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Creative Date Ideas
Make a movie together—find odd props around the house, then come up with a funny scenario to act out.
Have a backwards date and do everything backwards from what you normally do on a date.
Find a little stream or small river and make boats out of aluminum foil then race them! Bet little things for the winner, such as “if my boat wins you have to hold my hand” or “if my boat wins you have to show me your favorite childhood park” its fun, creative, and competative. Good ice breaker and fun!~Jenn
Put on funny accents and go around town asking for directions to places that don’t exist ~ Mark
Gather a lot of make up. Your date makes you look “pretty”. And you make your date look “pretty”. And take picture and send the pics to your best friend who decides who looks “prettier”. And Have fun!!! ~kay
Dress in all black – buy window paint and go around town drawing funny pictures on your friends cars.
Buy flowers and give them to random people on the street who look like they need a “pick-me-up”
Get a raft and put ii in a pool. Everyone get on the raft and watch “Jaws” projected on the side of the house.
Go out with some clip boards and do a survey in a public place. Use funny questions about how many times people brush their teeth and what they had for dinner.
Make something creative with clay
Cartoon date: Meet at 9am and watch cartoons while eating your favorite kids cereal…must be in your pajamas.
Go panning for gold in a river. Wear a funny hat and act like you really need to find some.
Go to a restaurant—just order appetizers
Go chat with random people and see how long people will talk with you in public place.
Make kites—go to a local park to fly them.
For a Creative group date – Go on a scavenger hunt in your neighborhood to find all the ingredients you need to make cookies. When the cookies are made, take them to a mutual friend or maybe a grandparent.
Go “people watching” at the mall—it can be fun to just sit and talk.
Go on a “Video Scavenger Hunt”
Directions: Each team has a video camera and a list of scenarios to get footage of — Here are a few possible ideas: Interview a complete stranger about something random, find a random stranger and greet them like an old friend, pretend to know them from somewhere, stage a “break up”, yell at each other and draw lots of attention, try on clothing for the opposite sex. As you can tell, this can be a ton of fun, especially when you go back and watch your footage.
Go for a bike ride in your neighborhood—maybe find a tandem bicycle to borrow or rent.
Go to the park and feed the birds
Go to random spots in your hometown and take pictures – Be creative and this date can be a lot of fun.
Go to your local animal shelter and play with the animals—Who knows, you just might find a new friend
Have a “Bring your own topping” waffle party—assign each group member to bring his or her favorite waffle toppings
Make homemade ice cream together
Make Cupcakes together – Decorate them with icing, sprinkles, or anything! Cupcake Liners & Wrappers
Lay trash bags on the floor and eat spaghetti together with your hands.
Find inner tubes and float down a nearby river
Get a role of quarters and have a contest to see who can get the best and most creative item from the 25cent machines (maybe in a shopping mall)
Go to the thrift store with 5 dollars; have a contest to see who can get the best item Or–buy clothing for your date – wear the clothing on the date
Color pictures together—find a fun coloring book or print coloring book pages off of the Internet
Creative finger painting date—put on an apron cuz this can get messy. Find some big paper or maybe a cardboard box and make a masterpiece together.
Blind-Fold Miniature Golf—miniature golf is fun, but it can be even more fun when you add some variations; play a round with blindfolds, then try playing three legged miniature golf (tie your dates left leg to your right leg)
Visit garage sales—Travel around your neighborhood on a Saturday morning and visit the garage sales.
Build a fort together out of blankets and furniture, or make your own haunted house
Take a trip to your local hobby shop – pick out a project to work on for the afternoon—maybe build a boat, or a rocket, something that you can play with!
Play the game “Bigger or Better”
Directions: Each couple starts with something small—go door to door in your neighborhood asking people to triad you for something bigger or better than the item. At the end of a specified amount of time, gather together as a group and vote on who got the biggest and best item.
Go ice blocking—slide down big hills on a large block of ice. Bring towels to lay on the ice (to sit on).
Make creative outfits for each other out of newspaper, then have a fashion show!
Set up a tent in your front room, sit in the tent and eat dinner on a blanket–build a
fake fire, or roast marshmallows over a candle.
Have a progressive meal
Directions: Select different restaurants around town and go to each one. Order drinks at one, appetizers at another, go somewhere new for the main course, and top it off with your favorite desert in town.
Go on a nature walk and pick up garbage on the way, give a prize for the strangest item found, and for the most garbage collected. Its fun, and your doing service in your community!
Go on a picnic, but choose somewhere extremely random–like on your roof
Read a book together—Choose your favorite childhood story and read aloud
Put on a play – choose a popular story from literature, or a movie
If you or your date are the Creative Musical type – Write a song together
Build a sand castle—this could be at the beach, or even in a sand box
Make your own drive in movie! Borrow or rent a projector and watch a movie in your backyard, or set your TV up in the garage and watch your favorite movies from inside your car.
Wii Olympics — get a group together and have a competition using Wii Sports
Glow sticks in a park – need we say more
Build something together with legos or lincoln Logs
Have a Fondue party – Get a good Fondue recipe (they are all over online) and have a Fondue dinner, or Fondue desserts.
Play dress up—be sure to take lots of pictures
Make life lists together—all the things you want to do before you die – Be creative and help your date come up with some fun things.
Have a Marshmallow eating contest — see who in the group can fit the most mallows in their mouth!
Directions: Dress up in your Halloween costume (any time of year) and walk around town with your date knocking on doors. Instead of asking for trick-or-treats, bring treats of your own to hand out.
Play live Clue—This one requires some creativity
Directions: Hand out clues to each individual in the group (location, weapon, killer etc..) ask each other questions to determine the killer. This can be a lot of fun but requires some creativity and preparation.
Have a “LAN Party”—a computer game night with everyone playing at the same place. This can be fun even if you don’t normally enjoy video games—just laugh together and have a good time.
Make a fancy resturant in your apartment/room and have your friends serve you with food you made.
Go to ChuckeCheese or Mcdonalds for dinner. Do activities that would be a kids dream to do. Arcades and Disney movies rock.
Frisbee in the dark with glow sticks and a light up frisbee ~JaNae
Pick a culture of the world and imitate with food, activities, and clothes to match.
Make your date decide.
Directions: make it mysterious for your date–take your ideas to them throughout the week, tell them to just answer the random questions you ask them. For example: red or white (color of flower you bring) fast or slow ( fast food or sit down restaurant) hot or cold (Ice Cream or hot cocoa) – Anything will work. You ask them during the week then during the date reveal to them what they decided. It’s quirky and cute but fun.
Go to an art museum with a date that appreciates art just as much as you do( more fun if that appreciation is minimal) and make fun of the art. Gives time for good one on one convo and you can show off your funny side. If you really do love art thats great too!
Here is a Creative Date Idea – Play paint twister. Make a twister mat using some old plastic (like a tablecloth)– except put paint where the colored dots would be. SO MUCH FUN ~Julie
Have a fancy dinner consisting of breakfast cereal. (Its funner if they see the fancy setting before they know what’s on the menu, then they get a funny surprise). ~ Dani
Build paper airplanes and shoot them down with shotguns. ~Dave
Have a paint war. Get large bath sponges and cut them into baseball size sponges then dip them in buckets of washable paint and go crazy. ~Andy
Kidnapping – this can be fun when done by boy Or girl. A group of guys or girls go out and kidnapp their dates, blind fold them, the whole shabang. Then surprise them by taking them to a cute picnic at the park. Fun if it’s with a group or can be a cute romantic single date. ~ Allyson
Survivor date- double date, select several activities such as a game, puzzles, eating contest etc… and have competition with the other couple to see who is better. You can also play it so that the loser buys desserts. Makes it more interesting. ~ Matt
Make a list of outrageous things on a Bingo card like mullets, scrunchies, spandex pants and hiking boots, etc and walk around Wal Mart trying to find people sporting the items on your bingo cards. Loser has to buy the winner Hot Pockets for dinner ~ Dena
Go to the park and have a picnic. But to mix it up a little have one of your friends come and dance for you (ribbon dancing is always good). It is quite the sight! ~Michelle
Eat lunch in the middle of a round-a-bout. Bring a blanket and a basket, have fun, and watch peoples faces as they circle you ~Aaron Ross
Play hide-and-seek with multiple couples in walmart! You and your date are a team against the other couples! ~ Michael
Buy little tubs and fill them with different colored paint. Have a paint war! ~Kaitlyn
Build a fort in your house using blankets and tables/furniture..etc. Then you can play games, watch a movie, do a coloring book, do a puzzle..anything you want inside the fort.
Find some good skipping rocks, buy some glow sticks, and go to a lake. Take a plastic bag and put the rocks in the bag — break the glow sticks open and pour them into the bag with the rocks — mix it around. by the way you do this at night. Then skip the rocks and see them glowing as they skip across the water. ~ Micah
Go with your date to a movie one night with a big group of friends. Although instead of staying and watcing the movie you and you’r date ditch the rest and go for a walk. Find somewhere calm and quite that would be a great place to be alone. You will of had preset a blanket and a picnic basket at this place all ready for you and your date’s arrivial. Inside the basket should be pizza that you asked to be cut in the shape of a heart and something to drink (simple stuff be creative). You and you’r date will have a great time under the stars cuddled up on a blanket and afterword you’r date will have a fantastic story to tell to their friends who were wondering where in the world you two went. ~ Howi
Go to a party store or a costume store and buy some crazy hats and fake mustaches. Anything to make you look goofy. Then take on a fake accent and a name and go out to a public place and eat. Tell random stories and make yourself look outrageous but not obnoxious. This is super fun because it makes the people around you laugh and cheer up but at the same time you and your date are having a blast being silly. ~ Devi
Go to a store, Ikea works great, and in all the room settings, make up a scenario and act them out. For example, in one room that has a tv, pretend you’re watching a scary movie
What You Need To Know
Consider foreplay a 24-hour experience that happens in and out of the bedroom.
