Category Archives: Building Rapport

To let them know you were really listening…

Posted by on June 13, 2012 906 comments

…you can refer back to a point they previously made, either in the conversation or from an earlier one. This will deepen the rapport felt for you since it clearly indicates their ideas had value to you.

Attraction between people which leads

Posted by on January 7, 2012 109 comments
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… friendships and romantic relationships. The study of interpersonal attraction is a major area of [private]research in social psychology. Interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, love, dislike, or hate someone. It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation. When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities of the attracted as well as the qualities of the attractor to achieve predictive accuracy. It is suggested that attraction between people which leads to friendships and romantic relationships. The study of interpersonal attraction is a major area of research in social psychology. Interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, love, dislike, or hate someone. It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation. When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities of the attracted as well as the qualities of the attractor to achieve predictive accuracy. It is suggested that to determine attraction, personality and situation must be taken into account.

 

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Posted by on January 7, 2012 147 comments
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Once attraction is detected…

Posted by on December 3, 2011 1,336 comments

I tell her: “You know what? I’m gonna make you my girlfriend for the next 5 Minutes, I hope you won’t stalk me when we break up. ”

Then I start the plot line for our little shared imagination movie: “Since we only have 5 minutes, we need to [private]make this really good, ok? Good. So girlfriend, how’s your mom? Tell her I said thanks for the birthday gift, but it really didn’t fit. No, don’t tell her that part, I loved it!” as I am laughing with her since it so silly.

To re-engage the scenario, I pick it back up in a few minutes: “Hey girlfriend, I have something to tell you: I’ve been cheating on you…with your best friend.”

She was mockingly defensive: “Oh no! How could you?” and playing along.

“I’m really sorry girlfriend (I continue to call her: “girlfriend” too, not her name. It was fun to stay in character, even if sometimes I used a gay voice to say it. )

“I couldn’t help myself.” I continued “I’m just really sexual… you know that!” as we played charade kiss & make up scenes, to keep the goofiness going. [/private]

I love 2 get text from girl/last night that says…

Posted by on October 19, 2011 1 comment

Things I totally relate to!

This girl that I met at 10pm last night, kept me up till 6am today. ;)

Then at 12:30 today, this comes in:

“:) I have not stopped smiling all day, sorry about the latch, hope the rest of ur day goes just as well, I’ll talk to u soon” ~HBScorpio

When I write/post rest of story, you’ll see what I mean when SNL becomes 8 hour love story that needs a sequel to be congruent.

Sure I fall in love like junior high girls get crushes, but 4 some reason the love is real (totally in love with the moments we share(d) & wouldn’t trade those 4 the world.). :) :) …..X, Ttyl. CJ

Show your genuine excitement

Posted by on May 17, 2011 453 comments

[private]When she is talking about things she is passionate about.

I’ll say it again:

Show genuine excitement and fascination
about the things she talks about.

Some guys ask me & think if they should be acting this. No. There is no need. I see most guys holding in their excitement because they want to look cool and dismissive. That is really not attractive to woman.

Let yourself show the excitement. I can even get truly excited listening to a girl talk about a subject that I have no interest, no knowledge of, just seeing her passion come through.

I see other guys showing little fascination in new topic they really are curoius about. It is like they want to appear like they know it all. That’s not cool either. Let yourself have ther humility of a kid, when it comes to new topics. You will see the most confident men, the are confident enough to show their lack of knowledge in subjects the really don’t know about.

A very intelligent man once captured the idea: “From everything I have learned, the biggest thing it has taught me is that in comparison to what their is out there, how little I really know.”[/private]

A cool conversation I am having with girl

Posted by on April 16, 2011 No comments

…so …so i tell her:

“You’re[private] pretty cool. You can help me pick up chicks.”[/private]
This takes the possibility out of her head that I was hitting on her while still putting us on the same team mentality.

To stand out in her mind, you need to make an emotional impact on her

Posted by on March 6, 2011 411 comments

When she sees that [private] a guy’s life is exciting, she works to feel special to him or that she has earned his attention. Women value what they work for much more than what their looks have made available to them. If she has taken steps to gain her rewards, then she is rewarded for what she does, not her luck in the gene pool.[/private]