Yes a part of it is having your eyes open to looking for those incoming flirts too. Don’t worry, like any other muscle, it grows with use.

It started when I noticed these & acted upon them in my own life, but yet again I see these things happen with guys I coach all the time and I see how they don’t notice them coming at them.

With my pointing them out and their remembering the move they saw, but not understanding the signal, they identify them more as time goes on.

The second half of all of that is the clear recognition and the action upon it. It doesn’t even have to be witty or clever or anything, just responded to.

It doesn’t matter if you joking is really silly or you stutter a reply or the content of what you say to her at all. It is just responding in any way, that is all.

Then she knows you detected her flirt, and she was successful in her small coy move to get your attention. This is a time to let her have her winning glory. To reward her small moves will encourage more of them and give her those good feelings you have for then coming at you.

chizel’d.Charmer: Okay Siege this is what I wrote in my notebook. I’m just gonna copy the same thing:

This New Year 2011 I will be even better! No, every single day of my life I will get better.

What Legend have been telling me is to be playful. I definitely need to work on active attraction, but I definitely need to have solid passive attraction. I need to ask my self all the time: am I conveying confidence in my self through body language, the way I talk, my manners and everything? So from what I understand to create attraction is teasing, push-pull, story telling, banter, negs, humor and many more. I want to work on those.

Legend have been telling me to practice push-pull. What I noticed is I actually haven’t been practicing these shit. Well I tried it after he talked to me in the field that night. And I insulted this particular girl when I commented on her clothes. I told her that she was wearing all black and told her that if she’s going to a funeral. I should’ve just made a quick comment on it like, “Okay you look nice, but you’re wearing all black, you going to a funeral? =)” with a big smile on my face. Oh yeah I remember what ticked her off, I said after that, “Who dressed you up? your mom?” Then she got pissed. I think I went too much push on that one.

What I found that went well with otherr sets is when I introduced myself as “Dangerous” as my name and started giving nicknames to everyone in the group. I told them that you’re name will be teddy bear, snoopy, big bird, ninja, etc. and I like it how they would just play along with it.

Funny cold reads of the group, “Oh… you seem like the bad one, and your the innocent one” I know I didn’t make that one up, but it works fine, but I wish I can just use totally my own shit. Actually I don’t know… because I feel like in life we all learn different things from different people and others freely use it. Like everybody’s influence every other people. So I guess I’ll say I wont worry about it.

The thing that I don’t like is that when I do a saty that is good, I forget what I said. Like the second set I did over at Vox, went well. Went well as in I got them hook for a while. But I forgot what I did. But I think I bored them out after, and I think one of the mistakes i did is I was leaning in. It was a 2 set. So I would purposely ignore the other when I was talking to one of them. What I noticed with this two-set is that I tried advancing my kino and didn’t work, as I notice subtle change in her body language. So that means that I need to work on my attraction.

What I learned is that when I do go leave a set and open aonther set. I found my self not doing the same thing. Like very set that I enter is different. I think the reason is because I am discouraged from the last set I have been. Subconsciously thinking “Oh they left me, so nothing works and it’s not worth it trying again.” But no that I think about it, if I just repeat the same thing what I did in the previous sets, I can pinpoint the mistakes I did. So that I can have a sample and be able to see a pattern in my sets. But at the same time I’m hesitant just try out the same thing over and over again, because I would like to developed good spontanuinity with real poeple. Idk… tell me your opinion.

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Fantastic. Like I told you, I see that you are learning more through just reflecting enough to write everything down you can remember.

You have quite a list of things you want to work on. I would recommend taking one factor, and practicing it for the day. This way you are not overloaded with trying to squeeze too much, trying to master every aspect at once will not happen.

Try out one new tool/technique per day. Then you can alter it slightly to each set and see different results. This way you will be etching it into your memory on its way to being habit and learning how to calibrate for each girl/ each situation you are in.

I see though your notes, I can come back to it and pull a piece to tell you what I think at a time. Keep writing your FR for yourself and anytime you share them with me, I will understand better where you are and what ways you can add or modify parts to speed up your progress.

Here, I’ll start with this:

[[Oh yeah I remember what ticked her off, I said after that, "Who dressed you up? your mom?" Then she got pissed. I think I went too much push on that one.]]

While yes the push should balance the pull and vice/versa but pissing off a girl is not always a bad thing. You have brought out emotion, powerful enough for you to see it. Strong emotion is an aphrodisiac in itself and it also shows you have the confidence  not to be afraid to stir her up a little.

Think about it. Is asking her if her mom dresses her a serious insult? No, it is a playful teasing. If she gets pissed, you need to show no reaction to a girl getting pissed over such a trivial thing. If she sees that, she will think you are not strong enough to even back up playful teasing and not take it too seriously yourself.

If I think of that case & what I would have done myself, if her pissed off was obvious i would have said something like: “Oh my god, you’re pissed!?! That is SO cute! (As I sideways hug her. Then as if I just had a realization:)..Waitaminnit…. Obviously I was only joking but if you ARE that sensitive about it maybe your mom really does dress you, I definitely can’t date you, I like independent women.”

More often than not, you would see a girl switching moods quickly to show she did get the joke, that her mom really doesn’t dress her, that she is independent, whatever.

You can see push/pull in that response. i first tell her she is cute for getting pissed then tell her we couldn’t date because I like independent women. Also by telling her she is cute for getting pissed, it shows you are not supplicating to any bitchiness, that you really don’t take it seriously and continue your playful mood which she would rather be playful anyways.

Often girls will show a bitchiness to a guy she just met to test his confidence in himself and strength.

When I see you in set, you may have somethings to work on to refine your confidence but I see a confident, playful, spur of the moment energy that is very contagious.

How did you react to her getting pissed at your ‘mom dresses you’ comment?

One of the first groups of girls I started talking to was engaged in the conversation real quickly.

Later that night a guy was asking me if it was just a warm-up set. Yes, you can look at it that way but it has more levels than that. The warm ups are very good, and a good way to look at them to remember that there is no pressure to do well. They can be a disposable learning conversation.

They can be a conversation for you to test out new things you thought of in conversations or they can be just a continuation of the momentum you want to be going. Once you do warm-ups enough, they become habit, enjoying new conversations where-ever you go.

You see, by walking into a venue and directly walking into a group of girls right away, helps the momentum continue for a few reasons. You see girls scan the room offhandedly all night. They are doing this to see who is around, what people are doing and if new guys came into the place since last time they checked.

When guys are walking around a venue, let’s say looking for a girl they consider cute enough to open, yet not too cute to be intimidating to them, it is a bit obvious what they are doing.

On the other hand, if a guy walks into a bar and talks to the first group he sees, it looks like he already knows them or has a great deal of confidence. As you know, both things are attractive to women. A guy with great confidence or a guy with a few girls waiting for him to get there.

To the first group that has been seen and instantly in a conversation with a new guy, they see great confidence and easygoing to this too. It didn’t look like he was hunting around and settled on them, it didn’t look like he was not confident enough to just start talking to them. The first moment they see this new guy there is a conversation rolling and they just participate since there is no time to think any wrong first assumptions.

It also doesn’t look like he is on the hunt to get laid that night, he is just having conversation. If a click or connection happens to happen, maybe he will decide that level later. At the starting line, he is just qualifying them to see if they are cool enough too be a friend for a few moments at the bar, or longer if they have more cool things about them.

In this case

One of the girls was kind of pretty and the other was lesser, no problem. They both had kids & if I was curious for more, I would have offhandedly looked at her left hand…but I wasn’t interested so I didn’t even check. I just enjoyed the conversation at hand

Just enjoying our conversation for as long as it was enjoyable. Like warm-ups, staying in active conversation keeps a social momentum within oneself to go on to the following sets. I was bouncing topics between the two girls. At an early point I took a seat at the bar next to them, one facing away from the bar. This was to indicate to them, I was enjoying our conversation so far. Something like this has been called ‘locking in’ in pua jargon.

Locking in is getting as comfortable as the girls you are talking to or more comfortable. Sometimes I like to do this right away, within my first words. This is very effective too, showing instant comfort right away. For me, it all depends on interesting the girls look and how I have gauged the venue. Girls also much rather be in that way. Having their attention focused in on a person they like rather than a guy hovering around them.

This also takes their attention off of the rest of the room, from things that may be distracting or the scanning that they do. It is much easier for them to be giving attention and less pressure on them as it is when they feel like they are getting the spotlight in that sort of case.

When talking to the new girls, it keeps the social momentum rolling, and is another opportunity to be testing out different comments and gauge reactions which is what speeds up calibration, or the ability to monitor a girl’s state and knowing the best words and actions to take next to escalate the interaction to where you want it next.

Now from these early conversations, other things may happen

Let’s say I may hear things in early conversation that I bring up later ones “Ice skating? I was just talking to Janice over here that was telling me of her 4 year old learning ice skating…” This is further indicating a women-friendly guy and who knows where the topic may lead.

Along with that, the other girls nearby have already seen you talking to those girls.

As you may have noticed or not, girls in any venue are frequently scanning the place that they are in. You can bet that when you roll out of one group of girls directly into another, the second one already saw you talking to the first group. On top of that, if you happen to be doing some off handed scanning of the room yourself while in conversation with the first group and see another girl(s) looking your way, it is great to pause the conversation you are in and walk on over to the second group.

It can be as easy as “Excuse me guys, I’ll be back in a few, I have to go say hi to my friends.”

This is not rude or impolite on any level. You just met the first group and were chatting a bit. You are leaving on a high note to easily roll back in at any time throughout the night and resume. And the second group may not be your friends yet, but you are going in with best intention..if they are cool enough, they will be new friends.

All this leaving you just looking like the sociable guy who has people to touch base with at any time throughout the night. When you are in conversations with one group, you can easily roll back in later. As the night goes on, rolling in and out of conversations with the same groups, it looks like you know a ton of people in the club and all those groups you have been talking to start to feel like longer time friends to both you & them

To the second group that you walk over to open, you are already pre-selected as a woman-friendly guy. They have seen you happily chatting with other girls, maybe the first set was laughing at times too. Underneath it all, the second group of girls will have felt like the stole you away from the first group in a subtle way. They don’t think this literally so much, but kind of feel that way. They are more eager to be opened and to be doing more to be holding your attention since they did see you have other people to be talking to and could leave a group of girls at any moment if they don’t play their cards right.

A good way to increase sexual tension in conversation is by using sexual topics. Don’t think that sex is a taboo subject when speaking to a girl, but it is another way of planting an idea in her mind. However, whatever you’re saying, do not bring up any sexual experiences with past partners or ex relationships. Girls hate those conversation topics. You can talk about the subject without mentioning other partners. Such as, my favorite, “I think it’s unfair that you girls have 9 different kinds of orgasms and men only have two. Unfortunately, I know 7 of the 9.” However, whatever you’re stating, they might call bullshit on you, so by all means, back it up! I used that line once and was called out on it. Luckily for me, I improvised my way into bringing up the different sounds of orgasms that women make, which made her laugh a lot. So after meeting her, I decided to research the different 9 that they can have. The following girl who I met that week, called me out on that line too and when I educated her on the fact, it really turned her on. In the woman’s mind, a man who is educated in sex is most likely great in bed.

Sexual metaphors are a good way to introduce sexual topics into a conversations. It’s also a good idea to use to create a stronger comfortability (as long as they have a great sense of humor). I use a lot of sexual metaphors when it comes “game” because I find the result to be quite fascinating. One thing that sexual metaphors can do is (like before) plant the sexual notion in their mind. Another thing is that it creates a bridge to teasing, or as others would say, “negs”.

Example:

Me: Oh my God, you are as cool as ice cream! I just want to spread you on a cone and lick you!

Girl: hahahaha, what?!

Me: What? You don’t like ice cream? How can you not like ice cream?

Sexual puns can also be used the same way. Sexual puns can sound corny, but it can really create the same results as sexual metaphors. Here is another example:

Me: You are just too cute! You remind me of a puppy! I just want to hold you, hug you, adopt you, and make you my bitch!

Girl: hahahahaha, what?!

Me: What? You don’t like puppies?

Then the teasing can go from there. Sexual puns and metaphors is a great way to increase sexual tension and comfortability. The reason why I say comfortability is because, depending on their sense of humor, laughter is a great way to create a higher comfortability. Also the ability to create these puns and metaphors can make you look smart and witty.

On Tuesday night, Dean, D-O-Double G, Seige and I went to Zuzu attempting to pick up some girls at a lesbian bar. I spy two girls sitting down on a stool. I walk up and said hello. I introduce Dean, since he was closest to me at the time. We all started talking. As we were talking, I made a quick joke and they began laughing. From there, I began to talk to the one closest to me. She was amazingly hot. I lean in towards her and said the cookie pun I made up. She laughed hysterically, and whispered it to her friend and the two began to laugh hysterically. Then I said, “Ok, maybe THAT came out the wrong way. Let me rephrase it” then I said the ice cream pun. They were laughing hysterically again, and Dean looked at me and said, “Mike, what are you telling these girls?” I told him I’ll tell him later. Then I leaned in again and said, “Your laughter is just so cute” and said the puppy metaphor. They laughed again and was like, “What?!” and I replied, “What? You don’t like puppies? Well, I don’t know if we can work out together, then.” Their laughter grew louder and from there they introduced Dean and I to their friends and just when we were getting close, they had to close. They told me to come visit them in Long Island sometime and to keep in touch. Then they gave me their number without me asking.

Basically, all I was doing was making one pun after another, one metaphor after another. I didn’t start out with it, but after building on the comfortability level, I easily got away with it. A few others that night, once I got them laughing and laughing, I toned it down, then raised it up again. Like a yo-yo. Unfortunately, those other girls wasn’t too fond of dick.

Use these metaphors and puns as a bridge to enhance the comfortability and stay strong about what you say to maintain the attraction. This can also be a bridge into sexual topics. These can also be a way to neg them because they are seeing it in a sexual light as opposed to it’s opposite meaning.

What are some sexual metaphors and puns that you people can come up with?

~DSM~

Congratulations! This is the package most closely designed to increase your progress & give you the most dramatic results to your permenant skill set.

