hand out.
Play live Clue—This one requires some creativity
Directions: Hand out clues to each individual in the group (location, weapon, killer etc..) ask each other questions to determine the killer. This can be a lot of fun but requires some creativity and preparation.
Have a “LAN Party”—a computer game night with everyone playing at the same place. This can be fun even if you don’t normally enjoy video games—just laugh together and have a good time.
Make a fancy resturant in your apartment/room and have your friends serve you with food you made.
Go to ChuckeCheese or Mcdonalds for dinner. Do activities that would be a kids dream to do. Arcades and Disney movies rock.
Frisbee in the dark with glow sticks and a light up frisbee ~JaNae
Pick a culture of the world and imitate with food, activities, and clothes to match.
Make your date decide.
Directions: make it mysterious for your date–take your ideas to them throughout the week, tell them to just answer the random questions you ask them. For example: red or white (color of flower you bring) fast or slow ( fast food or sit down restaurant) hot or cold (Ice Cream or hot cocoa) – Anything will work. You ask them during the week then during the date reveal to them what they decided. It’s quirky and cute but fun.
Go to an art museum with a date that appreciates art just as much as you do( more fun if that appreciation is minimal) and make fun of the art. Gives time for good one on one convo and you can show off your funny side. If you really do love art thats great too!
Here is a Creative Date Idea – Play paint twister. Make a twister mat using some old plastic (like a tablecloth)– except put paint where the colored dots would be. SO MUCH FUN ~Julie
Have a fancy dinner consisting of breakfast cereal. (Its funner if they see the fancy setting before they know what’s on the menu, then they get a funny surprise). ~ Dani
Build paper airplanes and shoot them down with shotguns. ~Dave
Have a paint war. Get large bath sponges and cut them into baseball size sponges then dip them in buckets of washable paint and go crazy. ~Andy
Kidnapping – this can be fun when done by boy Or girl. A group of guys or girls go out and kidnapp their dates, blind fold them, the whole shabang. Then surprise them by taking them to a cute picnic at the park. Fun if it’s with a group or can be a cute romantic single date. ~ Allyson
Survivor date- double date, select several activities such as a game, puzzles, eating contest etc… and have competition with the other couple to see who is better. You can also play it so that the loser buys desserts. Makes it more interesting. ~ Matt
Make a list of outrageous things on a Bingo card like mullets, scrunchies, spandex pants and hiking boots, etc and walk around Wal Mart trying to find people sporting the items on your bingo cards. Loser has to buy the winner Hot Pockets for dinner ~ Dena
Go to the park and have a picnic. But to mix it up a little have one of your friends come and dance for you (ribbon dancing is always good). It is quite the sight! ~Michelle
Eat lunch in the middle of a round-a-bout. Bring a blanket and a basket, have fun, and watch peoples faces as they circle you ~Aaron Ross
Play hide-and-seek with multiple couples in walmart! You and your date are a team against the other couples! ~ Michael
Buy little tubs and fill them with different colored paint. Have a paint war! ~Kaitlyn
Build a fort in your house using blankets and tables/furniture..etc. Then you can play games, watch a movie, do a coloring book, do a puzzle..anything you want inside the fort.
Find some good skipping rocks, buy some glow sticks, and go to a lake. Take a plastic bag and put the rocks in the bag — break the glow sticks open and pour them into the bag with the rocks — mix it around. by the way you do this at night. Then skip the rocks and see them glowing as they skip across the water. ~ Micah
Go with your date to a movie one night with a big group of friends. Although instead of staying and watcing the movie you and you’r date ditch the rest and go for a walk. Find somewhere calm and quite that would be a great place to be alone. You will of had preset a blanket and a picnic basket at this place all ready for you and your date’s arrivial. Inside the basket should be pizza that you asked to be cut in the shape of a heart and something to drink (simple stuff be creative). You and you’r date will have a great time under the stars cuddled up on a blanket and afterword you’r date will have a fantastic story to tell to their friends who were wondering where in the world you two went. ~ Howi
Go to a party store or a costume store and buy some crazy hats and fake mustaches. Anything to make you look goofy. Then take on a fake accent and a name and go out to a public place and eat. Tell random stories and make yourself look outrageous but not obnoxious. This is super fun because it makes the people around you laugh and cheer up but at the same time you and your date are having a blast being silly. ~ Devi
Go to a store, Ikea works great, and in all the room settings, make up a scenario and act them out. For example, in one room that has a tv, pretend you’re watching a scary movie
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Foreplay starts way before even intimate caresses, but take your time and enjoy the wave. Although you may be thinking the main event is the prize to chase, you can have incredibly long lasting waves of pleasure throughout the process. This ensures that both you and she are mentally, emotionally, and physically ready for some good [private] lovemaking all on the same page of a moment.
Don’t make sexy-time an ‘all-of-a-sudden’ event. Start with sexy offhanded comments and affection, and then bring it up tiny notches as time goes by. Be easy to stop at various times too, you can always bring it back to level later, this will build the tease which she will love.
Good foreplay starts hours or even days in advance. This will create a sexual tension so high, when you finally have your time together, she will finally come to orgasm so much easier.
Once a much closer intimacy has been reached, oral sex is a great way to bring a girl to her orgasm. In fact, many women claim that this is the only way they can reach an orgasm.
When you go down on her, don’t be in a rush. Kiss your way down her belly, as you get closer slow it down a bit. Enjoy her inner thighs and the low area on her belly. Kiss and lick the outer edges of her lower lips. Inhale her scent, it can be like a drug to you and she will feel the air rushing by her hot places.
Enjoy the journey as much as the destination. As such, go slow at first. Lick gently and tenderly for a while, you will notice her arousal increasing. She will be getting much wetter and you will see the petals of her vagina start to unfold. These will come out to you, all filled with blood and very red. Just when you see and know she is really turned on and aching for you to go further, then move in to her sweet spot, her clitoris. This is saturated with pleasurable nerve endings, and this too needs much pre-game before the best stimulus can happen.
Start by drawing small circles around it. Then try some figure 8 patterns with your tongue. Then take some advice from a past comic and use the tip of your tongue to trace the pattern of every letter in the alphabet. Even between letters it is good to give her clitoris a break and kiss her inner thighs again. This time lets the sensations you have just brought her to soak in and for your teasing away to have her want you there more.
In addition to your fancy tongue and lip action, start using your fingers. You can use your fingers to give her some feelings of entry. You can enter with your fingers in a ‘come here’ curve to make circles around her G-spot. This is located on the vaginal wall on the forward side, towards her belly.
Now you can alternate between kissing and teasing with your tongue and using your fingers so that with resting, this can go on longer. Hear her groans during different types of touches you are doing to her. Her verbal expressions of pleasure will be telling you which ways feel best to her.
While you are kissing and teasing with your kisses, you can also use your other hand to spread her lips apart so that you have full access to her clitoris. Also a hand applying some pressure to her lower back, just above her ass, that place is full of the nerve endings that good pressure will activate more wetness of her and sensitize her vagina.
Remember those free hands to stimulate her other zones. A hand on her nipple and another in her mouth can give her feelings, of waves of pleasure coming from all different directions through her body.
Don’t forget to stay attuned to her moaning and breathing changes, Continue the actions that brought those differences on. Also remember the actions in your mind that caused those changes. With those in mind you can stop what you are doing, let her settle some and then tease her more. This way she escalates in arousal, then with you coming right back to it, she will go higher. This will lead to a much larger orgasm for her.
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