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It seems like common 21st-century culture

Posted by on May 11, 2012 196 comments

has let the art of socializing slip through the cracks. Most people have been leaving their lives as if they are here to live in order to work rather than working in order to live. A key benefit to life in itself seems [private] to be lost as we no longer set aside time to meet new people as we used to.

It is key to make socializing a priority in your list of things to do. By starting out with steps you can turn this into a habit and by this you will get very and regularly good at it. Set aside time every week to get very involved with the people you do know, enjoying their lives with them. Take some time to cultivate relationships with people that you know less just as an acquaintance maybe. When you touch base with a new person again asked them to share conversation and copy it at some time.

It is very good to be entertaining at your home once a week. On top of this you should absolutely accept all invitations that you get. You can arrange to have a dinner party once a week and to the people that you invite encourage your guests to bring new people you have not met before. Have friends over for a potluck. “Why don’t you come along and go ahead and bring a friend. I’d like to meet new people.”

Classes that involve social interaction are great places to meet new people. Topics such as cooking, wine tasting, foreign language often have much student to student participation rather than a bunch of people in their own listening to a lecture.

When you find yourself in these venues with people make sure you sit in the middle. That’s where the popular people often sit in those that sit in the center are the ones that get noticed.

In this world there is no rejection, all there is is selection. Odds habit that one out of 16 eligible people will be your matched opposite therefore being your click. Remember that blissful and relaxed feeling when talking to certain people that you just know that you guys get along effortlessly and might be friends forever.

Rejection is a chance for self reflection, learning how to alter your next time. Ask yourself “what did I learn?” And follow this question up with statements to how and what you will do differently next time. A person who will do the same thing over and over again will get the same results. Those who expect different results will be disappointed. Any time you see rejection is merely a cue to move onto the next person. You have been saved time by finding out what this person is like pretty quickly. Easy to move to the next one. [/private]

Get in the Zone, watch this video

Posted by on May 2, 2012 947 comments
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http://www.youtube.com/user/SocializingwithCJ#p/u/0/5CeqFHGaXB8  

How to remember names to faces.

Posted by on May 1, 2012 392 comments

Start by looking carefully at the person you are meeting. Notice any unusual items such as the person’s manner of talking, or physical features, etc.

Listen carefully to the person’s name and if unsure what you heard, ask the person to spell it. Sometimes I simply repeat the name as if I am test-driving the pronunciation. With some names I may just repeat it because it sounds nice, it is a nice name. They are hearing me play with the pronunciation and will correct me if I don’t have it right. This repetition helps too.

The sound of person’s own name is better than the finest music to their ears. Hearing it spoken off your lips already is doing things to increase rapport and generate those liking feelings for you from a new person. The most effective way I have found to remember a person’s name is to say it at least three times at the beginning of a conversation.

“Yes Erica that is a good point. What I also thought was…”
“If what you’re saying is true Erica, then how would you explain the…”

“Ok Erica, let me ask you this…”

Take a mental picture of the person and the name in your mind’s eye. Sometimes I take a first letter of their name and find the place on their face that is shaped like that. If their name starts with an ‘M’ maybe I can see an ‘M’ in the shape of their eyebrows. If it starts with a ‘D’, maybe I see a ‘D’ in the shape of their mouth and the smile line up their cheek. Whatever it may be this is another way to help solidify a person’s name to their actual face making it come to you more quickly the next time you see them.

Compare this:”It is better to ask for forgiveness, rather than permission.”

Posted by on April 5, 2012 1,268 comments
Neon HBitch

Neon HBitch

You see, we never really know what is considered totally acceptable or not until we put it out there. I see some guys dtaying headstrong on maintaining what they do, have done to maintain an alpha strength while asking for okayness before they proceed.

It is actually stronger, more alpha, to have to confidence to do what you do and enough confidence once you see things may not be received as you thought and apologize for the reception.

It can be as easy as explaining you motivation, that what was misinterpreted is not what you intended and you are sorry it was taken that way.

Step Up to the Plate She Made for You

Posted by on January 22, 2011 506 comments

Hot chicks are easier to score with.

They get so lonely because average guys are too scared to talk to them. The doors are wide open, please walk through and be a welcome guest. It is so fun to be friendly isn’t it? And think about this: why do you think those hot girls spent so much time and money getting the finest clothes, perfecting their makeup, and having a great hairstyle — doing what they can to be sexy at that?

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I have stayed friends with almost every girl I have ever dated

Posted by on January 11, 2011 617 comments
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As much as i teach about the benefits to having the girl to be in pursuit of the man she wants, for both of them, this is not codependency in any way.

Some people hear the sketch, and think a person would [private]be addicted to another. They are not addicted to me in any way but right in that sweet place of feeling a comprehensive growth, fulfillment that months or years after we may go out separate ways, they have felt comfortable looking me up, hitting me up and being connected for a bit again.[/private]