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How to remember names to faces.

Posted by on May 1, 2012 392 comments

Start by looking carefully at the person you are meeting. Notice any unusual items such as the person’s manner of talking, or physical features, etc.

Listen carefully to the person’s name and if unsure what you heard, ask the person to spell it. Sometimes I simply repeat the name as if I am test-driving the pronunciation. With some names I may just repeat it because it sounds nice, it is a nice name. They are hearing me play with the pronunciation and will correct me if I don’t have it right. This repetition helps too.

The sound of person’s own name is better than the finest music to their ears. Hearing it spoken off your lips already is doing things to increase rapport and generate those liking feelings for you from a new person. The most effective way I have found to remember a person’s name is to say it at least three times at the beginning of a conversation.

“Yes Erica that is a good point. What I also thought was…”
“If what you’re saying is true Erica, then how would you explain the…”

“Ok Erica, let me ask you this…”

Take a mental picture of the person and the name in your mind’s eye. Sometimes I take a first letter of their name and find the place on their face that is shaped like that. If their name starts with an ‘M’ maybe I can see an ‘M’ in the shape of their eyebrows. If it starts with a ‘D’, maybe I see a ‘D’ in the shape of their mouth and the smile line up their cheek. Whatever it may be this is another way to help solidify a person’s name to their actual face making it come to you more quickly the next time you see them.

When I say “Let’s talk to every single girl in the bar”…

Posted by on April 29, 2012 448 comments
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…I usually do that early in the night for a couple of reasons.

First, this lubes up the social muscles very well, desensitizing you to any anxiety or care about rejection. It becomes wicked easy just to keep starting conversations with all sorts of people. If any interaction turns out to be not what you like, it is easy to not care about any outcome with one girl, there are plenty you have rapport with in that one place on that night.

Once you start a conversation with one group, it is easy to roll out on a good note “I have to touch base with some people; I will come back in a few to chat.” Then you can roll out of that group of girls and walk directly over to another group of girls. The new girls just saw you walk from another group of girls so this shows you are the sociable guy that women like. The last girls watch you walk into the new set which they are assuming are people you are ‘touching base’ with and it looks as you have already known them.

This indicates a ‘pre-selection value’ to both groups of girls. Now being the sociable guy, it is easy to open some more groups and then come back to groups you have previously opened. As the night goes on, rolling in and out of groups starts to feel like you were already friends, to them and to you. As the night goes on, you are not the clingy guy hoping for some validation from some girls who are talking to, you are the guy who brings a group to a high point of laughing or comparable high, then rolling out leaving them to want more.

Next time you roll back in, they will be trying a little harder to keep you around this time, they don’t want you to leave…they just want some more high points.

Since you have met several groups of people, it is great to be introducing them to each other. “I want you to meet my friends, they will love you.” Yes you just met them, but they are now your friends. As I am introducing groups to each other, I will probably mention a thing or two about each person I learned about “…and this is Lisa who is a yoga instructor in Cambridge..” Since these types of comments get the new people talking to each other with a subject underway.

As the night goes on, and not being the clingy guy but the guy they try to keep around with their group, you get a sit of selection to which girl you want more with. You are not settling for the girl who will come home with you, you are choosing which one you like best. You can shoot lots of subtle feeler questions to each girl you are interested in “What are you doing after the bars close?” to see if she has plans, has to work early tomorrow, or what details let you know useful info.

When we walked back in the bar from the patio, there were two girls standing in the aisle, talking to each other. I simply walked over to them, put my hand to hold an arm of each of them and ask: “Are you guys doing alright, having a good time? Do you have everything you need?” They had big smiles to tell me they were. “Ok good, enjoy yourself.”

So maybe they assumed it was my club or I worked there & was just checking on them, that’s fine. I didn’t say I was with the club, I was just asking if they were having a good time. I left a sleight indication that if they weren’t having a good time, I would see what I could do. That is all totally true.

The vodka chick

Usually I probably wouldn’t suggest walking over right before we were leaving to ask her for a number. I would have suggested you make the suggestion mid conversation, in the moment. In that type of dynamic, I was merely observing you, for notes to give you after since I couldn’t so much tell you that in the moment.

