Cj Siege
What reference of ‘one night stand’ do you speak of? That is not my territory & I don’t recommend them. Never did the ‘one night stand’ thing… Waitammint, one time, just after high school. …See More
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Cj Siege
But w/ no need, I gauge person pretty damn quickly… Regardless, I would not sleep w/ a woman unless she had done more than just catch my attention, Rather if I detect she can potentially hold that attention later too…If I feel value in her energy/person I’d enjoy more of again & again. There’s no want/need 2 have sex just 4 sex when I can make love.;..and make love in the moments we share. When I can bring breathless pleasure to her & enjoy top-shelf/high quality woman whenever I feel like…I’m not going to waste time to go the store to pick up a single wine cooler when Dom is on tap wherever I go..

When it comes to reading your summary, that is excellent information for me to know where you are working from.
That way I can refine what I teach you to be most specifically related to where you are at and usable by you right away to see immediate results.

I’ll talk about social circle differences, after but let;s start with the other ones you wanted first, then we can build from there.

Having little to none approach anxiety is the best place to be learning, since you can quickly try things out to get faster progression through the levels within all of this.

[[Re:  I have prepared a number of scripts that I have memorized]]Yes, by using all memorized scripted things, it can be a bit of a sticking point getting back  to real life, in the moment at hand conversation.

We will go over some of these as “Skills & Drills” exercises so you are already starting to practice the new skills I teach right away.

That leads you to be more active about what you a re learning & customizing it to your specific personality as you go along.

There are also some listening skills exercises, we can go over. By increasing that, I can help you to increase your calibration to capitalize on the clues girls drop throughout conversations all the time.

Along with discussion, I can show you some example to start your thinking in the right direction”

[[Think of the field as a common ground for research. You, as the scientist, should go out and try new and innovative things. Try out different styles of clothes and see the reactions of other people. Try out various methods of opening and find out which style suits you. Go extreme with your actions; because if you don’t go to the extreme, you will never know where the limits begins and ends.]]

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

Hey man,

Previously I had contacted you to ask about coaching and found that I neither had the time nor cash to pay Sad although I EAT YOUR ONLINE PRODUCTS FOR BREAKFAST!!

Passage from student:

[Private]“Think of the field as a common ground for research. You, as the scientist, should go out and try new and innovative things. Try out different styles of clothes and see the reactions of other people. Try out various methods of opening and find out which style suits you. Go extreme with your actions; because if you don’t go to the extreme, you will never know where the limits begins and ends.”

~DSM [/private]

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[private]Last night’s exploration into the field hugely altered my perception of what I’m capable of. This was my first experience A) meeting with other guys for the purpose of discussing and practicing pickup and B) approaching a large number of strange woman in the space of a single night.
First of all, I want to stress that my state of mind as I followed my GPS into Boston was very apprehensive. As I got close to the address where group was supposed to meet up, there was this hope/fear that I was just gonna drive past it, turn around, go home and abandon the whole thing. I really felt so unsure of myself that it seemed possible that I might do this.
Then before I knew it, I was inside the Starbucks and sitting in a circle of strange men discussing this thing called “pickup.” I remember thinking that everybody must be staring at me and judging me and thinking I’m some kind of loser for being there. I was being very concious of my posture and extremely analytical of everything I said. Then, at one point, I just got into the groove, and realized that everybody else was there for the exact same reason I was. And furthermore, it was probably pretty likely that some of them were feeling the exact same self conciousness I was.
I think this is when I began feeling the camaraderie. There is a certain type of bonding that happens between even total strangers in high stress situations, and I think that’s why this type of group sarging must be so helpful. Because there’s no way I would have been able to, for the first time ever, make the approaches I made last night if I didn’t have my new friends right there to bounce right back to afterwards and feel that positive social proof. It’s sort of like being able to run across a hot sandy beach because you’re about to jump into a cool ocean.
Mad thanks to CJ for taking me on as his wing last night. As soon as we stepped into the first club he was up and talking to two beautiful girls within seconds. Now, I want to stress how quickly things changed here for me, because in this first interaction, I just felt completely impotent and retarded. I wasn’t even the one opening the set, but once again, I felt that everybody was staring at me and judging me. I remember being very aware of not knowing what to do with my hands. When it was over, CJ gave me some good tips on what to do as a wing, I handed him one of his four five dollar bills back and then he said, “your turn.”
Now, in this moment I was right back to where I was before I walked into Starbucks. I wanted to bail. I felt like I had signed up to go skydiving but sorta felt it was a joke all along and now all of a sudden we were five thousand feet up and they were opening the airplane door and gesturing for me to jump. I briefly considered running out the door and back to my car. I seriously did.
How the fuck are woman so scary to us? They’re just chicks.
I guess the most useful thing I can say about those first couple of interactions is that I started out small. Real small. Like, “Hey how are you doing tonight? What game is this you’re watching? Oh yeh? Well, seeya.” Really dumb shit.
But this worked. It was exactly what I needed right at the beginning. Because I walked into that bar carrying my long running perception that IT IS NOT POSSIBLE FOR ME TO APPROACH STRANGE WOMAN OUT OF NOWHERE. Though never explicitly voiced, I think now that I must have held this belief for a long time.
But now, I had in fact done just that. Sure, all I did was babble out some retarded bullshit. But nobody punched me. My heart didn’t explode. I didn’t jizz in my pants in front of them. In fact, even those first few girls whom I don’t believe were genuinely interested, even they at least smiled and exchanged a few words back.
After that, things got different pretty quick. I still had a ton of fear, but now, totally, out of nowhere, all of-a-fucking-sudden, I had this understanding that girls can be approached and talked to, by me. And in the interactions that followed, the amazing thing is, that I actually got to have fun talking to some of these girls. There was at least one I talked to that I really liked, and seemed to have some real chemistry with.
Now I’ve spent years party hopping and club hopping. I’ve spent hundreds of nights in bars with cumulative thousands of girls in them. How many of these girls that I passed through the years may be somebody I really could enjoy getting to know and spend quality time with? I’LL NEVER KNOW BECAUSE I NEVER TALKED TO THEM!
At the height of it, suddenly, I found myself in a conversation with an honest-to-God 10. An actual 10. I didn’t even open her, I opened her friend next to her and then all of sudden this 10 was up on me. At first I thought she was mad at me (because she was sort of yelling at me,) but then, all of a sudden, we were having a genuine conversation. Meanwhile my brain is screaming at me, “Son, you are not cut out for this encounter! Abandon ship!” But I just ignored it and kept talking. And before I knew it, I was having fun. I actually think that she was attracted to me.
At some point, all this female interaction just got me really, really, high. I had a blast out there.
So, to recap, I feel I had something of a major breakthrough last night. I began the night almost to scared to even walk into the pre-game meetup at Starbucks, and ended up having some awesome interactions with beautiful women. I think the most important stuff I learned was:

