Directions from the Seige
During the Spring, I realized that I got a family reunion in Las Vegas after Christmas, so I thought that I would study hard core and get this down before the end of the year. While I am in Vegas, I made myself a mission.
I got 6 days to game and get laid in Vegas.
Here is what I’ve done so far:
I learned how to perform inner game, SNL, night game, and day game. I have learned different techniques, strategies, even read books on how to better your life. From all that I have learned, I will put them all to good work within the 6 days I have to get laid in Vegas.
What I’m going to do for the following entries is state some top lessons that I have learned from “The Seige”.
Since the spring time, I’ve been the protege of the Seige. He has been teaching me small things here and there, giving me advice anytime and everywhere I needed it. Then I decided to ask him for one on one coaching because I wanted to be the BEST PUA that I can be. When I told him about my mission, he was intrigued and decided to take me under his wing. The overall thing that he has been teaching me is how to attract women to you. How to have the women chase after you, than you chase after them. There is so much that I have learned from him alone, but I’ll try to cover as much as I can.[private]
The first thing he taught me was that there are 4 steps in seduction:
1) You cannot seduce what you cannot approach.
2) You have to create the attraction, like bait to a fish.
3) Comfortability creates a positive surrounding.
4) What more can I say to this step?
Now with those four steps, I realized that there are 4 questions to ask for a SNL (Same Night Lay) with a following statement:
1) Who are you here with?
2) How did you get here?
3) What are your plans for tomorrow?
4) What are you doing after this?
Statement: “We should go (anything)”
1) You want to know who she is here with because you’d like to know if she is has friends who might be a CB or if she has a bf or not. Anyways, you just want to know who she is with so you can plan the four steps successfully.
2) You want to know if she came with friends or by herself. If she came by herself, she is prone more to either go home with you, or you go home with her.
3) You want to know if she has plans for the morning or not. If she has plans, she is most likely not to have time to fuck that night.
4-and the statement) You want to know if she has plans with her friends or not. If not, recommend something enticing, something that would catch her interest, then seduce her.
Of course, these are questions that SHOULDN’T be asked all at once, but once every so often. I, personally, would ask them in that particular order, because I think that all those questions can tie in with the next one later on. Kind of like sprinkles of spice upon the broth.
Within these steps are mini steps into seduction. Such as ways of approaching and ways of making yourself stick out in a positive way. Here are some favorite things that I have learned:
One of my favorite lines is the, “Sorry I’m late” then go on from there. You’d be surprised at how many women play along with this. The one that I’ve been trying out is the straight forward method, “I know it’s a bit random…but…I know that if I don’t talk to you now…I might regret it later” This line gets a lot of positive results when I open with that line. However, the best line would probably have to be, “Hello, my name is Michael”. After you open, “lock in” as quick as you can. Make yourself comfortable, and continue conversation as much as you can. Position yourself at an angle towards her as you talk. However, have her earn your attention by body flirtation. Look at her, away, body towards her, then away. The push and pull method, basically. Before you approach, what you can do if you spot a girl looking your way, you can wave to no one, to make it look like you’re the popular guy. Either that, or raise your glass to her. If she raises back, then begin the approach. Use your best judgement.
When approaching during the day game, it’s always a good idea to approach from her view. Either from an angle, or directly. However, if she is walking, you probably don’t want to stop her, because she is probably in a rush to get nowhere.
Seige taught me, which works very well was to walk in front of them and talk to them from behind your shoulder. If the topic of conversation good enough, then she would walk a bit faster to catch up with you one on one. Or you can speed it up a bit by slowly lowering your voice and she would have to catch up to talk to you. If it’s the retailer that you want, bullshit your question about a certain item, then quickly change the subject to something more personal. But I’ll save that game for another post.
You build up the attraction the moment you begin your approach. One of the key elements that you need is to remember that you need to start to build the sexual tension along with the friendship. “Why friendship?” you may ask, but girls are more open to those they consider friends than strangers.
