Monthly Archives: September 2011

Blinfolded sex with food

Student writes me after discussion we had about sex with a girl. I give him some tips & and he writes this back

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“During the GSF, you told me a few things about sex:

1) How to give breasts orgasms

2) Different games to play blindfolded

It has been about a month since KC and I have been dating, and so far it’s been a wild ride. To make a long story short, we ended back in my place and she begins to take off her clothes as I get the ingredients ready:

1) A variety of fruit
2) Chocolate Syrup
3) Ice
4) Coconut Shavings
5) Blindfold

In the background we had “Zombieland” playing. I blindfold her and asked her to lie down. At first, I take the carton of cold fruit and took out a grape. I begin from her belly button and slowly rub it up toward her chest. Every so often, I would give a heavy breath to sooth the coldness of the fruit. With each changing sensation, she begins to moan more and more.

I fed her the grape and she begins to suck on my finger. We kiss for a bit then I take an apple piece and begin to rub it from the top of her neck down to her breasts. I start from the outside of the breast and spiral downward to the tit. There at the tit, I rub it ever so gently in circles. Her body begins to spasm from the cold feeling. I breath on it too, as she squeezed on the bed sheet. She reaches to kiss me, and I stop inches away from her lips. I lick the top of her lip and rub the apple on her bottom lip. I place the apple in my mouth and when she bit the apple, we begin to passionately make out.

I get some ice. I let the ice drip down in random places on her body. I exhale onto each drip, and her body begins to spasm all over again. The ice dripped on the corner of her eye, so it would make it down toward her ear and down her neck. She immediately sits up and makes out with me. I push her down on the bed and begin to lightly rub the ice on her lips. Then down her neck and spiraled around the breasts again. Then down the body the ice went, right around her vagina. The ice never touched the vagina, but I made a path around the pelvis. This has gotten her extremely wet…well…more ways than one….As I fingered her, I spiraled the ice around her breasts again and began to slowly exhale on the tit.

I took out the chocolate syrup and began to put little dots all around her body. With each dot, I would lick it right off, and feed it to her from my tongue. I put the syrup on my finger and she began to suck it like a tootsie roll pop.

I took out the blindfold and then I tied her hands behind her back. I bent her over and smacked that ass. She asked me to smack it harder. So I did. After each smack, I would compliment it with a gentle rub for a variety of sensations. I pull her hair back and began to make out with her, as my fingers got lost going down south.

I tickle her for a bit and had her relax, while we watched the scene where Bill Murray died. She turns to me and said, “This is a good way to celebrate our one month anniversary.”

From all this…I would have to say she probably had orgasmed more than 5 times! Thank you, very much for teaching me these methods! She loved every minute of it! If there are others that you know, please feel free to tell me!!!
-DSM

“…talk on escalation we one of the most influential things on my game I learned during then whole summit.” just came to my phone

Just came to my phone SMS text:

“”Siege, realistically what would it take for you to come out here and do a seminar? Your style is something I know works out in the “bible belt” and that five minute talk on escalation we one of the most influential things on my game I learned during then whole summit. Currently using it!!! So yes I would love to have you out here.”"

Student review

C.J “the Siege” at first sight may seem like a typical dude who knows his fashion, but don’t be fooled! This dating guru has helped numerous friends of mine reach the next level of their dating lives; and I needed to get in on the action.

Before meeting C.J my skills with the opposite sex were slipping. I would go out day and night with one goal in mind:

Meet as many women as possible! Weeks would turn into months with slight improvements.. i.e the length of my interactions and the amount of phone numbers I would get in a given week. But the phone numbers were still mostly flakes! Bottom line is I had NO direction, I had a minimal understanding of things I was doing right and wrong in my interactions; kind of like a marathon runner without a track… I ran FAST but I didn’t get very far.

C.J’s unique coaching style helped by winging me in sets (modeling smooth interactions right before my eyes), scrupulous feedback (debriefs at the end of a session) and homework assignments (internalizing everything). In the last month of working with C.J some of the new skills I have learned are: dance floor game, playfulness, consistent SNL’s and instadates, building deep rapport with strangers, building the right habits, and most importantly Getting HER to game me!! Since working with this guy I am now getting laid weekly, understand social dynamics on a whole new level and most importantly have fun in the process of going out every day/night!!

get her number without any possibility of rejection

You plant seeds to get her number without any possibility of rejection

On my way Saturday and as usual, I did something with the first people I see for the day to begin my social momentum for the day. As I was getting closer to the bus stop, I saw two girls. One was facing my direction and the other was facing the first girl, away from me. As I got up to the stop, I simply smiled and said “Hello” to the girl facing me.

“Hello” said the one facing me as her friend turned around to see who she was saying hi to. When the second girl turned, she said “Hi’ as well, to which I smiled at. As I said, I was just greeting the girls to begin the social momentum for the day. There was not anything striking about them, so I just greeted them and left it at that.

As I got on the bus I could see three seats in a row, each with a girl sitting on the inside seat, leaving the outside one open. A quick scan had me take the seat with the cutest of the three, whom I sat next to.

She was wearing headphones, so I waited a few moments then I turned to her, smiled and asked if she knew which stop it was that the Pru was on (yes I knew this, but I was using the situational questions to feel her out). She explained the stop was Copley so I thanked her, gazed at her face for a moment and smiled. She put her earphones back on and went back to her music. I waited a few more beats of time to go by and I turned to her again.

“What color train is that stop on?” I asked her. She told me ‘green’ then asked me if I was new in town. When a girl asks any question about you, it is a signal of curiosity to know more about you and keep the conversation going.

So I went into my elaborate story of how I am from this area, [private] yet I travel so much. I tell her of my last trip to Puerto Rico lasting 7 months longer than I first thought I would stay, then I went on to tell her about the beauty of the place, the friendliness of the people, the tropical animals and my practice in real-life Spanish.

I talked about the food there, and our conversation transitioned to trading stories about different ethnic restaurants in town. She described a Colombian restaurant she liked (which I noted in my head) and I told her how I love to meet up with friends at different spots to split appetizers. This was about 10 minutes since I first spoke to her.

