and she has felt out your energy in the first few minutes of our conversation, I like to ask the… …>open ended questions to get her talking more.
From hearing her answers, I know there might be clues she drops which will give me plenty to ask her to elaborate on, to keep her talking.
A woman who has spent 30 minutes telling you things will feel like she knows you a hell of a lot more than if she sat there listening to you tell stories that you thought would impress her.
One example I may ask to get her started, once we have felt each other’s vibe a little bit is:
“If you didn’t have to worry about money and could do
anything in the world, what would you want to do?”
This type of question will put her in a dreamy state, thinking of all the things she wants most out of life & might think they are out of her reach. She will be talking about her biggest loves, her biggest passions. This is a much more fun topic to be talking about than the routine: “What do you do, where do you live?” interview application type questions.
…I usually do that early in the night for a couple of reasons.
First, this lubes up the social muscles very well, desensitizing you to any anxiety or care about rejection. It becomes wicked easy just to keep starting conversations with all sorts of people. If any interaction turns out to be not what you like, it is easy to not care about any outcome with one girl, there are plenty you have rapport with in that one place on that night.
Once you start a conversation with one group, it is easy to roll out on a good note “I have to touch base with some people; I will come back in a few to chat.” Then you can roll out of that group of girls and walk directly over to another group of girls. The new girls just saw you walk from another group of girls so this shows you are the sociable guy that women like. The last girls watch you walk into the new set which they are assuming are people you are ‘touching base’ with and it looks as you have already known them.
This indicates a ‘pre-selection value’ to both groups of girls. Now being the sociable guy, it is easy to open some more groups and then come back to groups you have previously opened. As the night goes on, rolling in and out of groups starts to feel like you were already friends, to them and to you. As the night goes on, you are not the clingy guy hoping for some validation from some girls who are talking to, you are the guy who brings a group to a high point of laughing or comparable high, then rolling out leaving them to want more.
Next time you roll back in, they will be trying a little harder to keep you around this time, they don’t want you to leave…they just want some more high points.
Since you have met several groups of people, it is great to be introducing them to each other. “I want you to meet my friends, they will love you.” Yes you just met them, but they are now your friends. As I am introducing groups to each other, I will probably mention a thing or two about each person I learned about “…and this is Lisa who is a yoga instructor in Cambridge..” Since these types of comments get the new people talking to each other with a subject underway.
As the night goes on, and not being the clingy guy but the guy they try to keep around with their group, you get a sit of selection to which girl you want more with. You are not settling for the girl who will come home with you, you are choosing which one you like best. You can shoot lots of subtle feeler questions to each girl you are interested in “What are you doing after the bars close?” to see if she has plans, has to work early tomorrow, or what details let you know useful info.
When we walked back in the bar from the patio, there were two girls standing in the aisle, talking to each other. I simply walked over to them, put my hand to hold an arm of each of them and ask: “Are you guys doing alright, having a good time? Do you have everything you need?” They had big smiles to tell me they were. “Ok good, enjoy yourself.”
So maybe they assumed it was my club or I worked there & was just checking on them, that’s fine. I didn’t say I was with the club, I was just asking if they were having a good time. I left a sleight indication that if they weren’t having a good time, I would see what I could do. That is all totally true.
The vodka chick
Usually I probably wouldn’t suggest walking over right before we were leaving to ask her for a number. I would have suggested you make the suggestion mid conversation, in the moment. In that type of dynamic, I was merely observing you, for notes to give you after since I couldn’t so much tell you that in the moment.
Hired guns will have a standard of polite behavior that is a part of her job. What I saw, was her increasing her interest in you significantly as your conversation progressed. This was more than standard ‘polite to customer’ behavior. As you were joking and showing her tricks and switching subjects in the conversation, her attraction was raising. She was touching you more & the frequency was building up through your conversation. She did have to keep bouncing around the bar every so often to do her promo things, but one of those last times she was standing next to you, her frequency of touching you turned into her leaning over and kissing you on the cheek. She is merely a promo girl, that move was WAY above any necessary ‘polite to customer’ move.
