…it is best to have your own canned material to fill in spaces in conversations, random tidbits and story lines can be used as practice & to see where the conversations go.
Along with the random trivia I sometimes sprinkle in conversations. Along with that, you could say a joking point like:
“Even snakes are afraid of snakes.” where the girl can take this anywhere.
Or: “Even snakes are afraid of snakes, are you tougher than snakes?.”
Maybe she will just laugh at the joke or maybe she is afraid of snakes as well and tell you why. Maybe she has an interesting story about snakes. Maybe after a bit, you think of an interesting story about snakes.
Simply because the statement is related to fears maybe she’ll tell you that she has a fear of bees or something.
It just is a very silly, unexpected statement to sprinkle somewhere in a conversation to see what happens from there. It shows a kid-like playfulness which is very attractive and this also lets her know that talking about silly stuff is welcome to your world.
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Can I be totally honest with you?
Guess what else?
You know what?
Can I trust you?[/private]
One way to do this is offhanded comments that show you know her perspective.
You can keep it playful and joking, just say something like this:
“There was a [private]gay bartender that was giving me free drinks. Do you think he liked me or do you think he liked me/liked me?”
Using that phrase ‘liked me or liked me/liked me’ has been a girl term for many years defining the difference between a friendship liking a person has versus a liking that may be more. It is a subtle and joking way to indicate that you do ‘get it’ and know where women are coming from.
“Was it a date or was it a date-date?” is another example how girls are saying more between the lines. Have a good time, each thing you try gives you more concrete results to modify your techniques to your personality and to the situation you are in. [/private]
[private]“I can’t wait till I get home. I left a roll of lifesavers in my other jacket and pineapple is next!”
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and alpha loud says: “I am confident, I have huge self esteem.” Speaking in Barry White tones is very attractive to women they love deep voices. I speak from my diaphragm in my stomach, not my chest.
This adds more bass to my voice. I have learned how [private]
to speak slower witch shows great confidence and is much more enjoyable to listen to .
I elongate the vowels in the words that I speak. Careful enunciation is more enjoyable to speak and more enjoyable to hear. At times, I can even pause…articulating every word better.
Pausing creates anticipation in dialog. Eager to to hear more.
I love the tension that comes with silence in poignant pauses when I speak and with the silence of looking at them expecting them to finish up a good thought.
I am always looking as if I am about to add something more to the thought. As I am looking at her I may have a big pause, saying “I’m sorry, I was just lost for a second.” Since I was just looking at her, I was soaking her beauty in.
Give it a try and tell me what you think. [/private]
After a few minutes go went by, and you see she is engaged in talking to you & completely facing you, you can stop[private] bantering and start letting her know who you really are.
I see many guys continuing on in the major excitement and attraction type talk well after they have her well interested.
I think most guys do this because the behavior causes girls to show how attractive they are and this can be quite intoxicating to be receiving this kind of attention. The thing is, once you see the interest engaged you definitely need to start building some lasting rapport.
You can always come back to the fun stuff in a little bit. Start talking about points in your real life, challenges you are really facing, about the embarrassment at your last family function. If you hear her mention parts about her family or growing up, ask for more details of the real stuff. These type of topics lead to real connection that is easy to bring back in other conversations later.[/private]
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