Our conversation was flowing smoothly, back and forth. I could detect of her interest in me and I thought she was cool to talk to. I gauged how many stops were left before I’d have to get off and I said to her: “You seem like you have a really cool energy, it’s a shame we can only enjoy each other’s company for the length of this bus ride.” She expressed agreement in smiles and nodding and small comments. I paused to let it sink in; I even looked away for a moment in thought.

Then I turned back to her.“I wonder what steps we’d need to take to pick this conversation up another time” and I let it sink in while she thought of ways two people could connect later. Trade info, exchange numbers, etc.

Then as if I was hit with a discovery I said. “Ya, we should definitely trade info so we can talk again another time” as I pulled out my cell phone. It never seems awkward when I take baby steps to this type of suggestion, just like the expected normal thing to happen next. I have found that by signaling my way up to the number seemed to be easily accepted and replied well to. It wasn’t an all-of-a-sudden: ‘Let me get your number’ out of nowhere in the conversation. I showed where I was going as if it was the natural next step. I also take the asking for anything out of the picture. I don’t ask for numbers, I suggest we trade information. More even exchange, less pressure.

My favorite part when I do things this way is when I start to suggest, sometimes the girl will have the idea and say: “Oh ya, give me your number.” Or whatever. This seems to drop the flake factor and have her more invested into waiting for/getting my call too. Not all girls do this, they still are humble feminine creatures but it is cool when they do, usually the outgoing ones.

So I pull out my phone to her.

“What is it?” I asked with my cell phone in hand as I selected ‘new contact’ on my phone.

“Jenna.” She told me.

“No your number. I have to punch that in first, then I can put your name to it.” I said. We hadn’t even traded names yet.

She told me her number; I punched it in and put ‘Jenna’ in the name section. “Ok, I will send you a text right now with my name in it so you can save the number. I’m C.J.” and I sent her a text right then. I could see my call coming through, now knowing it is a real number she gave (we had clicked pretty well so I had no reason to think it wouldn’t be but it is a habit) and she saved the number with my name to it.

We kept chatting and she subtly mentioned her brother & his speaking English. “Where is your family from?” I asked. Even when girls make small subtle points, they are stepping stones for more information, further conversation, getting to know each other better.

“Nicaragua.” She said.

“No kidding, como estas?” I had to ask, practicing my Spanish once again. “You can be my Spanish practice buddy.” (I do usually hint at girls getting stuck in my friend-zone if they don’t play their cards right. Here is another frame that I found by owning it first, I never get stuck in…Yet to keep this type of statement from indicating she doesn’t have a chance, I [/private] ….will pair it with a statement that has a subtle sexual undertone.)

She then told me she was riding the green line too and would be coming with me since her stop was one after mine. We boarded the train, chatting for the ride, when I got to my stop, I took her arm for a small squeeze and told her I would talk to her later.

To keep whatever emotional high she was in from meeting me, I sent her a text about an hour later: “Hey Jenna, now I am all curious about the Colombian place you told me of. We’ll have to go split appetizers when we both have time free. C.J.”

…and 20 minutes later I get her text back: “Definitely! =)”

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Siege’s Posts on BostonLair.com

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[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7957]Opportunities throughout your day[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7550&pid=49113#pid49113]
Ways to reduce approach anxiety[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7752]Draw the types of people you like towards you[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7582]Girls are inviting you to approach[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7725]
Carefully craft direct openers to still stand apart[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7671]
Have your compliments mean something[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=8027]A girl’s opinion of flirting[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7628]Unpredictability makes you hard to forget[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7622]Keep everyone in group involved in conversation[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7950]Voice is a powerful attraction trigger[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7688]How to effectively listen & indicate that[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=8050]Good listening is very valuable[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7728]The value in continuing those conversations with girls you aren’t as interested in[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=8073]
Another super valuable reason to continue with girls not attractive[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7728]
When 2 girls claim to  be lovers[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7618]Have a girl on each arm[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7648]Have girls competing for  you[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7901]Example of girl competition in action[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7909]
Another way to keep her chasing you[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7795]It can all start from a kiss on the bus[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7769]Sitting next to her rather than across from her is very valuable[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7673]
Tell her you wont have sex with her[/url]
[url=http://www.bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7668&pid=49888#pid49888]How to have her begging for sex[/url]
[url=http://www.bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7668&pid=49888#pid49888]Tease her orally for larger orgasms[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7565]How to feel her out for number before asking[/url][/quote]
[quote=FR/LR]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=8077]
LR – Token LMR & 1st kiss at my place[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=8119]LR – About an hour[/url]
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[quote=Prior national events]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=8098]2011 PUA World Summit[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=8048]2011 Lollapalooza/Coaching[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=8005]NYC Dating Skills Convention[/url]
[url=http://bostonlair.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=7770&pid=50617#pid50617]
2011 Chicago Dating Skills Convention[/url]
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Third party student review of C.J. after phone coaching:

“CJ

CJ prevented me from dwelling on the issues of my past relationships with his understanding of women. I talked to him on the phone after I met up with Jessica, my ex girlfriend who I dated from April-Oct 2010. After trying to find out why things didn’t work out between us, I left her saying that I want to[private] talk to her new boyfriend, who stole her away from me. I knew this guy, so I felt disrespected. CJ asked me what information I expected to gain from this, which I didn’t have a good answer for.

From the phone conversation, I learned that female-to-male attraction is unconscious and primal. Therefore, any reason that a woman would give for losing attraction is just backwards rationalization. Women need to come up with a logical explanation for their feelings, so that when they talk to other people about a decision, it makes sense for them. In my example, it’s “He flirted with other girls too much.” Now all her friends have a reason.

This guy is not an asshole to me, but he might be an asshole in general, and that can suffice as an attitude for successfully attracting a woman. CJ taught me that you don’t need to be an asshole to attract. Assholes just happen to have the characteristics that attract. It comes down to a firm sense of their logical mind, combined with a lot of power and conviction that they’re correct — not accepting any other way. You can do that being a nice guy — being cordial about it, but standing firm in your way.

Regardless of what she can tell me, I did learn a lot from her. Women do get jealous, but there are things you can do to minimize the jealousy. When you’re with your girl, she is the star of the show. If she displays jealousy, ignore her. If she tries to make you jealous, you should not pay attention to it. With her jealousy, let her know that this is how things go, in a subtle way, only as much as you need to (not like “when the cats are away, the mice will play”). Lastly, women will snoop, so be careful with what you put in your journal and password protect your computer. CJ got me to realize that I already learned so much from this relationship that I do not need to ask questions and find out more. This way I can cut them out of my life, relieving my stress.