We will be meeting in several sessions, each at 2,3 or 4 hours a piece. This way, we can spread out the meeting times to maximize on your learning, attention/comprehension span. We will use each session for discussion/instruction, then once we identify what you need to be working on next, we will practice those out in small roleplays to have the situations well practiced. Then we will go out in the field for you to get in real life interactions wiht me monitoring from nearby. As it may look like I am texting, I will be taking notes for our later conversations.

Betweeen sets I will give you small parts of feedback and quick tips to go into next set with. Then at the close of a session, we will re-cap what went on in the interactions with more in depth feedback and what to be practicing out in situations between then and next time we meet.

I will also be sending you emails between session for review 7 to keep working on the practice to develop the habits.

For these I will ask you for you upcoming regular schedule so we can work out times that fir best with what skill set you are working to imoprove and in a time that fits both of our schedules.

So as soon as you complete the paypal transaction, make sure you send me an email with your phone #, a summary of where you are & where you would like to progress to, and a sketch of your weekly schedule. I will get backk to to confirm & we will choose days that best for what you are working with.

Thank You
C.J. “The Siege” Clark

Grim (10) – “It’s okay! He’s a Rockstar!”

edge (26) – “Siege has lots of experience in the game and contributes a lot of value to the lair. Great guy.”

DSmoothMike (3) – “This guy really knows how to bring the best in everyone he coaches. Of all the people I know, he really seems to have perfected this.”

Big D-O-Double-G (3) – “He took me out on my first day GSF in a long time. Was very open with his knowledge both in-field and following the GSF. Definitely knows his stuff very well and most importantly can provide step-by-step instruction in-field. + Great flowing hair.”

“Awesome coach. Has tons of experience and loads of value to share.”

Apollo (9) – “Siege has been in the game for eons and is a master of seduction. He is the professor of pickup”

Legend (28) – “This guy has been in the game for a long time which is reflected by his great wisdom and skill”

Any resistance you do encounter, you can easily change her mood, not her mind. Stay non-reactive no matter if you are getting results that differ from what you wanted. Being non-reactive is very attractive. Make sure you are having fun.

Sure….Making offhanded comments while talking to girls of things that happen at rehearsal or while you are playing music will indicate that you play music (attractive to girls) without looking like you are trying to impress them (unattractive to girls)…we can play with conversational examples when we talk next if you remind me.
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getting her to be chasing you too is not to have every conclusion taken care of yourself.

Some of the most key conclusions will be found by her, her own imagination and deduction based on what you have said to her.

Let’s say I just met a girl, some click was happening and it crosses my mind that I want to talk to her again. I think we should trade numbers or something, but all I say is:

“You seem like an interesting energy. If nothing else, you seem like you make a good friend. It is a shame that this is the last we’ll talk, gone forever.”

This way, since we were having a good time in conversation, she can already imagine the loss that happens after. She will also see that I am not (maybe just not yet) quick to find a solution to the newfound problem. I just expressed the feelings of loss from my perspective which she can now think about for herself.

I probably will just pause a bit after I said this but then start talking again about one of the fun discussion topics we were sharing. Here is the contrast. We both felt a bit of loss expecting that this is the last we will talk unless something more can happen.

Then right back to the fun energy we were just sharing so we both can compare the difference for a moment in our own minds. We are having a great time talking, yet after this moment is over, it will be gone forever.

I never have an exact order or formula since each situation has different aspects that guide what the next step should be, but maybe I would tell her about my Uncle Al’s perspective he shared when he was in the hospital his last time:

“Ya, when I visited him, he would be discussion a lot of the reflection he was doing about his own life. He knew the end was approaching and would talk through different parts of his life.”

“Al was a very successful guy, on his own terms. People thought he was most successful when he owned a restaurant yet his biggest love was horses. One day, he sold his restaurant, bought a few horses and started living his real dream in a real way. He went on for the rest of his life owning and racing the horses that everyone bet on at Suffolk Downs. As much of a dream catcher as he was, I learned one main thing from him as he talked about all parts of his life.”

She would usually ask what that was.

“In life, there is nothing we have done that we can regret. Even bad experiences had lessons in them that help guide our future steps to brighter places than would have been taken if we never learned the lesson, never had the ‘mistake’. The only thing we can regret are the things we wanted to do but didn’t yet. That changes my perspective in a lot of ways. The only difference between any dream and reality is a plan. If any single human being has reached a goal, that means any other person can also reach that same goal, by modeling the footsteps. I will never be a guy regretting what I shoulda, coulda, or woulda have done. I want to chase and catch every whim that hots me. I heard that as far as life goes, nobody does get out of it alive. We only get one.”

(callback to begin of passage in edit. elaborate and bring back to start topic)

[[[ I also respond better to positives reinforcement ]]]  Yes, exactly! Every one does grow higher and faster and in a more enjoyable way wotking in the positives.  We also have the driving factors that motivate our behavior…i.e. Taking actions that avoid negatives versus taking actions that are pursuing positives.

While it is much more productive and leads to higher successes to be taking actions to be pursuing positives, these also don’t lose momentum the way the other side does. On the positive side, the pleasure of successes further motivates to continue while motivating one to continuously set higher goals.

The ‘avoiding negative’ structure has a person stop pushing one they feel the negative has been avoided.

Why it is more enjoyable is all the feelings that come from imagining the successes, each step further in the direction and the glory felt acieving every mini goal within a larger one.

The reason, I had to switch for a brief moment to the negative was for a quick contrast. Before that I given ou dozens of different positive reeniforcement, structures for positive self-reinforcements,  literally lay out of the ‘truth without observations’ to help extinguish any limiting beliefs that the mnd makes up without facts to back them up, tools to use right away that left no negative result to be expected, and much of these expalined in different ways to help make them more clearer in that present moment.

Between each of those I tried to push you into immediate action. The highest amount of learning happens when you are in the experience yourself, having real ‘speed-of-life’ results to be in that you can grow from each time. Each time I tried to push you, you would actively search for a way to avoid it. That is how a limiting habit starts to form. You make excuses. Then for your mind to avoid any cognitive dissonance (which is being debated subconsciously as well), your mind makes you take the actions to back up what you just said, leading to less action.

Your lack of action, in the moment led me to give you a new example, tool, re-enforcement to use as fuel to get up and take action. You would reply with a new excuse of why you were not taking the action. Then your mind would justify it by backing up what you just said by limiting you action to have it congruent with what you just told me (and heard yourself say out loud).

Out loud. You see that is part of the reason I have you state things out loud in their most beneficial way. There is not a person in the world that we believe more than ourselves. Once we are saying things, first in out head, then hearing ourselves say it out loud, we start to believe it more than anything else that comes our way.

So the pattern was happening like this. We would discuss some things to get you ready. What to say, why it is a ‘same or better’ only type of result to expect situation, positive reinforcement, structure for what to do for some self positive reinforcement I would direct you to get up and take steps. You would give me excuse why you would not. your mind would make you not take the actions to justify what  you said.

If you take the actions I direct you to, right away, all of the preceding things gets a reward from you taking the actions. You are then in a conversation that anything good can now happen. That is reward, reinforcing you taking the positive actions then getting a small reward for doing so.

But you were still not taking the actions I would direct you too, ((which is the first absolute necessity)) for you getting the dramatic improvement and results I know you will be getting.  I know this from years of doing this, with years of study related to social psychology, experimentations in millions of ways, studies throughout learning/memory branch of psychology and endless amount of hours observing real world actions/results.

After seeing the pattern starting to form that way I had to stop it in its tracks. I was giving you tools, quick state improving exercises and direction of what to do in that exact moment. You were making excuses, then taking action to back up your claim. By me giving you those positive reinforcements, and self positive reinforcements after the first run, you were getting a reward in a different way for not taking the action. The positive reenforcements generate good feelings within us. That is less rewarding than what is available thoughout a conversation with a new girl but it is a reward no less. If we continued to do this, it would be rewarding a pattern in you that does not get positive results.

At that point the pattern had to broken to get any actions from you. I had to disrupt the pattern and mix up a few things to start a new one before that one went on any longer. First I stand up to see if you model what I did (which you did at first) then directed you to take the steps again. Now that you are standing, you can just walk over.  …But you did not.

I first picked up the glass of water as I stood up. This was for me to take a sip if you just started taking the steps over to the girls but also to have it in my hand if you did not.

Since you did not start taking steps, you started making more excuses and re-justifying your lack of action I had to do something else to break the pattern. That is when I held it over your head, telling you I was about to pour. Logically, in a restaurant like that, I would not really pour water on your head but I had to have you actively imaging that happening for it to be breaking the previous thought/action patterns that were happening. You were imagining what would happen, how bad it would be for me to pour water on you in that situation and understanding the reasons why it would happen, your lack of action.

This was the introduction of contrast happening in the mind. Once you had that fully thought of, the other side of the equation, I could quickly switch back to examples of reward of taking action…or contrasting it again with actions on the positive side. To get the reward quickly seen coming from action within your  mind (without you hesitating again on the old pattern) I had to open that first set of girls and introduce you in. For it to work, you need to have the time sequence of action to reward come quickly, especially right at first to get the ball rolling….to generate the momentum in the right direction.

Now although I can do those things (thank my experiences with Anthony Robbins foundation when I lived in San Diego in 99 for structures of breaking negative thought patterns and installing positive/productive ones) the real magic in the attraction/seduction/pickup comes after this.

That being said, when I give you directions, you need to take them, You can trust that from the amount of experience, I have seen a million things done in all sorts of ways and will be directing you in the ways to get you your best results. When I tell you to open a set of girls and then roll right from that one to the next group nearby, you need to open the set of girls and then walk over to the second set to open them as well.

Since I explained to you exactly what to do more than once (since you were trying to over-intellectualize your way out of it), and had you repeat back to me what you would be doing to make sure you were clear. Repeating that back is great. From that point I need you to be taking the steps you just told me you would be taking, not back to me after you just open the first set. This was the previous (negative) pattern trying to get some of that feeling of reward on the tiny scale again without the actions being taken. It wanted more reinforcement without actions taken to earn it. That pattern wont happen again. When I give you instructions, I need you to take them for our time to be well spent.

You know my biggest love in all of this is to see the dramatic results in the guys I help. I know what steps need to be taken to get those results but I need a guy willing to take the steps. Don’t worry, along with what happened last night, there are many other ways to install productive habits and thought pattern over previously repeated negative ones. Approach anxiety will come up a bunch of different way, it still happens in many seasoned guys.

It can be extinguished and those feeling used for what they really are in their best ways. The fight/flight instinct can be used to fuel your best wit to come out, your sharpest calibration, your best game to flourish…you just have to seize  it as soon as it comes up to direct it to those places. By sitting there & avoiding action, it becomes the fright reflex in your body… If in the exact moment you feel it, that you start taking those steps it will be motivating those best qualities in you to be at their highest.

Which ever way you go with it at it’s first indication of being in you, that will grow. Similar to ‘Assume the best and you will get closest to, but assume the worst and you will get closest to that too’ as in what is going on within yourself and what responses you are getting from girls…but yes that is a whole other chapter so I will save it for when you are taking the steps regularly as directed.

((((Another reason I charge, even the minimal amounts as I do compared to what I put into it all… for putting in so much work into committed blocks of time is that once guys are ready to take all the steps I direct they hire me for a chunk. This not only shows me their commitment as high as mine for seeing that dramatic progress in their life, this reinforces the commitment within them. I see all the time the difference in taking the steps needed to make major things happen. Once a guy invests some money for my time, he does everything necessary to get the most of his money. Since I am already putting more time into them outside of the chunk and do put as much as possible into the time to maximize its effectiveness, I feel we are more on the same plane of amount of effort put in and desire to see the results possible. ))))

((((Even when it came to the guy we had spoke with. Although we first started back then, that was at first also just a trade of time for time like we do. I don’t know much about video editing, so he was helping me put together an audition video for a project I was asked to be a part of.  It wasn’t until a month or 2 ago he decided to sign on for a chunk of my focused time. That is when we could both put our all into everything we do together and he started getting the major results of girls asking for his number, asking him for dates, kissing him in clubs and phucking after a few hours.))))

..that has wifi, where I frequently work at when I have things to do near a mealtime. Confidently I walked up to the counter. On my walk I noticed the tattoos on the arm of the cashier.

As I walked up, I looked at him, smiled &  told him “Hi, Nice ink” and went on wiith my order without waiting for a ‘thanks’ to my observation that  might have sounded like a compliment.

He did squeeze in a thanks but listened to my order. As he was gathering part of it, we chatted about Christmas shopping.

I have a couple of friends who work at this place but do not know everyone who works there nor did I know the people there that night.

I noticed how the three clerks were making moves to look like they were helping but get involved in the conversation. The girl who moved close, flashing me looks and tiny smiles had a nametag that I read.

“Rosy, you’re a girl. You must have all of your c shopping done by now.”

She agreed “You know how we do it.” as I saw the other clerk moving in with a soda for me as he made a few comments.

Sure it is a friendly place but I could see my energy was drawing nearby people in.

I took my soda and table number as I went to sit down near the plug I always use for my laptop. As I turned the corner i saw an attractive woman sitting alone with her shopping bags in the other seat. I simplysaid hi to her as I passed and sat in the table behind where she was, where the outlet is.

Rosy came over with my order and a second soda as I explained I had one. “Ok take that one too.” as she pointed out what was on my tray and very sincerely asked me if I wanted anything else.

“Like what?” I asked.

then she suggested ketchup for my fries and I asked for hot sauce. When she brought the regular hot sauce she started telling me about their buffalo sauce and how good it was.

I just looked at her, enjoying her tlaking. She was a pretty girl, i was just soaking her in while she talked. Then she said “Hold on, let me get you some, it is reallly good. I just smiled.

when she came back with it, she was telling me how she plans on being a wedding planner. She talked about how that   was the first thing she ever remebers wanting to be as a kid and now is in school for that career.

“What does it mean when a person continues to pursue the path they wanted as a kid?” She asked me out of nowhere. I though in my head: ‘how would I know’ but I gave her my best guess.

“I would guess you are a comitted, devoted, passionate person. One who is determined to catch her dreams no matter what.”

