[private]I like a good balance between hott looking and hott personality. Thing is, is that a hott personality can make you hott looking to me but hott in a photo doesn’t make up for a boring personality.[/private]
Monthly Archives: August 2011
[private]Not so well with the 9s & 10s I want in my life.
Two sides of this coin as well.
9s & 10s are generally more eager to be opened while 6s and 7s have the highest bitch sheilds on since they get hit on so much.
9s and 10
“You are so cute”
“You are adorable” works on 6, 7, 8s sure.
I find myself getting first impression tempo better set for girls of that caliber.
But the ones that really are adorable, I stick to more vague indications…or none at all, at first about their looks…the rest of the world can do that for her.
You want remarks that are really heard & felt?
Think about this before you try to compliment:
“Compliment the beautiful on their intelligence and the intelligent on their beauty”
I have no single thing I say every time, but here was one of them:
“Yeah if I wasn’t gay I’d totally think you might have potential” after I look her down, up and down again.
She could tell I wasn’t gay, just joking or my not caring whether or not she thought I was gay. I was just being playful, joking around.
The most direct I might get with a 9/10 is: “I saw you pass by & I had to say hi.”[/private]
Confidence is one of those things that continues to build upon itself. The more you show it, the more respond to it in ways that increase it within you.
The more confidence you show, the more people receive from you and respect you [private] for.
Speaking confidently is a great first step. Just walking thro ugh the steps at first will cause you to show more confidence causing the cycle I just mentioned to streat building itself up.
Start with your voice. Speak loudly and clearly. You will see people responding to this right away. I tell my students to practice on store clerks. They see a bunch of people.
Really at the point you think you are being too loud, you are still not loud enough.
Go and practice on the people who are already there to be polite to you. You will see right away that they are extra courteous back to you and quick to fill your requests.
Then take that practice and apply it to other new people you meet in the world, you will see another improvement that the response you get will increase the confidence you have inside as a feeling too, [/private]
Being very comfortable talking about the subject with all it’s details in a casual way takes the awkwardness out of the dynamic. You can stay aloof and detached from anyone else’s awkwardness about sex since it is a beneficial part of life and really, it is no big deal. That is what media censorship has done to it, not you.
[private]Measuring how well a guy can kiss, is a huge factor in her decision to sleep with him later. Girls like a guy to be making the first move for a kiss. Girls find a good kisser to be the one who caresses her during kissing. Pull her into you from the small of her back, indicating some sleight urgency (hinting at later escalation). You can cup her face on both sides with that palms of your hands or use one hand to hold her head to you. I frequently let my fingertips do a feather-like touch down the back of their arms on bare skin to let them know of teasing later.
At this closeness, they do so notice & like a guy who smells fresh. They actually think of how good his mouth tastes when deciding whether or not to kiss him again, so it is great to have gum or mints in your back pocket for whenever the possibilities may arise.[/private]
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Lastly we talked about my TO DO LIST:
1. Writing mini-field reports of your testing out the things I taught you with results you had.
(This will show me better ways to tweak things to where you are at, what will jump you up to the next level…and by writing to me, with my name and the specific results you are getting so I can save it to my progress reports of students, always inspires me to add some extra time in field & teaching as a bonus for you.)
2.. Write a reminder to self to approach 5 people a day. Write one or two sentences about each approach and send to you as accountability.
(If you send me these lists, or mini-field reports from them gets me understanding what you need most next and fires me up to figure out what will get you the most dramatic growth in the least amount of time….the best dramatic rewards from interactions you get in.)
4. Work on alpha voice everyday. Practice with clerks, waitresses, store help. Even when you think you are too loud, you most likely still are not loud enough. it comes with practice.
(We have started with some notes about body language and posture as well. There is more you can do to easily expand your alpha-masculine presence. I have also gotten subtle notes from my chick-friends and that is always helpful.)
–Let d’Adventure Continue
~C.J. ”The Siege” © 201[/private]
[private]It Ends Tonight
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[private]“I have to give HUGE props to CJ, aka Siege. Not only is he a great teacher and knows his stuff, but its obvious that he genuinely cares and wants us to learn. With just a few words, he has this weird/amazing ability to whittle away all the bullshit and excuses I make for myself and get me to approach.”