Notes from recording

- He’s not really an asshole
- You don’t need to be an asshole to attract. Assholes just happen to have the characteristics that attract.
- It comes down to a firm sense of their logical mind, combined with a lot of power and conviction that they’re correct — not accepting any other way
- You can do that being a nice guy — being cordial about it, but standing firm in your way

- She’ll give you her own reason for breaking up (“you’re fliring with other girls”) but it’s not the real reason
- There’s backwards rationalization that needs to happen when a decision made based on emotion needs to be explained by logic
- Closest thing she has to a logical explanation – this makes sense to everybody
- real reason we might not ever know – unconscious, primal
- attracted because of something like how strong willed, determined he is
- we learned a lot from her;
1) women do get jealous
2) things we can do to minimize jealousy – when we’re with her, she’s the star of the show
3) don’t pay attention to her when she tries to make you jealous, or when she’s displaying jealousy
4) with her jealousy, let her know that this is how things go, in a subtle way, only as much as you need to (not like “when the cats are away, the mice will play”)
5) women will snoop

- what would i get out of a conversation with tovy?
- either apologize or not
- say what happened, say his side of the story
- if he apologizes, then ok that’s fine
- if he doesn’t apologizes, then sabotage the relationship

~B”

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I talk for long enough until I see her getting engaged in the conversation.

She will be processing what is being said and some expression will come with her remarks, you can see if she is getting engaged. Once the conversation starts, I watch her body language and overall energy and calibrate to it. It is nice to have energy slightly higher than hers is. Having it close will indicate rapport & being slightly higher will start to raise her energy, raise her vibe of fun because of you there.

Tranformational Training Weekend

(Coming Soon)

Why do THESE girls give me their number?:

“”I hope u have a good flight :) sorry but I need 2 b honest ‘n tell u that I’m married so I hope we can b friends :D “”

You know, just tell me that when we meet & hang out. That is cool.

I even have married chick-friends…you don’t have to deceive me.

That is unless you were thinking we could have something more. I have no interest in disrupting relationships that are already going on.

There are too many single ppl everywhere to bother with that mumbo-jumbo.

sms reply to wingman

Ya, I grouped her with close friends in ‘ppl’.

Expressed as (really felt) deep rapport.

I don’t make stuff up to game girls, I really feel it & am not hesitant to tell em how I feel…like I said last night “I am completely in love with the moment we are sharing right now.”

[[I wonder if I get the hint of a boyfriend if I should just find out and bail early. ]]

(question from  1-on-1 dating skill coaching session)

You never know if the boyfriend is real. Seeing you continue on in conversation when this is mentioned by a girl shows great confidence and[private] no neediness for specific outcome. You can enjoy the moment and move on after. If it was an automatic things that girls say when approached by new guys, then it will dissolve as she gets to know you better. If is is a real boyfriend and she has been thinking of leaving him anyways then you might be who she wants. If she has a real boyfriend but you do enjoy her company, she might be a great friend to be out places with. That will be enjoyable time and if you open other girls, she wont’s care and the other girls already see you as a girl-friendly guy, or pre-selected by women, so to speak. (F10)  [/private]

I see the girl, sitting across from me

…on the train.

After some back and forth [private]…body language flirts had gone back and forth, I stood up and walked across the subway car to where she was.

I saw there is a seat next to her, so I simply said as I was sitting down: “Hey, should we talk. Or continue to flirt from a distance?”

And the conversation was off & running. This is another great part of increasing your calibration. you can send body language signals and read them coming in to you so you can know which girls are receptive to you and which ones are in a zone to be meeting new people that day.

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Women fall for bastards

…because they don’t turn off the sexuality… [private]“nice” guys think women will be terrified of their
sexuality, so they turn it off and all they get is women responding to their androgyny.

The great part of this is, is that a guy does not have to be a bastard to keep this same attraction switch on. Keep sexual topics flowing freely from your mouth and she will see that sex is an acceptable topic to be discussing with you.

“I hear about all this equal rights talk going on. Did you know that women are capable of NINE different types of orgasms? Guys only get two types that we can have, this ‘nine’ business seems like you got a better end of that deal.”

Saying something like this opens the table for okay-ness to have sex on it and also shows a sexual intelligence that most guys do not have. If you know this much, she will go on to wonder if you know how to give her those nine types.

“Hey honey, don’t worry about it. I’m cocky for a big reason.:

[/private]

Jealousy Plotlines [VIDEO]

Jealousy Plotlines

Maintaining her chasing through texting

(www.getherchasingyou.com) Maintaining her chasing through texting

For a good example of how well girls respond to playful anything and how the like a masculine dominance express so they feel better about their feminine humility/submissiveness to come forth, there was a recent message banter I thought I could share.

She has actively contacted me every so often. We have hung out but a few times more recently she had to cancel tentative plans because of complications in her life. So a few days ago I get this message:

HBNurse: Hey sweetie whats up with ya ya ya? Do u miss me or do u hate me now? Xo

(I am guessing she is referring to her last need to cancel our tentative plans.)

Me: You are in a neutral limbo status with potential available to you that could put you on the good side in a moment’s notice…that is if you take the right steps.

(Subtextually, I am letting her know that I haven’t totally written her off, but if she wants ot be in good favor with me, there are steps she will need to take. This is another level of that sweet spot to indicate to girls. They do not have total..[/private] …approval yet they are not rejected/dismissed. There is a clear enough indication that her actions in the right way can lead to the rewards she wants. Not too easily obtained, but the potential is within her reach.)

HBNurse: K. I would like right steps obi wan. School ur young jedi…..

(This is great. She is the one to turn it into a game, so to speak. She is following my lead to what I indicated, but giving us the fictional roles of characters in Star Wars. I hear which way she is following my lead and I go with that as well, rewarding her choices that are in the direction I want along the way. Like in child psychology, reward the good behavior you want more of & ignore the negative behaviors to make them go away. Girls work the same way. Good result or bad result they are driven to do those things that get the most attention. )

Me: Ok, Miss Young Skywalker…first step is for you to alert me when you are in my area and have a block of time to do what you want with.