Hired guns will have a standard of polite behavior that is a part of her job. What I saw, was her increasing her interest in you significantly as your conversation progressed. This was more than standard ‘polite to customer’ behavior. As you were joking and showing her tricks and switching subjects in the conversation, her attraction was raising. She was touching you more & the frequency was building up through your conversation. She did have to keep bouncing around the bar every so often to do her promo things, but one of those last times she was standing next to you, her frequency of touching you turned into her leaning over and kissing you on the cheek. She is merely a promo girl, that move was WAY above any necessary ‘polite to customer’ move.

The lap dance comment

I was using this first set to show you that something a little bit outrageous & out of context can be said & the girl doesn’t get offended, just playful. Almost anything is ok

Calling her that first time

Posted by on April 6, 2012 91 comments
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You are still that incredibly fun, interesting guy that she met. You have so many women that she has no idea if you are going to ask her out at all. You are totally un-needy. She wants you to tell her when and where to meet you. You don’t ask; you direct, since you are a leader.

Mainly, you want to reinforce in her mind…[private]

… that you are still that super fun guy she met, continue building lots of comfort (while keeping
the attraction fires burning), and last, but not least, get her to meet up with you.

The secret to good phone game is to be completely and totally un-needy. In any attractive woman’s life, there have been a million guys who she has her number to and lived to regret it; primarily because they made it a point to constantly ask her out at the slightest opportunity, whenever they had her on the phone. You are not going to be that guy. You are going to be that ultra-cool guy she wants to go out with but doesn’t give her any certainty that you will ever ask her out at all.
When you mention fun things you have in your upcoming plans, as soon as you hear her interest in them, it is so easy to suggest “Totally. I think we have room. You should definitely come along.”

“Our house almost got broken into when I was eight…but my if dad installed some swinging paint cans and some micro machines by the stairs that shit woulda never happened.”

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Guys can learn to ‘TRULY’ Listen to a girl, hearing about her, to form deep connection & True Attraction :)

Posted by on April 6, 2012 535 comments
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If a girl spends a 30 minute convo with a new guy, with her spending 90% of the time talking about herself, being truly listened to and appreciated for who she may be, she is going to feel a deepest rapport, attraction, almost an utter craving to learn all about the guy, want to spend more time, want to extend the current moments as long as possible COMPLETE NIGHT VS DAY CONTRAST than her sitting there listening to a guy ramble on about things he thinks is impressing her*, while the majority of the time she is yawning in her thoughts and mostly thinking her own things TOTALLY unrelated to the guy at all, he is making no impact.
On Call or [On Location] via email to cj@adventuresofattraction.com

I notice in our conversation

Posted by on April 6, 2012 55 comments
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…that she is more traveled than I am.

I can also see that my enthusiasm for the places I have been does more than [private]…even out the playing field.

“Oh my god! Costa Rica was like a picture perfect paradise you see in picture books. There were monkeys pulling candy wrappers out of the trash and a two foot tall brightly colored parrot in the tree nearby the picnic table we were sitting at..

The people were So friendly. As soon as they hear you trying a few Spanish phrases they make every effort with any English they know. I remember on more than one occasion, when I was asking directions, the people would walk with me most of the way to be able to point out the last stretch of the directions..

There were volcanoes spitting lava over the bay, waterfalls in every neighborhood we visited, and palm trees to coconuts wherever the could see.

The sunset over the bay stuck so hard in my mind, I had to paint what I remembered of it a few years later. It was an ever changing rainbow of opaly colors, shimmering on the water for the whole time we were eating dinner across the street from the beach…”

No matter what they are, facts can be boring. Enthusiasm and colorful pictures painted with your words can be very alluring and the enthusiasm is contagious. When I tell those stories I hear “I wish I was there” all the time.

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Compare this:”It is better to ask for forgiveness, rather than permission.”

Posted by on April 5, 2012 1,268 comments
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Neon HBitch

You see, we never really know what is considered totally acceptable or not until we put it out there. I see some guys dtaying headstrong on maintaining what they do, have done to maintain an alpha strength while asking for okayness before they proceed.

