RE: “Success” opener for player + wing
(Today 08:58 AM)Siege Wrote: Never [..truly] know [..accurately] till its tested [..by ones self]
I’ll test this one in field, and numerous times in a night to have accurate results to report.
Amerok, [..if you like,] remind me of it next time we’re out in field at same time [..to see what results happen] [/size]
..and just make sure you remind me Amerok, guys in this forum have known I will test vitally anything in field, at least once.
That was a big part in how I learned what I have, testing out a million things & writing journal entries about results.
Sure I tried over 10+ time more things that gave me miserable results to further refine how things work.
I’ll never forget the time a guy I called FedAgent (withholding his real name, I forget his handle but prior lair member), told me of one me one to test at Joshua Tree, Allston.
Prior to use, I was convinced it would fail miserably, maybe even get me slapped.
So FedAgent explained it to me, and as always I said I’d test it, at least once with him to observe results, but for best accuracy, several times since some girls are not even in the mood to be greeted at times.
First group, 3 girls, I went to center one and told this story:
“Listen, my buddy just died recently and I have been caught in a dilemma…”
HBcenter was hearing me out.
“Ya, and his hott girlfriend, must be missing him terribly, since she has been…ya know….getting kinda frisky when we’re hanging out together…”
HBcenter listened as I went on.
“How long do you think I should wait before I fuck her?” and I completely shut up. Silently, I look’d at her, my eyes locked on hers expectantly.
She is looking back, maybe a whole second passes before she says:
From the instant she said that, I hugged her emphatically saying “I love you!! That is such a relief, I think you’re my new best friend, but not tomorrow, tomorrow is booked…maybe the day after though…”
The reason I gave her such a hug and said what I said, is that she detected to joke, she knew I was just kidding about the whole thing.
Sure I was mostly telling it in a serious way but with a smirking undertone to the whole thing, a bit of message sent UDR (under the radar).
While her friends (as I saw in quick side glances) weren’t getting the joke, HBcenter was clearly understanding the whole thing since I keep 95% of my eye contact, locked with hers & she could see my underlying joking frame.
By her seeing this, and hearing my UDR messages, in that way that leads to chemistry, I told her how I really felt in that moment…
Only knowing her a few minutes, I did love her in those moments at hand and loved her getting the joke we shared that even nearby people had no clue about.
Of course I had to reward that, it was how I truly felt & it was hilarious to me that we knew a joking frame that was pretty unclear to the people right next to us.
The people right next to us who heard the words, didn’t pick up on the tiny expressions I gave her to let her in on the joke.
Honestly I was a bit surprised by her reaction, I first expected hard blow-outs, or maybe even absolute disgust from a girl that I would think such a thing, no matter say it out-loud and ask somebody about it..
but once I saw the UDR communication happening, I went with it. I continued to ride the wave as I usually do when I feel those sort of things in a moment.
The guy I was with, who told me the comment, transferred to opener, he had never tested it himself but was very thankful to have seen what happened in “speed-of-life” time in front of his observation.
As I told him I would test it out a few times so he could see varied responses, I thought he would try it himself after seeing the results but when asked about it after, he still hadn’t.
But that is another reason I always say, you can read a million things about social dynamics, go to numerous seminars related, and have all sorts of coaching…
BUT unless you try things out yourself on first hand, personal basis, you never truly know.
It is that first hand experience that has you progress/grow in calibration that makes certain parts so easy, reaping wonderful rewards on regular basis Cool .
So when a guy can hear/read about new things to try out…
Ones that he never thought of before to test himself…It is fantastic to have those tools at hand available.
BUT for most accurate proof of what works, what doesn’t & the outcomes of certain things… I would recommend only using your own first hand, personal experiences before making an firm conclusion.
Your personal experiences in the ‘testing lab’ of life situations is what will most accurately tell you what works best for you in M/F flirting dynamics.
Signing off Amerok, great work as usual, over & out:
“Let d”Adventure Continue!”
~C.J. “the Siege”