Play to your strengths by being confident in your abilities.
Think in terms of stimulating her vulva rather than just penetrating the vagina.
1- Think like a “knob,” you turn up and down not a “switch.”
When comparing male and female sexuality, there’s no shortage of adages: “Men are like light switches — just flip them on, and they’re ready to go. Women are like knobs — you can turn them up and down.” Or as Dr. Emily Nagoski writes in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, “Men are like driving standard transmission — if you move through the gears in the right order, you will get where you want to go. Women are like baking a soufflé — the outcome depends on the ingredients and the chef, sure, but it also depends on the reliability of the oven, the altitude, the humidity of the day… more variables, more variability.” In short, think of foreplay as a 24-hour experience that happens both in and out of the bedroom. Sex is all about context. And while it may take very little to rev your engine, remember that she probably needs to simmer.
2- When you’re getting it on, make sure she’s completely relaxed and comfortable.
Researchers in the Netherlands have found that the key to getting a woman turned on and to the heights of orgasmic bliss is a deep sense of relaxation and a lack of anxiety. Brain scans showed that the parts of women’s brains responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion slowed down the more aroused they became, producing a trancelike state at orgasm. Men showed far less change in these regions. “What this means is that deactivation, letting go of all fear and anxiety, might be the most important thing, even necessary, to have an orgasm,” says the study’s lead researcher, Dr. Gert Holstege.
3- Take the time to figure out what works.
Every woman is different, and most women don’t even orgasm the first couple of times they’re with a guy. A woman has to feel comfortable, and a guy has to figure out what makes her tick sexually. Some women love wet, sloppy kisses; other women find saliva a total turnoff. Some women love lots of breast stimulation; other women can’t stand it at all. Some women love to be on top in bed; others love missionary style. Some women respond to intense clitoral stimulation; others require very little. Some women have an innate capacity to experience multiple orgasms; others are more like guys — they roll over, and they’re ready to go to sleep. Figure out a sex script that works, and stick to it. Sure, familiarity can breed boredom, but it can also yield consistent orgasms.
4- Once you know what works, wrap it in something fresh: fantasy.
A healthy fantasy life is one of the keys to a great sex life — even when your partner might not always play the leading role. Most people find that they are most sexually satisfied when they are intimate with one person with whom they feel completely comfortable. Along with this intimacy comes the freedom to let go and explore, including fantasizing about other people, places and situations. One study on sexual fantasy by noted expert Dr. Harold Leitenberg found that sexual fantasies occur most often in people with the highest sexual satisfaction and the healthiest sex lives. If you need some ideas, check out our Good in Bed Guide to 52 Weeks of Amazing Sex, in which we offer a different sexy scenario for every week of the year.
5- Play to your strengths.
Very few guys make love like porn stars, nor should we. We live in the real world, and we all have sexual strengths and weaknesses. For example, I suffered from premature ejaculation for years and compensated with oral sex. Some men suffer from erectile disorder on a regular basis, and some guys have a smaller-than-average penis. Develop “sex scripts” — paths to pleasure — that play to your strengths. And be willing to communicate. As Dr. Madeleine Castellanos writes in her guide to Male Sexual Issues, “Wouldn’t it be great if penises could talk — honestly and clearly — about their feelings, especially when it comes to issues in the bedroom?” Most women don’t know how to “speak penis,” so give them a clue.
6- Get cliterate.
When embarking on a journey of female sexual response, know your way around her vulva — from the northern tippy-top of the clitoral glans (the “love-button,” so to speak), to the western and eastern boundaries of the labia minora (her inner lips), to the southernmost regions of the perineum (the smooth expanse of skin just below the vaginal entrance) and anus. Stop thinking of the clitoris as a little bump, and start thinking of it as a complex network, a pleasure dome, the Xanadu at the heart of female sexuality. The clitoris has more than 8,000 nerve fibers — more than any other part of the human body — and interacts with another 15,000 nerve fibers that service the entire pelvic area. “Nerves are like wolves or birds: If one starts crying, there goes the neighborhood,” writes Natalie Angier of the clitoral network. Think in terms of stimulating her vulva rather than just penetrating her vagina.
7- The tongue is mightier than the sword.
When it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man’s native tongue. Even porn star Ron Jeremy, in possession of the famous 10-inch member, observed, “More women have gotten off with my tongue than with my penis.” Once found, a skilled cunnilinguist rarely goes unappreciated. Not sure exactly how? Just press a flat, still tongue against her vulva, and let her do the work. It’s the cunnilingus equivalent of letting her get on top.Unfortunately many men do not learn the true principles of cunnilingus or how to pleasure a woman at the outset, and so, even with the best intentions, their form is without substance. If we were to compare cunnilingus to another art — the martial arts — it would be Tai Chi. Unlike Kung Fu, Tai Chi is slow, focused and graceful, with an emphasis on the balance of yin/yang (male/female energy) to create a harmony of movement and strength. Artful cunnilingus involves many of the same principles as Tai Chi: stillness within movement, balance and pressure, resistance, and key postures. In the Good in Bed Guide to Orally Pleasuring a Woman, we outline our approach to sexual Tai Chi, also called the Mount Method.
8- Show some sexual courtesy, as in “she comes first.”
Unlike men, women don’t reach a point of “orgasmic inevitability” — the moment when, even without further physical stimulation, a guy ventures past the point of no return. In fact, men and women are so different in this respect that many women claim to “lose” an orgasm just as they’re on the verge of having one, which can be particularly frustrating, especially if it occurs regularly. Guys need to pay attention to the journey through female arousal, particularly those final moments of potential orgasmic ecstasy. Recognize the visible signs of female arousal, mainly the muscular tension that develops throughout her body and that wi
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AN IRON WILL
ORISON SWETT MARDEN
TRAINING THE WILL.
“The education of the will is the object of our existence,” says Emerson.
Nor is this putting it too strongly, if we take into account the human will in its relations to the
divine. This accords with the saying of J. Stuart Mill, that “a character is a completely fashioned
In respect to mere mundane relations, the development and discipline of one‘s will-power is of
supreme moment in relation to success in life. No man can ever estimate the power of will. It
is a part of the divine nature, all of a piece with the power of creation. We speak of God‘s ﬁat
“Fiat lux, Let light be.” Man has his ﬁat. The achievements of history have been the choices, the
determinations, the creations, of the human will. It was the will, quiet or pugnacious, gentle or
grim, of men like Wilberforce and Garrison, Goodyear and Cyrus Field, Bismarck and Grant,
that made them indomitable. They simply would do what they planned. Such men can no more
be stopped than the sun can be, or the tide. Most men fail, not through lack of education or
agreeable personal qualities, but from lack of dogged determination, from lack of dauntless
“It is impossible,” says Sharman, “to look into the conditions under which the battle of life is
being fought, without perceiving how much really depends upon the extent to which the willpower is cultivated, strengthened, and made operative in right directions.” Young people need
to go into training for it. We live in an age of athletic meets. Those who are determined to have
athletic will-power must take for it the kind of exercise they need.
This is well illustrated by a report I have seen of the long race from Marathon in the recent
Olympian games, which was won by the young Greek peasant, Sotirios Louès.
A STRUGGLE IN THE RACE OF LIFE.
There had been no great parade about the training of this champion runner. From his work at the
plough he quietly betook himself to the task of making Greece victorious before the assembled
strangers from every land. He was known to be a good runner, and without fuss or bustle he
entered himself as a competitor. But it was not his speed alone, out-distancing every rival, that
made the young Greek stand out from among his fellows that day. When he left his cottage
home at Amarusi, his father said to him, “Sotiri, you must only return a victor!” The light of
a ﬁrm resolve shone in the young man‘s eye. The old father was sure that his boy would win,
and so he made his way to the station, there to wait till Sotiri should come in ahead of all the
rest. No one knew the old man and his three daughters as they elbowed their way through the
crowd. When at last the excitement of the assembled multitude told that the critical moment 2
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had arrived, that the racers were nearing the goal, the old father looked up through eyes that
were a little dim as he realized that truly Sotiri was leading the way. He was “returning a victor.” How the crowd surged about the young peasant when the race was fairly won! Wild with
excitement, they knew not how to shower upon him sufﬁcient praise. Ladies overwhelmed him
with ﬂowers and rings; some even gave him their watches, and one American lady bestowed
upon him her jeweled smelling-bottle. The princes embraced him, and the king himself saluted
him in military fashion. But the young Sotirios was seeking for other praise than theirs. Past the
ranks of royalty and fair maidenhood, past the outstretched hands of his own countrymen, past
the applauding crowd of foreigners, his gaze wandered till it fell upon an old man trembling
with eagerness, who resolutely pushed his way through the excited, satisﬁed throng. Then the
young face lighted, and as old Louès advanced to the innermost circle with arms outstretched to
embrace his boy, the young victor said, simply: “You see, father, I have obeyed.”