It is actually stronger, more alpha, to have to confidence to do what you do and enough confidence once you see things may not be received as you thought and apologize for the reception.

It can be as easy as explaining you motivation, that what was misinterpreted is not what you intended and you are sorry it was taken that way.

Star Wars IV

Posted by on April 2, 2012 570 comments
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The galaxy is in a state of civil war. Spies for the Rebel Alliance have stolen plans to the Galactic Empire’s Death Star: a weaponized space station capable of annihilating an entire planet. Rebel leader Princess Leia (Carrie Fisher) is in possession of the plans, but her ship is captured by Imperial forces under the command of the evil lord Darth Vader (David Prowse). Before she is captured, Leia hides the plans in the memory of a droid called R2-D2 (Kenny Baker), along with a holographic recording. The small droid escapes to the surface of the desert planet Tatooine with fellow droid C-3PO (Anthony Daniels).

The two droids are quickly captured by Jawa traders, who sell the pair to moisture farmer Owen Lars (Phil Brown) and his nephew, Luke Skywalker (Mark Hamill). While Luke is cleaning R2-D2, he accidentally triggers part of Leia’s holographic message, in which she requests help from Obi-Wan Kenobi. The only “Kenobi” Luke knows of is an old hermit named Ben Kenobi (Alec Guinness) who lives in the nearby hills; Owen, however, dismisses any connection, suggesting that Obi-Wan is dead.

During dinner, R2-D2 escapes to seek Obi-Wan. By the time Luke discovers his escape it is too late for pursuit. The next morning Luke and C-3PO look for R2-D2, and just after finding him are attacked by Sand People. The assailants are scared off by Ben Kenobi, who reveals himself to be Obi-Wan. He takes Luke and the droids to his home, where he tells Luke of his days as a Jedi Knight. The Jedi were the guardians of peace and justice in the galaxy before being wiped out by the Empire. Obi-Wan tells of the Force, from which the Jedi draw their power. He goes on to tell Luke of his father, Anakin Skywalker, another Jedi who fought alongside Obi-Wan. Contrary to his uncle’s claims, Luke learns that his father was betrayed and killed by Darth Vader, Obi-Wan’s former pupil who turned to the “dark side of the Force”. Luke is presented with his father’s lightsaber, the Jedi’s weapon of choice.

Obi-Wan views Leia’s complete message. Leia begs Obi-Wan to take R2-D2 and the Death Star plans to her home planet of Alderaan, where her father will be able to retrieve and analyze them. Obi-Wan asks Luke to learn the ways of the Force and join him on the trip. Luke initially refuses, offering Obi-Wan transit to a local space port. When he discovers that his home has been destroyed and his aunt and uncle were killed by Imperial stormtroopers in search of the droids, Luke agrees to join Obi-Wan and travel to Alderaan. The two hire smuggler Han Solo (Harrison Ford) and his Wookiee co-pilot Chewbacca (Peter Mayhew) to transport them on their ship, the Millennium Falcon.

Meanwhile, Leia has been imprisoned on the Death Star and has resisted revealing the location of the secret Rebel base. Grand Moff Tarkin (Peter Cushing), the Death Star’s commanding officer and Vader’s superior, tries to coax information out of her by threatening to destroy Alderaan. Leia pretends to cooperate, but Tarkin destroys the planet anyway to demonstrate the power of the Empire’s new weapon. When the Falcon arrives at Alderaan’s coordinates, it finds only a cloud of rubble. They follow a TIE fighter, not realizing they are being drawn towards the Death Star. When they attempt to flee, the ship Falcon is captured by the station’s tractor beam, and is brought into its hangar bay.

The group escapes from the Falcon and takes refuge in a command room while Obi-Wan goes off to disable the tractor beam. While they are waiting, Luke discovers that Princess Leia is aboard and is scheduled to be executed. Sizing up the situation, Han, Luke, and Chewbacca stage a rescue and free the princess. After several harrowing escapes, they make their way back to the Falcon, where they witness a lightsaber duel between Obi-Wan and Darth Vader. As the others race onto the ship to escape, Obi-Wan allows himself to be struck down by Vader’s lightsaber; Kenobi disappears while his empty cloak and deactivated lightsaber fall to the ground.

