“”My daygame experience with CJ the Siege
Just this past Saturday I went out for daygame coaching with Siege. I have worked with CJ in the past and knew he has a great deal of value to offer, so when I found out he was doing FREE coaching I jumped at the opportunity.
When I arrived at Copley (got there late due to traffic from the Sox game) CJ was demonstrating for some newbies how to approach on the street using a simple opener. (If you want to know the opener, you will just have to ask CJ in person or PM him). The first time I tried it, on a two-set of black chicks, the target seemed warm but her friend pulled her away so I erroneously concluded the opener was bad.
Here is where the coaching came in handy. CJ pointed out that I used the opener just fine but that I paused for too long after the target reacted. He emphasized that you have to be ready to follow-up! So I lost the set not because there was inherently anything wrong with me, but simply because I didn’t keep the conversation flowing. This was simple, usable feedback that I was able to implement right way.
So within 1-2 more approaches of making the adjustment, I immediately got into an engaging 5-10 minute conversation with this cute lawyer chick as we walked up Boylston St. We then parted ways and I returned to Copley.
Another memorable set was a two-set right outside of a restaurant on Newbury St. CJ was observing me from just a few feet away and critiqued the entire set from beginning to end. At one point he even came into the set, showing me how to make natural conversation. Like so many men, I’ve struggled in this area and heavily rely on canned material and routines. CJ emphasized that I should listen more to what the girls are saying and even use that for material to talk about. For example, the girls had an accent so Siege asked them where they were from and worked conversation on that topic for a bit before transitioning to another topic.
I recall a street approach where I watched as CJ got a number-close from this pretty blond. It always helps to observe guys that know what they are doing in-field and then try to emulate them. It gives you a chance to see body language and how women react.
These are just a few examples of the sets that were opened. What I am learning is that simple adjustments in your game can make all the difference.
Now here is something interesting. Later on that evening, after me and Siege parted ways, I was on fire when it came to opening. Maybe it was because I was warmed up from doing the day-game but I must have opened in the neighborhood of 20-30 sets. I’ve been in this stuff for 2 years and have never opened that many sets in a single day! My wing even called me on Sunday to congratulate me, saying I was an approach machine.
Other things I learned-
FOR GODSAKE- JUST OPEN!! If you don’t open, ain’t shit going to happen. (We all hear this, but not everyone takes it to heart)
IF HER FRIENDS COME INTO THE SET, QUICKLY INTRODUCE YOURSELF TO THEM.
Bottom line: CJ’s coaching = results. I look forward to working and learning from this guy in the future. “”