The lap dance comment
I was using this first set to show you that something a little bit outrageous & out of context can be said & the girl doesn’t get offended, just playful. Almost anything is ok
You are still that incredibly fun, interesting guy that she met. You have so many women that she has no idea if you are going to ask her out at all. You are totally un-needy. She wants you to tell her when and where to meet you. You don’t ask; you direct, since you are a leader.
Mainly, you want to reinforce in her mind…[private]
… that you are still that super fun guy she met, continue building lots of comfort (while keeping
the attraction fires burning), and last, but not least, get her to meet up with you.
The secret to good phone game is to be completely and totally un-needy. In any attractive woman’s life, there have been a million guys who she has her number to and lived to regret it; primarily because they made it a point to constantly ask her out at the slightest opportunity, whenever they had her on the phone. You are not going to be that guy. You are going to be that ultra-cool guy she wants to go out with but doesn’t give her any certainty that you will ever ask her out at all.
When you mention fun things you have in your upcoming plans, as soon as you hear her interest in them, it is so easy to suggest “Totally. I think we have room. You should definitely come along.”
“Our house almost got broken into when I was eight…but my if dad installed some swinging paint cans and some micro machines by the stairs that shit woulda never happened.”
If a girl spends a 30 minute convo with a new guy, with her spending 90% of the time talking about herself, being truly listened to and appreciated for who she may be, she is going to feel a deepest rapport, attraction, almost an utter craving to learn all about the guy, want to spend more time, want to extend the current moments as long as possible COMPLETE NIGHT VS DAY CONTRAST than her sitting there listening to a guy ramble on about things he thinks is impressing her*, while the majority of the time she is yawning in her thoughts and mostly thinking her own things TOTALLY unrelated to the guy at all, he is making no impact.
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Cj Clark Piona You got it brother, I am looking for my most detailed writings to share with you right here since you are not afraid to ask on my walls, in my groups, sites, I will post all paid content from my E-book material ABSOLUTELY FREE as my way of saying thanks, since the answers, Open Q&A help guys without the resourse to come to my Boston, National International events and may not yet have
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Cj Clark Piona …and may not yet have built up the confidence to admit they need to know..or built up the confidence to ask anybody yet.
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Cj Clark Piona AND ALWAYS FEEL FREE TO ASK, since the reason why 90+% of my time is doing these same things FOR FREE is because I lov e it so much and love love so much…and I think it the most inner fulfillment we habve here in life possible….WAY MORE than a million material luxuries so many people chase to try and have too many of….This love stuff really fills an inner
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Cj Clark Piona …fills an inner place that better than all the drugs, thrill rides, a complete peace in happiness that I do find to be the ultimate secret to happiness, Love, inner love, intimate love, self love with who you love, and sex, as I see it IS the ultimate expression of loving those moments…al of that time together in it’s most intimate way
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Cj Clark Piona attitude like jersey Shore promotes..I fall in lve and love forever, still wholeheartedly in love with the girl I lost my virginity to…and a myriad of beautiful women I have met since..I fall in love, with girls even with no sex, to enjoy those completely moments…where as it led me to finally love myself for real, the hardest love of them all. Thank you very much Blina, feel free to send anyone you like my way, I \
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Blina Ventos Am also saying thanks for helping me as a brother am glad, am still young but HB’S here keep wondering how I sarge them and am just 20 =]
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Cj Clark Piona I will be more than happy to help and when they tell me Blina sent them, they get the same treatment as a fine getnleman such as yourself does, Thank you
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Cj Clark Piona Keep at it brother. I was courting girls twice my age when I was 20, loving them, and they too taught me so much about the world and about love…and they are women who already had their experience with guyus to know how to choose them, I was humbly honored to be in their hearts, and for them to be in mine
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Blina Ventos I like the part where you fall in love with girls even without having sex with them..I appreciate your support and I believe you gonna support me to become a pua
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Blina Ventos well I’m successful as I learnt a lot from different pua’s the thing is I want to be the first Master Pick-Up Artist in Kenya, A Dating coach..I’m gonna post my video soon on you tube I’ll let you know.thanks coach =]
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Blina Ventos how are you gonna help me on this!?and I sarged a chick,number closed and we getting along well she told me she had sex only once we were at my place romancing and all that but when I reached down there her clit is tight man I think am gonna hurt her help c.j =]
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Cj Clark Piona On that, go slow, and …keep teasing….keep holding off until she she is pulling you inside of her…keep teasing then too…only insert 1/2 then pul out…she will be getting so hott and be aching to have you inside oif her…let me see if I can sift through my writings to give you detailed instructions I wrote on this
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… friendshipsand romanticrelationships. The study of interpersonal attraction is a major area of [private]research in social psychology. Interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, love, dislike, or hate someone. It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation. When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities of the attracted as well as the qualities of the attractor to achieve predictive accuracy. It is suggested that attraction between people which leads to friendships and romanticrelationships. The study of interpersonal attraction is a major area of research in social psychology. Interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, love, dislike, or hate someone. It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation. When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities of the attracted as well as the qualities of the attractor to achieve predictive accuracy. It is suggested that to determine attraction, personality and situation must be taken into account.