The athlete trains for his race; and the mind must be put into training if one will win life‘s
“It is,” says Professor Mathews, “only by continued, strenuous efforts, repeated again and again,
day after day, week after week, and month after month, that the ability can be acquired to fasten
the mind to one subject, however abstract or knotty, to the exclusion of everything else. The
process of obtaining this self-mastery—this complete command of one‘s mental powers–is a
gradual one, its length varying with the mental constitution of each person; but its acquisition
is worth inﬁnitely more than the utmost labor it ever costs.”
“Perhaps the most valuable result of all education,” it was said by Professor Huxley, “is the ability to make yourself do the thing you have to do when it ought to be done, whether you like it or
not; it is the ﬁrst lesson which ought to be learned, and, however early a man‘s training begins,
it is probably the last lesson which he learns thoroughly.”
DOING THINGS ONCE.
When Henry Ward Beecher was asked how it was that he could accomplish so much more than
other men, he replied:
“I don‘t do more, but less, than other people. They do all their work three times over: once in
anticipation, once in actuality, once in rumination. I do mine in actuality alone, doing it once
instead of three times.”
This was by the intelligent exercise of Mr. Beecher‘s will-power in concentrating his mind upon
what he was doing at a given moment, and then turning to something else. Any one who has
observed business men closely, has noticed this characteristic. One of the secrets of a successful
life is to be able to hold all of our energies upon one point, to focus all of the scattered rays of
the mind upon one place or thing.3
Orison Swett Marden An Iron Will
The mental reservoir of most people is like a leaky dam which we sometimes see in the country,
where the greater part of the water ﬂows out without going over the wheel and doing the work
of the mill. The habit of mind-wandering, of worrying about this and that,
“Genius, that power which dazzles mortal eyes,
Is oft but Perseverance in disguise.”
Many a man would have been a success had he connected his fragmentary efforts. Spasmodic,
disconnected attempts, without concentration, uncontrolled by any ﬁxed idea, will never bring
success. It is continuity of purpose alone that achieves results.
LEARNING TO SWIM.
The way to learn to run is to run, the way to learn to swim is to swim. The way to learn to develop will-power is by the actual exercise of will-power in the business of life. “The man that
exercises his will,” says an English essayist, “makes it a stronger and more effective force in
proportion to the extent to which such exercise is intelligently and perseveringly maintained.”
The forth-putting of will-power is a means of strengthening willpower. The will becomes strong
by exercise. To stick to a thing till you are master, is a test of intellectual discipline and power.
“It is astonishing,” says Dr. Theodore Cuyler, “how many men lack this power of ‚holding
on‘ until they reach the goal. They can make a sudden dash, but they lack grit. They are easily
discouraged. They get on as long as everything goes smoothly, but when there is friction they
lose heart. They depend on stronger personalities for their spirit and strength. They lack independence or originality. They only dare to do what others do. They do not step boldly from the
crowd and act fearlessly.”
THE BIG TREES.
What is needed by him who would succeed in the highest degree possible is careful planning.
He is to accumulate reserved power, that he may be equal to all emergencies. Thomas Starr
King said that the great trees of California gave him his ﬁrst impression of the power of reserve.
“It was the thought of the reserve energies that had been compacted into them,” he said, “that
stirred me. The mountains had given them their iron and rich stimulants, the hills had given
them their soil, the clouds had given their rain and snow, and a thousand summers and winters
had poured forth their treasures about their vast roots.”
No young man can hope to do anything above the commonplace who has not made his life a
reservoir of power on which he can constantly draw, which will never fail him in any emergency. Be sure that you have stored away, in your power-house, the energy, the knowledge that will
be equal to the great occasion when it comes. “If I were twenty, and had but ten years to live,”
said a great scholar and writer, “I would spend the ﬁrst nine years accumulating knowledge and
getting ready for the tenth.”4
Orison Swett Marden An Iron Will
“There are no two words in the English language which stand out in bolder relief, like kings
upon a checkerboard, to so great an extent as the words ‚I will.‘ There is strength, depth and
solidity, decision, conﬁdence and power, determination, vigor and individuality, in the round,
ringing tone which characterizes its delivery. It talks to you of triumph over difﬁculties, of victory in the face of discouragement, of will to promise and strength to perform, of lofty and daring enterprise, of unfettered aspirations, and of the thousand and one solid impulses by which
man masters impediments in the way of progression.”
As one has well said: “He who is silent is forgotten; he who does not advance falls back; he who
stops is overwhelmed, distanced, crushed; he who ceases to become greater, becomes smaller;
he who leaves off gives up; the stationary is the beginning of the end–it precedes death; to live
is to achieve, to will without ceasing.”
Be thou a hero; let thy might
Tramp on eternal snows its way,
And through the ebon walls of night,
Hew down a passage unto day.
THE RULERS OF DESTINY.
There is no chance, no destiny, no fate,
Can circumvent, or hinder, or control
The ﬁrm resolve of a determined soul.
Gifts count for nothing; will alone is great;
All things give way before it soon or late.
What obstacle can stay the mighty force
Of the sea-seeking river in its course,
Or cause the ascending orb of day to wait?
Each well-born soul must win what it deserves.
Let the fool prate of luck. The fortunate
Is he whose earnest purpose never swerves,
Whose slightest action or inaction serves
The one great aim.
Ella Wheeler Wilcox.
There is always room for a man of force.–Emerson.
The king is the man who can.–Carlyle.5
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A strong, deﬁant purpose is many-handed, and lays hold of whatever is
near that can serve it; it has a magnetic power that draws to itself
whatever is kindred.–T.T. Munger.
What is will-power, looked at in a large way, but energy of character? Energy of will, selforiginating force, is the soul of every great character. Where it is, there is life; where it is not,
there is faintness, helplessness, and despondency. “Let it be your ﬁrst study to teach the world
that you are not wood and straw; that there is some iron in you.” Men who have left their mark
upon the world have been men of great and prompt decision. The achievements of will-power
are almost beyond computation. Scarcely anything seems impossible to the man who can will
strongly enough and long enough. One talent with a will behind it will accomplish more than
ten without it, as a thimbleful of powder in a riﬂe, the bore of whose barrel will give it direction,
will do greater execution than a carload burned in the open air.
“THE WILLS, THE WON‘TS, AND THE CAN‘TS.”
“There are three kinds of people in the world,” says a recent writer, “the wills, the won‘ts, and
the can‘ts. The ﬁrst accomplish everything; the second oppose everything; the third fail in everything.”
The shores of fortune, as Foster says, are covered with the stranded wrecks of men of brilliant
ability, but who have wanted courage, faith, and decision, and have therefore perished in sight
of more resolute but less capable adventurers, who succeeded in making port.
Were I called upon to express in a word the secret of so many failures among those who started
out with high hopes, I should say they lacked will-power. They could not half will: and what is
a man without a will? He is like an engine without steam. Genius unexecuted is no more genius
than a bushel of acorns is a forest of oaks.
Will has been called the spinal column of personality. “The will in its relation to life,” says an
English writer, “may be compared at once to the rudder and to the steam engine of a vessel, on
the conﬁned and related action of which it depends entirely for the direction of its course and
the vigor of its movement.”
Strength of will is the test of a young man‘s possibilities. Can he will strong enough, and hold
whatever he undertakes with an iron grip? It is the iron grip that takes and holds. What chance
is there in this crowding, pushing, selﬁsh, greedy world, where everything is pusher or pushed,
for a young man with no will, no grip on life? The man who would forge to the front in this
competitive age must be a man of prompt and determined decision.
A TAILOR‘S NEEDLE.
It is in one of Ben Jonson‘s old plays: “When I once take the humor of a thing, I am like your
tailor‘s needle—I go through with it.”
This is not different from Richelieu, who said: “When I have once taken a resolution, I go
straight to my aim; I overthrow all, I cut down all.”6
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And in business affairs the counsel of Rothschild is to the same effect: “Do without fail that
which you determine to do.”
Gladstone‘s children were taught to accomplish to the end whatever they might begin, no matter how insigniﬁcant the undertaking might be.
WHAT IS WORSE THAN RASHNESS
It is irresolution that is worse than rashness. “He that shoots,” says Feltham, “may sometimes
hit the mark; but he that shoots not at all can never hit it. Irresolution is like an ague; it shakes
not this nor that limb, but all the body is at once in a ﬁt.”
The man who is forever twisting and turning, backing and ﬁlling, hesitating and dawdling,
shufﬂing and parleying, weighing and balancing, splitting hairs over non-essentials, listening to
every new motive which presents itself, will never accomplish anything. But the positive man,
the decided man, is a power in the world, and stands for something; you can measure him, and
estimate the work that his energy will accomplish.
Opportunity is coy, is swift, is gone, before the slow, the unobservant, the indolent, or the careless can seize her. “Vigilance in watching opportunity,” said Phelps, “tact and daring in seizing upon opportunity; force and persistence in crowding opportunity to its utmost of possible
achievement–these are the martial virtues which must command success.” “The best men,”
remarked Chapin, “are not those who have waited for chances, but who have taken them; besieged the chance; conquered the chance; and made chance the servitor.”
