As I am replying to this specifically:
(10-01-2011 10:54 AM)mishazlair Wrote:
Is it generally a good or bad idea to take a girl to a strip club on a date? On one hand it’s a very sexual place which as a whole devalues a particular set of values in a woman. on the other hand… Maybe there are no other hands. What are your thoughts and experiences on this.
The thought rolled around in my head for a while and other prior situations popped up in my mind.
A girl, HBCarSales that I was monogamous w/ years ago, came to me months after dating & asked me to take her to Zachary’s (cheezy strip club on Cape).
From then on, in the times I had mentioned the “I once had a gf that asked me…’ story to other girls, I was surprised to find out the inner-adventurousness in them. (“sounds like fun”, “I want to go to one”, etc) This has frequently been with girls you’d never expect to have these curiosities or girls that never tried these things before.
Then more recently HBbanker of last summer danced on my stripper pole (knowing she was on video too ) after saying she never would do such an outrageous thing.
Then again, she was the same girl who first said she could never do ‘open relationship’ but was fine with it as long as she didn’t hear about other girls. I always made her feel as the only girl on earth in the moments we shared.
Another surprise came with HBLawyer of my FR/LR a few months ago that DSmoothMike was around for that led to this:
A SNH started with stripper pole dancing. You see, it first surprised me when, she was revealing her dream was to dance as a stripper from some leading convo things from me. Upon hearing that, I brought her to my place & let her use my stripper pole. ( like i just posted another quick vid of girl on facebook, link in my sig’ntre.)
Many girls I’ve talked to seem to want to go to something like that once in their life, to see what it’s like.
Others that have a very proper, innocent appearance to the rest of the world have a real dirty side that they keep shielded from rest of world (re:Russian stu/model of Octoberfest this past Sunday. )
Many guys limit themselves & the possibilities by either (wrongly too conservative) assumed expectations …. or their desire to really want a pure, innocent girl.
When girls detect expectation to be ‘good’ in guys they like, girls will display the ‘proper’ behavior & appearance they have been brought up to show most of the world.
Once a girl (even the prim & proper looking ones) knows that no judgement will fall back on her from a guy & her adventurousness is appreciated by him, she can feel truly free with him.
She can feel like she can be truly herself, no matter what & still be accepted and approved of.
She can feel free to drop her need to look proper and dignified by the rest of society’s standards imposed.
On a few different levels, once u show them what is acceptable to your world, a whole new realm of possibilities unfolds.
Once you can clearly (yet subtly at times) indicate that it is ok for her to have a wild side, and sexual freedom is approved and welcomed by you, girls often have wonderful surprises in this department to bring to the table even if they never explored them before…
That being said, strip-club is not a kind of ‘Surprise-date’ to bring a new girl on, but many underlying desires in her can be discovered first in conversation before enjoying these things together.
Only typing what I have time for right now mishazlair, I’d love to fully elaborate about these fun parts of my life & explain what conversations led to what in discussions. Feel free to contact me, my # is in my profile. We’ll do coffee or something
(p.s. I had to star this post, I’ve always had a soft spot for strippers in general & the inner adventurousness in most girls that they never share with the rest of the world until they feel they are allowed)