As the Falcon makes its escape, Vader and Tarkin reveal that a tracking device was placed aboard the ship in order to finally find the rebel base. After fighting their way through a token defence, the Falcon flies clear of the Death Star and reaches the Yavin IV Rebel base. The Death Star plans are analyzed by the Rebels, disclosing a vulnerable exhaust port leading to the main reactor. Luke joins the assault team but Han collects his reward for the rescue and leaves, despite Luke’s request to stay and fight.

The Death Star arrives and is met by Rebel fighters. The Rebels suffer heavy losses—after several failed attack runs, few pilots survive. Vader appears in a TIE Advanced X1 and attacks the Rebel ships. Luke, one of the few Rebel pilots left, begins his attack as the Death Star moves into attack range. Vader closes on Luke, but as he is about to fire, Han arrives in the Falcon and attacks Vader’s wingmen. Vader’s ship is sent careening off into space. Guided by Obi-Wan’s voice telling him to use the Force, Luke switches off his targeting computer and fires a successful shot, destroying the Death Star seconds before it is about to fire on the Rebel base. Later, Princess Leia awards medals to Luke and Han for their heroism.

Sometimes a random introduction to new person goes quite nicely:

Posted by on April 1, 2012 196 comments

Ok, from last Wednesday…I decided to log out this clip. I went into the Logan cafe…as I love it there…I figured a quick sandwich and a soda….Some beautiful bunny was leaning on the brochure counter looking as if she is waiting for someone…She was pretty model stat…Good-‘propa-lady’ like dressed on top of a Bally’s body…She held herself well, and when our eye contact was made…She humbly dropped [private] her gaze to the ground…for a couple a seconds…When she looks back up to see if I am still looking…which I was…I scoped her setup head to toes…On her look up she dropped her gaze again then a good 30 seconds before she looked to the side and the brochures…I figured I would say hi….


C.J.: “Hi, I do have a question for you.”

Beautiful Bunny at the Logan cafe: “Sure, what’s that?”

(I pause… pause. I paused for fun…)

C.J.: “Are you single?” (In my emotionless stone cold straight face)

Beautiful Bunnie: “Well, um…”

C.J.: “I’ll take that as a yes…” (I nodded in the grin that I felt creeping on…)

Beautiful Bunnie: (Laughter)

C.J.: “Well, I just happen to know someone that I
think might like you… if you’re more than
just a pretty face, that is… He’s fun and has
great taste, and I think you’d like him… I’d
love to sit down and get your life story, but I’m
on my way somewhere… do you have email?” I asked…

Beautiful Bunnie: “Yes.”

C.J.: Great… (I take out my favorite astronaut pen)… write it down for
me, and I’ll send you an email when I’m in ‘online time’. 

I then folded her slip of paper slid it into the breast pocket of my jacket and wished her a good day…[/private]

How to tell in 15 minutes whether someone likes you

Posted by on April 1, 2012 No comments
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Wouldn’t it be great to be able to tell within fifteen minutes whether someone likes you or not? There are subtle clues people inadvertently give that can let you know if they feel favourably about you, or not. Most of these clues are expressed unconsciously, and via body language that is observable.

The Eyebrow Raise

The eyebrow raise is generally reserved for members of the opposite sex who like what they see, and it happens straight away. You will have to be on the ball to catch this happening as it only takes a second or so to take place, but is a clear indication that the person raising their eyebrows is pleased to see you.

The Smile

Although smiling can be faked a genuine smile can easily be separated from a false one because it is accompanied by eye contact and is broad, usually showing a hint of teeth when it is heartfelt and your entrance has taken the smiler by surprise.

A smile which is more of a grimace, or which is delivered with lips firmly shut tight, downward turning corners of the lips and a far away glassy stare is more of a made up effort than an indication that someone likes you.

The Lean.

If you are sat with a person who likes you they are likely to lean in toward you as you converse. If they don’t like you very much the opposite is true. They may well lean back away from you.