Thanks Ender, great progress today
Sometimes a girl who has seen a guy she likes the look of, she will find a way to put herself in a close proximity to where that guy is.
Sometimes they will stand [private] a few feet in front of him, or a bit in front and off at an angle.
These types of girls wont usually make any clearer moves than this. They may turn around as if they are looking around, past the guy, behind him.
They do this so the guy has a chance to see what she looks like and if he is interested will make a move of some sort.
I think most of this happens subconsciously, that they don’t even really think about what they are doing.
Something in their biological coding has given them an instinct to stand close enough for him to see her and make a move if he is interested.
This is another form of ‘inviting you to approach.’ Since she is so close on purpose, there really is no need to do any physical approaching, just be loud and say ‘hi’.
Once the conversation starts to engage well, she will start to move close to you, which is a great start to generating the momentum of her coming to you, her chasing you in a tiny way.
From what I have seen in the way you start and maintain an opening conversation, I would recommend you stand strong staying still while you are talking at first.
As you see her ‘ping’ of turning towards you and focusing her attention on you, you may take a tiny move in her direction to show her a ‘pong’ but not to much, you would be inviting the closeness.
Each situation takes a different amount of how much to ‘pong’ her ‘pings’, but this is something you will be learning more with each interaction.
It is a part of calibration. Your body language responding to her body language that is responding to your body language and so on.
This is another way to be communicating in subtext and without words that girls love and feel a way deeper rapport about.[/private]
…controlling the chase, making her [private]come to you.
You want her reacting to your moves. Not the other way around.
Use your alpha bait, control your emotions and use great patience to have trophy women. [/private]
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[private]One of the first sets I opened, I hooked real quickly. Later that night a guy was asking me if it was just a warm-up set. Ok, you can look at it that way but it has more levels than that. Once you do warm-up enough, they become habit, enjoying new conversations where-ever you go.
One of the girls was kind of pretty and the other was lesser, no problem. They both had kids & if I was curious for more, I would have offhandedly looked at her left hand…but I wasn’t interested so I didn’t even check. I just enjoyed the conversation at hand
I just enjoyed our conversation. Like warm-ups, staying in active conversation keeps a social momentum within oneself to go on to the following sets.
Also I may hear things in early conversation that I bring up later ones “Ice skating? I was just talking to Janice over here that was telling me of her 4 year old learning ice skating…” (further indicating a women-friendly guy) and the conversation has many places to go from there.
As you may have noticed or not, girls in any venue are frequently scanning the place that they are in. You can bet that when you roll out of one group of girls directly into another, the second one already saw you talking to the first group. On top of that, if you happen to be doing some off handed scanning of the room yourself while in conversation with the first group and see another girl(s) looking your way, it is great to pause the conversation you are in and walk on over to the second group.
It can be as easy as “Excuse me guys, I’ll be back in a few, I have to go say hi to my friends.”
This is not rude or impolite on any level. You just met the first group and were chatting a bit. You are leaving on a high note to easily roll back in at any time throughout the night and resume. And the second group may not be your friends yet, but you are going in with best intention..if they are cool enough, they will be new friends.
All this leaving you just looking like the sociable guy who has people to touch base with.
To the second group that you walk over to open, you are already pre-selected as a woman-friendly guy. They have seen you happily chatting with other girls, maybe the first set was laughing at times too. Underneath it all, the second group of girls will have felt like the stole you away from the first group in a subtle way. They don’t think this literally so much, but kind of feel that way. They are more eager to be opened and to be doing more to be holding your attention since they did see you have other people to be talking to and could leave a group of girls at any moment if they don’t play their cards right.
Started with talking to the married chicks because they are closest to where the venue was entered from, starts the momentum that leads to better things in the way that my night progresses from there.[/private]
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Just on the bus & rolling along in some conversation with a girl. We talked about fun things I was doing over the past few days & she liked the [private] things I described a lot. Although I wasn’t attracted to her in the least bit, out of habit I suggest we trade contact, which we do…then she tells me she lives with 16 girls who also don’t know much around town of what’s going on, all from Ireland
Once again, I didn’t even know her name till I was punching in her info to my phone. The main part of this, is that I would have never known all the side potential if I disregarded trading info because she wasn’t that attractive. She was cool if nothing else. [/private]
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[private][private]Uoffhanded affection can come from picking the lint from her clothes, taking the eyelash from her cheek, taking the lint from her chin.