(Here, I am rewarding her following my lead and I will play along with the roles she found. The roles actually will let me be more direct as the game goes along since it is joking, with the real meaning heard underneath. She hits me up every so often with texting banter, but here I am telling her to let me know when she wants to get together & is ready to take more of my direction. I already won’t make plans with her unless I am absolutely certain she will follow through, so when she does what I asked, this is the first step in her making a commitment she will follow through with. )

HBNurse: Yes master…. Then?

(I know she wants to text banter on a sexual level at this point. I will do nothing but vague hints to let her imagination do most of the work. Just like there are ways to build tension and create open loops in texts, tension can be released for her in texts. I see her curiosity and decide to keep it at that at this point. With this game on the table now, later I can simply recall that curiosity in her at a later point with it.)

Me: You will be given the next directions when you have successfully completed the first step…and second step isn’t guaranteed unless it is clear you are ready for more…who knows, you may get second step first time you complete the first one or maybe you won’t get it until the tenth time you have completed the first step…it all depends on the moment & your readyness for more in that moment.

(Here I am telling her that her curiosity will not be satisfied until she completes the first direction I gave her. I won’t even tell her the next steps. Some girls can get release of that tension through sexy talk through even texts. Every girl is different but I like to continuously be building tension, holding off from that release until it can be done physically.)

HBNurse: Yes master… I understand! What will u have me do…

(She heard what I said, but is trying again to get me to give her some sexier talk within the texts. I will vaguely hint at more when I see that my building of more tension will have her wanting that release AND is able/ready to meetup for that release to happen physically. Not only do I repeat what she needs to do to get what she wants… )

Me: Good girl, but listen: <> …it may be different depending on the moment you complete that….depending on the current moment & how ready for more you express you are.

(…I get a little more specific so she knows what factors will increase the likelihood of her getting what she wants.)

HBNurse: Yes master soon ill b ready to complete my training….

(Here she is telling me she heard what I said & is clear. Previously I told her to withhold contacting me until she had a block of time with no constraint but it still is no guarantee.)

Me: Ok, Leave me be until you feel you are ready.

(I know I can call back the theme of this banter at any time later to remind her or re-spark her curiosity…but for now, I will take away this banter until she tells me she has time, or I pick it up to re-spark those things.)

What girls want least is those things they can have too easily. They want those things more that are hard to get. What they want most are those things that are just a hairsbreadth out of their reach, what they can almost have if they figure out the best steps to take. Giving them indication of what those steps might be is a good feeler to see their readiness. As soon as they start to try (getting the chasing going) they will get small rewards with indications of how they can modify their steps to get bigger rewards.

I stay vague about the exact reward possible, just vague hints but am clearer about the steps they need to take…[/private] …to even find out what those rewards might be. I let their imagination do most of the work. It comes up with things closer to what they want, and their never quite sure if they are right anyways.

That uncertainty creates desire in them just to find out what those rewards might be and to know a clearer picture of what they need to do to get them…. is a larger factor in creating desire than anything explicit described anyways.

What to do when she indicates too early to ‘Go away’ [VIDEO]

You talking to girls at the bar

and you are talking about what they are drinking, what you are drinking.

The tossing in this offhandedly: “I said that if Im having shots with them they gotta drink MY SPECIAL, and you just push it down your throat and swallow it.”

The psychology of a compliment

VIDEO HERE

LR – Token LMR & 1st kiss her at my place

.by Cj Siege on Saturday, at 10:37pm.

previously Wrote:

by The Siege

So it all started at Allston bar/grill, Sunset Grill. I was there a little early to be meeting some friends there for dinner. The waitress gave me a table beeper and I sat at the bar to wait for my friends. I was sitting on the corner of the bar and on the adjacent side of the bar were 4 girls in a row. I eye contacted with a smile the two that were closest to me.

As soon as the girl closest to me got her drink, we talked about her beer a bit. We mad some jokes about beers. To explain her reasons to be out on a weeknight, she says that she and her friends ran the marathon that day, so even though I only partially believe her (based on her delivery) I play along with her joke.

I scan across the row of girls and notice the one farthest from me, the youngest and the cutest of the bunch is doing some eye contact flirting heavily but is much more reserved than the other 3 girls.

The first girl then points out each girl in the row and tells me of something that was significant about them in the marathon simultaneously doing a mini-intro without names. She tells me one girl had a knee go out in the last 2 miles, that she personally had stomach ache during part of the race and small factors about each one during the race. It seems as if she is making the whole thing up, but I play along for playful sake.

At one point she is playing with her phone and I see an engagement/wedding band on the indicator finger. She was wicked fun to talk & joke with, so I just noted it in my head & went on with the convo. My first buddy shows up. After a few minutes of catch up talk, I quickly introduce him in to the girls. I use the same intro the first girl did with me when she introduced me to the group.

I started announcing the group to my buddy as an introduction. “Ya, and these girls ran the marathon today. This girl had a stomach-ache, This girl a knee problem…” I began with…. and the first girl finished my introduction to my buddy with the specifics she told me previously. She finished up the introductions.

Conversation went on with me, my buddy & mostly the girl closest to us and a little less with next girl over and even less with the 3rd girl in the group.( Nothing but gazes from the last girl in the row.) At one point the second girl in the row mentioned her husband offhandedly in a comment so I made my second note in my head. The girls were fun to chat with, so it kept going on for a few minutes until their appetizers came.

As the first 3 girls were eating their appetizers, I saw the last girl in the row, the one making her heavy eye contact flirts. She had no appetizer and was just sitting with her drink. She was blond, very cute & definitely caught my attention. She had a rocker chick vibe which has caught & held my attention more than once. I excused myself from my buddy, walked down the bar to where this last girl was sitting and started talking. I first was [private]talking about the marathon again and this girl mentioned that she didn’t even go, she told me the other things she did that day.

The conversation jumps from that to places she’s worked in the past, her love for snowboarding, her origin of a different state. She tells me of her parents, her studies in school. She also tells me what she loves about her studies although her line of work was nothing even closely related. She is getting really excitedly passionate explaining these things, which I find very attractive. I still wasn’t thinking of her as much more than a cool chick to be talking to at the time. As far kino was concerned, the only touching I do is basic offhanded touches that goes easily in any conversation.