If you are standing the other person will stand fairly close to you if they like you and will give you all of their attention. If not, they will hang back from achieving close proximity with you.

Feet.

It is a positive sign if the other person has their feet pointing toward you, as we generally unconsciously point out feet where we want to go.

Of course, if the other person has their feet pointed toward the door then they probably are desperate to make a speedy exit.

Eye Contact

A person who is enjoying being with you will hold your gaze a few seconds longer than most other people. They will look directly at your face and their eyes will occasionally settle on your lips if they feel attracted to you also.

Touching.

When we like someone we are drawn to touch them, even when we try not to! The touching isn’t overtly sexual in nature, and may be subtle such as little pats on the knee or touches on the forearm.

If the other person touches your hair often this is a sure sign that they feel romantically about you, especially if they slowly move strands of hair away from your face while looking into your eyes.

Mirroring.

Another sign that someone likes you is where they mirror your actions. If, for example, they pick up their glass to drink and put it down each time you do you can bet that they feel positively towards you.

Grooming and Shoe Tipping.

When a woman likes a man, and she is wearing the right shoes, she may well inadvertently play with the straps or tip her shoe on and off.

Both men and women tend to play with their hair and perform grooming gestures to make sure that they look their best when they like you.

All of these examples of body language indicate how someone feels about you, and if they perform several within fifteen minutes you will definitely know that they like you.

You call her, she agrees to meet up but you hear hesitation.

Posted by on March 27, 2012 441 comments

It is okay, this is a good place to indicate your feelings on these things. it is better to have everything on the table than [private] to have her stand you up. This way, you are more likely to go out with her at another time. You can easily tell her something like:

“There’s one thing I hate it is flakey people. You sound like you weren’t sure about this. If you’re not gonna show up, that’s cool but wasting my time is not.”

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To a really gorgeous girl with a super tight, hott body: “You know, you have a really interesting figure.”
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Remember my friend, the only difference between dreams and reality is a plan.

Posted by on March 25, 2012 1,406 comments
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Cj Clark Piona that is how it has been for me anyways…realizing the beginnings of all of this started for me in fullest force, last spring, February/March 2010 or so…
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Beauty is common

Posted by on December 6, 2011 769 comments

In essence I tell Mya that I don’t want to fuck a girl based on appearance, I want to fuck a girl based on what I find inside.

I can look at beautiful woman, but beauty is common. I have dated too many tens/models/strippers than I’d like to admit… but for me to want any sexy-time out of a situation, I need a girl who can entertain my insides.

Since beauty is too common, there are three things I look for. A good personality, a good energy, and a good outlook.”

I look her down then up to her eyes: “You got two out of three, its a good start.”

Then she wants to know which ones she has & which one she is missing. Things turn into a playful cat & mouse as I change the subject.

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Posted by on November 24, 2011 No comments
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“Truly an interesting and enlightening experience. CJ is an excellent teacher, and his observations and predictions are amazingly spot on. And they seem obvious in hindsight, yet I would find it impossible to come up with them myself. I am reminded of the Sherlock Holmes stories, where Holmes comes up with deductions that are obvious only after he explains them–Holmes could have been like CJ had the Holmes stories been about meeting women. As for myself, I am afraid I am still at Watson level when it comes to women. ” ~Anonymous Member

“Las Vegas is the Disney World for Boys who become Men with a better taste of the REAL Pleasures in Life.”

Posted by on October 24, 2011 1,398 comments

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Men,

Las Vegas is the world’s adult Disney World. So image being there with a Dating coach guiding you along…scratch that, Image being there with 3-4 coaches!

There is a mansion in Vegas that is creating a buzz in this Seduction “Community”. Yes I said Mansion, 5 bedrooms and baths, fireplaces…yes more than one, POOL! and more!

“Hey hunny, great talking to you, you should come to the after party, AT OUR HOUSE, with a POOL, and Jacuzzi!!” ~C.J. “The Siege” to girls at team pull with JerseyBoy in LA.

Read that quote over again.

Now remeber it. Once you are rolling along in conversation with some new girls, drop that into conversation to see some girl’s eyes light up!