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[[ I come & ask how they're doing & I get little interest. I can't start telling a story because they're barely listening. Downstairs, I approached three girls at the corner of the bar & had kind of the same thing. Absolutely no interest, In fact, two of the girls wouldn't even look at me, (& yes, I resorted to introducing myself) they continued their conversation as if I wasn't there.]]

By asking how they’re doing, you are asking for a return on your investment (of nothing yet) of saying hi.

Do not notice ore care if they are listening as you begin. The club has a lot of noise, a lot of action. You can come in and bee more interesting that all going on around them.

When you start, with something like “You won’t believe what happened!” In a loud, high energy way….don’t depend on them even asking ‘What?” to continue. Even if a girl isn’t looking at you, if you are loud enough she will hear every word and turn to you once you get rolling. Often girls will stay faced the opposite direction (if I start talking to them while they are faced the other way) for a few sentences.

They will see the confidence to continue a the story, and sometimes wont turn until the first part begins to sink in and the understand that you are talking to them and what the story is starting to be about.

This is another reason why having your own canned material, (or even another on well rehearsed) will give you a few minutes to keep talking while they are feeling out your vibe, and the topic, and understanding how to respond as they are getting engaged in listening.

At first, like the group I came in, those girls were already in conversations, in mindsets before someone comes in. That first few minutes gets their mind off the previous topic and learning what the new one is about.

I would have ( and will note this in future) to start with some story blasting right away. I figured after a few minutes you would have the tempo set somewhere and wanted to stay congruent to whatever you had set.

[[[ I come & ask how they're doing & I get little interest ]]]

You are not going to have any interest until you give them things to be interested in. Stories and conversations with you taking up 90% of the talking time. You start to back off the % amount as you see them contributing but they wont until they have something to contribute to that is more than just saying hi.

It is good to be at an energy level slightly higher than theirs as you go in. Coming in with a vibe that is looking a bit more fun than where they were before you stepped up will be attractive in itself. I would tap people then “HEY! What’s up!” with huge smiles and my arms in the air. “I can’t believe tonight is last night at VOX, we better party like rockstars tonight!!”

Most of them didn’t know that VOX was closing so I told them all I had heard. (New ownership, closed toll April, they were running out of liquor already, ect…)

Coming up with a high energy, ready with a story, regardless of the interest you see will cause them to come up to your energy, will be attractive since it is more fun than what they were doing before they got there and shows your confidence is not dependent on what you are getting back (also very attractive).

[[[they continued their conversation as if I wasn't there.]]]]

Yes. See they were already in a conversation. they will continue it until something more fun, more interesting catches their attention and then they will follow along. They are not going to hear your greeting and then stop what they were talking about to spin your direction and give you full attention to hear what you have to say.

I even popped in the twix bar story a few times that night…It is not asking anything about her, not asking for her response, I can just talk for a few minutes about a crazy thing I saw in Central square while she gets used to my vibe, sees me laughing about it, and agree with me that the guy must be crazy for stealing a whole box.

Even while I am telling the story i will fish for small participation.

“You’ll never guess what happened!” (small pause, she may ask ‘what?’ which is good, but if not I will continue) I was passing a 7-11 and this guy was leaving the store with a WHOLE BOX of twix bars. I know, not a single candybar but a whole box. This was down in Central Square.” (I see her nodding knowing Central square.)

“Did you know there is a 7-11 in Central square?” yes, I know this question is silly but she went with it. She play-mocked disbelief with a hand to her mouth and tells me sarcastically: “No sah, really?!?”

I work with her play-mock: “Seriously, I know it’s hard to believe but they actually have one of those rare finds right in Central Square…” and I play-mock her right back: “But you probably don’t keep up on these essential tidbits since I bet you are too busy, stuck at home, crocheting to make ends meet these days…” and she bounce right back with “Ya, crocheting and some needlepoint for the holiday season, the demand is the highest.”

[[[[ I guess I need some kind of canned material, tailored for my personality (at least for night game, daygame seems more natural). I am not going into these sets with confidence, & until I can run the first two minutes of a conversation I will not be able to move to the next step. That is my biggest problem right now. The first two minutes. ]]]

Yes, brainstorm and write out your stories, you should have those well rehearsed to keep talking for that first few minutes.

I will write again to give you some trivial stories and wacky trivia facts to sprinkle in, girls don’t care if the topic jumps around a bit then touches back on previous topics you discussed, it is like how old friends talk – without a linear time-line.

* “I was thinking of opening a personal ad. How does this sound for a headline “Hopeless romantic seeks filthy whore’..?”
* “Do you know how big the Statue of Liberty’s mouth is?” (she says no) “It is 3 feet across!…and I thought YOU had a big mouth, gabberjaw” (if she hasn’t said much after like 5 minutes but stayed engaged in the conversation.)

* “You know a leopard can carry 2 times it’s body weight into a tree. That really has nothing to do with anything but if nothing else, later you can be like; ‘I learned something. That guy is like a damn Snapple’. You may like the flavor, but once you pop the top you are like: ‘Damn, the sun is hot. FORTY FIVE million degrees Fahrenheit, IT FEELS warmer, Tahoe is west of LA?!? Bullshit Snapple. The I saw the globe and I’m like: ‘I’m sorry Snapple. You are ALWAYS RIGHT!” to which many girl will point out that Snapple facts are not always right. Now there is playful controversy to play with and I will ask them a Snapple fact they heard that is not true…with credible references to prove their erroneous claims.

(Also if you did not like VOX, tell me what clubs you do like and what you like about them.)

[[[Being as tall as I am some people may see me as a threat,]]]

That’s your own mind adding things that other people do not. As soon as conversation is rolling, they get a feel of your personality which is attractive and non-threatening. Girls LOVE tall guys.Short guys have more to get past since girls always want a guy taller than them.

This is a seemingly simple, yet very effective way to building rapport on a fast pace. When I hear a girl tell me points about herself. I repeat them once over in my head just after she says them. I am nodding and actively listening when she is talking to me to keep her engaged in her dialog, yet every time I hear a specific point she tells me about herself, I make a note of it in my head.  

Once a conversation is happening, the person you are speaking with has turned their attention to be on you completely. A few moments later when topics have changed a couple of times, when you refer to something she said earlier, she will feel truly listened to.

If she told you of a crazy cocktail she had last year on vacation, later when you are at the bar together you can ask the bartender if he knows how to make that specific drink.

[private]The body is made up of 90% water and I’m thirsty.

Now fuck me if I’m wrong, but is your name chuck?

Gee they are really nice pants you have on but they would look better on my bedroom floor

You: Are you an astronaut?
Her: No…Why?
You: Cuz your butt is out of this world!
Her: *rolls eyes*

You: Did it hurt?
Her: What?
You: When you fell from Heaven!

Apart from being sexy, what do you do for a living?

Your eyes remind me of the scottish countryside after a soft rain…

Nice shoes, wanna screw?

You know, if I were you, I would have sex with me.

I wish you were a door so I could slam you all day long.

You’re ugly… But you intrigue me…

you’ll do…

i have only three months to live…….

beeeeeeeeewwwww! beeuuuuuwp! That’s the sound of an ambulance, coming to take me away, ’cause the sight of you stopped my heart.

is thats a mirror in your pocket, cos i can see myself in your pants.

*while your playing with the tag on her dress* “Just as I thought… Made in Heaven”

Baby, Im not Fred Flinstone but baby i can make YOUR bed rock!

If i could re arrange the Alphabet i would put U and I together

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Stay mindful of your environment. Stay very conscious of every present moment that comes through your life. Stay consciously aware at all times and consciously aware of what you are thinking, feeling and believing. Stay ever aware of your [/private]‘Here & Now’ and stay mindful of the people in your life for whatever duration they are in it. Stay focused and alive in this present moment and every one that passes through. Staying focused in the present at all times allows you to most effectively work with what you have around you.

Staying aware of the words you say to yourself give you a more accurate reading on what you believe with an opportunity to modify these things to suit what you want them to be.

Staying fully alive and present in all times keeps you fully awake and alert to the opportunities that you are in, within each moment. With you staying interested and aware of everything that is going on increases your calibration to the present moment in very beneficial ways.

Even think of what it means to be keenly aware of every sight, sound and scent around you. These sort of things help to ground you in the present moment.

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The more you are standing there telling me why you cannot open, the more YOU are believing it. (There is not a person in the world we believe more than ourselves. every word that comes out of our mouth we feel a need to live by, as not have any cognitive dissonance).

I can’t monitor you in the groups you are in to see what you can improve unless I can see what you are doing and how they are reacting. If I pick a random close-by girl or set of girls for you to open a conversation with, take the steps and say hello.

When you pass a dozen sets, walk around the venue and then finally open a girl at the other end of the place, I can see a thing to give you the tips to help you upgrade your progress.

Things can only get better or they stay the same when you open a new girl. They cannot get worse. Before you say ‘Hi’ to a new girl, she was nothing to your life and you were nothing to hers. The worst thing she can possibly think of to say to you has to bearing on who you are, she doesn’t even know you yet. She cannot make any judgment to take seriously, she doesn’t have any information to have a credible opinion of any kind.

You know how cool you are, she hasn’t earned the privilege of knowing that about you yet. You are nothing to her life either. Girls are social creatures, they grow up thinking they have to be polite no matter what and only slip out of that with a new person, once in a while (unless she is a total bitch, then why would you want to know her anyways? She just save you the time and trouble. Next contestant to talk to!).

She has no idea if you could be the Tom Hanks to her Meg Ryan movie. You guys just happen to be in the same place coincidentally, maybe this is fate talking to her.

“It doesn’t have to make sense. It is just something that happens…and for a few seconds there is a kind of recognition like you both know something [you are both on the same plane about something] and the next moment it is gone. but it is too late to do anything about it and you always remember it. Because it was there and you let it go. And you think to yourself: ‘What if I stopped? What if I said something. What if? What if. It only happens a few times in your life.”

And the girl thinks: ‘Or it only happens once.’

You guys were not any factor in each other’s life before you said ‘Hi’. You may connect and become friends or BF/GF or phuckbuddy or dance class partner…or if you don’t connect, you both can continue your lives the way it was, without each other. It CANNOT GET WORSE.

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Think of the field as a common ground for research. You, as the scientist, should go out and try new and innovative things. Try out different styles of clothes and see the reactions of other people. Try out various methods of opening and find out which style suits you. Go extreme with your actions; because if you don’t go to the extreme, you will never know where the limits begins and ends.

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“You are so cute”
And
“You are adorable” works on 6, 7, 8s sure.

I find myself getting first impression tempo better set for girls of thst caliber.

But the ones that really are adorable, I stick to more vauge indications…or none at all, at first about their looks…the rest of the world can do that for her.

You want remarks that are really heard & felt?

Think about this before you try to compliment:

“Compliment the beautiful on their intelligence and the intelligent on their beauty”

(I just got this reading a field report of a well known guru. He didn’t understand why his direct opener didn’t work for a really hott girl and hottest of the group she was in. He thought his inner sate must be off but I see other possible factors)

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

with what comes into their box?

Start with this:

Subject: RE: Drinks & an appetizer sound good[private]
From: ****
Sent: 6:55:19 AM

Original Message YOU sent on 7/7/2011 11:45:07 PM
Have you ever eaten ethiopian food?

lol!!! yes drinks and appetizers sound good. I saw I had a message and I thought oh no, what Weirdo is sending me a message now… it was you instead..[/private]

and you are talking about what they are drinking, what you are drinking.

The tossing in this offhandedly: “I said that if Im having shots with them they gotta drink MY SPECIAL, and you just push it down your throat and swallow it.”

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[private]One of the first sets I opened, I hooked real quickly. Later that night a guy was asking me if it was just a warm-up set. Ok, you can look at it that way but it has more levels than that. Once you do warm-up enough, they become habit, enjoying new conversations where-ever you go.

One of the girls was kind of pretty and the other was lesser, no problem. They both had kids & if I was curious for more, I would have offhandedly looked at her left hand…but I wasn’t interested so I didn’t even check. I just enjoyed the conversation at hand

I just enjoyed our conversation. Like warm-ups, staying in active conversation keeps a social momentum within oneself to go on to the following sets.

Also I may hear things in early conversation that I bring up later ones “Ice skating? I was just talking to Janice over here that was telling me of her 4 year old learning ice skating…” (further indicating a women-friendly guy) and the conversation has many places to go from there.

As you may have noticed or not, girls in any venue are frequently scanning the place that they are in. You can bet that when you roll out of one group of girls directly into another, the second one already saw you talking to the first group. On top of that, if you happen to be doing some off handed scanning of the room yourself while in conversation with the first group and see another girl(s) looking your way, it is great to pause the conversation you are in and walk on over to the second group.

It can be as easy as “Excuse me guys, I’ll be back in a few, I have to go say hi to my friends.”

This is not rude or impolite on any level. You just met the first group and were chatting a bit. You are leaving on a high note to easily roll back in at any time throughout the night and resume. And the second group may not be your friends yet, but you are going in with best intention..if they are cool enough, they will be new friends.

All this leaving you just looking like the sociable guy who has people to touch base with.

To the second group that you walk over to open, you are already pre-selected as a woman-friendly guy. They have seen you happily chatting with other girls, maybe the first set was laughing at times too. Underneath it all, the second group of girls will have felt like the stole you away from the first group in a subtle way. They don’t think this literally so much, but kind of feel that way. They are more eager to be opened and to be doing more to be holding your attention since they did see you have other people to be talking to and could leave a group of girls at any moment if they don’t play their cards right.

Started with talking to the married chicks because they are closest to where the venue was entered from, starts the momentum that leads to better things in the way that my night progresses from there.[/private]

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[private]Friday, August 5, 2011, 5:00 PM

Lollapalooza/Coaching wknd

"Basic Party Package" $497.00 "Self-Improvement Package" $1,197.00 "VIP Get Results Package" $2,297.00

Secret Chicago location disclosed by email to RSVP’ed Yes attendees only days before event start.
Email siege@adventuresofattraction.com
Luke Krogh, recent Dating Skills Convention speaker, AFC Adam & Amanda Lyons roommate of years, personally trained protege, their Head Instructor who would run bootcamps in their absence and named #7 in the world, is having an unusual Wingman party weekend / Coaching program in Chicago. He is originally from Chicago, but it’s unusual because he doesn’t do programs in Chicago and won’t again for years.