We get pretty involved in conversation as I see her getting more interested. She is turning her chair more away from the bar and more towards me and getting excited about the topics she mentioned that I asked her more about as she was elaborating. She was getting excited in her topics and was fun listening to her telling her stories this way. Seeing her interest and energy raising, I point out my friend who diagonally across the bar to point him out to her. I tell her that I think she is wicked cool but I have to get back to my friend (another way to roll out on a high point), we are waiting for another friend before getting a table.

“Oh we should totally trade contact so we can pick this up another time.” I tell her. She agrees and takes out her phone as I was taking out mine. I tell her my information and tell her to call her number through so I have it for later. Then I select her call, select ‘Add to contacts” and hand her my phone telling her to type in the information so I have it saved. She does this and while I am saving it we get into other conversations.

We then talk more about where she was from, what she studied in college and her love for snowboarding and her 3 month trip in the past winter. The conversation was still rolling along nicely so I stayed in it for a few minutes before getting back to my friend. As I start to walk away from her, I turn back and tell her that my friend and I are waiting for another chick friend and then we are getting a table. I tell her as soon as our other friend arrives that she should join us at the table too. She says it sounds good so I tell her I will let her know when I get buzzed for the table.

I go back to my buddy, our other chick friend arrived and I get buzzed for the table. Before sitting down, I go back to HBsnowboard and tell her I just got buzzed for the table. She tells me she is going to the bathroom and will be over after.

So my two friends and I go sit at our new table. We sit and are chatting and laughing along. This new table was on a totally opposite side of the restaurant but a few minutes later I see HBsnowboard coming in the dining room and making her way over. My buddy and chick friend were on the other side of the table so the available seat was on the bench seating next to me where she sat down.

We all ordered and talk and laugh for the next 2 hours or so. We really were just a table of pals chatting it up over dinner, with a new pal involved. Turns out, this girl was not with the other 3 at the bar, she just met them and were insta-friended by them.

All sorts of things come up in our conversation. When I bring up off handed topics of sex, we talk of wacky places to have sex. Then she tells me that she lost her virginity twice. First was with two other girls, then a different time with a guy. We talk of the way Joey Lauren Adams character in ‘Chasing Amy’ explained concepts related to losing virginity and the differences between girl/boy sex and girl/girl sex.

This new girl fit right in with our conversations and everything went along great. I excused myself at one point after dinner to have a smoke and new girl said she was coming with me to smoke as well. While we were outside, I asked her about the hookah bars nearby. Once I learned she liked them, I told her of my hookah at my house.

She told me of her day & of her two roommates. One was a guy and the other was girl who didn’t really like each other. She told me she was a mediator between the two at times. While we were chatting outside, I asked her what she was doing the next day and she told me nothing. I mentioned going back to my place after dinner to smoke hookah and told her she was welcome to come along. She then remembered she was supposed to meet her guy roommate at a nearby bar for a few but said she would skip that since she was having fun with me and could catch up to him later.

We went back inside, had a few more drinks. My buddy had to leave early since he had an NY trip in the following morning so HBsnowboard, my chick friend and myself stayed for another round chatting and laughing. We all paid the bill, I hugged my chick friend goodbye and HBsnowboard and her exchanged “nice meeting you”s with each other.

I first was ready to shoot back to my place with HBsnowboard to smoke some hookah when she tells me that she now has to go to the nearby bar to check on her guy roommate and touch base with him…this was the same one she decided to skip meeting with earlier when it came up. She tells me this and I say nothing, I just look at her. She then then tells me I can come too if I want.

“Alright, why not. That’s a fun bar, I’ll hang for a little bit.”

Sure I could have let her go or said bye or even tried to give her address or directions to my house but I know from prior experience what happens. Her attraction drops, the rapport is temporarily forgotten and a girl will get wrapped up in a new activity. She will be wrapped in the moments and not make it to after plans. I was having fun & came along to the nearby bar she was meeting her roommate at.

HBsnowboard and I go inside. I go up to the bar ahead of her and order a diet coke. She comes up behind me and orders her drink. We chat some more for a while till she sees her guy roommate across the bar and waves to him. A minute or two later, she tells me she is going over to say hi to him. On her second step away, she tells me I should come too. I tell her ok and let her walk over there by herself. I finish my coke and watch TV for a few minutes where I was.

I do that for her to have the first few minutes with her roommate to catch up with whatever without me there yet. After a few minutes, I wander over to them, sit in the stool on the other side of her and then get introduced. I had some small talk with roommate and let them chat about whatever they were chatting about. When it died down a bit, I pick up conversation with HBsnowboard from topics we talked about earlier in the night. Once she was done with her drink, she indicated she wanted to leave the bar so we said bye to her roommate and went to the bustop to go to my place. I stilll haven’t kissed her at all.

Once we got there, I showed her different things around my place. We talked of where some of the decorating ideas came from and talked about different framed pieces on the walls. At one point while talking about a wall of framed photos, she points to a single one with a sexual theme and says to me: “I like that one”

Hearing her say this, I am watching her face as she does. When she finishes speaking I pull her close and start kissing her for first time, full make out. With many girls I kiss them the first time when we’re already back to my place. Before that it was nothing but offhanded touches in convo and hints dropped by me to them. Enough sexual tension can be built with conversation alone that timing gets to be crucial here. We made out for a few minutes in this hallway. I stopped this after a few and kept talking about the art on the walls and directed her to come with me to see another piece. This piece was in my bedroom. We talked about it for a minute then I pulled her to me again and started kissing her.

With two steps away, I moved us over and fell with her on my bed to keep making out. This went on for about 10 minutes. I was rubbing the sides of her body and rubbing the skin of her back and stomach under her shirt. Once I reached around to unhook her bra, she stopped me, sat up and told me that we just met.

I playfully pushed her back and said “I know it, cut it out.” in a playful smirk. I then stood up, took her hand and said “Come with me.” As I took her back in the living room, I put some music on. I asked if she wanted a glass of water and got her and myself one. We talked for a while and listened to music. She edged her seat on the couch to be tiny bit closer to me so I put my arm around her and started making out again. We made out for a while, and I stopped it to change the radio. I just went easily back into a completely unrelated topic every so often. Then I would bring it back to escalating again.