Make no big deal out of this, get it done & keep moving along, keep talking like it’s nothing.[/private]
“You won’t believe what I have in store for you!” I told her.
So once again I see the reason it’s great to maintain some contact with a girl I’ve met that I liked but didn’t go [private]very far at first. It was approx 2 years ago or so I went to a Halloween party with a chick friend of mine who also did improv at the Improv Asylum when I did.
At the party, I was introduced to a bunch of cool new people and even traded numbers with some to stay connected. I was dressed as a woman that year, so the chicks seemed to love teasing me in ways that guys tease chicks or objectify them in a playful way.
There was even more than one occasion through the night where I found it necessary to say “Hey! I am more than just a piece of meat for you to enjoy. I have deep feelings and you have to respect me for those.” Totally joking in the moment, of course, and some chicks would take it even further, continuing the thread in a way I liked. When girls grabbed my stuffed boobs I would grab their real ones in response. They just laughed.
They would have playful comments to say I was just a piece of meat or their toy for the night (which I didn’t mind at all). One girl, let’s say Anna, was acting pretty frisky and even was trying to exert some playful dominance on me. To re-remind her of the man inside the costume, I simply picked her up, her back over one of my arms, her legs draped across the other, the way a parent would carry an infant or a groom would carry his bride across the threshold of the motel room. Somebody snapped a photo of this.
Days later, several of us found & friended each other on facebook and she saw this photo so she tagged herself. We commented here & there on each other posts every once in a while, nothing too constant just little hellos.
It wasn’t until a week or two ago I posted a comment “My dance moves are ok, but show me a stripper pole & I really come alive.”
It was my joke. People could take it how they wanted but I wrote it as two unrelated concepts. I could dance ok, but if I was watching a stripper pole with a stripper on it, I would come ‘alive’, so to speak.
She simply commented “Dude, me too!” to which I went to her FB page and wrote: “I hear a dance-off starting to form. You have no idea what sort of competition you’re up against.”
She commented to my post, saying: “Stiff, no doubt.”
Thank you very much Ms. Anna, for starting the sexual undertoned comments. This is my favorite place to be, inspiring these type of comments in girls with my subtlety, then continuing the ping-pong effect.
Soon after, I then had a post on my own page from a magazine article I recently read that said that Boston had the 3rd highest IQ average in the nation. She went & asked what the first two were. They were Raleigh NC and something else, but I saw her question as a set up for a cocky joke on my part.
“What were the first two?” She asked.
“Brighton and Brighton again, both first and second place.” I replied, since Brighton is my neighborhood I wanted to subtly indicate in a joke that I was responsible for the high IQ here.
She went on to agree, then said “Coincidence? I think not…I mean assuming Allston is part of Brighton…”
With: “Coincidence? I think not…” I could see she got my joke. Once she said: “assuming Allston is a part of Brighton…” I saw that she got my joke, and if she was living in Allston, then she was installing herself into the joke, playing along at my level. I read enough interest in this to take it to the next tiny step up. I sent her a private message.
“I had no idea that we’re practically neighbors. If you weren’t such a mischief maker, I’d think we should do coffee or split appetizers & catch up n’stuff…”
In this, I acknowledged her ‘ping’ of letting me know she lived near me with my ‘pong’ of the “neighbors” in the message to let her know I got the idea. I then was suggesting we should hang out soon with a disqualifier of: “If you weren’t such a mischief maker…”
I already could read into our ping-pong comments that she wanted to hang out. By expressing a small reason why we should not, she instantly tries to overcome it. This generates a tiny bit more attraction with a sleight indication (‘we want more what we cannot have’) and is a good place to begin the momentum of a girl in pursuit of a guy, not the other way around.
So the next ‘ping’ reply she gave me was: “Precisely why we should. Mischief loves company. Or something like that…” Which is great. Rather than me asking her if she wants to hang out, I tell her a tiny silly reason why we should not, and she is the first one to actually say that we should hang out. She could guess that mischief was something I like in a girl, so she is guessing at a way to qualify herself to me, and agreeing with the sexual undertones it carries.