Is it not possible to classify successes and failures by their various degrees of will-power? A
man who can resolve vigorously upon a course of action, and turns neither to the right nor to
the left, though a paradise tempt him, who keeps his eyes upon the goal, whatever distracts him,
is sure of success.
“Not every vessel that sails from Tarshish will bring back the gold of Ophir. But shall it therefore rot in the harbor? No! Give its sails to the wind!”
“Conscious power,” says Mellès, “exists within the mind of every one. Sometimes its existence
is unrealized, but it is there. It is there to be developed and brought forth, like the culture of
that obstinate but beautiful ﬂower, the orchid. To allow it to remain dormant is to place one‘s
self in obscurity, to trample on one‘s ambition, to smother one‘s faculties. To develop it is to
individualize all that is best within you, and give it to the world. It is by an absolute knowledge
of yourself, the proper estimate of your own value.”
“There is hardly a reader,” says an experienced educator, “who will not be able to recall the
early life of at least one young man whose childhood was spent in poverty, and who, in boyhood, expressed a ﬁrm desire to secure a higher education. If, a little later, that desire became
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mosphere which attracted the forces necessary to the attainment of the purpose. Many of these
young men will tell us that, as long as they were hoping and striving and longing, mountains
of difﬁculty rose before them; but that when they fashioned their hopes into ﬁxed purposes aid
came unsought to help them on the way.”
DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF?
The man without self-reliance and an iron will is the plaything of chance, the puppet of his
environment, the slave of circumstances. Are not doubts the greatest of enemies? If you would
succeed up to the limit of your possibilities, must you not constantly hold to the belief that you
are success-organized, and that you will be successful, no matter what opposes? You are never
to allow a shadow of doubt to enter your mind that the Creator intended you to win in life‘s
battle. Regard every suggestion that your life may be a failure, that you are not made like those
who succeed, and that success is not for you, as a traitor, and expel it from your mind as you
would a thief from your house.
There is something sublime in the youth who possesses the spirit of boldness and fearlessness,
who has proper conﬁdence in his ability to do and dare.
The world takes us at our own valuation. It believes in the man who believes in himself, but it
has little use for the timid man, the one who is never certain of himself; who cannot rely on his
own judgment, who craves advice from others, and is afraid to go ahead on his own account.
It is the man with a positive nature, the man who believes that he is equal to the emergency,
who believes he can do the thing he attempts, who wins the conﬁdence of his fellow-man. He
is beloved because he is brave and self-sufﬁcient.
Those who have accomplished great things in the world have been, as a rule, bold, aggressive,
and self-conﬁdent. They dared to step out from the crowd, and act in an original way. They were
not afraid to be generals.
There is little room in this crowding, competing age for the timid, vacillating youth. He who
would succeed today must not only be brave, but must also dare to take chances. He who waits
for certainty never wins.
“The law of the soul is eternal endeavor,
That bears the man onward and upward forever.”
“A man can be too conﬁding in others, but never too conﬁdent in himself.”
Never admit defeat or poverty. Stoutly assert your divine right to hold your head up and look
the world in the face; step bravely to the front whatever opposes, and the world will make way
for you. No one will insist upon your rights while you yourself doubt that you have any. Believe
you were made for the place you ﬁll. Put forth your whole energies. Be awake, electrify yourself; go forth to the task. A young man once said to his employer, “Don‘t give me an easy job. I
want to handle heavy boxes, shoulder great loads. I would like to lift a big mountain and throw
it into the sea,”–and he stretched out two brawny arms, while his honest eyes danced and his
whole being glowed with conscious strength.8
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The world in its heart admires the stern, determined doer. “The world turns aside to let any man
pass who knows whither he is going.” “It is wonderful how even the apparent casualties of life
seem to bow to a spirit that will not bow to them, and yield to assist a design, after having in
vain attempted to frustrate it.”
“The man who succeeds,” says Prentice Mulford, “must always in mind or imagination live,
move, think, and act as if he gained that success, or he never will gain it.”
“We go forth,” said Emerson, “austere, dedicated, believing in the iron links of Destiny, and
will not turn on our heels to save our lives. A book, a bust, or only the sound of a name shoots
a spark through the nerves, and we suddenly believe in will. We cannot hear of personal vigor
of any kind, great power of performance, without fresh resolution.”
FORCE OF WILL IN CAMP AND FIELD.
Oh, what miracles have been wrought by the self-conﬁdence, the self-determination of an iron
will! What impossible deeds have been performed by it! It was this that took Napoleon over the
Alps in midwinter; it took Farragut and Dewey past the cannons, torpedoes, and mines of the
enemy; it led Nelson and Grant to victory; it has been the great tonic in the world of discovery,
invention, and art; it has helped to win the thousand triumphs in war and science which were
The secret of Jeanne d‘Arc‘s success was not alone in rare decision of character, but in the seeing of visions which inspired her to self-conﬁdence–conﬁdence in her divine mission.
It was an iron will that gave Nelson command of the British ﬂeet, a title, and a statue at Trafalgar Square It was the keynote of his character when he said, “When I don‘t know whether to
ﬁght or not, I always ﬁght.”
It was an iron will that was brought into play when Horatius with two companions held ninety
thousand Tuscans at bay until the bridge across the Tiber had been destroyed–when Leonidas at
Thermopylæ checked the mighty march of Xerxes–when Themistocles off the coast of Greece
shattered the Persian‘s Armada—when Cæsar ﬁnding his army hard pressed seized spear and
buckler and snatched victory from defeat—when Winkelried gathered to his breast a sheaf of
Austrian spears and opened a path for his comrades—when Wellington fought in many climes
without ever being conquered–when Ney on a hundred ﬁelds changed apparent disaster into
brilliant triumph–when Sheridan arrived from Winchester as the Union retreat was becoming
a route and turned the tide–when Sherman signaled his men to hold the fort knowing that their
leader was coming.
History furnishes thousands of examples of men who have seized occasions to accomplish results deemed impossible by those less resolute. Prompt decision and whole-souled action sweep
the world before them. Who was the organizer of the modern German empire? Was he not the
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NAPOLEON AND GRANT.
“What would you do if you were besieged in a place entirely destitute of provisions?” asked the
examiner, when Napoleon was a cadet.
“If there were anything to eat in the enemy‘s camp, I should not be concerned.”
When Paris was in the hands of a mob, and the authorities were panic-stricken, in came a man
who said, “I know a young ofﬁcer who can quell this mob.”
“Send for him.” Napoleon was sent for; he came, he subjugated the mob, he subjugated the
authorities, he ruled France, then conquered Europe.
May 10, 1796, Napoleon carried the bridge at Lodi, in the face of the Austrian batteries, trained
upon the French end of the structure. Behind them were six thousand troops. Napoleon massed
four thousand grenadiers at the head of the bridge, with a battalion of three hundred carbineers
in front. At the tap of the drum the foremost assailants wheeled from the cover of the street wall
under a terrible hail of grape and canister, and attempted to pass the gateway to the bridge. The
front ranks went down like stalks of grain before a reaper; the column staggered and reeled
backward, and the valiant grenadiers were appalled by the task before them. Without a word or
a look of reproach, Napoleon placed himself at their head, and his aids and generals rushd to
his side. Forward again over heaps of dead that choked the passage, and a quick run counted by
seconds only carried the column across two hundred yards of clear space, scarcely a shot from
the Austrians taking effect beyond the point where the platoons wheeled for the ﬁrst leap. The
guns of the enemy were not aimed at the advance. The advance was too quick for the Austrian
gunners. So sudden and so miraculous was it all, that the Austrian artillerists abandoned their
guns instantly, and their supports ﬂed in a panic instead of rushing to the front and meeting the
French onslaught. This Napoleon had counted on in making the bold attack.
What was Napoleon but the thunderbolt of war? He once journeyed from Spain to Paris at seventeen miles an hour in the saddle.
“Is it possible to cross the path?” asked Napoleon of the engineers who had been sent to explore
the dreaded pass of St. Bernard.
“Perhaps,” was the hesitating reply, “it is within the limits of possibility.”
Yet Ulysses S. Grant, a young man unknown to fame, with neither money nor inﬂuence, with
no patrons or friends, in six years fought more battles, gained more victories, captured more
prisoners, took more spoils, commanded more men, than Napoleon did in twenty years. “The
great thing about him,” said Lincoln, “is cool persistence.”
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began to swear. Colonel Wood, with the wisdom of a good leader, called out, amid the whistle
of the Mauser bullets: “Don‘t swear–ﬁght!”
In a skirmish at Salamanca, while the enemy‘s guns were pouring shot into his regiment, Sir
William Napier‘s men became disobedient. He at once ordered a halt, and ﬂogged four of the
ringleaders under ﬁre. The men yielded at once, and then marched three miles under a heavy
cannonade as coolly as if it were a review.
When Pellisier, the Crimean chief of Zouaves, struck an ofﬁcer with a whip, the man drew a
pistol that missed ﬁre. The chief replied: “Fellow, I order you a three days‘ arrest for not having
your arms in better order.”
The man of iron will is cool in the hour of danger.
“I HAD TO RUN LIKE A CYCLONE.”
