Not having a guy orgasm during a sexual encounter does leave a heavy open loop in a girl. Usually I use this loop in a single night to keep her coming back to me wanting more, allowing me to bring her to higher and higher orgasms with each attempt she has.
This creates a reward pattern of her coming at me sexually. Also with having the opportunity to bring her to major heights in climax that she may have never had before or definitely isn’t used to, that will stay on her mind and have her back for more repeatedly. [private]
Learning through practice, the discipline to hold yourself off from orgasm can be incredibly valuable. Although I hear a lot of buzz about ‘getting a girl to have a squirting orgasm’ recently, not every girl will let that happen in her body. I read a paper bound book about squirting years ago and have seen that it can be amazingly satisfying for a girl. The only sticking point, is that a girl has to be totally willing and wanting for it to happen. A huge part of being able to make that happen, like other sexual magic, all starts in a girls mind & emotions before anything else….and carrying everything along its way.
One thing I found that works with any girl to increase the volume of their magical moment, and also maintains the momentum of her to be in pursuit of the guy, starts with that discipline I just mentioned. I like to tease a girl until she is begging to have me inside of her. Like many parts of her in pursuit of the guy, it is both satisfying for the girl & the guy. I love to hear a girl begging for my cock to be inside of her.
I have written posts about a slow teasing pattern that works in oral sex on a girl, so this is about intercourse teasing. To lay out the groundwork, I can start explaining from the point when you both are naked. Let’s say she is naked and lying on her back, she is ready to take you inside of her. You are naked and perched in a way above her.
I do not put my cock in yet. I take the tip of it and rub all around her vaginal lips, down one side then up the other. Maybe her I go to making out a little bit again, then brush across those lips from side to side with just the tip of my cock. “Does that feel good?” I may ask. At this point I will not enter her at all, I am now playing all around her vagina just with the tip. This is getting her very aroused, wet and super turned on in desire. From everything she knows about sex, this is the time she knows she should have a cock inside of her, but it hasn’t happened yet. She wants it.
As I said, most of the magic a girl will feel starts in her mind and her emotions so I playfully talk to her this whole time. I tell her she feels good, that she is so wet, that she feels hot, I feel the heat of her pussy. Since I know what a main thought is on her mind, I capture that and tell her “I want to feel inside you so bad.”
Sometimes a girl will say right away “Then put it in!” or something. I do not. Even though she just said that I will still ask her “Do you want me to?” She’ll say yes & I say “Then say please.” This whole time I am still tickling her pussy with the tip of my cock. Sometimes she will try to get it easy and just say “Please” but that still isn’t enough.
“No hun, tell me to put my cock in you please” as I am still tickling and teasing her with the tip of my cock. Up and down both sides of her vaginal lips, across them back and forth and the tip even between her lips, feeling her wetness but not inserted at all. I keep doing this while kissing her neck sometimes until she says what I asked her to say.
Once she says that I put about ½ of an inch in, still rubbing up and down her lips but inserting this ½ inch and pulling out, rubbing her wetness all over the sides of her lips too. “Ok, but just a little bit.” (a game called ‘just the tip, just for a second, to see how it feels.) She will feel this wetness; the coolness of the air where she is wet will let her feel her wetness, turning her on even more. I will do this for a little while since the longer you can do this the more desire for a cock in her will totally increase.
After a few minutes of this I will ask her “Does that feel good?” Which she will tell me “Yes.”
I confirm what she said by telling her “So good” which she very much like to hear. Then I will ask her “Do you want me in you more?”
When she says “Yes” I will instruct her again: “Then ask me.”
If she just asks without the please, once again I will tell her to say the whole sentence, adding ‘please’ to it. Once she complies with my request to ask a certain way, I will comply with her request. Still this time I will enter her more but only a whole inch of my cock will enter her. I will put in an inch, take it completely out so it rubs her front lips a lot, this is affecting her clitoris. “That’s all for now.” I will go back to rubbing up and down the lips, then only putting my cock an inch in. Rubbing up and down her lips and across, side to side, is making vibrations that will be tickling her clitoris while indicating the possibility of the whole cock in her which she wants so much more at this point. The longer this is done, the more this will increase her desire, and increasing her climax when she finally gets it.
With the things said, and the holding back, this teasing is what engages her mind and emotions to be on the same wavelength as her body, increasing what her body feels. Every time you pull completely out, and hold outside of her for a moment, she is feeling the sensations she just felt with a cock in her but now those feelings are fading. She likes those feelings, she wants more. Not only is this significantly turning the volume way up on her desire, it is showing a man with great discipline which she will be very attractive to her.
From her experience with men who want to get her to bed and get right down to business right away, doing this has you sticking out in her mind already. Then when the sexy-time is over, even days later she will be daydreaming, recalling the encounter, wanting more.
So for each step, I ask her if she wants more, I get her in the habit of asking me with please. As her desire grows she will start asking just because you showed her what gets her more, then held off for a while with only 1 & ½ inches in her. She knows what will get her more; her desire is up so high she will start emotionally begging. Each time you can hold off. As she is asking for more on her own, you can hold off longer & she will ask over and over, it will get her sexually begging. This is a place both the guy and the girl are happier and getting more fulfillment.
As you progress in ½ inch increments, you will see her moving her body in ways to get you deeper. She may even wrap her lags around your hips to pull you in. The more you can hold off, even resisting these moves with your strength; she will try harder and try different ways, till the sex becomes a play wrestling game. I will continuously remind her: “Not yet honey” if she tries to pull me in without asking. She is asking you in a voice of desperation, wanting your cock in her, and making moves to get more. This is fantastic momentum to be in and maintain as long as possible. The longer you can hold each step to be, before advancing to the next one will be building up a steam like pressure. The longer you hold off, the larger her orgasm will be.
Once you do get to that place where you are all the way inside of her, pelvis to pelvis, I would not just take up the in-and-out, jackhammer routine. If you can tilt your pelvis in a rocking motion over hers, you will be stimulating her clitoris with a whole cock inside of her. This doesn’t normally happen. If every guy she has ever been with has given her the jackhammer routine, sure it feels good to a point, but not as in depth with feelings as this.
To keep variety in the rocking, I will take my cock completely out of her. I then will pause for a moment to let the feelings she just had sink in and her desire to rise again. Sometimes coming completely out of her, then back in will alternate the deep feelings of cock with the lips that will jiggle her clitoris a bit. Alternating these sensations for her will give her an orgasm on a wider, larger level.
Then other times, taking the cock completely out of her, pausing, then just play with her lips with the tip of your cock as you did before. Again this is going to be tickling her clitoris, and teasing her to want your cock inside of her even more since she just had those feelings and wants them again.
Although other things can be done with a girlfriend that is more comfortable on the trust level and all of that, I have found this to work almost every time, even with a first night with a girl. There has been more than one girl who has told me that she only can come when she gets oral & girls have said they only come when they are on top. In both of these types of situations, I have brought them to orgasm in a way they didn’t know was possible, missionary position with me on top. Although it may not be my favorite position for sex, I do know there is something very fulfilling for her on another sense from face to face intercourse with her on the bottom.[/private]