This program is covertly taking place at the famous, 285,000 person-strong music festival Lollapalooza that you saw on MTV last year and because the festival runs all day from Friday through Sunday, it will include more field-trip time than any program I’ve ever seen… and I’ve seen almost all. And field-trip time is the most expensive part of training, so this is an even greater value.

Lollapalooza is a crazy fun music festival covered by MTV every year with famous acts this year, such as:

Eminem,

Cold Play,

Foo Fighters,

Kid Cudi,

Afrojack,

Skrillex,

Deadmaus,

Cee Lo,

The Cars,

Deftones,

Flogging Molly,

etc.

where almost all concert-goers get drunk and/or roll on Ecstasy. However, as a word of caution, we do not encourage having crazy group sex with super hot horny girls on ecstasy. Lol.

Luke will be assisted by other recent Dating Skills Convention speakers, including myself and others. The coaches will remain completely sober. I will personally police that.

This festival spans 115 acres, shuts down entire Avenues and has 8 stages. It has music of all types: Rap, Emo Rock, Classic Rock, Electronic and more, and each stage area/musical genre appeals to different ages and types of women. Personally, I’m not a music aficionado. That’s not why I’m going there. You don’t need to be either.

Traveling and going to well-known events like these are great things to mention when talking with women. They demonstrate attractive qualities and involve topics women enjoy. They are music, travel, presence and willingness of resources to enjoy life, you have friends and they’re cool people that enjoy these things, so even if she’s not sure about you — by association you must be cool too.

This is not a short 3 hour or even half-day program with coaches nobody’s ever heard of. This is a seriously fun long-form program. It will be long exhausting days over an entire weekend watching your social interactions live, giving feedback, correcting your mistakes on the spot and if so desired by you repeatedly doing it all over again. This program will be as chill and laid back low-pressure as you want it to be or push you far beyond your comfort zone. At the start let Luke know which you are interested in and it will be custom-tailored to your desires.

The hours of this coaching program on Friday will be Friday 5pm-10pm seminar-only. But on Saturday 12pm(noon)-10pm and Sunday 12pm(noon)-7pm almost completely field-trip coaching at the concert both days. You’ll see a lot of demonstrations and have fun winging with the coaches. The Lollopalooza concert ticket, which is what you need to additionally buy yourself to fully participate in this program, is not included in this price. At the time of writing this, 2 separate single day tickets for Saturday and Sunday (the only days we’ll be at the concert) are $90/day, but will be sold out very soon. For single day tickets go to: http://www.lollapalooza.com

When that’s sold out, google it, go to www.stubhub.com or www.ticketsnow.com

Below is what has been written about the same day lay guru, Luke Alishus. Personal field-trip coaching with Luke Alishus costs $3,000.00/day, so this is an opportunity to work with him if you’re on a budget, without having to spend $6,000,00 for 3 days. Get serious about improving this area of your life. Like all things, the price of this Wingman party weekend program will also continue to climb to $2,000 at the door.

Packages:

1) “Basic Party Package” -Is a no pressure fun wingman party comradery special event. Friday 5-10pm, Saturday 12pm-10pm & Sunday 12pm-7pm. RSVP Yes here.

2) “Self-Improvement Package” -Includes everything in Basic Party Package above + Friday & Saturday night afterparties with personal coaching 10pm-2am. Paypal $1,197 total to siege@adventuresofattraction.com with “Self-Improvement Package” written in notes section.

3) “VIP Get Results Package” -Includes everything in both above packages + 1 night (4 hours) of 1-on-1 coaching with Luke himself. Repetition is the only way you will get good, so this program is only for people who are very serious about getting results, so please don’t inquire if you’re not. It can be the Thursday night before, the last day of the program (Sunday) or the next day (Monday). Because he’ll already be in town on this program, you get it significantly reduced to $2,297 Total by Paypal: siege@adventuresofattraction.com with “VIP Get Results package” and specific night you’re reserving written in notes section.

Only a small number of the upgraded packages are available, because it’s personal coaching and there are a limited number of coaches. Reserve your spot for the package you want before someone else takes it. All these prices will steadily increase until they almost double by the day of.

A ticket to the July 22-24 NYC Dating Skills Convention will be included with the purchase of any of these programs. If you already purchased your ticket you can upgrade to any of these programs by simply paying the difference between what you already paid and the program you want by Paypal to siege@adventuresofattraction.com

Lollapalooza/Coaching wknd

"Basic Party Package" $497.00 "Self-Improvement Package" $1,197.00 "VIP Get Results Package" $2,297.00

If you attend the entire program you paid for (including being on time) and for any reason don’t feel you received value greater than what you paid, let Luke know before the end of the program and he’ll refund your money. Thank you.
Yours In Brotherhood,

C.J. “The Siege”
siege@adventuresofattraction.com
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” Luke Krogh has appeared on NBC, CBS, Fox News, and in the pages of Cosmopolitan and other various publications. He has taught over 5,000 men around the world the power of charm, seduction, and lifestyle design. These men now have the ability to lead the lives they want and only see others getting. Once an overweight, dorky, computer programmer with crippling social anxiety Luke transformed himself into the man he had always wanted to be. Now he is continually ranked as a top dating coach and seducer. For a year and a half he traveled the country teaching attraction and seduction workshops every weekend with guaranteed results. The good news is if you’re not succeeding with women it’s not your fault – it’s the environment you are in and the way you react to that environment. Luke Krogh shows you how to make small changes in your behavior and environment to create the lifestyle you see others having and know you deserve. ”

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[private]and know what lollapalooza is?
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how I am. He writes me some things he was inspired about in conversations.

Fate vs Coincidence

“What do you think is the difference between fate and coincidence?”

The girl will start to compare the two, she might strictly believe in “fate”, or she might just believe in “coincidence”. You can even ask them after that question, “What do YOU believe in more?” Then there are a few answers you can retaliate from:

If she believes in FATE

You can say something on the bounds of, “So, what you’re trying to say is…since you were born, throughout your childhood and young adult life…You’re trying to say that it lead you to meeting me? What do you think that says about us?”

Or

“So you think that you and I meeting is fate? We should take a chance and see where this can lead us.”

Then you can improvise from there.

If she believes in COINCIDENCE

You can say something like, “Coincidence? But what if it wasn’t coincidence? What if we deny what was fate, we would not know what kind of positive outcome we can make.”

Or to add a little spice to it

Remember that story about the couple who was too shy to exchange numbers and denied “fate” and when they ended up in the same retirement home, the sparks were reunited? You can tell that story as well. That can add more deepness into the conversation.

I usually talk about this when I am in the comfort stages. It works pretty well for me.

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[private]When it comes to approach anxiety, their are a few tools that can help you to overcome that & make it fade away. To begin with, I’ll give you this: each time you see a girl you want to talk to, ask yourself: “What does she have to do with your life before you say hi? What do you have to with your life before you say hi?” The answer is to both questions is “Nothing” so if you do say hi and you guys click then it gets better. If you say hi and you guys don’t click, then it stays the same. The two of you go your separate ways, same as before.

So a good place to start is that every time you have an opportunity to say hi, things can get better or they just stay the same. It does not get worse, but if you don’t say hi then you miss the opportunity for it to actually get better. You guys may have clicked and she may be an awesome girl for you.

This is just the beginning of starting to get habits that work in you favor. By consciously remembering these things every time you see a girl you want to talk to it starts to change the feelings of approach anxiety to a feeling that you are letting an opportunity slip through your fingers if you DON’T say hi…so after some time that urge helps to push you into starting new conversations.
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stories tonight. Get you FR (of all sorts) written as soon as possible & sent here so we can figure how to launch you to your next plateau.

Sucesses:
Opens
keeping conversation rolling
Inserting sexual subtexts through joking & teasing
Planting seed to begin her momentum chasing you
Having the girl ask for number
Having the girls ask for dates
*Having girls going for makeouts, & grabbing you intimate places
Generating same-team mentality with a girl
Building sexual tension with Eye Contact and affection
moving her around – compliance indicators

Things to develop:
Follow up
Building tension more in her without release yet but at your schedule
Mini-insta-dates (you are off to great start with that)
Once her chasing momentum has started, ways to keep the momentum going and growing

(This was just a quick ist based on our discussion tonight & a few things I remeber from your FR (get those FRs to me!). I am sure points on both sides will have more to add from each of us, more time me seeing you in field, in sets gathers much of this information for me as it always does. Each part, even in successes list, you should be continuously experimenting to push each one as far as it can go (even a little too far) to more exactly identify where the limits are. Sometimes these limits vary with each girl, with each situation but the more you try to push it, the more accuracy you learn in detecting the exact line….this leads to perfect calibration that knows best choices in each situation at hand.

[private]1.) Just tell us we are really pretty.
No, not ‘sexy’, ‘hot’ or that you want to get in our pants. Of course these are all nice things to hear but it makes us feel like a piece of ass. When you first meet us, a simple “I think you are stunning” is much more meaningful and sincere.

3.) Speaking of the first few dates, girls like guys who take initiative. To us, it’s hot when a guy knows what he wants and has good ideas about what to do. Phrases like “I don’t care—I’ll do whatever”, or “your choice” are so not hot! Take charge—you are a GUY!!

4.) Do not initiate trying to sleep with us until we do. Trust me, we will let you know. And if you try too much too soon we will just think you are a male slut and just want to get in our pants.

5.) Self confidence is the hottest thing in the world. Putting yourself down or ‘fishing for compliments’ makes us think you need constant reassurance. Always avoid the phrase, “you are so much hotter than me”, because then we will just think you are some lonely, self-hating, self-conscious puppy. A guy can be not so cute but if he has self confidence that makes him instantly 10,000 times sexier.

6.) Just be real. I’m all about a little game playing here and there—it’s what keeps you guessing and makes things interesting. Mystery= sexy. But if you don’t like the girl—peace out! Don’t leave her hanging, man up and say buh-bye!

7.) Have fun of course. & Don’t settle for anything less. So cliché but so true. If you don’t feel it—don’t force it. On to the next!![/private]

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This was a reply to a studeent the day after we were working in field. he was showing me examples of how he balances eye contact for those within a group of girls. He would be telling a story and evenly balancing between the girl he was interested and the friends of her in a group. I showed him some examples of how to sprinkle back and forth & when to have more focused on one girl over another, but the next day I broke it down in our email thread.

Those things I was telling you about eye contact during conversation, not evenly balanced.

At first, you want to keep most attention [private] on the least hott girls of the group, directing more of your attention there since the hott one usually gets most of the attention. Keeping most of attention on the friends (ok to be even if there is two friends) while sprinkling in spots of eye contact/attention on the hott one.

Most of this time the hott friend will be soaking in your vibe, seeing that you get along with her friends and may fit into her world because of this but she still will be wanting more of the attention from you.

Then she will see you are only befriending the friend(s) Usually while befriending her friends the hott one will make moves to get more of your attention. Then you can reward her moves by giving her more attention and switching the ration to most on her and touching back with the friends if they are not either occupied by each other or in a group of two girls, occupied by a wing.

That’s when noticing these things is helpful. If the girl you like, her two friends are occupying each other, they have basically given their unspoken approval and are making it easy to have one-on-one convo with your favorite girl.

As with the group last night. I was basically staying chill observing. When I saw the two friend weren’t really occupying each otherr yet. I would talk to them in little bits a piece and letting one explain things for the other. Or asking one, making points to one about what the other weas talking about. This was trying to get them conversing together which they did.

Once you notice this, the friends occupying each other. Then your one-one-one-convo with the hott girl can be including teasing (some like you know & also things you saw her doing)

By just befriending the friend and saving your teasing for the girl indicates to her subtextually, that you consider her in a different way than the others [/private] and will raise attraction from the challenges.

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Remember what it is that made her laugh and bring it up later. Call back the joke somewhat as a private joke between the two of you.

Bring it up again when [private]there’s situations with tension.

Sometimes I see a guy in a conversational thread. She starts laughing and mor than once have I seen a guy interject to continue his thread. Instead, pause for a moment, let her laugh. Laugh with her, share some laughter. If you look at the structure of stand up comedy, you don’t start the next joke until the laughter has started to die down. Don’t be the cause of the laughter to die down. Let it flow freely.

Another thing you can notice from stand up comedy is how comics will end their set on a joke that brought really hearty laughter.

In conversations, you can use this as a high point to roll out from, leaving you more than warm to roll back in a little later.

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So it all started at Allston bar/grill. I was there a little early to be meeting some friends there for dinner. The waitress gave me a table beeper and I sat at the bar to wait for my friends. I was sitting on the corner of the bar and on the adjacent side of the bar were 4 girls in a row. I eye contacted with a smile the two that were closest to me.

As soon as the girl closest to me got her drink, we talked about her beer a bit. We mad some jokes about beers. To explain her reasons to be out on a weeknight, she says that she and her friends ran the marathon that day, so even though I only partially believe her (based on her delivery) I play along with her joke.

I scan across the row of girls and notice the one farthest from me, the youngest and the cutest of the bunch is doing some eye contact flirting heavily but is much more reserved than the other 3 girls.

The first girl then points out each girl in the row and tells me of something that was significant about them in the marathon simultaneously doing a mini-intro without names. She tells me one girl had a knee go out in the last 2 miles, that she personally had stomach ache during part of the race and small factors about each one during the race. It seems as if she is making the whole thing up, but I play along for playful sake.

At one point she is playing with her phone and I see an engagement/wedding band on the indicator finger. She was wicked fun to talk & joke with, so I just noted it in my head & went on with the convo. My first buddy shows up. After a few minutes of catch up talk, I quickly introduce him in to the girls. I use the same intro the first girl did with me when she introduced me to the group.

I started announcing the group to my buddy as an introduction. “Ya, and these girls ran the marathon today. This girl had a stomach-ache, This girl a knee problem…” I began with…. and the first girl finished my introduction to my buddy with the specifics she told me previously. She finished up the introductions.