1. Start small, walk around and say hi to everybody. Make eye contact and smile. If you’re scared, start with little conversations to experience little good results. If you’re already walking around and talking to lots of people it’s not gonna feel so awkward to go up to a girl.
2. Have some good dudes with you and use that feeling up brotherhood. Walk back over to your friends when you’re feeling frazzled or nervous or whatever. Get some positive energy going, and then bounce back into a set. Remember, you’re cool, look at you, you’re there with a bunch of cool guys who are all talking to hot women!
3. All that crazy shit in your head telling you that this is impossible, all that crap, even if it’s been there for years can be blown out really quickly by new experiences. But there’s no other way to do it. Just jump in.
4. Most important, as soon as you get a little momentum, you start having fun, then boom. There’s your whole source of energy to go and open more sets. As soon as you get a couple good conversations under your belt, look around the room and find some guys with no game. They’re the ones sitting at a table with their drinks and no women. Look at those dudes! They have no juice at all, and you’ve just talked to some cute girl and made her laugh! You’re the man! Now go talk to another one!

I just want to conclude this report with an awesome story. I’ve been working for like a year now at a Whole Foods, where I frequently see cute girls shopping. Sometimes they come through my line. Sometimes I talk to them. So there’s this one girl, not the hottest girl in the world, but a cute girl, that I’ve talked to a few times when she’s come through. She happened to be there eating lunch while I was on my lunch break today. I sat there and had lunch with her, had a good conversation, and I the end, I said, just real simply, “We should hang out.” She said yeh, and I said, “Give me your number.” And then she gave me her number! I’ve been wanting to do something like that for a year, something that simple, and have not been able to do it until now!
I just wanna say thanks to CJ and everybody else who was there and helped me out last night. I am like a new man today. Let’s do it again soon!
-Macro[/private]

[private]Re: preplan

(Ex. Basketball study, relate to social)

Great to have a plan in mind. Then you remember to get things covered..even in a random order.

Asking her about dating is a great way to easily transition about your dating ways, the fav t that you are dating other women whatever.

That’s a great one to keep in your toolbox, it’s great for me to know you know that one already.

[[As above, the strengths you already have and learning to be tweaking them in the best directions...plus some attraction generation tools will bring you great success. If it was casual dating with several girls in your life that you wanted, you are in a great place to start from. Understanding levels of how girls work and already communicating in ways like they do is awesome]]]

RE: The use of questions sometimes that girls ask. I learned that one from girls in my life. Sometimes girls will ask questions of things they want to be asked…which may be the reason they are asking at all.

That is why it is great opportunity to be teasing, giving vauge answers to new girls you met, then asking them the same question back.

Before you know if you’ll like a girl or not, she will be telling you the info to have a clearer picture of who she is. She will also be working to qualify herself to you rather than vice versa. You are a high quality guy and have high quality people that live up to your standards.

This also keeps her working to please you in a subtle way. Anther place more satisfying for both the girl & the guy…

About being vague and redirecting with a girl you just met. Since you just met her and don’t know if you want her in your world yet, you have nothing to prove until you find value inher.

This also keeps you mysterious, which girls love at first and does increase the level of attraction a great deal when they’re meeting a new guy.

When we meetup, I’ll show you some good examples in dialog and give funny answers to hear in person, we’ll practice out some new meeting situations, and you can test them out in the field.

by Siege from his BlackBerry.

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