Now that she is the one suggesting we hang out, I can play some more with her. I tell her this: “Ok. Maybe that makes sense if we warn the other neighbors first, just in case. Do you text?”
I still indicate the “Maybe” letting her know she hasn’t won my total approval of the idea yet, keeping her working. “Warning the neighbors” was to continue the mischief theme but in the subtext. I saw I had her number from a time back that I never followed up on, I I wanted to keep her invested in this thread’s momentum so I just asked if she texts.
“Of course. Doesn’t everyone? I have no use for the phone other than texting & email & cool games & stuff.” And signed with a nickname I didn’t previously know of hers and her number. By telling me the nickname, she indicated to me a bit more rapport, so from that time on, I called her that to continue it.
I then shot her a text with my phone. “Although I don’t know what I’m getting into with you. Here is my #. ~C.J.”
Then began the texting banter. She must have been in rhyming mood, because she mentioned something about our names rhyming. That rhyme made me think of an improv game I working to be played at the improv group I regularly am a part of. I told her of it, that is was a scene with a bartender whose customer had a problem that he came in and sang about. The bartender would sing his advice, and they both had to rhyme with each other. So I told her to come to improv.
Then she asks me if they serve drinks at the venue the improv is at. I tell her they don’t but we usually go to Unos for drinks and snacks.
She shows up and participates in the improv some, which is good since I bet she thought it was just a show. When it came time to go to Unos she came right along.
At Unos, I directed her to the corner seat in the booth, then I sat next to her (not across table from her) so I could be in close touching distance. When we were talking it was easy to put my hand on her leg for a moment when I was making a point, or to be touching her regularly throughout the conversation. It was easy to be bouncing from conversation with her, which I kept at a closer face to face distance, to the conversations going around the table with my other friends. Since I saw her look to my lips a few times when we were talking so close, I just leaned in & kissed her to which she kissed back and giggled a little.
We traded stories, I told her of my lifecoaching/dreamcatching gig and she tells me that she had an unfulfilled dream.
“What is it?” I ask
“I want to strip.”
I had to tell her my joke that is true: “When I was a kid, my dad was a firefighter so I always wanted a firefighter pole in may house. Since I have grown up, I settled for a stripper pole to be at my house.
After that the easy kisses just came every so often, so I asked her if she drove that night. She told me that she does drive, but took the T since to avoid the parking. I then told her I would have hit her up for a lift home if she had her car. She started telling me of taking the T back together since both of our areas are on the same color line. Then she cut herself off and suggested we split a cab since we live relatively close with each other. I agreed and conversations of other topics came in and out.
When I stepped out to smoke a butt, an adjustment to the dynamic came to me. Different friends that were there had given me a ride home before. When I got back inside I said to Anna “Sometimes my friend gives me a lift back to my place, I wonder if it would be cheaper for you to take a cab back from my place.”
Her first reply was “Couldn’t he just give me a ride back to my place too?”
I had already though of the possibility of her thinking this so I told her. “It is much easier for me to ask for a ride for you & me back to my place than also be asking for a ride for you, a person they just met first time tonight to a whole other place…taking more time.” It was unspoken, but there is a sleight indication that by asking for this extra favor might have less of a change of being favorably granted.
Girls are great at thinking of all the possibilities in a social situation. If she was to put all the possibilities on the table then it would compare. She may like me to be splitting a cab with her, spending a little more time together. I thought of that, but it wouldn’t be as smooth to get her back to my place in those circumstances. If she denied the suggestion, I may just tell her to take the T back and I will get a ride from my friend. Of course I don’t know for sure, but I bet she considered that last possibility. She agreed that a cab back from my place would make the most sense.
Most of the ride, while she was in the back I spent most of the time during the ride, talking to my friend, making small points to her. So during the ride back, as we passed a road that a turn would lead to her place, she mentioned it this way: “Left” quietly in a playful tone. Although I didn’t know exactly where she lived, I guessed what she was getting at.
“No problem, you can take a cab back from my place.” Thankfully, my buddy didn’t interject by saying he could take her to her house. He might have not even known what she was talking about when she said “Left,” since he does know how to get to my place and thought that’s where we were going.
She said nothing else, so the conversation continued and we arrived at my apartment. I was sort of offering that my buddy comes in too, but thankfully he beat me to the punch. He said he had to run, that he had an early morning tomorrow.
