This is another excellent way to share information in a way that is fun and creates a playful back and forth vibe between the two of you. “I’m fascinated by…” or “I like…” Remember, start small. Don’t go for the immediate deep topics. Get her talking with you first and get into deep topics [...]

1. BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF
If you just sit around all day playing Angry Birds, you will not be able to attract ANY girl. You need to become the best version of yourself.
Someone who is always improving in various ways and learning new things is going to be more attractive to women than someone who does the same things, day in day out.. week in week out… you get the picture.
Learn something new, do something different and try other paths in your life. Be interesting!
2. PICK THE RIGHT GIRLS FOR YOU
There is no point trying to FORCE a relationship with a girl that is just not right for you. Think very clearly about what you want so that when you meet girls you can ask yourself whether they fit the type.
I see far too many guys falling into the trap of just settling for the first girl that is remotely interested in them. It’s a kind of comfort zone… “well she likes me, she’s nice and we have a great connection… so she’ll do I guess”. This is the wrong attitude.
3. BUILD THE RIGHT SOCIAL CIRCLE AND ENVIRONMENT TO ATTRACT THEM
You need to think about the kind of girls you want to meet and put yourself in the situations to meet them. If you like fit girls, then go to the gym, even dance classes. Smart girls? Try evening courses, language classes. Artistic girls? Try acting, music, art.
Make friends with the right kind of people and you’ll be introduced to the kind of girls who might work as a girlfriend.
4. APPROACH LIKE USUAL, AND GET ON THE DATE, BUT…
Don’t say how you feel too soon.
When you do meet a girl that you REALLY LIKE, don’t tell her You need to keep her guessing, at least until you have sex.
Be cool, keep meeting your friends, and even if she seems really into you, don’t say too much! It often takes longer for girls to trust guys and to fall for them – especially a girl of quality. Blab too soon and you’ll scare her off.
Having said that, when she eventually does fall for you… it’s game over, she’s yours.
5. FIND THE THINGS THAT SHE LIKES AND KEEP DOING IT
If her ex boyfriends were all jealous, it’s probably what she likes Don’t be too different. Be similar but slightly better.
Likewise, the things that initially worked on her, you need to keep doing in the relationship. If you are very cool when you meet her, and for the first week, but then turn into a pussy, it’s just not going to work out.
So that’s it.

Doing anything specifically to impress people is stupid
People will never give you the validation you seek if you try to be a dancing monkey for them. Saying how many languages you speak, how rich you are, who you know, where you studied or what you do for a living, or trying to show-off in any other way to get someone to like you, or working for these things just for the bragging rights will leave you really disappointed.

People are impressed by those who aren’t trying to impress them and are comfortable in themselves and social and interesting. Sometimes to be “interesting” all you have to do is be a good listener.

Swallow your pride and apologize
Never hold a grudge and never try to win every argument. Sometimes it’s best to let your pride slide for the sake of clearing the air with someone. Be the first to say you’re sorry. Never wait for the other person to make the first move.

Stop thinking so much and act
People think their way out of doing everything that’s worth doing in life. The reason I feel I’m getting so much done in the last years is precisely because of how much time I give to over-analyzing whether I should do something important or not: None.

HOW DO YOU CRAFT an exceptional life? Ultimately, life goes by in a blink. And too many people live the same year 80 times. To avoid getting to the end and feeling flooded with regret over a live half-lived, read (and then apply) these tips:

Exercise daily.
Get serious about gratitude.
See your work as a craft.
Expect the best and prepare for the worst.
Keep a journal.
Read The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin.
Plan a schedule for your week.
Know the 5 highest priorities of your life.
Say no to distractions.
Drink a lot of water.
Improve your work every single day.
Get a mentor.
Hire a coach.
Get up at 5 am each day.
Eat less food.
Find more heroes.
Be a hero to someone.
Smile at strangers.
Be the most ethical person you know.
Don’t settle for anything less than excellence.
Savor life’s simplest pleasures.
Save 10% of your income each month.
Spend time at art galleries.
Walk in the woods.
Write thank you letters to those who’ve helped you.
Forgive those who’ve wronged you.
Remember that leadership is about influence and impact, not title and accolades.
Create unforgettable moments with those you love.
Have 5 great friends.
Become stunningly polite.
Unplug your TV.
Sell your TV.
Read daily.
Avoid the news.
Be content with what you have.
Pursue your dreams.
Be authentic.
Be passionate.
Say sorry when you know you should.
Never miss a moment to celebrate another.
Have a vision for your life.
Know your strengths.
Focus your mind on the good versus the lack.
Be patient.
Don’t give up.
Clean up your messes.
Use impeccable words.
Travel more.
Read As You Think.
Honor your parents.
Tip taxi drivers well.
Be a great teammate.
Give no energy to critics.
Spent time in the mountains.
Know your top 5 values.
Shift from being busy to achieving results.
Innovate and iterate.
Speak less. Listen more.
Be the best person you know.
Make your life matter.