“Truly an interesting and enlightening experience. CJ is an excellent teacher, and his observations and predictions are amazingly spot on. And they seem obvious in hindsight, yet I would find it impossible to come up with them myself. I am reminded of the Sherlock Holmes stories, where Holmes comes up with deductions that are obvious only after he explains them–Holmes could have been like CJ had the Holmes stories been about meeting women. As for myself, I am afraid I am still at Watson level when it comes to women. ” ~Anonymous Member
Cj Siege Tell her this: “hey I noticed you from over there & had to come over & say hi. see what ur like…” It doesn’t say more than u mean, nor is it trying too hard to maintain a status of any sort …just clear, direct, honest & to the point. Like any new interaction, yes her beauty has draw you over, but u want to see what she is like before u decide further
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THIS starts the momentum in exactly the right place, she now knows she hasn’t won you over with her looks alone, you want to see what she is like AND THAT will decide how things go from then on.
…because they don’t turn off the sexuality… [private]“nice” guys think women will be terrified of their
sexuality, so they turn it off and all they get is women responding to their androgyny.
The great part of this is, is that a guy does not have to be a bastard to keep this same attraction switch on. Keep sexual topics flowing freely from your mouth and she will see that sex is an acceptable topic to be discussing with you.
“I hear about all this equal rights talk going on. Did you know that women are capable of NINE different types of orgasms? Guys only get two types that we can have, this ‘nine’ business seems like you got a better end of that deal.”
Saying something like this opens the table for okay-ness to have sex on it and also shows a sexual intelligence that most guys do not have. If you know this much, she will go on to wonder if you know how to give her those nine types.
“Hey honey, don’t worry about it. I’m cocky for a big reason.:
Being strong in your masculinity reduces any neediness. Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to [private]focus your mind on appreciation – stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy…[private] you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.
Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. I removed compliments from my vocabulary and just went on to notice what I like about people. They appreciate it more, it is much easier (just noticing) and it is always taken as honest, not contrived.
Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them, share them with who you are with. This discussion brings you both to the same page and you can enjoy together.
Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone loves to hang with. [/private]
There are plenty of women to talk to. This time around you are just practicing to [private]learn your skills and refine them. Each person you get in a conversation with is just a practice-person, or a practice conversation, so to speak.
This way, you have no reason to worry at all about any particular outcome and can let your personality come forth in full flourish. You can say things that might be lightly shocking. The worst that can possibly happen is you will learn from it. It is a step toward to eventual success and by maintaining this mindset you will find, that a few minutes into a conversation already rolling “Hey this chick is kinda cool and pretty cute, maybe I will like her more than this encounter.”
There are plenty of hott, fun-filled women so this time around you are just practicing, fine tuning your calibration. There are no worries to any specific outcome.
The only possible results are successfully hooking her or a successful lesson.
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…. that they just met, the woman isn’t really sure or clear that he is interested in her directly. One way to playfully indicate this is to talk about it as future plans. “Oh my God, I am so totally going to start hitting on you in the future because…”
By doing this there is nothing to object to or to reject right now. It is a playful statement you made almost indicating that if she plays her cards right you will get hit on by you. This leaves the potential open without being too direct.