The from there all you have to do is work out logistics to move you all back to the Place wwhen sexy fun is abbout to ahppen.

You see, Siege is there with a single fun outcome in mind that will prioritize the others throughout what is going on. Sure He’ll be enjoying the rest ov=f Vegas, with a particular radar on.

And ALSO rememer, what he is looking to have he gets so once one girl in the group is making out, that feeling transfers to the girl you are talking to with him as your wing.

Then she want’s to making out, this increasing your ability to escalate with her ENPORMOUSLY!!

Then once back to the pad, the girl you are talking to hears/sees sexy time going on with C.J. and his girl. She too want to be having sexy-time since the mere thought of hearing her friend enjoying the pleasures she wants, willl raise her buying temperature like you’d never believe…that is unless you have singed up foro the Vegas Event

This is not your everyday meet-up or weekend boot camp, you and the coaches DO NOT part ways for hours after the outing to your respective hotel rooms. You get a text from a girl after the night is done, there is a coach right there ready to help!

This is a project house weekend in the city that parties 24/7! on Halloween weekend no less!

This isn’t just locals, this is everyone from every where, flying/driving in to party and be naughty!

Guys this is a chance to get out and broaden your horizons! Travel and bring home stories to your friends and even women in your home town. SO when she asks have you traveled your response can be something other than “Yes with my mom and dad, to Disney world, when i was FIVE!

The problem in this are of self-improvement is that there is too many who want to read material for days or months on end and never strp out of their home or their OR their comfort zone then go out with others who do that same thing, and it ends up being “The Blind leading the Blind”

Lets put a stop to that and hit Vegas with coaches and make some memories to last a life time!

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Vegas recommendations
There is some people on this forum heading to Vegas, so I thought I’d put in my recommendations and what I’ve learned:

1. Girls at tables won’t talk to you that much.

Well, if it’s tables like Craps or Roulette, they got time to talk after their turn, or during their turn, but when it comes down to card games, they would prefer not to talk, but think up ways on how to win. You can make quick and witty comments to grab her attention then pull her to a different table, but conversation wise, no- they will not talk to you.

2. Girls are easier at the slot machines.

Slot machines are designed so you can take your time with them. There is no pressure or rush to do anything. So they can stop whatever they are doing and talk to you, or play and talk at the same time.

3. Pull them from different parts of the casino.

The casinos have a lot of things to look at, and places to be. Such as bars, clubs, slot machines, tables, or even watching a game together. Pull them to different areas to create small intimate moments that you can expand on later.

4. Pull them to different casinos.

It’s like making small intimate moments inside the casino, you are now making a larger memory to help raise the attraction and comfort. Also, there is open liquor laws in Vegas. Share a drink outside by bridge that connects the Excaliber to the NYC Hotel, or watch the pirate show at the Treasure Island hotel for free.

5. Shopping Malls inside the casino and the Vegas Strip are awesome places to meet women too.

It’s like Day GSF, except you can pull them into the bedroom without leaving your hotel/casino (well, depending on where you are. I recommend Ceasars Palace. A lot of high class and beautiful girls there.)

6. Wednesday night (or was it Thursday?) at the Planet Hollywood Hotel/casino

Strippers on poles and half naked women everywhere. What’s not to enjoy?

7. Vegas has the best strip clubs in America

JUST DO IT

8. The Vegas Effect

Remember, no one REALLY lives in Vegas…and tourists are always more prone for one night stands as opposed to local natives. Why? Because it’s exciting, daring, and fun.

9. Don’t forget the 4 questions to SNL

This actually works a lot better there, I found.

10. Eat your vegetables…

Nothing is more sexy than a man who loves his vegetables.

AND HERE IS YOUR BONUS:

11. If you’re looking for drugs, late night, on the bridge the connects the NYC Hotel and the Excaliber. Dealers usually hang out there.

Overall, guys, have fun. If you’re looking for any other fun places to check out while you’re there, I visited about all the casino’s, so I know where to go.

-DSmoothMike, Assist. to Dating Coach
D as in “Damn” Smooth as in “Butter” Mike as in “The Filippino lover!”