At one point she half jokingly told me she thought I was a gentleman, that she didn’t expect all this. I told her I never claimed to be gentle with a smirk on my face. I then told her I was attracted to her and asked her: “What’s wrong with that?” She shyly told me nothing. I told her that I didn’t think so either.

A little later I told her I wanted to give each other backrubs. I unfolded the futon and told her I wanted the backrub first. She told me she didn’t think she could do it well and I told her I was open to see what she could do.

I took off my shirt, lied down and she straddled me sitting on my ass. After a few minutes, I told her she wasn’t that good (jokingly but not joking at the same time). I then told her to get off of me so she could lie down and I show her how a backrub is supposed to feel.

She does that, and I start to rub the back of her shirt. After a minute, I tell her to take off the shirt and she does that. As soon as the shirt is off I unhook her bra. Then I rub her back for a while before moving to her sides and teasing the sides of her boobs. I also lean in really close to her, pausing rubbing her back to breath in around her neck and smell her hair so she can feel the air rushing as I can inhale her scents.

She is wearing nylons under her skirt. I go to pull her skirt down and she asks me “What are you doing?”

Rather than explain the obvious, I just tell her. “Take this off” as I press the waist of her skirt to show her what I mean. She does that. Previously doing things like that, I thought I had to continue the thread of giving a harmless backrub. Now understanding how girls think in a moment-to-moment basis, I know once she has gon along with having the skirt off, she is in a new moment with a new objective. Once she has it off, I turn her over to her back and we continue making out of a while. I am in no rush. I enjoy making out with her and I have learned that sometimes the longer amount of time between steps faces less resistance… while sometimes trying to get too many steps in succession increases the likelihood of resistance. This lets me get her really hot with lots of slow sensual touches…I enjoy this. A few more minutes go by & I then feel her hands fiddling with my belt buckle. I show her how it works and then take it off myself.

After 10 minutes or more, I go to pull her nylons down. As I just start to put my fingers under the waist band.[/private] She feels this and takes the nylons and her panties off herself

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Getting her to be wanting sex from you

RE: Siege’s adventures, games & puzzles
The next step in my (“Getting Her Chasing You”) method, is putting it on her. I learned most all of my stuff from growing up with girls & having lots of girls in my life. That is what taught me how to flip the coin in the chase.

The techniques that get them chasing at first ‘hello’ all the way to having them beg for sex and every step along the process. Since girls have been chased their whole life it is like a breath of fresh air for them. They are getting rewarded for what they do, not just the fact that they are a girl and are hott. Their reward in my methods is for the actions they take in chasing the man.

DSmoothMike Wrote:
I had a cigg in my hand and I noticed this girl taking out a smoke. I wanted to try something out…

I walked up to her very casually. I dropped into a lean on the wall, and said to her very slowly and seductively, “I know it sounds a bit…random….hmm….do you want to butt fuck?”

(In smoking terms it means that you get someones lit cigarette and light yours with theirs.)

She laughs and said, “Hell yeah, I want to butt fuck!” takes my cigarette and lights hers. Then she gives my smoke to her friend so she can light hers. “Now look,” she says, “now you’re butt fucking two women.” I slid my hand down her lower back and ass cheeks “Oh really?” I responded. I took a puff and said, “Was it good for you?” and they began laughing. The girl then said, “This guy just walked up to me and gave me these fliers and I have nowhere to put them!” I took a puff, flicked the smoke away and said, “I know EXACTLY where to put them…” I stepped in front of her, stared deep into her eyes, took one flyer, gently placed it inside her bra while caressing the breast. Took the other flyer and did it with the other boob. She was totally going for it when her friend decided to take her back into the other club.

That is phucking awesome,
You have synthesized what I teach in incredible ways! From before I showed you that girls love talking sex, especially under the radar which is a huge part that I learned from seeing girls in my life since childhood communicating with each other in subtextual ways. Interweaving sexual topics where two meanings can easily fit brings out available magical moments to capture.

The next step in my (“Getting Her Chasing You”) method, is putting it on her. I learned most all of my stuff from growing up with girls & having lots of girls in my life. That is what taught me how to flip the coin in the chase.

The techniques that get them chasing at first ‘hello’ all the way to having them beg for sex and every step along the process. Since girls have been chased their whole life it is like a breath of fresh air for them. They are getting rewarded for what they do, not just the fact that they are a girl and are hott. Their reward in my methods is for the actions they take in chasing the man.

It is the same stuff they do to guys and when talking to other girls, in different ways back to them.

For one example, using a bit of plausable deniability back on the girl. Plausable deniability as referenced to how girls accept going back to a SNL location for other reasons.

They want to have sex with you on the inside, but logically, in dialog they are going to watch that youtube video you were talking about. You can use plausablie deniabilty in your favor as she sees it, then she feels like the pursuer and does what she knows how to to fulfill that role.

The Siege at cafe Wrote:
Ex. As in when HB waitress listening to me teasing her aboout lack of a joyful greeting she says “I know, I suck.”

My next comments are “Whoa missy, slow down! We just met and already you’re suggesting mischief. Let’s get to know each other a little better first!” in a playful smirk…

…which instantly puts her in blushy playful places, easily guided to their most escalatable place.

A girls imagination is a wonderful place to play in. She wont feel the need to hesitate or resist since it is all a joke, just playfull banter.

Or is it?

In a girl’s imagination those place can bring them arousal just as fast (actually faster and deeper) than physical stimulation on its own.

Another reason while talk during sexy time dramatically increases the amounts of pleasure she feels, from before foreplay to foreplay to orgasm.

The next thing to do is to tell her to slow down, accusing her of the one bringing things up.

You maintain that she is doing things to you, and you are resisting her. Then you can slowly be ‘dropping your (playfully pretended) resistance’ as she will increase her persistance in response to that.

If you didn’t have a GF , I would explain more about what can be done to capitalize on the friend, keeping her from pulling your target girl away but that’s another branch of this topic. I’ll write about that in my own Personal Progress Thread (PPT) if you remind me too.

What you did in the first example I quoted was great, escalating things already in a way better than above average guys. Yet let me take the example and put myself in that place to think of what could be tried to see how far it can go. I’ll imagine I am where you were at:

C.J. “The Siege Wrote:
With a cigg in my hand, I noticed a girl taking a smoke out of the pack.