This was what Roosevelt said about his pushing on up San Juan Hill ahead of his regiment: “I
had to run like a cyclone to stay in front and keep from being run over.”
The personal heroism of Hobson, or of Cushing, who blew up the “Albemarle” forty years ago,
was but the expression of a magniﬁcent will power. It was this which was the basis of General
Wheeler‘s unparalleled military advancement: a second lieutenant at twenty-three, a colonel
at twenty-four, a brigadier-general at twenty-ﬁve, a major-general at twenty-six, a corps commander at twenty-seven, and a lieutenant-general at twenty-eight.
General Wheeler had sixteen horses killed under him, and a great number wounded. His saddle
equipments and clothes were frequently struck by the missiles of the enemy. He was three
times wounded, once painfully. He had thirty-two staff ofﬁcers, or acting staff ofﬁcers, killed
or wounded. In almost every case they were immediately by his side. No ofﬁcer was ever more
exposed to the missiles of death than Joseph Wheeler.
What is this imperial characteristic of manhood, an iron will, but that which underlies all magniﬁcent achievement, whether by heroes of the “Light Brigade” or the heroic ﬁre-ﬁghters of our
WILL POWER IN ITS RELATION TO HEALTH AND DISEASE.
There is no doubt that, as a rule, great decision of character is usually accompanied by great
constitutional ﬁrmness. Men who have been noted for great ﬁrmness of character have usually
been strong and robust. As a rule it is the strong physical man who carries weight and conviction. Take, as an example, William the Conqueror, as he is pictured by Green in his history:
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form, his enormous strength, his savage countenance, his desperate bravery. No other knight
under heaven, his enemies confessed, was William‘s peer. No other man could bend William‘s
bow. His mace crashed through a ring of English warriors to the foot of the standard. He rose
to his greatest heights in moments when other men despaired. No other man who ever sat upon
the throne of England was this man‘s match.”
Or, take Webster. Sydney Smith said: “Webster is a living lie; because no man on earth can be
as great as he looks.” Carlyle said of him: “One would incline at sight to back him against the
world.” His very physique was eloquent. Men yielded their wills to his at sight.
The great prizes of life ever fall to the robust, the stalwart, the strong,–not to a huge muscle
or powerful frame necessarily, but to a strong vitality, a great nervous energy. It is the Lord
Broughams, working almost continuously one hundred and forty-four hours; it is the Napoleons, twenty hours in the saddle; it is the Franklins, camping out in the open air at seventy; it
is the Gladstones, ﬁrmly grasping the helm of the ship of state at eighty-four, tramping miles
every day, and chopping down huge trees at eighty-ﬁve,–who accomplish the great things of
To prosper you must improve your brain power; and nothing helps the brain more than a healthy
body. The race of to-day is only to be won by those who will study to keep their bodies in such
good condition that their minds are able and ready to sustain that high pressure on memory and
mind, which our present ﬁerce competition engenders. It is health rather than strength that is
now wanted. Health is essentially the requirement of our time to enable us to succeed in life. In
all modern occupations–from the nursery to the school, from the school to the shop or world
beyond–the brain and nerve strain go on, continuous, augmenting, and intensifying.
As a rule physical vigor is the condition of a great career. Stonewall Jackson, early in life, determined to conquer every weakness he had, physical, mental, and moral. He held all of his powers
with a ﬁrm hand. To his great self-discipline and self-mastery he owed his success. So determined was he to harden himself to the weather that he could not be induced to wear an overcoat
in winter. “I will not give in to the cold,” he said. For a year, on account of dyspepsia, he lived
on buttermilk and stale bread, and wore a wet shirt next his body because his doctor advised
it, although everybody else ridiculed the idea. This was while he was professor at the Virginia
Military Institute. His doctor advised him to retire at nine o‘clock; and, no matter where he was,
or who was present, he always sought his bed on the minute. He adhered rigidly through life
to this stern system of discipline. Such self-training, such self-conquest, gives one great power
over others. It is equal to genius itself.
“I can do nothing,” said Grant, “without nine hours‘ sleep.”
What else is so grand as to stand on life‘s threshold, fresh, young, hopeful, with a consciousness of power equal to any emergency,–a master of the situation? The glory of a young man is
Our great need of the world to-day is for men and women who are good animals. To endure
the strain of our concentrated civilization, the coming man and woman must have an excess of
animal spirits. They must have a robustness of health. Mere absence of disease is not health. It
is the overﬂowing fountain, not the one half full, that gives life and beauty to the valley below.
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a bounding pulse throughout his body; who feels life in every limb, as dogs do when scouring
over the ﬁeld, or as boys do when gliding over ﬁelds of ice.
Yet in spite of all this, in deﬁance of it, we know that an iron will is often triumphant in the
contest with physical inﬁrmity.
“Brave spirits are a balsam to themselves:
There is a nobleness of mind that heals
Wounds beyond salves.”
“One day,” said a noted rope-walker, “I signed an agreement to wheel a barrow along a rope on
a given day. A day or two before I was seized with lumbago. I called in my medical man, and
told him I must be cured by a certain day; not only because I should lose what I hoped to earn,
but also forfeit a large sum. I got no better, and the doctor forbade my getting up. I told him,
‚What do I want with your advice? If you cannot cure me, of what good is your advice?‘ When
I got to the place, there was the doctor protesting I was unﬁt for the exploit. I went on, though I
felt like a frog with my back. I got ready my pole and my barrow, took hold of the handles and
wheeled it along the rope as well as I ever did. When I got to the end I wheeled it back again,
and when this was done I was a frog again. What made me that I could wheel the barrow? It
was my reserve will.”
“What does he know,” asks the sage, “who has not suffered?” Did not Schiller produce his
greatest tragedies in the midst of physical suffering almost amounting to torture? Handel was
never greater than when, warned by palsy of the approach of death, and struggling with distress
and suffering, he sat down to compose the great works which have made his name immortal
in music. Beethoven was almost totally deaf and burdened with sorrow when he produced his
greatest works. Milton writing “Who best can suffer, best can do,” wrote at his best when in
feeble health, and when poor and blind.
“… Yet I argue not
Against Heaven‘s hand or will, nor bate a jot
Of heart or hope; but still bear up and steer
The Rev. William H. Milburn, who lost his sight when a child, studied for the ministry, and
was ordained before he attained his majority. He has written half a dozen books, among them
a very careful history of the Mississippi Valley. He has long been chaplain of the lower house
Blind Fanny Crosby, of New York, was a teacher of the blind for many years. She has written
nearly three thousand hymns, among which are: “Pass Me not, O Gentle Saviour,” “Rescue the
Perishing,” “Saviour More than Life to Me,” and “Jesus keep Me near the Cross.”
“The truest help we can render one who is afﬂicted,” said Bishop Brooks, “is not to take his
burden from him, but to call out his best energy, that he may be able to bear.”13
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What a mighty will Darwin had! He was in continual ill health. He was in constant suffering.
His patience was marvellous. No one but his wife knew what he endured. “For forty years,” says
his son, “he never knew one day of health;” yet during those forty years he unremittingly forced
himself to do the work from which the mightiest minds and the strongest constitutions would
have shrunk. He had a wonderful power of sticking to a subject. He used almost to apologize for
his patience, saying that he could not bear to be beaten, as if it were a sign of weakness.
Bulwer advises us to refuse to be ill, never to tell people we are ill, never to own it ourselves.
Illness is one of those things which a man should resist on principle. Do not dwell upon your
ailments nor study your symptoms. Never allow yourself to be convinced that you are not complete master of yourself. Stoutly afﬁrm your own superiority over bodily ills. We should keep a
high ideal of health and harmony constantly before the mind.
Is not the mind the natural protector of the body? We cannot believe that the Creator has left the
whole human race entirely at the mercy of only about half a dozen speciﬁc drugs which always
act with certainty. There is a divine remedy placed within us for many of the ills we suffer. If
we only knew how to use this power of will and mind to protect ourselves, many of us would
be able to carry youth and cheerfulness with us into the teens of our second century. The mind
has undoubted power to preserve and sustain physical youth and beauty, to keep the body strong
and healthy, to renew life, and to preserve it from decay, many years longer than it does now.
The longest-lived men and women have, as a rule, been those who have attained great mental
and moral development. They have lived in the upper region of a higher life, beyond the reach
of much of the jar, the friction, and the discords which weaken and shatter most lives.
Every physician knows that courageous people, with indomitable will, are not half as likely to
contract contagious diseases as the timid, the vacillating, the irresolute. A thoughtful physician
once assured a friend that if an express agent were to visit New Orleans in the yellow-fever season, having forty thousand dollars in his care, he would be in little danger of the fever so long
as he kept possession of the money. Let him once deliver that into other hands, and the sooner
he left the city the better.
Napoleon used to visit the plague hospitals even when the physicians dreaded to go, and actually put his hands upon the plague-stricken patients. He said the man who was not afraid could
vanish the plague. A will power like this is a strong tonic to the body. Such a will has taken
many men from apparent death-beds, and enabled them to perform wonderful deeds of valor.
When told by his physicians that he must die, Douglas Jerrold said: “And leave a family of
helpless children? I won‘t die.” He kept his word, and lived for years.
THE ROMANCE OF ACHIEVEMENT UNDER DIFFICULTIES.
What doth the poor man‘s son inherit?