So Anna and I went up to my apartment. She came in very confidently, opposed to how I do notice when girls are sometime a bit hesitant for a few when they are in a guys place their first time. They come in for the tour, settle to the environment as I offer them a drink and get them settled in a comfortable area.
She went on to be playing with my cat. I told her that I thought it was awesome that she got along so well with the cat and the cat liked her. She seemed to spend an extra minute or two playing with the cat after I said that.
She previously told me she had an unfulfilled dream of stripping some day. She had a very tight body, exercised regularly and I could see she had a palm sized ass, still beautiful hip curves. Of course I had to show her the stripper pole I have installed at my place. It has always gotten a playful reception form girls who come over for dinner parties and for other reasons.
She loved it. She started showing off her moves to which I sat back and enjoyed the show. After a few minutes, when she had done a good multi-move sexy routine, she was closer to where I was sitting with her ass in my direction. I simply put a hand on each side of her hips, pulled her down to be sitting next to me, and let the makeout begin.
Things escalated for a while, she kissed her way down my stomach to give me some head, which was actually very good. Since I did want to fuck her, I stopped her at doing this, guided her to be on her back and did some ravishing all over her body to get her more aroused.
I ran my hands and kissed, all over her body. As I was kissing her belly, my hands were up on her boobs. With a quick maneuver with my hand, I unhooked her bra (I would recommend practice on these to be very smooth). I did this while kissing, usually when done quickly and smoothly, girls hardly notice it is coming off (which they like things to be that smooth) until they feel their nipples are being played with.
We play-wrestled around on the futon, making out & playing different ways. Then in a smooth, unbutton and slide down, her pants came off. While kissing her below, she had moans of pleasure but still was gently and playfully resisting and laughing.
She was enjoying what she was feeling, yet didn’t want to surrender to me yet I could tell. I could feel that in her, and wasn’t bothered so I kept repositioning us in different ways through our wrestling, both of us laughing.
Probably to avoid the slut-label girls often think they need to avoid during a first night encounter like this. She pulled her pants back up. Once I first detected this, I took the control. Taking the waistband of her pants, I pulled them all the way up, rezipped and rebuttoned them while saying “Whoa missy, as much as I am attracted to you, we are going way too fast.”
By seizing her hesitation to be my hesitation, I now had more of the control of it. When I resparked sexy-time further, it is more as if her sexy moves had me to reconsider my choice of slowing things down, in a subtle way. Even when she was on top of me and things got hotter and heavier in both of us, she went to stand up for a moment. That is fine, she can let those feelings of me touching her to soak in & her feeling her arousal without me touching her for a moment, building desire in her.
Rather than try to keep things in a state of continuation, I laid my head back and mostly closed my eyes. I was just enjoying her for the moment, we were making out and escalating so now that it paused, I just sat back and enjoyed what was previously going on. Instead of glaring at her in anticipation for more escalation, I was just comfortable. Sure I had my eyes closed but one squinted every so often so I could see what she was doing. That way she didn’t feel like she had my full attention, eagerly awaiting her next move. If things were to end for the night at that point, I was fine. I could see her watching me expectantly, then she picked up a huge carnival stuffed dog of the floor & in a silly way she first pressed it to my chest where I was reclined a bit.
As I opened my eyes and looked at her she let herself down to be on top of me with the stuffed dog between us. (Weird barrier) Then the kissing began again with me pulling out the stuffed animal and we play-wrestled again, letting things escalate further. Then I was the one stopping things, mentioning that I had to get up early tomorrow so we should call her a cab.
She agreed, so I looked up cab companies online & selected one to call. Since she was sitting next to me, while I was waiting for someone to answer, I put my hand on Anna’s back and guided her down to be giving me head again. I heard the taxi guy answer but was a little distracted so I disconnected. She was pretty passionate and enthusiastically going down on me, it was late so I let her finish me to orgasm. I kissed her & told her she did awesome. She told me she had to work the next morning so I picked up the phone to call the cab again, this time giving the guy the addresses.[/private]
~ CJ “Let d’Adventure Continue” Piona ©2010
near the bar area, [private]…you can pretend to spontaneously notice them and wander over to say hello. Usually girls in groups are mroe likely to be polite at firsy as not to look rude in front of their friends.