If the sexual tension is not at level with the friendship, you will creep them away. Most girls do not want to be labeled as a “slut”, and they will reject you on the spot if they spy that notion in you.
If the friendship is not at the same level as the sexual tension, you will be locked in the “friend zone” and will probably see your dream girl fucked by a total douche bag.
Having the friendship at the SAME level as the sexual tension is the best solution that makes everyone happy. Girls would not feel like a slut, and you got a hole you can fuck.
What you can do to start initiating the sexual tension is by expressing to them that they might be in danger of being in YOUR friend zone. Why is this? It’s because girls want to fuck the guys they cannot have. This is a “game” for them. It’s a tad ironic.
Kino is used to to create attraction by the slightest touch. However, YOU should be the one to control it. The reason is because prolonging the touch can either make her feel uncomfortable or you are just giving her way too much attention and she might get bored of you quick. To limit your time touching can create a “want” with the girl. She will begin to miss the touch and try to earn the touch again. It’s like a dog or a cat. They LOVED to be pet. They would do stuff to try to get the positive recognition. Even people love the physical touch and would do things to get the positive, physical reaction.
Listening is key to attraction. Listen to what she has to say. Repeat what she has said to signify that you get the idea that she was trying to portray. After you do so, keep the conversation flowing.
Befriending her friends can really create an attraction with the girl. Because the girls friends mean a lot to them. If they can accept you, it would be easier for her to accept you. Then the attraction will be stronger. And don’t feel afraid to interject and ask if you can borrow the girl for a moment to talk to one on one, but staying in the friends view so they can check up on her.
Another thing that can lead to attraction is NEVER giving straight answers. It’s like, you’re “batman” in a speed dating event. All the girls want to know WHO the Batman is…but he would probably not say who is that handsome man behind that mask…unless you’re Catwoman. Here is one of my examples:
Girl: So…what do you do for work?
Me: I’m a professional eye winker.
Girl: A what?
Girl: So, how old are you?
Me: Does age really matter?
Girl: I’m 23
Me: Good for you. Want a cookie?
Girl: Come on, please tell me!
Me: It doesn’t matter, because as an Asian guy, I can be 90 years old and still look this young and sexy.
Girl: So are you 90?
Me: No, I’m 100. (wink)
KEEP THEM GUESSING!!!
Asking personal questions such as, “When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?” This is my personal favorite question to ask. You can talk a lot about this topic alone. And get to know them quicker.
Here are the top ten topics of conversations that women like:
1 ) Hobbies/ interests
2 ) Music
3 ) Dreams
4 ) Romance
5 ) Hopes
6 ) Friends
7 ) Goals
8 ) Travel
9 ) Movies
Here are the top ten LEAST favorite topics of discussion:
1 ) Politics
2 ) Other dates
3 ) Past relationships
4 ) Science Fiction
5 ) Religion
6 ) Celebrities
7 ) Science
8 ) Antiques
9 ) Money
This was actually a survey that The Seige had found somewhere. I looked it up and confirmed it. I even tried all 20 out.
Another thing about comfortability is that you can actually create a strong sexual tension depending on how you use your words, topics, and how much kino you apply.
A quick way to start building the sexual tension is by talking about sex. Yes…that’s right…sex. They can get really hot by talking about your knowledge about sex. Don’t talk about you with other partners, but the subject of sex. Here is an example:
Me: You know what I think is unfair? How you girls have about 9 different types of orgasms while men only have two.
Girl: What? Are you really talking about this? What kind of a line is that?!
Me: Hey, who said that sex was such a taboo subject?
Girl: Uh…no one
Me: I’m not afraid to talk about it, it’s a natural thing! Are you afraid to talk about it?
Girl: No, I’m not.
Me: Alright then…where was the craziest place you’ve ever had sex in?
Girl: What?! I’m not going to tell you that!
Me: Because you’re afraid, that’s why.
Girl: I’m not afraid!