Stout muscles, and a sinewy heart,
A hardy frame, a hardier spirit!
King of two hands he does his part
In every useful toil and art:
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A king might wish to hold in fee.
Has not God given every man a capital to start with? Are we not born rich? He is rich who has
good health, a sound body, good muscles; he is rich who has a good head, a good disposition,
a good heart; he is rich who has two good hands, with ﬁve chances on each. Equipped? Every
man is equipped as only God could equip him. What a fortune he possesses in the marvellous
mechanism of his body and mind. It is individual effort that has achieved everything worth
THE FUN OF THE LITTLE GAME.
A big Australian, six feet four, James Tyson, died not long since, with a property of $25,000,000,
who began life as a farm hand. Tyson cared little for money. He used to say of it:
“I shall just leave it behind me when I go. I shall have done with it then, and it will not concern
me afterwards. But,” he would add, with a characteristic semi-exultant snap of the ﬁngers, “the
money is nothing. It was the little game that was the fun.”
Being asked, “What was the little game?” he replied with an energy of concentration peculiar
to him: “Fighting the desert. That has been my work. I have been ﬁghting the desert all my life,
and I have won. I have put water where was no water, and beef where was no beef. I have put
fences where there were no fences, and roads where there were no roads. Nothing can undo
what I have done, and millions will be happier for it after I am long dead and forgotten.”
Has not self-help accomplished about all the great things of the world? How many young men
falter, faint, and dally with their purpose because they have no capital to start with, and wait and
wait for some good luck to give them a lift. But success is the child of drudgery and perseverance. It cannot be coaxed or bribed; pay the price, and it is yours. A constant struggle, a ceaseless
battle to bring success from inhospitable surroundings, is the price of all great achievements.
CONQUERORS OF FORTUNE.
Benjamin Franklin had this tenacity of purpose in a wonderful degree. When he started in the
printing business in Philadelphia, he carried his material through the streets on a wheelbarrow.
He hired one room for his ofﬁce, work-room, and sleeping-room. He found a formidable rival in
the city and invited him to his room. Pointing to a piece of bread from which he had just eaten
his dinner, he said:
“Unless you can live cheaper than I can, you cannot starve me out.”
It was so that he proved the wisdom of Edmund Burke‘s saying, that “He that wrestles with us
strengthens our nerves, and sharpens our skill: our antagonist is our helper.”
The poor and friendless lad, George Peabody, weary, footsore, and hungry, called at a tavern in
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work for everything he ever received, and out-matched the poverty of early days.
Gideon Lee could not even get shoes to wear in winter, when a boy, but he went to work barefoot in the snow. He made a bargain with himself to work sixteen hours a day. He fulﬁlled it to
the letter, and when from interruption he lost time, he robbed himself of sleep to make it up. He
became a wealthy merchant of New York, mayor of the city, and a member of Congress.
The business affairs of a gentleman named Rouss were once in a complicated condition, owing
to his conﬂicting interests in various states, and he was thrown into prison. While conﬁned he
wrote on the walls of his cell:
“I am forty years of age this day. When I am ﬁfty, I shall be worth half a million; and by the time
I am sixty, I shall be worth a million dollars.”
He lived to accumulate more than three million dollars.
“The ruin which overtakes so many merchants,” says Whipple, “is due not so much to their lack
of business talent as to their lack of business nerve.”
Cyrus W. Field had retired from business with a large fortune when he became possessed with
the idea that by means of a cable laid upon the bottom of the Atlantic Ocean, telegraphic communication could be established between Europe and America. He plunged into the undertaking
with all the force of his being. It was an incredibly hard contest: the forests of Newfoundland,
the lobby in Congress, the unskilled handling of brakes on his Agamemnon cable, a second and
a third breaking of the cable at sea, the cessation of the current in a well laid
cable, the snapping of a superior cable on the Great Eastern–all these availed not to foil the iron
will of Field, whose ﬁnal triumph was that of mental energy in the application of science.
FOUR NEW YORK JOURNALISTS.
To Horace Greeley, the founder of the “Tribune,” I need not allude; his story is or ought to be
in every schoolbook.
James Brooks, once the editor and proprietor of the “Daily Express,” and later an eminent congressman, began life as a clerk in a store in Maine, and when twenty-one received for his pay a
hogshead of New England rum. He was so eager to go to college that he started for Waterville
with his trunk on his back, and when he was graduated he was so poor and plucky that he carried his trunk on his back to the station as he went home.
When James Gordon Bennett was forty years old he collected all his property, three hundred
dollars, and in a cellar with a board upon two barrels for a desk, himself his own typesetter,
ofﬁce boy, publisher, newsboy, clerk, editor, proofreader, and printer‘s devil, he started the
“New York Herald.” He did this, after many attempts and defeats in trying to follow the routine, instead of doing his own way. Never was any man‘s early career a better illustration of
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Thurlow Weed, who was a journalist for ﬁfty-seven years, strong, sensible, genial, tactful, and
of magniﬁcentphysique, who did so much to shape public policy in the Empire State, tells a
most romantic story of his boyhood:–
“I cannot ascertain how much schooling I got at Catskill, probably less than a year, certainly not
a year and a half, and this was when I was not more than ﬁve or six years old. I felt a necessity,
at an early age, of trying to do something for my own support.
“My ﬁrst employment was in sugar-making, an occupation to which I became much attached.
I now look with great pleasure upon the days and nights passed in the sap-bush. The want of
shoes (which, as the snow was deep, was no small privation) was the only drawback upon my
happiness. I used, however, to tie pieces of an old rag carpet around my feet, and got along pretty well, chopping wood and gathering up sap. But when the spring advanced, and bare ground
appeared in spots, I threw off the old carpet encumbrance and did my work barefoot.
“There is much leisure time for boys who are making maple sugar. I devoted this time to reading, when I could obtain books; but the farmers of that period had few or no books, save their
Bibles. I borrowed books whenever and wherever I could.
“I heard that a neighbor, three miles off, had borrowed from a still more distant neighbor a book
of great interest. I started off, barefoot, in the snow, to obtain the treasure. There were spots of
bare ground, upon which I would stop to warm my feet. And there were also, along the road, occasional lengths of log-fence from which the snow had melted, and upon which it was a luxury
to walk. The book was at home, and the good people consented, upon my promise that it should
be neither torn nor soiled, to lend it to me. In returning with the prize, I was too happy to think
of the snow or my naked feet.
“Candles were then among the luxuries, not the necessaries, of life. If boys, instead of going to
bed after dark, wanted to read, they supplied themselves with pine knots, by the light of which,
in a horizontal position, they pursued their studies. In this manner, with my body in the sugarhouse, and my head out of doors, where the fat pine was blazing, I read with intense interest the
book I had borrowed, a ‚History of the French Revolution.‘”
Weed‘s next earning was in an iron foundry at Onondaga:
“My business was, after a casting, to temper and prepare the molding ‚dogs,‘ myself. This was
night and day work. We ate salt pork and rye and Indian bread, three times a day, and slept on
straw in bunks. I liked the excitement of a furnace life.”
When he went to the “Albany Argus” to learn the printing business he worked from ﬁve in the
morning till nine at night.
FROM HUMBLEST BEGINNINGS.
The more difﬁculties one has to encounter, within and without, the more signiﬁcant and the
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The story of Weed and of Greeley is not an uncommon one in America. Some of the most eminent men on the globe have struggled with poverty in early life and triumphed over it.
The astronomer Kepler, whose name can never die, was kept in constant anxieties; and he told
fortunes by astrology for a livelihood, saying that astrology, as the daughter of astronomy,
ought to keep her mother. All sorts of service he had to accept; he made almanacs and worked
for any one who would pay him.
Linnæus was so poor when getting his education that he had to mend his shoes with folded
paper, and often had to beg his meals of his friends.
During the ten years in which he made his greatest discoveries, Isaac Newton could hardly
pay two shillings a week to the Royal Society of which he was a member. Some of his friends
wanted to get him excused from this payment, but he would not allow them to act.
Humphry Davy had but a slender chance to acquire great scientiﬁc knowledge, yet he had true
mettle in him, and he made even old pans, kettles, and bottles contribute to his success, as he
experimented and studied in the attic of the apothecary store where he worked.
George Stephenson was one of eight children whose parents were so poor that all lived in a
single room. George had to watch cows for a neighbor, but he managed to get time to make
engines of clay, with hemlock sticks for pipes. At seventeen he had charge of an engine, with
his father for ﬁreman. He could neither read nor write, but the engine was his teacher, and he a
faithful student. While the other hands were playing games or loaﬁng in liquor shops during the
holidays, George was taking his machine to pieces, cleaning it, studying it, and making experiments in engines. When he had become famous as a great inventor of improvements in engines,
those who had loafed and played called him lucky.
It was by steadfastly keeping at it, by indomitable will power, that these men won their positions in life.
“We rise by the things that are under our feet;
By what we have mastered of good or gain.”
TALENT IN TATTERS.
Among the companions of Sir Joshua Reynolds, while he was studying his art at Rome, was a
fellow-pupil of the name of Astley. They made an excursion, with some others, on a sultry day,
and all except Astley took off their coats. After several taunts he was persuaded to do the same,
and displayed on the back of his waistcoat a foaming waterfall. Distress had compelled him to
patch his clothes with one of his own landscapes.