Conversation went on with me, my buddy & mostly the girl closest to us and a little less with next girl over and even less with the 3rd girl in the group.( Nothing but gazes from the last girl in the row.) At one point the second girl in the row mentioned her husband offhandedly in a comment so I made my second note in my head. The girls were fun to chat with, so it kept going on for a few minutes until their appetizers came.

As the first 3 girls were eating their appetizers, I saw the last girl in the row, the one making heavy eye contact flirts had no appetizer and was just sitting with her drink. She was blond, very cute & definitely caught my attention. She had a rocker chick vibe which has caught & held my attention more than once. I excused myself from my buddy, walked down the bar to where this last girl was sitting and started talking. I first was talking about the marathon again and this girl mentioned that she didn’t even go, she told me the other things she did that day.

The conversation jumps from that to places she’s worked in the past, her love for snowboarding, her origin of a different state. She tells me of her parents, her studies in school. She also tells me what she loves about her studies although her line of work was nothing even closely related. She is getting really excitedly passionate explaining these things, which I find very attractive. I still wasn’t thinking of her as much more than a cool chick to be talking to at the time. As far kino was concerned, the only touching I do is basic offhanded touches that goes easily in any conversation.

We get pretty involved in conversation as I see her getting more interested. She is turning her chair more away from the bar and more towards me and getting excited about the topics she mentioned that I asked her more about as she was elaborating. She was getting excited in her topics and was fun listening to her telling her stories this way. Seeing her interest and energy raising, I point out my friend who diagonally across the bar to point him out to her. I tell her that I think she is wicked cool but I have to get back to my friend (another way to roll out on a high point), we are waiting for another friend before getting a table.

“Oh we should totally trade contact so we can pick this up another time.” I tell her. She agrees and takes out her phone as I was taking out mine. I tell her my information and tell her to call her number through so I have it for later. Then I select her call, select ‘Add to contacts” and hand her my phone telling her to type in the information so I have it saved. She does this and while I am saving it we get into other conversations.

We then talk more about where she was from, what she studied in college and her love for snowboarding and her 3 month trip in the past winter. The conversation was still rolling along nicely so I stayed in it for a few minutes before getting back to my friend. As I start to walk away from her, I turn back and tell her that my friend and I are waiting for another chick friend and then we are getting a table. I tell her as soon as our other friend arrives that she should join us at the table too. She says it sounds good so I tell her I will let her know when I get buzzed for the table.

I go back to my buddy, our other chick friend arrived and I get buzzed for the table. Before sitting down, I go back to HBsnowboard and tell her I just got buzzed for the table. She tells me she is going to the bathroom and will be over after.

So my two friends and I go sit at our new table. We sit and are chatting and laughing along. This new table was on a totally opposite side of the restaurant but a few minutes later I see HBsnowboard coming in the dining room and making her way over. My buddy and chick friend were on the other side of the table so the available seat was on the bench seating next to me where she sat down.

We all ordered and talk and laugh for the next 2 hours or so. We really were just a table of pals chatting it up over dinner, with a new pal involved. Turns out, this girl was not with the other 3 at the bar, she just met them and were insta-friended by them. All sorts of things come up in conversation. When I bring up off handed topics of sex, we talk of wacky places to have sex. Then she tells me that she lost her virginity twice. First was with two other girls, then a different time with a guy. We talk of the way Joey Lauren Adams character in ‘Chasing Amy’ explained concepts related.

This new girl fit right in with our conversations and everything went along great. I excused myself at one point after dinner to have a smoke and new girl said she was coming with me to smoke as well. While we were outside, I asked her about the hookah bars nearby. Once I learned she liked them, I told her of my hookah at my house.

She told me of her day & of her two roommates. One was a guy and the other was girl who didn’t really like each other. She told me she was a mediator between the two at times. While we were chatting outside, I asked her what she was doing the next day and she told me nothing. I mentioned going back to my place after dinner to smoke hookah and told her she was welcome to come along. She then remembered she was supposed to meet her guy roommate at a nearby bar for a few but said she would skip that since she was having fun with me and could catch up to him later.

We went back inside, had a few more drinks. My buddy had to leave early since he had an NY trip in the following morning so HBsnowboard, my chick friend and myself stayed for another round chatting and laughing. We all paid the bill, I hugged my chick friend goodbye and HBsnowboard and her exchanged “nice meeting you”s with each other.

I first was ready to shoot back to my place with HBsnowboard to smoke some hookah when she tells me that she now has to go to the nearby bar to check on her guy roommate and touch base with him…this was the same one she decided to skip meeting with earlier when it came up. She then tells me I can come too if I want.

“Alright, why not. That’s a fun bar, I’ll hang for a little bit.”
Sure I could have let her go or said bye or even tried to give her address or directions to my house but I know from prior experience what happens. Her attraction drops, the rapport is temporarily forgotten and a girl will get wrapped up in a new activity. She will be wrapped in the moments and not make it to after plans. I was having fun & came along to the nearby bar she was meeting her roommate at.

HBsnowboard and I go inside. I go up to the bar ahead of her and order a diet coke. She comes up behind me and orders her drink. We chat some more for a while till she sees her guy roommate across the bar and waves to him. A minute or two later, she tells me she is going over to say hi to him. On her second step away, she tells me I should come too. I tell her ok and let her walk over there by herself. I finish my coke and watch TV for a few minutes where I was.

I do that for her to have the first few minutes with her roommate to catch up with whatever without me there yet. After a few minutes, I wander over to them, sit in the stool on the other side of her and then get introduced. I had some small talk with roommate and let them chat about whatever they were chatting about. When it died down a bit, I pick up conversation with HBsnowboard from topics we talked about earlier in the night. Once she was done with her drink, she indicated she wanted to leave the bar so we said bye to her roommate and went to the bustop to go to my place.

Once we got there, I showed her different things around my place. We talked of where some of the decorating ideas came from and talked about different framed pieces on the walls. At one point while talking about a wall of framed photos, she points to a single one with a sexual theme and says to me: “I like that one”

Hearing her say this, I am watching her face as she does. When she finishes speaking I pull her close and start kissing her. We made out for a few minutes in this hallway. I stopped this after a few and kept talking about the art on the walls and directed her to come with me to see another piece. This piece was in my bedroom. We talked about it for a minute then I pulled her to me again and started kissing her.

With two steps away, I moved us over and fell with her on my bed to keep making out. This went on for about 10 minutes. I was rubbing her body and rubbing the skin of her back and stomach under her shirt. Once I reached around to unhook her bra, she stopped me, sat up and told me that we just met.

I playfully pushed her back and said “I know it, cut it out.” in a playful smirk. I then stood up, took her hand and said “Come with me.” As I took her back in the living room, I put some music on. I asked if she wanted a glass of water and got her and myself one. We talked for a while and listened to music. She edged her seat on the couch to be tiny bit closer to me so I put my arm around her and started making out again. We made out for a while, and I stopped it to change the radio. I just went easily back into a completely unrelated topic every so often. Then I would bring it back to escalating again.

At one point she half jokingly told me she thought I was a gentleman, that she didn’t expect all this. I told her I never claimed to be gentle with a smirk on my face. I then told her I was attracted to her and asked her: “What’s wrong with that?” She shyly told me nothing. I told her that I didn’t think so either.

A little later I told her I wanted to give each other backrubs. I unfolded the futon and told her I wanted the backrub first. She told me she didn’t think she could do it well and I told her I was open to see what she could do.

I took off my shirt, lied down and she straddled me sitting on my ass. After a few minutes, I told her she wasn’t that good (jokingly but not joking at the same time). I then told her to get off of me so she could lie down and I show her how a backrub is supposed to feel.

She does that, and I start to rub the back of her shirt. After a minute, I tell her to take off the shirt and she does that. As soon as the shirt is off I unhook her bra. Then I rub her back for a while before moving to her sides and teasing the sides of her boobs. I also lean in really close to her, pausing rubbing her back to breath in around her neck and smell her hair so she can feel the air rushing as I can inhale her scents.

She is wearing nylons under her skirt. I go to pull her skirt down and she asks me “What are you doing?”

Rather than explain the obvious, I just tell her. “Take this off” as I press the waist of her skirt to show her what I mean. She does that. Previously doing things like that, I thought I had to continue the thread of giving a harmless backrub. Now understanding how girls think in a moment-to-moment basis, I know once she has gon along with having the skirt off, she is in a new moment with a new objective. Once she has it off, I turn her over to her back and we continue making out of a while. I am in no rush. I enjoy making out with her and I have learned that sometimes the longer amount of time between steps faces less resistance… while sometimes trying to get too many steps in succession increases the likelihood of resistance. This lets me get her really hot with lots of slow sensual touches…I enjoy this. A few more minutes go by & I then feel her hands fiddling with my belt buckle. I show her how it works and then take it off myself.

After 10 minutes or more, I go to pull her nylons down. As I just start to put my fingers under the waist band. She feels this and takes the nylons and her panties off herself…
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“No requests” get “no denials”. And even if they do it is easy to correct the standpoint for you both.  I just stepped up to a girl the other night. I first just stopped in  front of her looking her in the eyes and smirking., after a moment or two went by I told her: “I noticed you standing here.” And I put my hand up to her. “I want to dance with you.”

To this she did bashfully say: “No thanks”

See, she took it as an offer. I then says “That’s fine. The offer still stands.” And I stood therer a moment longer looking into her eyes before I walked away.

A few minutes later on the dance floor, I felt a light bumping from behind me. I turn around and who did I see? It was that girl I told that I wanted to dance with her. How easy it is to smile brightly and offer my hand again for her to take it. She was a bit surprised at the first statement I made. Most guys do not say things like that. She still needed a little time for it to soak in before she knew how she wanted to respond.  Once the idea had a chance to soak into her thoughts and she weighed things out, she then put herself within my distance to tell her once again and for her to capture the offer available to her.[/private]

[private]I love to take my woman sexually, to ravish her with so much love she is vanished, we both are vanished in the fullness of loving itself.

*Stop hoping for a completion of anything in life.

Such as “I’m only doing this now so I can do what I really want in life.”

The creative challenge is to tussle, play, and make love with the present moment while giving your unique gift.

Spend a minimum of one hour per day whatever you are waiting to do until your finances are more secure.

Do what you love to do, what you are waiting to do, what you’ve been born to do now.

Spend an hour a day giving your fullest gift so when yóu go to sleep you know that you couldn’t live the day with more courage, creativity, and giving.

Are you willing to change everything in your life?

Your deepest purpose in life will begin to make itself known, once you release yourself, allow yourself to be living at your edge. Experiencing layer after layer of purposes with each one bringing a person  closer to the deepest purpose. If outer purposes are those which we have inherited or learned from our parents, then each one gone leaves a person closer than before.

Early in life. One needs to burn off the karma, or fulfill the need of the present purpose by which they are distracted and fascinated.

It is easy to be disappointed in life when successes are not as fulfilling as one thinks they are going to be. Each purpose is to be lived to the point where it becomes empty, boring, useless. Then is the time for it to be discarded. While it is a sign of growth, many people find that to be failure.

Some people bail out of a project sooner than it fruits. Some have a fear of failure which is more obvious to them than the other side of that coin that also happens. The fear success.  Close friends may be able to accurately guage what is going on from an outside perspective into the picture. It may be from losing steam, not having the motivational rewards one did when started and earlier in the process. Some people are afraid to bring a project to its goal point and friends can often see this based on adding up behaviors that aren’t seen in an equation form the person within a project.

If , on the other hand, the karma of the area has been filled, then it may have just been a layer to be peeled. It may have been a step on the way to a greater goal, achieving the deeper purpose.

Indicators of this may be a sudden loss to a motivation that was once high for the same project. There are no regrets felt for starting the project to begin with or to be finishing it at the time chosen. Even without a clear direction of the following steps to be taken, there still is a clarity, and unburdened focus of thought about the whole thing. There are feelings of increased energy in the prospect of ending the project. The project seems silly and trivial. It may be easily done at this point but no reason is found to want to continue.

Don’t get lost in tasks and duties.

People often use these to distract themselves from more important matters in their thoughts. It is best to consistently refresh one’s self and perspective through meditation and retreat. A man should never get lost in the petty details of life. It is crucially empowering to keep one’s focus on what is the deepest truth in any present moment at hand.

Guys get hyperfocused or completely immersed in a particular ‘task-at-hand’ . This can be both a strength and a weakness, depending on the moment. This ability allows a man to keep working away through obstacles and challenges until the job is done. Good focus maintains a discipline to stay on purpose. The problem comes when  guy stays purposed focused or task focused on the small detail tasks that avoid the larger picture.

A question is asked: “If you were to die right now, what would be the feeling of the texture of the last moment?”

It is best to be present in the moments that pass. To feel the infinite mystery of existence, so the last moment is again one of awe and gratitude. If a heart is wide open in those last moments, conscious would dissolve in perfect love…but then again, if a guy ios busy-busy in atask at hand, he would hardly notice the death come upon him.

To be completely full in every moment and filled with every moment is a comfort of knowing that you have done everything possible to have given your fullest gift and have known your complete truth of being. What it is that clouds last moments with feeling of regret are the unexpressed feelings that stayed in ones heart. There is a relaxation to be found in the acceptance of the awe that comes from the mystery of life’s next moment. The is a miracle of life,  a miracle of existence with each moment emerging from and the dissolving back into something that lacks definition from a person’s perspective.

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you can friend-zone them.

After some sexual [private]intent has been expressed, or creative misinterpretation, then “you have a really cool energy, if nothing else,you might make a cool friend.”

When messages are sent, there is the spoken words, then the tonality and everything that can be read underneath.

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[private]..In vague but not vague text messages to my phone today:

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… but take your time and enjoy the wave. Although you may be thinking the main event is the prize to chase, you can have incredibly long lasting [private]waves of pleasure throughout the process. This ensures that both you and she is mentally, emotionally, and physically ready for some good lovemaking all on the same page of a moment. Don’t make sexy-time an ‘all-of-a-sudden’ event. Start with sexy offhanded comments and affection, then bring it up tiny notches as time goes by. Be easy to stop at various times too, you can always bring it back to level later, this will build the tease which she will love. Good foreplay starts hours or even days in early advance sexual tension is so high, it makes bringing her to an orgasm so much easier.