By using this future perspective you can lay [private] a lot of things out just as ‘potential’. “That is so cool! You love food and I love food”. “I love going to all these different new cultural and hole in the wall restaurants around town, we can be food buddies and check these places inside out.” This is no need for any specific logistical details, this is just indicating that if she does play her cards right there is another fun activity the two of you can do together.[/private]
First, since you have previously made a good connection for you to disconnect from, this gives her the space, the need to pursue you. When you disconnect properly, [private]you become a commodity that she wants to have more of. When you are the one man who is not groveling for her attentions, you already are standing out from the rest.
This is not harshly pushing her away forever. You are just creating a distance between the 2 of you that looks to her as a distance she can bridge. This sort of distance causes you to become interesting to her.
If you give her a truth disconnect or even bust her on bad behavior she is likely to explain herself or even apologize. Stay observant to the truths around you and those truths about her. Doing this without much opinion added to it is something people realistically look at and adjust their behaviors for a more favorable truth to be revealed about themselves.
If you want to have chemistry with a woman, you both have room to move in; room to move towards each other. If you don’t give her room to move towards you, you won’t have chemistry and that will have you rarely getting success. If you go and fulfill all of a woman’s desires, she has nowhere to go but away.
I see many guys who aren’t giving the girl room to move towards them. If you are always moving towards her she has no room to move towards you. Disconnection gives her room, and a desire for you that is unfulfilled and draws her in your direction. These show difference between you and her and cause her to work for your approval.
Disconnection shows you are a strong, bold interesting man. Disconnection creates controversy which is interesting on every level. Controversy is inherently interesting.
“Listen< i am for the thoery to ‘Make awkward sexual advances not war’ so if you play your cards right…” andd then I change the subject letting her curiosity grow.
Another great thing to make sure you keep in mind is that there is never a need to avoid potential conflicts. Being a highly confident and strong man, knows that the best ideas are often presented with counterpoints. This is fine. If it was a boring topic or issue, no one would spend the time trying to oppose it.
Remember that it is okay to have some conflict. Even powerful emotion will raise attraction so her quick spurt of an angry face is not a thing to take seriously. You have just met this girl she is still treating you as a non-person to her world, also seeing how you react under different situations.
If she does give you a quick angry anything in the first few minutes you have met her, take it as a joke. Make a joke of it. You can call her cute for getting all huffy about a silly joke you made. Reach across and sideways hug her as if you are consoling her little tantrum.
If you think about it on the same level, since you just met this girl, you have no reason to care what she thinks yet. She is still a new person to your world and you have not learned enough about her to see if you want her to a friend of yours, If her energy compliments yours.
When meeting new people, there is no reason to really care what they think about me or what I have to offer. They detect this lack of care, this supreme confidence which is really attractive in itself. Since they are not top priority and there is not any reason to worry. Stay focused on the feel good topics you know, those that make you feel good and seem to be contagious to those around you.
Never worry if she sees something in you that might push her away. It always good for you to have the ‘warts & all’ perspective about what you project. If you do welcome her into your world for a longer period of time, she will see those anyways. It shows a higher confidence when a person see’s no big deal in their own faults.
They get so lonely because average guys are too scared to talk to them. The doors are wide open, please walk through and be a welcome guest. It is so fun to be friendly isn’t it? And think about this: why do you think those hot girls spent so much time and money getting the finest clothes, perfecting their makeup, and having a great hairstyle — doing what they can to be sexy at that?
…what we think we cannot have, or almost can have.
You can use this, as you will see in posts throughout the site that keep a girl wanting you, chasing you to have little tastes [private]of what you have to offer.
Don’t indicate that you are a sure thing, you haven’t learned enough about her to know if you want her as regular part of your world. Don’t indicate to her that she has NO chance, she’ll go and find someone who she feels she can have some success with.
Keep her understanding that she may have caught your attention, yet hasn’t shown you enough to fully hold your attention yet. [private]
As much as i teach about the benefits to having the girl to be in pursuit of the man she wants, for both of them, this is not codependency in any way.
Some people hear the sketch, and think a person would [private]be addicted to another. They are not addicted to me in any way but right in that sweet place of feeling a comprehensive growth, fulfillment that months or years after we may go out separate ways, they have felt comfortable looking me up, hitting me up and being connected for a bit again.[/private]