James Sharpies, the celebrated blacksmith artist of England, was very poor, but he often rose
at three o‘clock to copy books he could not buy. He would walk eighteen miles to Manchester
and back after a hard day‘s work, to buy a shilling‘s worth of artist‘s materials. He would ask
for the heaviest work in the blacksmith shop, because it took a longer time to heat at the forge,
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against the chimney. He was a great miser of spare moments, and used every one as though he
might never see another. He devoted his leisure hours for ﬁve years to that wonderful production, “The Forge,” copies of which are to be seen in many a home. It was by one unwavering
aim, carried out by an iron will, that he wrought out his life triumph.
“That boy will beat me one day,” said an old painter as he watched a little fellow named Michael Angelo making drawings of pot and brushes, easel and stool, and other articles in the
studio. The barefoot boy did persevere until he had overcome every difﬁculty and become the
greatest master of art the world has known. Although Michael Angelo made himself immortal
in three different occupations,–and his fame might well rest upon his dome of St. Peter as an
architect, upon his “Moses” as a sculptor, or upon his “Last Judgment” as a painter,–yet we ﬁnd
by his correspondence, now in the British Museum, that when he was at work on his colossal
bronze statue of Pope Julius II., he was so poor that he could not have his younger brother come
to visit him at Bologna, because he had but one bed in which he and three of his assistants slept
“The star of an unconquered will
Arose in his breast,
Serene, and resolute and still,
And calm and self-possessed.”
The struggles and triumphs of those who are bound to win is a never-ending tale. Nor will the
procession of enthusiastic workers cease so long as the globe is turning on its axle.
Say what we will of genius, specialized in a hundred callings, yet the fact remains that no
amount of genius has ever availed upon the earth unless enforced by will power to overcome
the obstacles that hedge about every one who would rise above the circumstances in which he
was born, or become greater than his calling. Was not Virgil the son of a porter, Horace of a
shopkeeper, Demosthenes of a cutler, Milton of a money scrivener, Shakespeare of a wool stapler, and Cromwell of a brewer?
Ben Jonson, when following his trade of a mason, worked on Lincoln‘s Inn in London with
trowel in hand and a book in his pocket. Joseph Hunter was a carpenter in youth, Robert Burns
a plowman, Keats a druggist, Thomas Carlyle and Hugh Miller masons. Dante and Descartes
were soldiers. Cardinal Wolsey, Defoe, and Kirke White were butchers‘ sons. Faraday was the
son of a hostler, and his teacher, Humphry Davy, was an apprentice to an apothecary. Kepler
was a waiter boy in a German hotel, Bunyan a tinker, Copernicus the son of a Polish baker.
They rose by being greater than their callings, as Arkwright rose above mere barbering, Bunyan above tinkering, Wilson above shoemaking, Lincoln above rail-splitting, and Grant above
tanning. By being ﬁrst-class barbers, tinkers, shoemakers, rail-splitters, tanners, they acquired
the power which enabled them to become great inventors, authors, statesmen, generals. John
Kay, the inventor of the ﬂy-shuttle, James Hargreaves, who introduced the spinning-jenny, and
Samuel Compton, who originated mule-spinning, were all artisans, uneducated and poor, but
were endowed with natural faculties which enabled them to make a more enduring impression
upon the world than anything that could have been done by the mere power of scholarship or
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It cannot be said of any of these great names that their individual courses in life would have
been what they were, had there been lacking a superb will power resistless as the tide to bear
them upward and onward.
Let Fortune empty her whole quiver on me,
I have a soul that, like an ample shield,
Can take in all, and verge enough for more;
Fate was not mine, nor am I Fate‘s:
Souls know no conquerors.
“Never give up, there are chances and changes,
Helping the hopeful, a hundred to one;
And, through the chaos, High Wisdom arranges
Ever success, if you‘ll only hold on.
Never give up; for the wisest is boldest,
Knowing that Providence mingles the cup,
And of all maxims, the best, as the oldest,
Is the stern watchword of ‚Never give up!‘”
Be ﬁrm; one constant element of luck
Is genuine, solid, old Teutonic pluck.
Success in most things depends on knowing how long it takes to succeed.–Montesquieu.
The power to hold on is characteristic of all men who have accomplished anything great; they
may lack in some other particular, have many weaknesses or eccentricities, but the quality of
persistence is never absent from a successful man. No matter what opposition he meets or what
discouragement overtakes him, drudgery cannot disgust him, obstacles cannot discourage him,
labor cannot weary him; misfortune, sorrow, and reverses cannot harm him. It is not so much
brilliancy of intellect, or fertility of resource, as persistency of effort, constancy of purpose, that
makes a great man. Those who succeed in life are the men and women who keep everlastingly
at it, who do not believe themselves geniuses, but who know that if they ever accomplish anything they must do it by determined and persistent industry.
Audubon after years of forest life had two hundred of his priceless drawings destroyed by
“A poignant ﬂame,” he relates, “pierced my brain like an arrow of ﬁre, and for several weeks I
was prostrated with fever. At length physical and moral strength awoke within me. Again I took
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of the forests.”
All are familiar with the misfortune of Carlyle while writing his “History of the French Revolution.” After the ﬁrst volume was ready for the press, he loaned the manuscript to a neighbor,
who left it lying on the ﬂoor, and the servant girl took it to kindle the ﬁre. It was a bitter disappointment, but Carlyle was not the man to give up. After many months of poring Over hundreds
of volumes of authorities and scores of manuscripts, he reproduced that which had burned in a
PROCEED, AND LIGHT WILL DAWN.
The slightest acquaintance with literary history would bring to light a multitude of heroes of
poverty or misfortune, of men and women perplexed and disheartened, who have yet aroused
themselves to new effort at every new obstacle.
It is related by Arago that he found under the cover of a text book he was binding a short note
from D‘Alembert to a student:
“Go on, sir, go on. The difﬁculties you meet with will resolve themselves as you advance. Proceed; and light will dawn, and shine with increasing clearness on your path.”
“That maxim,” said Arago, “was my greatest master in mathematics.”
Had Balzac been easily discouraged he would have hesitated at the words of warning given by
“Do you know that in literature a man must be either a king or a beggar?”
“Very well,” was the reply, “I will be a king.”
His parents left him to his fate in a garret. For ten years he fought terrible battles with hardship
and poverty, but won a great victory at last. He won it after producing forty novels that did not
Zola‘s early manhood witnessed a bitter struggle against poverty and deprivation. Until twenty
he was a spoiled child; but, on his father‘s death, he and his mother began the battle of life in
Paris. Of his dark time, Zola himself says:
“Often I went hungry for so long, that it seemed as if I must die. I scarcely tasted meat from
one month‘s end to another, and for two days I lived on three apples. Fire, even on the coldest
nights, was an undreamed-of luxury; and I was the happiest man in Paris when I could get a
candle, by the light of which I might study at night.”
Samuel Johnson‘s bare feet at Oxford showed through the holes in his shoes, yet he threw out
at his window the new pair that some one left at his door. He lived for a time in London on nine
cents a day. For thirteen years he had a hard struggle with want. John Locke once lived on bread
and water in a Dutch garret, and Heyne slept many a night on a barn ﬂoor with only a book for
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There are no more interesting pages in biography than those which record how Emerson, as a
child, was unable to read the second volume of a certain book, because his widowed mother
could not afford the amount (ﬁve cents) necessary to obtain it from the circulating library.
“Poor fellow!” said Emerson, as he looked at his delicately-reared little son, “how much he
loses by not having to go through the hard experiences I had in my youth.”
It was through the necessity laid upon him to earn that Emerson made his ﬁrst great success in
life as a teacher. “I know,” he said, “no such unquestionable badge and ensign of a sovereign
mind as that tenacity of purpose, which, through all change of companions or parties or fortunes, changes never, bates no jot of heart or hope, but wearies out opposition and arrives at its
“SHE CAN NEVER SUCCEED.”
Louisa Alcott earned two hundred thousand dollars by her pen. Yet, when she was ﬁrst dreaming of her power, her father handed her a manuscript one day that had been rejected by Mr.
Fields, editor of the “Atlantic,” with the message:
“Tell Louisa to stick to her teaching; she can never succeed as a writer.”
“Tell him I will succeed as a writer, and some day I shall write for the ‚Atlantic.‘”
Not long after she wrote for the “Atlantic” a poem that Longfellow attributed to Emerson. And
there came a time when she wrote in her diary:
“Twenty years ago I resolved to make the family independent if I could. At forty, that is done.
Debts all paid, even the outlawed ones, and we have enough to be comfortable. It has cost me
my health, perhaps.”
“I TRAMPLE ON IMPOSSIBILITIES”:
So it was said by Lord Chatham. “Why,” asked Mirabeau, “should we call ourselves men, unless it be to succeed in everything everywhere?”
“It is all very well,” said Charles J. Fox, “to tell me that a young man has distinguished himself
by a brilliant ﬁrst speech. He may go on satisﬁed with his ﬁrst triumph; but show me a young
man who has not succeeded at ﬁrst, and has then gone on, and I will back that man to do better than those who succeeded at the ﬁrst trial.” Cobden broke down completely the ﬁrst time
he appeared on a platform in Manchester, and the chairman apologized for him; but he did not
give up speaking until every poor man in England had a larger, better, and cheaper loaf. Young
Disraeli sprung from a hated and persecuted race, pushed his way up through the middle classes
and upper classes, until he stood self-poised upon the topmost round of political and social
power. At ﬁrst he was scoffed at, ridiculed, rebuffed, hissed from the House of Commons; he
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the sceptre of England for a quarter of a century.