Once a much closer intimacy has been reached, oral sex is a great way to bring a girl to her orgasm. In fact, many women claim that this is the only way they can reach an orgasm. When you go down on her, don’t be in a rush. Kiss your way down her belly, as you get closer slow it down a bit. Enjoy her inner theighs and the low area on her belly. Kiss and lick the outer edges of her lower lips. Inhale her scent, it can be like a drug to you and she will feel the air rushing by her hott places. Enjoy the journey as much as the destination. As such, go slow at first. Lick gently and tenderly for a while, you will notice her arousal increasing. She will be getting much wetter and you will see the petals of her vagina start to unfold. He will come out to you, all filled with blood and very red. Just when you see and know she is really turned on and aching for you to go further, then move in to her sweet spot. Start by drawing small circles around it. Then try some figure 8 patterns with your tongue. Then take some advice from a past comic and use the tip of your tongue to trace the pattern of every letter in the alphabet. Even between letters it is good to give her sweet spot a break and kiss her innner theighs again. This time lets the sensations you have just brought her to soak in and for your teasing away to have her want you there more.

In addition to your fancy tongue and lip action, start using your fingers. , you can use your fingers to give her some feelings of entry. You can enter with your fingers in a ‘come here’ curve to make circles around her G-spot. This is located on the vaginal wall on the forward side, towards her belly. Now you can alternate between kissing and teasing with your tongue and using your fingers so that with resting, this can go on longer. Hear her groans during different types of touches you are doing to her. Her verbal expressions of pleasure will be telling you which ways feel best to her. While you are kissing and teasing with your kisses, you can also use your other hand to spread her lips apart so that your have full access to her sweet spot. Don’t forget to stay attuned to her moans and groans and continue the actions that brought those. Also remember the action in your mind so you may be able to stop and tease her more as she escalates in arousal, then come right back to it. This will lead to a much larger orgasm for her. [/private]

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[private]
Ya a few days ago I woke up with an unusually stiff back. I tried acupuncture, signed up for a chiropractor and then signed up for a session of deep tissue massage.

I went in for the massage tonight. I was lying face down so after the introductions I didn’t see the masseuse during our conversation. I only had her dialog and touch to work from. In the conversation I was having great fun.

When I was talking about a sixth grade teacher who took a moment to teach me & a chick friend of mine the difference between the word ‘fuckin’ and ‘fucking’ (he was a cool teacher. Me and the girl had a debate about it so we went up and asked him privately).

My massage therapist girl went into a long tangent of what she feel the differences are between the adjective modifier and the verb. Kinda sexy to hear her talking elaborately about this.

Then she went onto ask me about my tattoos & we traded stories about dreams we caught. When she asked me what I do full time, I told her I scrape the gum off of movie seats for a living (Inside I laugh wholeheartedly when I hear a chick taking me seriously on this one).

Automatically, based on the level of conversations we were having, I planted a few seeds indicating hanging out again in a different context. She talked of the venues in my neighborhood and the times she goes there. She went on to tell me of venues in her area. With some common ground established, we talked of hanging out together. Because of the range of topics we spoke of, I joking promoted her as my coffee-buddy.

Our conversations ranged from trading trivia, to playfully joking about the world to sexual facts and perspectives and then back through the list.

Hell, when I finally sat up and saw her again, I realized I wasn’t that physically attracted to her, but I did enjoy our conversations very much though.

When I told her of the other girls in my life who offered massages when they heard about how I woke up that day, she called it their pickup line they were using that tried to go ‘under the radar’. She told me of how the friskiest girls may take that a step further. [/private]

[private][private][[ By the way, this is one of the biggest suggestions I could make to an aspiring PUA. Start yourself a journal, word file or personal log and write down every interaction you possibly can. Have your accounts saturated with details. Every cause and effect should be noted. Write out the different things you say, the different things you do and how she responds. Write out her mood you see, how it changes throughout the interaction & what effect the things you say and do seem to have on this mood, her receptivity to you, what pissed her off, what made her laugh. I couldn’t think of anything that has helped more to calibrate me to where I am today.]]

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Starts with a text:

First text [private] – Fwd: N.I.Double-K. Wanna go to northstar bar tonight. 1 night only bar rollerskating:p… = poss. interesting

Her text to me – Fwd: What a great idea, booze + skates, hah. Well that sounds great, I am going to the Florence and the machine concert tonight.

- Fwd: Ahh… booo. Well have fun and give me a counter offer for another date

Just got this… – Fwd: I know it sounds it would be a blast, sad I can’t go. Well I have a friend in town, so I’m not free til Sunday night, but wanna do something then?

FWD: ‘sunday works. Have fun with your friend!’

~D-O Double-G
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Yeah D-O,
Good job hitting the ball ino her court to see what she hits back. Girls will actively participate in this whole process but you stil have to lead and give them something to work with.

At the end, I would have a ‘something to do’ that you know for sunday…it doesn’t have to be that when the day comes but gives her mind something to picuture…seems to reduce flaking…and it doesn’t even have to stay that thing if something better comes to your mind before then.

You see, having something fun in her mind will have her to save the day and remember to save the day more than an unknown plan with a new guy.

I usually pick something fun and talk about how fun it is. Then to further reduce flaking I may make comments or share new learned information about the event between now and when we meet up. This keeps it fresh in her mind so that when her other friends suggest things to do that day, she is more likely (not guaranteed) to be saving that day for the fun she is anticpating.
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D-O Double-G:
Good idea. Yea I was thinkin of hittin her up sat during the day and being like ‘lets hittup pool at johnny ds’ since I bought a groupon for that spot anyway

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Siege: That is good. I’d put something fun (but a little bit mysterious) on the table for her to keep in mind. Keep her anticipation up with something of both. Give her enticing hints about the spot to indiacte the fun but keeping a little surprise for her to anticpate until then. [/private]

[private]I once had a woman tell me, “I’d rather sit down with a man who can
talk to me for five minutes about something he’s truly passionate
about and I know nothing of, then to spend even a second with a
hot, rich, dull guy with no imagination.”[/private]

[private]Hey Siege,
 
Just wanted to update you on some real progress I’ve had recently.  I’ve been really focused on improving my number closing, so in the last three days I have tried to number close all the sets I opened.  I’ve managed to get 6 numbers.
 
And this has worked out for me really well!  I have a date with a cute girl tomorrow, and planning another one early next week.
 
I think that this was a huge deficiency in my skill set before, and it feels really really good to work on it and see some immediate improvement.[/private]

[private]Many guys going through growth that stop at a level where they saw their fathers was at. This limiting belief is that that is the acceptable top level for how a guy is supposed to be. This comes from a semi-subconscious standard of what a man should be.

While we are growing up, what we see in our parents in the our earliest years is what is creating the definitions of what qualities an ideal example for each gender. In the beginning, every time we saw a man it was our father and vice versa.
Sure we’d see a few others in their visits but the most repetitive example of what each gender was our parents. This frequency is what was etched and re-etched into out mind as the standard.

That is why a guy will self limit his growth near a level. He partially feels like he has achieved the goal level and part of them feels like they should out- do their fathers[/private]

I found that by getting a woman attracted to me [private]before I indicate to her that I like her, or show her any significant interest. When I see the attraction happening and I am also attracted to her, I feel there is some click going on. Part of the reason I like a girl is who & how she is, but a second part is how she responds to my energy, how we click.

Once I see that she is attracted to me, I can start to look for commonalities or topics of deep conversation. The attraction is the high; the rapport can call it back to the surface later. If she is working to win your interest, then she values it much more.

Once she feels connected to me on these points, I then know it is time to start progressing sexually.[/private]

[private]For a time after that I went on to look for clues to see if people were lying or telling truth.

It was fun for a while, to see the accuracy of these things, but then I came to a conclusion in my own head.

I really don’t care if people lie or not to me. They have whatever reasons they have to make up what they do.

How does that really effect me?

It rarely has any effect, or necessity for me to know so I just turned off the looking for it.

Now it is at the point I don’t see a thing (by choice) unless the signals are wicked strong or the lie is wicked incongruent with its surrounding truths.

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

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[private]Me & Russian girl had spoke previously about her stopping over later to quickly pick something up at my house. Unsure where I would be at what time, I told her to let mw know when she had in mind to stop by. Then I hear from her.

Her: Hey i just finished concert,will be @ home in 30 min.

Me: Cool, come over then

Her: Ok,i am coming

Me: I love to hear you say that.

Her: U like to hear,i’d like to make it!:)

[Related or not, I previously told he I liked movie Borat. She frequently says things like: "Let's make sex."]

Me: keep up the good work. The possibilities are endless.

Her: Ha-ha,what do u mean about possibilities are endless?:)

Me: Возможности Бесконечный if I translated correctly.

Her: Thanks..so now get the meaning..i’d like to make it with u-such a sexy men!:)

Me: Sexy? I’m just plain & simple C.J….

Her: What do u mean?

[I am always helping her with her English.]

Me: Every time you say that, I think of more cool ideas about sexy-time

Me: I may have ideas of 10 men, but I am only one mAn. (English=’men’ is plural noun while ‘man’ is singular noun)

Her:Ha ha…funny:) So now u r a mAn:)I got it-thanks!*

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

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[private] then do TAKEAWAY.

I wouldn’t ask her any personal information in the first 15 minutes of talking to her, I mean approximate. It is best to keep a very playful vibe, not taking anything too seriously.

Being non-reactive is very attractive to girls. Always stay non-reactive to things that are not the results you were looking for. Just enjoy yourself, not seeking any specific responses from her. You get your validation from the inside. Enjoying yourself doesn’t require any specific responses from anyone else. Have fun. If your not having fun, she’s not gonna have any fun. She is watching ou to set the tempo of the interaction & the time you guys are having.

When it comes to kissing. I hear a bunch of different comment guys will give to feel her out. Girls like the mystery and surprise (to a point) and the effects and feelings of chemistry. Usually I will set it up so me & the girl are talking, close even, face to face. If it is a loud venue, I do not talk in her ear (she’ll be seeing something over my shoulder that might catch her attention) I talk close to her face so she can hear me, but still face to face. You can see the tension, sexual tension by talking this close. At those points you can aslo detect her receptivity to something like your closseness & even a kiss. Maybe you see she licks her lips to be ready. Good sign. Maybe you see her look from one of your eyes to the other, then to your lips. Good sign. To inspire some of this in her, that is a great announcement that your going to kiss her with body language alone. Look from one of her eyes to the other, then look to her lips and lick yours. Then keep talking, while watching her. You can gage her receptivity and still hold off for a momnet building her sexual tension, anticipation. This is a teasing sweet spot. Once you can see she isn’t turning away to spite the tension you’ve created, this is the unspoken invite to kiss her. Sometimes I like to take it a step further. I get my lips close to hers, very close, but I still don’t kiss her yet. I just inhale though my mouth so the closeness causes air to rush over her face. Maybe I just take the tip of my tongue and trace her bottom lip so lightly as if it was the tip of a feather. Her desire will increase tremendously. She so wants the kiss at this point so when I do kiss her, I kiss her good. She’s been built up with the tease so I give her a passion filled, deep sorta kiss, still breaking it off a little early to keep her wanting more.
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[private]“Ok so I called a girl on valentines day  we talked for a solid hour and a half I told her at the end of the conversation (call me if your ever free to hang out) she does have allot on her plate right now she’s not making up excuses not to see me I’m pretty sure because talks about the problems she has in length and she texted me later and said she appeciated the call I told her I kinda liked talking to her and might do it again. We had been seeing each other for about two months then split I haven’t heard from her in almost a month I told you about this the night we met. I have been texting with her all week here and there she sends tons of smiley faces in the texts . Now I like this girl allot and I think fate brought me to her ( I can tell you the story again) I’m rediculously attracted to her. How do I play this right? And how do I avoid the dreaded friend zone?

~J”

My reply:

”
You’re a busy guy. In future conversations, rather than telling her to
call if she’s free, mention a fun thing coming up soon that you
already plan on doing. Talking about how fun it is going to be will
peak her interest. Once she shows that interest, you can be like
“Totally, you should come along.” just responding to her interest.

This way you are not making a special day to hang out with her, you
are just inviting her to something you are doing. This keeps it easy
going, low pressure, just hanging out.

Friend-zone? Girls want least what they easily have, the want more
what they cant have but what they want most is what they can almost
have.

Girls often slot guys into the friend-zone when they feel they are a
sure thing for them to easily have. They can chase they guys they have
to work at getting, knowing they have a back-up plan for a guy to hang
out with.

You can flip this coin, so she doesn’t want to get slotted in to your
friend zone and will be doing things to be escalating her way out.
Chasing you, so to speak.

~C.J.”

He continues:
“Ok something I’m bad at also is playing hard to get but I would like to be better at it. As you know I’m a very straight forward guy. The thing is I have this habit of thinking I will loose the girl if I don’t constantly show interest (Give me a mantra for this if you have one). So here’s my game plan no texts or calls for the next week Call her next Thursday and talk about going to trivia on Tuesdays and Wednesdays and how much fun it is maybe even bring another female along as a wing. What do you think?

~J”

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

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[private]Although we touched upon a few branches of the idea, just keep your focus about keeping hand out of pockets when in convos, everything else related will follow. Just keep that single idea in mind to do until it becomes natural habit. ]]

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

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When you get that phone number, it is time for you to [private] make specific plans that is fun and interesting.

For example:
“That is so awesome we both like Latin food, we’ll have to check out that new place in Harvard Square to split an appetizer and see what they are like….”

That is SO cool we both like rock-climbing, I just found and indoor rock climbing place on the other side of town, we will have such a blast…”

Or whatever but now she has a definite defined reason to make sure she speaks with you, to set up and finalize the plans. Girls are more likely to want to have some phone convo for this type of reason than just so the two of you can get to know each other better. You can learn about each other much better by doing fun things together anyways.

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[private]…and I just got off the phone with him.

He is going to take her to fondu and then bowling or pool after.