As I walk up to her very casually, I dropped into a lean on the wall, and said to her very slowly and seductively, “I know it sounds a bit…random….hmm….do you want to butt fuck?” with a playful smirk

(In smoking terms it means that you get someones lit cigarette and light yours with theirs.)

She laughs and says, “Hell yeah, I want to butt fuck!”

She then takes my cigarette and lights hers. Then she gives my smoke to her friend so she can light hers.

“Now look,” she says, “now you’re butt fucking two women.”

With locked eyes & a playful smirk, I slide my hand down her lower back and ass cheeks missy saying: “Whoa missy, slow down…” in a lower, deeper voice “You might be getting me turned on enough to try things I never dreamed of…” (smirk indreases) “…before I met you.”

Now you can see in that last part, my actions are doing one thing while my words are saying something completely different. This is a key thing to remember & use, that I will elaborate with a variety of examples in my PPT. I will also break down the sentence itself, so another with the key componants that make it work can be adapted to any situation.

Now there are a few different examples of what comments could come next, depending on how she responds to that & even before she responds since most likely she’ll be taken aback for a good moment or two, soaking in what is happening.

Which having that moment of her soaking it in, gives you the time to slide in the next possible leading directions but I’ll cover that in another post

keep it

up & the magic has nothing to do but grow!!

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Not only will you be instructed on all the steps through this blueprint/process, you will have a C.J. nearby at above mentioned nightgame to tell you exactly what’s best to do in a situation you are in with girls to bring things to their best next level.

As you may have seen in the sheets going around describing the “SNL – The Same Night Lay Blueprint”, this technique is designed rejection proof.

After having been doing these things so long, C.J. is too cocky to ever want hear rejection of any sort. That is why each step is a combination of a move in the right direction for a lay, with an indicator of what needs to be done for next step. [/size]

[quote=*Limited pre-release]

The reason C.J. has: *Limited pre-release on e-books is that the first release is always bound to have typos that spell-check missed. In exchange for guys feedback to perfect final product, there is a duration of open email/phone/Skype follow ups consulting/coaching for guys who get first release. It can’t be offered to everyone, or else all time would be spent replying to emails and answering phones. THAT is why it is ‘*Limited pre-release’ and available to guy who request to be on the list before it is released.
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It can be as easy as saying:

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She tried to give me shit about something

I just tell her:
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“I eat girls like you for breakfast.” and continue my story.
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Drop some chemistry seeds into convo for 3some (w/video)

It is said that 1st two weeks of semester have highest ratio of SNLs, Mmm…So 2nd day girl from my class comes along to improv with me after class, then with me to have wine with me & see my place and one thing leads to another… I love it when a girl is thanking me as she is leaving after sex ;) .

The following day of class (2days later, ystrday) she introduces me to her hott friend, we all meet up for wine last night. When we all get back to my place, of course I suggest a 3 way massage but it never even gets that, right to 3 of us enjoying each other naked…sexual tension within dialog leads to beautiful things ;) [/VIDEO LINK chemistry convo seed to 3some

“Getting her number without any possibility of rejection”

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Women are impulsive to how they choose their mates

Some people are under the false impression that women always choose their partners based upon their belief that they could be permanently happy with them. This is not true at all. In fact, [private] women are often startlingly impulsive, especially if they have been in more than one relationship. [/private]

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Men Aren’t Needy!

Being strong in your masculinity reduces any neediness. Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to [private]focus your mind on appreciation – stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy…[private] you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.

Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. I removed compliments from my vocabulary and just went on to notice what I like about people. They appreciate it more, it is much easier (just noticing) and it is always taken as honest, not contrived.

Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them, share them with who you are with. This discussion brings you both to the same page and you can enjoy together.

Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone loves to hang with. [/private]

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When getting a number is the next natural step

When you are chatting along with a new girl and you feel some clicking happening, you have some common interests. You see attraction running both ways you can ask: “Well let me ask you this. What steps do we have to take to make sure we have a chance to talk again?”
And just let that statement go like a seed regardless of her reaction. A few minutes later you can easily say “You are definitely cooler than I first thought. We totally have to trade contact to pick this up again.”

Do it NOW!

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Being strong in your masculinity reduces…

[private]Being strong in your masculinity reduces any needyness. Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to focus your mind on appreciation – stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.

 
Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. I removed compliments from my vocabulary and just went on to notice what I like about people. They appreciate it more, it is much easier (just noticing) and it is always taken as honest, not contrived.
Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them, share them with who you are with. This discussion brings you both to the same page and you can enjoy together.
Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone loves to hang with.[/private]

When you do start to feel connection/attraction to this girl …

[private]When you do start to feel connection/attraction to this girl you can say:

 ”Wow, you sound really interesting, like someone I might like to get to know.”

Look, you just met her. This is being totally honest. You don’t know yet everything about her & if you will like getting to know her or not. Sure she is hott but maybe she is also the next ‘Crazy Cat Lady’ that would key your motorcycle because you didn’t text her back within the hour.

Let thing naturally progress. This shows you are about that & aren’t ready to sell your house and move to Kazackstan to meet her family yet.

Clear cut truth on the table always works best. You never have to dig yourself out of anything and she will like getting to know you at a natural rate too.[/private]

Stand apart from the rest

If you are trying to fit into the norm in every area of your life, think about this: ‘average guy’ means just like all the rest. What is special about you that would cause her to choose you over any of the other millions of guys on this planet?

A woman’s attraction instincts would be invoked by [private]things such as humor, confidence, attitude way more then anything like looks or money. Of course those things would get a woman’s attention as a guy first walks in the room, once the conversation is started those factors seem to melt away.

Not only do you want to live an “above average” lifestyle, if you are approaching a new woman, being categorized as “average” in the first 90 seconds will shut off any available attraction triggers in her mind. The challenge has ended before it even has started.

When I see or hear of a guy seeing the woman he has interest in and then asking “do you have a boyfriend?” Or something very weak sounding such as: “can I take you out sometime?”… These type of things are indicating that a man has interest in the girl weigh more than well last if he gets to know her and she’s not that cool. She knows this. So many guys approach with these type of questions, that alone will write him off.

Listen, you want to find a girl that not only can catch your attention but can also hold it, right? Yes you should be open to meeting new people, meeting new women to see what they’re like unless not jump steps just yet. Start slow, even slower than that. Make your small moves to learn about the woman and see if she has interesting character to her.