How massive was the incalculable reserve power of Lincoln as a youth; or of President Gar-
ﬁeld, wood-chopper, bell-ringer, and sweeper-general in college!
We hear a great deal of talk about genius, talent, luck, chance, cleverness, and ﬁne manners playing a large part in one‘s success. Leaving out luck and chance, all these elements are important
factors. Yet the possession of any or all of them, unaccompanied by a deﬁnite aim, a determined
purpose, will not insure success. Men drift into business. They drift into society. They drift into
politics. They drift into what they fondly and but vainly imagine is religion. If winds and tides
are favorable, all is well; if not, all is wrong. Stalker says: “Most men merely drift through life,
and the work they do is determined by a hundred different circumstances; they might as well
be doing anything else, or they would prefer to be doing nothing at all.” Yet whatever else may
have been lacking in the giants of the race, the men who have been conspicuously successful
have all had one characteristic in common–doggedness and persistence of purpose.
It does not matter how clever a youth may be, whether he leads his class in college or outshines all the other boys in his community, he will never succeed if he lacks this essential of
determined persistence. Many men who might have made brilliant musicians, artists, teachers,
lawyers, able physicians or surgeons, in spite of predictions to the contrary, have fallen short of
success because deﬁcient in this quality.
Persistency of purpose is a power. It creates conﬁdence in others. Everybody believes in the
determined man. When he undertakes anything his battle is half won, because not only he himself, but every one who knows him, believes that he will accomplish whatever he sets out to
do. People know that it is useless to oppose a man who uses his stumbling-blocks as steppingstones; who is not afraid of defeat; who never, in spite of calumny or criticism, shrinks from his
task; who never shirks responsibility; who always keeps his compass pointed to the north star
of his purpose, no matter what storms may rage about him.
The persistent man never stops to consider whether he is succeeding or not. The only question
with him is how to push ahead, to get a little farther along, a little nearer his goal. Whether it
lead over mountains, rivers, or morasses, he must reach it. Every other consideration is sacri-
ﬁced to this one dominant purpose.
The success of a dull or average youth and the failure of a brilliant one is a constant surprise in
American history. But if the different cases are closely analyzed we shall ﬁnd that the explanation lies in the staying power of the seemingly dull boy, the ability to stand ﬁrm as a rock under
all circumstances, to allow nothing to divert him from his purpose.
THREE NECESSARY THINGS.
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A good chance alone is nothing. Education is nothing without strong and vigorous resolution
and stamina to make one accomplish something in the world. An encouraging start is nothing
without backbone. A man who cannot stand erect, who wabbles ﬁrst one way and then the other,
who has no opinion of his own, or courage to think his own thought, is of very little use in this
world. It is grit, it is perseverance, it is moral stamina and courage that govern the world.
At the trial of the seven bishops of the Church of England for refusing to aid the king to overthrow the Protestant faith, it was necessary to watch the ofﬁcers at the doors, lest they send food
to some juryman, and aid him to starve the others into an agreement. Nothing was allowed to be
sent in but water for the jurymen to wash in, and they were so thirsty they drank it up. At ﬁrst
nine were for acquitting, and three for convicting. Two of the minority soon gave way; the third,
Arnold, was obstinate. He declined to argue. Austin said to him, “Look at me. I am the largest
and the strongest of the twelve; and before I will ﬁnd such a petition as this libel, here will I stay
till I am no bigger than a tobacco pipe.” Arnold yielded at six in the morning.
SUCCESS AGAINST ODDS.
Yes, to this thought I hold with ﬁrm persistence;
The last result of wisdom stamps it true:
He only earns his freedom and existence
Who daily conquers them anew.
“It is interesting to notice how some minds seem almost to create themselves,” says Irving,
“springing up under every disadvantage, and working their solitary but irresistible way through
a thousand obstacles.” Opposing circumstances create strength. Opposition gives us greater
power of resistance. To overcome one barrier gives us greater ability to overcome the next.
History is full of examples of men and women who have redeemed themselves from disgrace,
poverty, and misfortune, by the ﬁrm resolution of an iron will.
Success is not measured by what a man accomplishes, but by the opposition he has encountered, and the courage with which he has maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.
Not the distance we have run, but the obstacles we have overcome, the disadvantages under
which we have made the race, will decide the prizes.
“It is defeat,” says Henry Ward Beecher, “that turns bone to ﬂint, and gristle to muscle, and
makes men invincible, and formed those heroic natures that are now in ascendency in the world.
Do not, then, be afraid of defeat. You are never so near to victory as when defeated in a good
Governor Seymour of New York, a man of great force and character, said, in reviewing his life:
“If I were to wipe out twenty acts, what should they be? Should it be my business mistakes,
my foolish acts (for I suppose all do foolish acts occasionally), my grievances? No; for, after
all, these are the very things by which I have proﬁted. So I ﬁnally concluded I should expunge,
instead of my mistakes, my triumphs. I could not afford to dismiss the tonic of mortiﬁcation,
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“Every condition, be it what it may,” says Channing, “has hardships, hazards, pains. We try to
escape them; we pine for a sheltered lot, for a smooth path, for cheering friends, and unbroken
success. But Providence ordains storms, disasters, hostilities, sufferings; and the great question
whether we shall live to any purpose or not, whether we shall grow strong in mind and heart, or
be weak and pitiable, depends on nothing so much as on our use of the adverse circumstances.
Outward evils are designed to school our passions, and to rouse our faculties and virtues into
intenser action. Sometimes they seem to create new powers. Difﬁculty is the element, and resistance the true work of man. Self-culture never goes on so fast as when embarrassed circumstances, the opposition of men or the elements, unexpected changes of the times, or other forms
of suffering, instead of disheartening, throw us on our inward resources, turn us for strength to
God, clear up to us the great purpose of life, and inspire calm resolution. No greatness or goodness is worth much, unless tried in these ﬁres.”
Better to stem with heart and hand
The roaring tide of life, than lie,
Unmindful, on its ﬂowery strand,
Of God‘s occasions drifting by!
Better with naked nerve to bear
The needles of this goading air,
Than in the lap of sensual ease forego
The godlike power to do, the godlike aim to know.
THE DEGREE OF “O.O.”
When Moody ﬁrst visited Ireland he was introduced by a friend to an Irish merchant who asked
“Is he an O.O.?”
“Out and Out”–that was what “O.O.” stood for.
“Out and Out” for God–that was what this merchant meant. He indeed is but a wooden man,
and a poor stick at that, who is decided in everything else, but who never knows “where he is
at” in all moral relations, being religiously nowhere.
The early books of the Hebrews have much to say about “The Valley of Decision” and the development of “Out and Out” moral character.
Wofully lacking in a well-balanced will power is the man who stands side by side with moral
evil personiﬁed, in hands with it, to serve it willingly as a tool and servant.
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than his rising up promptly, decidedly, to make the Divine Will his own will in all moral action,
to take it as the supreme guide to go by? It is the glory of the human will to coincide with the
Divine Will. Doing this, a man‘s Iron Will, instead of being a malignant selﬁsh power, will be
useful in uplifting mankind.
God has spoken, or he has not spoken. If he has spoken, the wise will hear.
We search the world for truth; we cull
The good, the pure, the beautiful,
From graven stone and written scroll,
From all the ﬂower-ﬁelds of the soul:
And, weary seekers of the best,
We come back laden from our quest,
To ﬁnd that all the sages said
Is in the BOOK our mother read.
O earth that blooms and birds that sing,
O stars that shine when all is dark!
In type and symbol thou dost bring
The Life Divine, and bid us hark,
That we may catch the chant sublime,
And, rising, pass the bounds of time;
So shall we win the goal divine,
SHE CONTINUES: “i feel like ive been bad 2 bad
but im just expressing myself”
CJ REPLIES: “That’s what it means to be a person, a human being, to be yourself truly
regardless of what anyone else thinks, says’
Those people don’t feel your pains, they don’t feel your joys, only YOU are allowe that therefore only YOU, decide what you are supposed to do?”
“yes…. i know….i deny myself, to make sure everyone else is happy
im treating myself bad…im in denial…..i need to think….”
…jogger girls in their halter tops with no bra, nipple perky in the sun?!?
Well I do, so natural and full of nature. Sappy spring seminal juices rise up throughout every tree in the forest. Flirty smiles by girls passing by, should an instant smile back from you. Practice it out to have your smile ready in a moments notice. That simple move, in and of itself can lead to a “hello” which may lead anywhere your heart desires.
Or maybe that was it, that is the share moment the two of you share, an exchange of smiles, to slightly brighten each of your days for the rest of it..I still remember the glow of the girl passing me yesterday
status quo as myself…A bit too much adventure like myself…you know when you click with an energy? I just don’t go for Uk accents though, not really.
C.J. makes me feel savored like a fine wine, every time I see him
thats awsome….i love that he appreciates the beauty of woman, and how he sees th beauty in everything….i admire his artist eye…