It is always good to be going to multiple locations on early dates. Then you guys start moving from location to location as a couple…it starts to feel like you have been on more dates together…like you guys have known each other longer, to you both.

He called me earlier to ask about my ideas for a second date. The first one they went on was to the Museum Fine Arts.

He wonered about a movie and I told him to stay away from movies until they have been dating for a while…there is no conversation, no opportunities for playful touches in flirting. I told hims a few ideas.

Try something totally unique that will stand out in her mind more…something other guys haven’t thought of. I have taken girls to the paint your own pottery studio. This way we can get a little messy making some silly art projects together and she also has a new souvenir to remember the whole date.

In addition to that I suggested going to an activity to be doing together, not just watching something.

Building stuff, bowling, pool tables…something the two of yóu can enjoy doing as a team. There are more opportunities in this to be playfull touching, teasing, flirting, etc.

He then tells me he’s nervous. I know he’s not nervous, he is just happy & excited to see her, to be hanging out with her tonight. Those two feelings may feel similar but before we understand the proper label, we can get confused.

He told me of his ultimate cool on dates he went on when he wasn’t that into the girl. He talked about how cool and ultra-smooth he was. I told him to keep thinking of those times. Think about how he felt about the girl and hope smooth he was. He can model tonight after that.

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

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[private][private]“You glide. It’s a very attractive quality. Most girls, they merely plod along. You, on the other hand, you seem to glide.”.

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I’ll begin to talk to her like [private] there is no one else in the world and that she’s the only one that matters at that moment in time. The minute she acts up, I take that away and make her work for it again. I let my attention be caught by something else in the room.

This is where the “bubble” forms that you both can share and she can’t even hear what’s going on around her.[/private]

When you first approach a woman to open her and say hello or something, I usually start off with my body positioned in a very non-threatening way. There is a technique explaining when women were walking, to walk a bit ahead of them and turn back to start the conversation.

Instead of this, when I see a girl at the same [private] bus stop I am at or in the train station, everybody is facing the same way. She may have caught my eye, but I haven’t revealed this to her yet. Maybe I just casually, nonchalantly walk near where she is, positioning herself just a few feet in front of her.

Then is is very inconsequential to gaze around the area. When my eyes land on her, in that moment I begin the conversation. Once she is participation I will slowly turn my body more towards her. This subtly indicates the reward she gets form active participation, my turning around to give her more complete attention.

I have found it very funny to see, that when I delay turning around towards her, girls have make a few extra steps to then be standing in front of me which is nice to see.

In most other types of venues, I will position my body to be next to hers, but pointed a little away from her direction. I can easily turn my head towards her to start talking. As the conversation ensues, I only have to turn my body slightly and it still stays very non-pressure, easy going. If you notice, guys usually sit across the table from people they are close too, while girls like to sit next to people they are close to.

Being next to someone you are speaking with is very easy to turn more to them, tough them at random places through the conversation, and still has an underlying theme of teamwork since you both are viewing the world in front of you from the same perspective.[/private]

[private]“Hey Siege,

Man this has been a crazy couple first weeks of school! I’ve been really busy settling in and getting into the groove of things, but don’t think for a second I’ve been letting up on my training . I’ve been having a LOT of success recently and am seeing noticeable improvement already. I am so excited to keep learning and getting even better!

~P”[/private]

[private]“Priming” ideas with ‘Word-Starter seeds’
Ideas that are recently encountered or frequently activated are more likely to
come to mind and used in interpreting social events
List of C.j. Priming word to memorize
fun
independent
persistent
adventurous
passionate
wel-come
deeply
life inside
sensual
silky
hard
protected
satisfied
satiable
chasm of
fervent
mustful
feeling good
Breathtaking
electrifying
exhilarating
enchanting
provocative
absorbing
touching
inspiring
stimulating
thrills
intriguing
provocative
fascinating
spellbinding[/private]

[private]Since you asked, I have been gathering, writing and refining ideas for our work with your progress with the new outcome you asked about.

Some guys work in the frame of getting as much as they can while giving as little as necessary/possible back. From what I have learned about you & our becoming good friends, I see this is not the case with you.

In many ways, you do work the way I do. I see you are apt to give people more than they expected.

That is how I try and maintain my M.O.: “under promise and overdeliver.”

That seems to make everybody involved happier in the longest run.

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

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[private]“Meanwhile Siege who is the master of the art of having the girl chase you (check out his posts for more) is swaying on the dance floor (No, not in a drunk way, he was stone-cold sober). I say swaying since he wasn’t full out dancing but was definitely using open body language and moving to the music to let the ladies know his majesty was in the building. And it did indeed pay off insofar as I witnessed a girl notice Siege making his moves and break away from her group of girls to lock arms with him. The two of them danced, he gave her a few twirls and I could definitely see the power of using open body language in a club to get the girl to open you, rather than the other way around” ~D-O-Double G

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

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[private]In those moments we are together, she does feel like the only girl in the world…she does not feel a need to hold me to being faithful when she is not around and I believe this is a big part of the reason.

If I can fufill her need for this (it is actually fun) then she doesn’t seem to need to hold me accountable.

I have heard other guys who have open relationships that want to be able to speak of the other girls in their life.

I looked at this by putting myself in the shoes of the receiver of these type of messages.

When I am in an open relationship, I have no need or want to hear about her flings (if she has them. Girls often do not, allowing the guy do that but staying with one guy, regardless of the aggreed boundries) when we are together, in time together, I want to be the star of the show.

What value does bringing that information to our table serve in any way?

That is how I first started thinking of this.

Then switching places back to as just me, I asked myself: If I was to bring this type of information to the table, what value is it bringing to our table? How/what would improve from me talking about this.

I couldn’t find any but I could see how that would work in a negative way. It might make her defensive and insecure.

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

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[private]Conversation Article 3: Conversational Elements

There are many elements to create a great conversation. You can have her qualifying for you, such as questions that make her qualify for you. Usually most suitors would want to try to qualify for the women they like, but to switch it around is something most suitors won’t do. Which leads me to “false disqualifiers”. False disqualifiers are conversation pieces that suitors would not normally say. Such as, “Just because we are clicking, doesn’t mean that we’re going to have sex later”. Using these qualifiers can really make the conversations more interesting. Having her qualify for you, makes the seduction much easier on yourself. False disqualification tells her that she is very close to being in your friend zone and not the other way around. When women realize this, they will start to try more to get away from your friend zone. Don’t let women make you feel like you’re near the friend zone, make it the other way around.

Active listening is really important. This is probably the most important piece of conversation needed. Active listening is in four parts:

1)    Focus

2)    Listening

3)    Understand

4)    Paraphrase

FOCUS

Focus shows the talker that the attention is strictly on them. When you focus, your eye contact should not part with her eyes. Eye contact shows dominance. It shows strength. When you look in her eyes, don’t look away until she does. You can also tell if a person is lying or not by the direction the eyes are pointing as well. We’ll get to that article later.

LISTENING

Listening is basically just hearing what the speaker is talking about.

UNDERSTAND

Comprehension of what the speaker is stating is valuable in prolonging the conversation. Based on what they are saying, you can either chunk up, down, or lateral. You can also perform warm reads with a little understanding on their topic at hand.

PARAPHRASE

Repeat what you have heard to your understanding and then move onto other subjects. This shows that you were listening and that you understand where she was coming from. Women love this because it really shows that you do care about her opinion.

I got a cousin who is great with women. All he would do is just sit, listen to them speak, paraphrase what they were saying and then end up in bed with them later on, all because he would listen.

Another element in conversational speaking is asking questions that follow what she is saying. This shows that you have been listening and eager to know more about her or whatever she is saying. This also goes with open-ended questions. Try to stay away from questions that can end with a “yes” or “no” answer. Questions such as “Hi, how are you?” can end up with a “Good.” Then where does this conversation go from there? Asking open-ended questions such as, “Why do you women always spend so much money on your nails and hair?” These types of questions can start conversation flowing.

To feed off of that element, making your questions into statements is another way of creating conversations. Besides saying, “Hello, how are you today?” You can say something like, “You are looking like you can take on the world!” This usually sparks curiosity and they will usually ask what made you say that.

When conversing, there is a term called, “vacuuming”. When you are talking, pause a little and have them finish your thought. Ex: “There was this awesome movie I saw the other night, it was about a king with a stutter, and it was called…” then wait for her to finish that thought. Gesture to her with eye contact. This works well because this is what couples usually do together, and this thought will grow in her mind as well.

When you can relate to something that she has said, you can reward her with a simple touch, a smile, or even a toast of your glass. Kino is usually a good way of rewarding her. Because once you take it away, they will start to miss that touch and attempt to qualify in order to try to gain it back. But with kino, you have to be the one to control how long you’re going to touch her. It’s the same as leading.

Humor is good when building the attraction, but don’t over do it. Give the girl an emotional roller coaster to be in. Be serious, be funny, be serious, and then be funny again. This is a wide range of emotion for a girl to be in. When you overdo humor, you can get stuck in attraction. So, take the time to be genuine and be real.

Don’t use self-defecating humor when conversing. It shows weak mindedness and it tells the woman that you are not mentally fit for a relationship with them. This is not a good way to qualify you to her, and she won’t qualify herself to you if you’re in this mind set. This can be funny when used as a comedian, but when it comes to pick up, not quite so much.

Be able to laugh at yourself and have her laugh with you. This does not mean for you to use self-defecating humor, but laugh at your own flaws. Laugh at the lessons you learned in life and how you got around to learning them. It shows that you are mentally fit. When you do this, it shows her that you have learned your lesson, and then you were able to move on.

There is a thing called, “Chunking”. Chunking is building on topics that is already said. There are three kinds of chunking:

1)    Chunking Up

2)    Chunking Down

3)    Chunking Lateral

CHUNKING UP

Chunking up is asking yourself, “For what purpose?” Then sum it up in one or two words. For example, let’s use “car”.

For what purpose is a car?

Driving

For what purpose?

Traveling

For what purpose?

Vacation

For what purpose?

Relax

So, in conversations, chunking up can be used to extend your conversation.

Ex: “Oh, so you bought a new car, that is so cool! When I bought my car, the first thing I did was travel to New York with a few of my close friends.”

Now from her buying a car, we are now talking about traveling.

CHUNKING DOWN

Chunking down is asking yourself, “What is this an example of?” Then sum it up in one or two words. Let’s stick to our same example about cars.

What is this example of?

Vehicles

What is this example of?

Bicycles

What is this example of?

Riding

What is this example of?

Passengers

So in conversation the example would be: “So you got a new car, that’s really cool. I remember when I had my first bike as a kid. I felt so much freedom, I really felt like I could take over the world.”

Now from the topic of cars, it is now about childhood memories and bicycles.

CHUNKING LATERAL

Chunking lateral is listing. Let’s use the example of cars again:

Car

Camry

Toyota

Yaris

Mini Coop

Van

In conversation it can go somewhere like, “That’s awesome that you got a new car. If I were to get a car, I’d probably look at Toyota. They got some really nice cars there, such as the Camry, the Corolla, the Yaris…” Then you can probably vacuum from there.

All these elements are crucial to maintaining good conversations and very helpful when leading the attraction into comfort ability. Overall, learn to listen, focus, try to stay away from self-defecating humor, and know how to chunk up, down, and lateral. Practicing these elements of conversation can really work on the attraction and lead into the comfort zone.

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As I learned the concept in child psychology works with almost all chicks had experience with.[private] I reward the behaviors liked and they increase, ignore the behaviors disliked and they decrease. Most times when disliked behaviors are punished or anger is expressed about they are still getting attention which is a reward in itself…unfortunately will have those repeated for more attention in that way.

I like to keep my energies focused on the positives anyways, it makes everything a whole lot more enjoyable for all involved. If she does repeat a negative then I will firmly express my dissatisfaction with it, then quickly move on. Girls learn quickly that time with me and my attentions to them are also based on what they bring to the table.

If they are bringing happy, enjoyable stuff to the table as I am, I see that as time enjoyed and I want to spend more with her. If she continuously has complaining, bitching, or reliving her daily stresses to excess, I have better things to do. She has other places in her life to vent her trivial complaints (yet once we have gotten closer, I do have an ear for the important ones, girls still keep that to a minimum). Many girls have indicated to me in one way or another that time spent with me is like a vacation from daily stresses or something like that.

When a girl does do things more than once that I don’t like, I don’t spend any length of time expressing anger or dissatisfaction. I simply state the facts of the matter and move on after that. I know she heard my message and I didn’t spend any time waiting for her to apologize or get defensive, trying to justify what she had done. By not leaving much room for her to apologize or justify, the whole message has more of a chance to sink in and kind of will stay in her thoughts longer, like an open loop. She still may have points to add, but doesn’t feel that I expect a reply from her.

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[private]Yesterday, in the coffee shop I frequent to work in, I was chatting with the clerk girl for a few minutes.

There is a white tip jar on the counter and on it says: ‘Boulingerie’. Based on the accent marks, I can see it is a french word but I still play with the word with her.

“What does that word mean?” I ask her. She says she doesn’t know so I tell her.

“That sounds like a lingerie with some halloween designs on it or something…You know, you take of the first layer of clothes and maybe it says ‘Boo’ on each boob…maybe there are pumpkins and ghosts in the designs…” She is laughing at this point. When I first came in here I saw another girl looking my way so I turned to her (somewhat behind me) and asked if this other girl knows French.

She tells me she knows some so I ask her if she knows the word in question. From here she starts: “That it means pastry shop or actually bakery is closer…(She pauses)…so it actually is appropriate.”

Hearing that I turn back to the clerk girl I was flirting with and say: “See that? She says ‘appropriate’, I guess she has been listening to us the whole time. I still like my definition better.”

So at this point, now me & the clerk girl have a sexy private joke between us only in its playful way. We both enjoyed joking this way regardless of the rest of the world. It was a funny moment, we were eavesdropped on by a nearby girl.

Next day, I again go in there to continue typing. I see there are 3 clerks behind the counter talking in a group. When I get to the counter, the one I flirted with was the one to come up & help me. With 3 of them able to help me, I see she made the first move to come over.