“Beauty without character is like a masterpiece painted on a napkin.”

Then once the initial contact is made in a girl and a guy start to get to know each other, I have seen guys doing things such as buying her gifts, taking her to expensive restaurants and/or doing favors for her to earn her approval. A woman’s gonna find this very unattractive. These type of steps come from a man feels his inner character in real cell is unattractive and may be hiding is I’ll tear your motives are wanting to sleep with her.

Yes, sure, yes please go ahead and do those things once you have gotten to know a girl and she seems really special to you. You have gotten to know her enough to know that those type of rewards as mentioned above have been earned in time with her is rewarding enough to you to give her those things.

At the very beginning and meeting a woman not only do you want to know those things (how cool she is) she also wants to know those about you. Remember that. If she has caught your attention, you can easily bring her and you bolt to be feeling that excitement, tension, and attraction at the very beginning of your meet up. You never have to wonder where you stand with her, you are very sociable a and if anything, she should be curious to know where she stands with you. She should be carriers to know and to earn your time taking her along your adventures. Once you have learned enough about her, of course then you decide it is like to spend more time with her and maybe go through some of the dating rituals (if that is what you choose).

Think of it this way: one relationship is based and built upon two people that enjoy each other’s company very much and they enjoy each other’s personality. Compare that to another relationship whereas a girl decides to hang out with a guy because he buys her gifts, takes her on expensive dates, and does outlandish favors for her. (By the way as a relationship grows favors become a two-way street).

If you are in club with a buttoned shirt & one sleeve unbuttoned, you can ask a nearby girl:

“Hey, I’m meeting a friend in a second and I couldn’t get this button (Point to unbuttoned sleeve), do you think you could … ?”

Then I say: “Thanks, you’re really friendly. Who are you here with tonight?”[/private]

Rather than “hyp-aggressive, badboy style,…”

Yes badboy style (you don’t care if she stays or goes, there’s another girl right behind her), but I see it as very Alpha & Leading more than aggressive.

You are clear about showing what you want and making the moves to have it. You do this while still monitoring (just in ‘monitoring her’ in mind, don’t look as if you are waiting to see her validation to continue) her ‘reply’s’ of unspoken messages to your ‘sends’ of unspoken messages.

Her lack of showing any resistance to your lead is her signal that she doesn’t have you in the ‘No Interest’ category, so far. She is agreeable going along with her lead & feels safe in your care.

(*Ex. Definitely pull her in by her stomach/waist if she’s giving strong non-verbal signals of interest. Body language is where a girl can feel free letting you know she’s curious about you.)

Take her hand and princess twirl her, look her down (all the way to shoes) and up.
While your eyes are on their way up…. push your grin into a bright eyed smile if you are enjoying what you see.
This is showing  that now that you have seen her whole package, you like what you see. So far she is pleasing to you enough for you to be dancing with her, which is a great 1-on-1 time to get to know each other better.
I might even say: “Alright.” (in the tonality) as if I just jokingly agreed to a favor for her before I pull her somewhere.
“Now lets see how you dance.” (This is letting her know she has to qualify…at least be adventerous enough to try.)

I would lead her by hand at least a few steps to a open space on the floor, and dance with her for a while. We can talk & learn tidbits about each other & get a sense of the general vibe of how we work together.

If she dances well, & follows your touching (her escalation), I might lead her again off dance floor, so we can talk so more, more in depth.

I have found monitoring is to keep the level of your showing interest to match hers, after she sees you doing this… let it sink in with a pause (not too long at a club) and bounce her back with a Hook touch her some more (to gauge her reaction) and reward her compliance to you with affection. Your affection  should be gradually escalating the levels of her response.

Generating the prized momentum (Italics needs updating).

[private]I had been teaching this level for some time. I don’t specify exactly how long too much because it reminds me how ancient I may be. Regardless, I have loved to have been there when guys make amazing breakthroughs within themselves and with women they are attracted to.

One of the parts I have been doing for myself the whole time but only semi-recently figured out how to teach was the generating momentum, and maintaining  the momentum of a girl to be pursuit of a guy. I have done it for so long for a few reasons. A part of me is lazy to a point and very much likes when the girl is the one putting in the work to pursue me.

This can work against me sometimes. Since all girls are different inside, how they think, what they expect, what they respond to is a very wide scope. Most girls have responded very well to the things I do, yet you still see a range to how much each one will and what exactly they will do to be chasing.[/private]

Love in an elevator!

Awesome! Just last night I was headed back to Brighton with a chick & we were waiting at last T-stop for last bus of the night.

We had been making out every so often at prior stations & on the train & this last bus was taking forever to get there. She re-referenced the ‘anticipation’ that I mentioned earlier to her in an underlying message related to sex but this[private] bus was taking an awfully long time

We we standing at ground level. While she was leaning back on me, subtly grinding my cock through my jeans with her ass, I noticed an elevator that goes down to the underground station.

I playfully remarked “I wonder where that goes.” as I pointed it out to her.

Once she played along and mentioned she had no idea, I could tell she knew what I meant & why I was indicating the elevator right now. I told her we should go check it out. She picked up her bag & followed me over.

We went into the elevator, took it down to the subway platform & saw that since it had glass doors, it was not inconspicuous enough to the walkways underground.

We pushed the button back to street level & I noticed that in one corner of the elevator had no visibility even with the glass door. So I pushed her in the corner of the elevator & we made out there while I could lean back every so often to see if the bus had arrived yet.

At one point during making out she pulled her boob out of the top of her shirt and I went to suck on her nipple. After a few minutes, I unbuttoned my pants, pulled my cock out & pushed on her shoulder, motioning her down.

At first she said she couldn’t do that, we’d get busted. Once I assured her that we couldn’t be seen in the corner we were in, she slid down and gave me head in the elevator.

With her still at this position, I could still lean back, see through a tiny pass through the glass and watch for the bus.

Just when I pulled her up, spun her around so her ass was turned towards me & and started to pull down her pants, I was going to fuck her standing up from the rear. She then got wicked embarrassed and said she couldn’t do that.

No problem, the bus just rolled up so we could finish our journey to my place. Later that night, when we were talking about the elevator during escalation & sex at my place, she mentioned she was about one minute from going ahead with it in the elevator. Love to capture those moments as they become available! Smile [/private]

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