Women fall for bastards

Posted by on September 26, 2011 647 comments

…because they don’t turn off the sexuality… [private]“nice” guys think women will be terrified of their
sexuality, so they turn it off and all they get is women responding to their androgyny.

The great part of this is, is that a guy does not have to be a bastard to keep this same attraction switch on. Keep sexual topics flowing freely from your mouth and she will see that sex is an acceptable topic to be discussing with you.

“I hear about all this equal rights talk going on. Did you know that women are capable of NINE different types of orgasms? Guys only get two types that we can have, this ‘nine’ business seems like you got a better end of that deal.”

Saying something like this opens the table for okay-ness to have sex on it and also shows a sexual intelligence that most guys do not have. If you know this much, she will go on to wonder if you know how to give her those nine types.

“Hey honey, don’t worry about it. I’m cocky for a big reason.:

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Remember there are 3.4 billion women on Earth.

Posted by on August 10, 2011 65 comments

There are plenty of women to talk to. This time around you are just practicing to [private]learn your skills and refine them. Each person you get in a conversation with is just a practice-person, or a practice conversation, so to speak.

This way, you have no reason to worry at all about any particular outcome and can let your personality come forth in full flourish. You can say things that might be lightly shocking. The worst that can possibly happen is you will learn from it. It is a step toward to eventual success and by maintaining this mindset you will find, that a few minutes into a conversation already rolling “Hey this chick is kinda cool and pretty cute, maybe I will like her more than this encounter.”

There are plenty of hott, fun-filled women so this time around you are just practicing, fine tuning your calibration. There are no worries to any specific outcome.

The only possible results are successfully hooking her or a successful lesson.

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To fill in pauses of conversations

Posted by on May 15, 2011 440 comments

…it is best to have your own canned material to fill in spaces in conversations, random tidbits and story lines can be used as practice & to see where the conversations go.

Along with the random trivia I sometimes sprinkle in conversations. Along with that, you could say a joking point like:

“Even snakes are afraid of snakes.” where the girl can take this anywhere.

Or: “Even snakes are afraid of snakes, are you tougher than snakes?.”

Maybe she will just laugh at the joke or maybe she is afraid of snakes as well and tell you why. Maybe she has an interesting story about snakes. Maybe after a bit, you think of an interesting story about snakes.

Simply because the statement is related to fears maybe she’ll tell you that she has a fear of bees or something.

It just is a very silly, unexpected statement to sprinkle somewhere in a conversation to see what happens from there. It shows a kid-like playfulness which is very attractive and this also lets her know that talking about silly stuff is welcome to your world.

Give her the space to come to you

Posted by on April 27, 2011 454 comments

Disconnection gives her a need to do 2 things

First, since you have previously made a good connection for you to disconnect from, this gives her the space, the need to pursue you. When you disconnect properly, [private]you become a commodity that she wants to have more of. When you are the one man who is not groveling for her attentions, you already are standing out from the rest.

This is not harshly pushing her away forever. You are just creating a distance between the 2 of you that looks to her as a distance she can bridge. This sort of distance causes you to become interesting to her.

If you give her a truth disconnect or even bust her on bad behavior she is likely to explain herself or even apologize. Stay observant to the truths around you and those truths about her. Doing this without much opinion added to it is something people realistically look at and adjust their behaviors for a more favorable truth to be revealed about themselves.

If you want to have chemistry with a woman, you both have room to move in; room to move towards each other. If you don’t give her room to move towards you, you won’t have chemistry and that will have you rarely getting success. If you go and fulfill all of a woman’s desires, she has nowhere to go but away.

I see many guys who aren’t giving the girl room to move towards them. If you are always moving towards her she has no room to move towards you. Disconnection gives her room, and a desire for you that is unfulfilled and draws her in your direction. These show difference between you and her and cause her to work for your approval.

Disconnection shows you are a strong, bold interesting man. Disconnection creates controversy which is interesting on every level. Controversy is inherently interesting.

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“Listen< i am for the thoery to ‘Make awkward sexual advances not war’ so if you play your cards right…” andd then I change the subject letting her curiosity grow.