She says “I saw you yesterday, we were talking about scary lingerie.”

“Boo!” I say in a silly voice with a playful face.

We joke around a little more, then she asks me what I want. She tells me the cost of the coffee and I tell her to deduct the difference from yesterday’s shortage.

First she tells me she doesn’t remember, then says: “Your fine in my book.”

So as I am taking my coffee and starting to turn to the milk, I pause to lock eyes with her in my mischeif grin thinking ‘I know what you really mean’ so it can be slightly indicated in my face (girls are good at reading these).

You see, I took that last statement by itself and and eye contacted her thinking ‘I know what you really mean, that I am fine in your book’.

Twenty minutes later, on my way out she tells me that she likes my belt buckle. I stop again, facing the other way, slowly turning with my body turned to be facing her.

Fist touching the belt buckle she is talking about (which I see her eyes follow my hand to the buckle) I lock eyes with her again, “thanks and all, but…” (I pause for a beat, then take the same hand, two fingers coming up to my face pointing at my eyes) “…my eyes are up here.” and still with a mischief grin like I busted her in mischief.

I saw she got my joke, just playful. She smiled and I told her I’d see her later as I walked out the cafe.

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[private] I could tell you a few things you can do to increase your visibility and have women know of you, maybe wanting you to come over and say ‘Hi’.
Talk in the direction of the crowd, and be laughing incessantly!!

Make eye contact with those you find interesting!!

When you catch a girl looking at you, Look directly as his/her lips, this shows her that you are interested in meeting !!!!!
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…so take your time and enjoy the wave.

Although you may be thinking the main event is the prize to chase, you can have incredibly long lasting waves of pleasure [private]throughout the process.

This ensures that both you and she are mentally, emotionally, and physically ready for some good lovemaking all on the same page of a moment.

Don’t make sexy-time an ‘all-of-a-sudden’ event. Start with sexy offhanded comments and affection, and then bring it up tiny notches as time goes by.

Be easygoing to stop the escalation at various times too, you can always bring it back to level later, this will build the tease which she will love.

Good foreplay starts hours or even days in advance. This will create a sexual tension so high, when you finally have your time together, she will finally come to orgasm so much easier.

Once a much closer intimacy has been reached, oral sex is a great way to bring a girl to her orgasm. In fact, many women claim that this is the only way they can reach an orgasm.

When you go down on her, don’t be in a rush. Kiss your way down her belly, as you get closer slow it down a bit. Enjoy her inner thighs and the low area on her belly. Kiss and lick the outer edges of her lower lips. Inhale her scent, it can be like a drug to you and she will feel the air rushing by her hot places.

Enjoy the journey as much as the destination. As such, go slow at first.

Lick gently and tenderly for a while, you will notice her arousal increasing. She will be getting much wetter and you will see the petals of her vagina start to unfold. These will come out to you, all filled with blood and very red. Just when you see and know she is really turned on and aching for you to go further, then move in to her sweet spot, the clitoris.

Start by drawing small circles around it. Then try some figure 8 patterns with your tongue. Then take some advice from a past comic and use the tip of your tongue to trace the pattern of every letter in the alphabet.

Even between letters it is good to give her sweet spot a break and kiss her inner thighs again. This time lets the sensations you have just brought her to soak in and for your teasing away to have her want you there more.

In addition to your fancy tongue and lip action, start using your fingers. You can use your fingers to give her some feelings of entry. You can enter with your fingers in a ‘come here’ curve to make circles around her G-spot. This is located on the vaginal wall on the forward side, towards her belly.

Now you can alternate between kissing and teasing with your tongue and using your fingers so that with resting, this can go on longer.

Hear her groans during different types of touches you are doing to her. Her verbal expressions of pleasure will be telling you which ways feel best to her.

While you are kissing and teasing with your kisses, you can also use your other hand to spread her lips apart so that you have full access to her sweet spot.

Don’t forget to stay attuned to her moaning and breathing changes, continue the actions that brought those differences on.

Also remember the actions in your mind that caused those changes. With those in mind you can stop what you are doing, let her settle some and then tease her more.

This way she escalates in arousal, then with you coming right back to it, she will go higher. This will lead to a much larger orgasm for her.[/private]

[private]Another great thing to make sure you keep in mind is that there is never a need to avoid potential conflicts. Being a highly confident and strong man, knows that the best ideas are often presented with counterpoints. This is fine. If it was a boring topic or issue, no one would spend the time trying to oppose it.

Remember that it is okay to have some conflict. Even powerful emotion will raise attraction
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[private]Ok cool. Remember, writing mini field reports indicating what parts I’ve taught you that you are using and results that happen, not only is that helping me customize future lessons for you…the more details and uses of things I taught you I will save to my student progress reports and that is what inspires me to add more time of mine to working with students as extra bonuses for them.

ex.. -triangular gazing  -looking at her lips and lick your own…you were trying this with the center girl of the group of three tha you number closed at the brookline bar. If you phrase it as what & how I explained it to you, then you used it and notice positve results and what they were…then I can publish those reposts in my student results reports. (don’t worry i keep student anonymity unless they request otherwise)

Those help me to customize and refine my teaching and let others see the ways my coaching can help…Congrats again on the dance floor make out!!

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Yes, not making any big deal of anything unless it is something that is adding to the value you are creating. If she is trying to call it out, just casually breezing by it shows you are not on the defensive in any way…can just roll along with anything she throws at you.

ADD as next number to assignment list: [[

"Look my buddy just died, how long should I wait till I fuck his girlfriend?"  If she gets upset tease her for being socially incompetent and not knowing that you were kidding.]]]]

YES< staying non-reactive to any response she has is very key….that example is an extreme on which is good to test out to see the field is pretty open for outrageous things to say.. Something like that statement will have a variety of different responses depending on the girl and the context of the venue you are at.

…but teasing her for not getting the joke will put her onthe defensive for not getting it, and let you continue to go forth in everything without apology.[/private]

To a girl conversation was going nicely

As when I explained how [private] cats carry their young. First they pull the back of their necks with a gentle tug.

Then as I explain “How they mate is that the boy bites here (I scrunch the hair at the place her hair & neck meet) to let the girl know what is coming up, feeling this signal she can signal her submission to this.” and I see how she reacts.

From there I leaned in and told her she smelled good. I asked her what perfume she was wearing, and then discussed how animals always sniff each other before
they mate and how we’re evolutionarily wired to feel aroused when someone smells us.

Then I discussed how lions bite each other’s mane during sex, and how pulling the back of the hair is another evolutionary trigger of this in people. As I spoke, I ran my
hand up the back of her neck, grabbed a fistful of hair at the roots, and pulled it firmly downward.

She didn’t seem upset, so I pushed further. I told her how the most sensitive parts of the body are usually hidden from contact with the air-for example, where the arm bends on the other side of the elbow. Then I took her arm, bent open and tickled her inner arm a bit. These things are all hints to what may come later if she plays her cards right. [/private]

[private](passage from letter to student)

[After I teach you tools an techniques to try out in field,] I can push you into sets with things to test out.

That helps to desensitize you from caring about the outcome in any single
interaction…..when interacting with new girls.

The girls detect this and that is attractive in itself…but also opening sets on your own, starts building a habit that will continue between our time together
and after

..But I am very eager to teach you things that will be getting bigger
rewards for less efforts…Getting way more rewards for less efforts
is the potential I see for you once you get the momentum going.

My job is to help you start that momentum and to teach you ways to maintain that momentum within yourself to continue after we work together.

~C.J.

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Accessories. I agree with not let it being too much. It is nice to add these to your look, but don’t overdo it.

Understanding that girls like shiny things to look at on people, I took [private]some of my accessorizing standards from Michael Jackson. He wore white socks with black pants to draw attention to his moving feet . His sparkly glove was first used to draw attention to his hand when he moves it in his dance moves.

I will wear one bracelet per wrist (if I am wearing a watch, that replaces one), and one ring on each hand, one necklace, one earring per ear, one facial piercing. You see each of my jewels in a location on my body is placed as one item to draw some attention to it with a sparkle, yet nothing else. Once eyes have found these places, they can appreciate the single item and move on. A person does not have to spend any more moments looking through several pieces and separating them in their mind, figuring out what each item is.

They can merely look, and if the item is something they like they can compliment it if they want to. If there is a wrist with several different bracelets on it, she is going to look and spend her looking time figuring out what is there, not so much seeing a single thing and tell you she likes it.
I agree with not let it being too much. It is nice to add these to your look, but don’t overdo it. Understanding that girls like shiny things to look at on people, I took some of my accessorizing standards from Michael Jackson. He wore white socks with black pants to draw attention to his moving feet . His sparkly glove was first used to draw attention to his hand when he moves it in his dance moves.

I will wear one bracelet per wrist (if I am wearing a watch, that replaces one), and one ring on each hand, one necklace, one earring per ear, one facial piercing. You see each of my jewels in a location on my body is placed as one item to draw some attention to it with a sparkle, yet nothing else. Once eyes have found these places, they can appreciate the single item and move on. A person does not have to spend any more moments looking through several pieces and separating them in their mind, figuring out what each item is.

They can merely look, and if the item is something they like they can compliment it if they want to. If there is a wrist with several different bracelets on it, she is going to look and spend her looking time figuring out what is there, not so much seeing a single thing and tell you she likes it.

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[private]…throughout a day is an opportunity for something good to happen.

Every time you don’t simply stop and say ‘hi’ is you letting that opportunity slipping through your fingers.

There is nothing done that needs regret, every mistake has a lesson that teaches how to adapt for next time a similar situation comes up.

The only thing that really deserves regret are those things we wanted to do but didn’t for whatever reason.

You don’t even know if you’d like to hang out witha girl you see for longer than a quick conversation until you start it off with a greeting.

Then you can see if her interesting look has an interesting personality behind it and if you guys would click or not.

I heard that nobody gets out of life alive, so why. Not make the best of your time.

Everyone thinks that opportunity is going to land right in their lap, but most frequently it lands right nearby…you might as well say ‘hi’ to see if she may be one of those opportunities. Otherwise you’ll never know & just let another potential slip right by.

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[private]“Whoa, that’s a cheesy pick up line” I say with that smirk of mischief.

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..and I tell her: “You know what the greatest thing about that book is?”

She says: [private]“No what?”

And I say; “No me either, I haven’t read it yet.” and the conversation is off and running.[/private]

[private]You see that they have interest in you,  your topic, & talking with you. Then it is time to lock yourself in, pull up a stool, be comfortable and switch topics. You can even use it like you are just discovering as they are speaking that they have a good energy. You want to tell them a story or learn a little about them, qualifying them.
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you can easily change her[private] mood, not her mind. Stay non-reactive no matter if you are getting results that differ from what you wanted. Being non-reactive is very attractive. Make sure you are having fun.

If you aren’t having fun, she wont have fun. Girls like to follow the lead and a fun lead is better than anything else.

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[private]Preguntele a las mujeres de hoy cual es la caracteristica que le falta a los hombres en la cama y probablemente responderan que es la pasion.[/private]

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[private]…Thing about being a hermit is less on the peer pressure.” [/private]

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[private]When they are laughing at your jokes & sticking around & vibing really well, it is time to escalate the amount of off-handed affection to her.

 The amount you touch her needs to increase. This is easy since you are very European in the way you touch throughout your conversations, now its time for there to be a sexual undertone to your touches in the teasing, appropriate way.[/private]

[private]Like sometimes when I am talking to a girl and I pick something she has said with “YOU’ SUCH A Girl.” They’ll be asking what/why but I just smirk at them and turn my head away from them. It will emotionally frustrate them but in a good teasing way. That kind of playful emotional frustration that can lead them to chasing a guy they like.[/private]

[private]just to drink.

They can drink at home, for cheaper.

They want to meet and have sex with men who lead.

If the choice is up to her, then her conscious mind knows that even if she’s horny she is supposed to be a “good girl”, and that’s what she will usually choose.

However, if she is led by a strong man, well, “it just happened”. Don’t forget that.M…Mm

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[private]plastic surgery allows you the opportunity to make your outward appearance reflect your inner appearance: Fake. Which is a positive force for women, and this you have fake boobs. Which, let’s be honest you’re not bright enough to get that joke. Just keep telling yourself you did it so your shirts will fit better. Ya. You did it because you’re a whore… and he forgot because you’re stupid. Enjoy your free drinks. I’ll buy, I love big Titties! You got big Titties then top shelf. Small Titties, um… beer in a can. In third world countries? Not a boob in the bunch, yet they still find happiness. And that’s discouraging because they’re tough look at. No, no, no, I know you have a hair lip, but why not try to work on that rack first? Am from America. I don’t speak your ‘Booga-booga’ language. By the way, I hate soccer.

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[private]Get girls to invite you to open them[/private]

I see many guys thinking that a beautiful woman is out of their reach. They actually are way more within your reach, they are receptive to attention since there are plenty of guys too scared to even say hi. This is part of why I think girls that are 7/8s will be more bitchy that the 9/10s. The 7/8s get hit on more since guys are not as afraid to approach them. Understanding that we are all people with the same types of insecurities will keep you from projecting a lack of confidence or that they are better than you.

[private]Of this, people have told me that I am a natural.

Although there may be many benefits to this way to be, from my standpoint, I see much more benefits to being a previous (AFC?) and working your way out of it.

Naturals aren’t as aware of everything they are doing. While there is a good understanding, it is not the same frame of reference that a guy who had previously sucked with girls has had.

Most naturals have less motivation to want to study the dynamics of social psychology and interpersonal relationships. I feel very lucky I had the curosity to want to tkae every toy I had as a kid to see how it works inside, sice once this curiosity was transferred to social topics, the rewards were incredibly more valuable than how to make a circuit board do burrs and whistles.

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[private]4.Stabucks spoon print – “with nothing els to stare at…” I say: “Ok I gotta come clean, I was watching you. Hi, my name is C.J.”

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so they understand that they can replace most of their suitors with the next guy that comes along. But in all actuality,[private] the girl is the overabundant commodity. It is easy to blow her off since there are tons of women and having high qualifications for the women you welcome into your world makes a spot in it to be more valuable. [/private]

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