Me: Yeah you are! You wouldn’t even-
Girl: In a plane.
During this conversation, I could tell that she was getting off at the fact that I knew that there was 9 types of orgasms that women can have. She was so taken back by it, she pinned her back to the wall and leaned in closer to my face. Her arms began to drop towards her knees and her smile grew a few inches wider. She even whispered, “in a plane” directly into my ear. The sexual tension was there and it was getting hotter by the minute. After this conversation, I leaned in and kissed her.
Of course, you cannot have this conversation without having her feel comfortable around you first.
Another thing is that only talk about “happy things”. So IF she ever brings something bad up, such as a bad day at work, bad dates, or even gossip about people, reroute the conversation. This will make the comfortability with you stronger. From then on, she will only think of you as a person who makes “happy moments”.
Me: I think it’s unfair for chicks to get 9 different types of orgasms and men only 2.
Girl: Oh yeah? Well, I think that it’s unfair that we, girls, bleed once a month!
Me: Don’t you have chick friends to talk about this with? With me, we only talk about happy stuff.
Girl: Hey, you brought it up.
Me: Yeah, but I’m talking about sex. You’re talking about something else, period.
(we both laugh)
From then on, every time we saw each other, we always bring up good things and create an awesome connection because there is no negativity between us.
Laughter is a sign of comfortability. Once you get her laughing, continue the momentum. Then at its high point, make an excuse to exit. “I have to go check up on my friends for a minute, I’ll be back”. Don’t worry! When you come back, the comfortability will STILL be there. If she was comfortable with you around then, why wouldn’t she later? Besides, when you come back, you can start it off from the high point that you left at. She will start to miss you and her feelings would have a moment to sink in. When you come back. you will start off stronger and at the high point that you left off at.
Seduction is the last step into making it. Seduction is very much like planting a seed of love in the girls mind. What you want to do is create an idea, a grand idea of how it would be like to be intimate with you.
One way to initiate seduction is what is called a “Triangular Gaze”. The triangular gaze is a way that you look at the girl: Left eye, right eye, lips, repeat. Then ever so slightly, give your lips a little lick. This will plant a notion in their mind about kissing you.
Another way of going about seduction are minimal actions that can lead into something bigger. Such as prolonging your kino or talking about sex. Even the push and pull can become a sexual desire. Negs can create a sexual tension too.
A conversation from the other night at a bar:
Me: Oh my God, you are so sweet! You’re just like a cookie! I just want to dip you in milk and then eat you out!
Girl: (laughs out loud) What?
Her body language after I said that just opened up. Her body was pointed directly at me, tilted her head and with the most charming laugh ever. Comments like these can really set the mood. Another thing you can do is subtly remind her that SHE is DANGER of being in YOUR friend zone. Like guys, girls who are interested in you DON’T want to be in YOUR friend zone.
A conversation some time ago:
Me: I can’t believe how well we’re clicking! But just so you know, just because we’re getting close does not mean that we’re going to have sex.
Girl: Hahaha, I never had that notion in my head
Me: Maybe you did and just didn’t know it yet.
After a change of topics, we made out in the very end until her friends came by and drove her home because she had plans the following morning.
But it’s the idea that got her thinking about making out with me that helped trigger the ending result. Like I said before, girls want a guy who is a challenge to her. Guys that they CANNOT have are the ones that they WANT the most.
Some side notes:
Prolonging your glance in her eyes can really create a strong sexual bond between the two of you. Add this to the triangular gaze and it will worked like a charm.
Actions are just as powerful than the words that compliment the actions, and vise versa. If you use kino well, learn how to use your words to be just as strong in order to get to your end result faster. Or if you know how to talk the talk, then learn how to use kino to the extent of your words.
The coaches give you tools of trade. It’s not about how much knowledge you know…but on how well you perform them.
There is so much more that I have learned from the Seige, but I cannot place them all down on paper. I’ve learned so much from him that if I wrote it down, I might as well make a book out of it.