(from student field report)

I walked right up and sat myself down looking straight ahead. I turn to her slightly and asked her, “Hey…how often does the bartender come by?” then continued to watch the game. She told me, “Actually, she comes here often.” I reply, “So, that’s (I point to the bar behind us) the popular bar, and this one is just second class.” She laughs at the remark. At first, her positioning of the body was straight forward and her head was turned at an angle towards me. The positioning of the arms was resting relaxed at the table. I ordered a water with a lime and called it my “virgin gin and tonic” which she thought was clever. She asked me if I liked to drink, and I told her, “No, I don’t drink on Wednesdays. I mean, who the hell drinks on Wednesday?” She looks at me with a smile, taps her glass. I looked back at her, smiled and raised an eye brow. “No, I do drink, I just feel like a water for now.”

Then we began to talk about drinks which lead into talking about wine. When we realized we share the same liking to wine, I told her about my random amazing trip to Wisconsin, with pauses in my speech, slowed down speech, and a very detailed and vivid story telling. during this story, her body was open more towards me, and her face was facing me the entire time. There was no looking back. I realized she was using the triangular gaze at me, and I realized, I had no idea what to do about it. So I did it to her as well. All this time, I was touching her here and there, pushing her away, pulling her back as we laughed and smiled together.

We were talking about my work when I asked her, “When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?” She told me that she always wanted to be in business and that’s what she is doing now. Then she told me she just graduated from college and wanted me to guess her age. I told her that she was 14 with a really good fake ID. She loved the thought and told me that she was 23. Then she asked how old I was. I asked, “Does age really matter?” She insisted in knowing my age. I kept on giving her clues that she would never guess what it was. She then said, “Are you 25?” I said, “Yeah, let’s keep it at that”. She laughed at that and asked me why I wouldn’t tell her. I told her that as an Asian, I can be 90 and still look this fine and sexy. She asked if I was 90, and I said that no, I was 100.

Her friend then looks over and introduces herself with a huge smile. This smile told me, “Thank you for entertaining my friend, but are you good enough for her?” I told the girl I was talking to that she had a good friend to be checking up on her like that. Then they said that they were really close friends, and they were like sisters. So i made a comment about the dad having split personalities, so technically, they came from different fathers. They thought that idea was funny. Then the friend went back to the other dude, and I began to talk to the girl again. I told the girl that I was talking to that I enjoyed out moment we are having together and that we should go out sometime. I told her about the Ethiopian place nearby and she wanted to try it out with me. However…I forgot her name! So I typed my number in her phone and gave my phone a ring. I took my phone and said, “I don’t know if your parents are one of those too cool for school types with children with misspelled names…so…how would YOU spell your name?” and she spelled it for me.

Then we began to talk about traveling to NYC. I told her how I performed magic up there and how I love the social life they got. She loved the social life there as well. But we agreed that Boston is actually a cleaner place. Then I told her about my random trip to Plymouth NH and how we got lost in Portsmouth ME. She was very intrigued by it. Then there was a moment of silence.

I faced the TV briefly, thinking about what I should say next. I turned to her and said, “I think it’s unfair…unfair that you girls have 9 different types of orgasms and men only have 2.” She asked me what the two were. I told her that one is from the dick and the other one is from the asshole, but we save that for the proctologists. Then she asked me what the 9 orgasms are for women. I had to improvise. So I made the five I know, “Dick in clit, fingers in clit, scissoring, breasts.” Then I made up the other four, which are different tones of orgasms, which she thought was hilarious. No girl has ever challenged me on this before, so this was pretty impressive on my behalf, I thought. She asked me where I heard this from. I said I heard it a while ago from back in 1942. She then said that there was no research done back then. I said maybe there was but it just wasn’t published. Then she said if it wasn’t published, how did you end up knowing it? So I replied with, “maybe someone wrote it down in a book, then buried it and 30 years later, I found it.” Then she said, “Then how did you read it back in 1942?” Then I said, “Maybe I…wait…yeah, you got me, I’m so stupid! I mean, smart! yeah, I’m a smart guy to know of the 9 different types of orgasms!” She begins to laugh, “Thank you so much for not putting me down! Oh my God, you are so nice! You are so sweet! You’re like a sweet cookie! I just want to dip you in milk and just eat you out!” She bursts out laughing and her friend looks over in surprise.

All this time she begins to tap on her phone, mess with the beer coaster, and checking her nails. I asked if those nails are fake. She then states that they are fake because she has a bad habit of biting her nails. I told her that those nails look delicious. I’d eat those. I told her that they looked like little jelly beans ready to just munch. She moves her hand close to me. I take her hand and asked if she plays music. She said no. I called bullshit on her and took her hands and gently massaged them and said, “These fingers look more like musical fingers” and then she said that she plays sports. Ice hockey and field hockey. Then we began to talk about high school and how our schools are rivals.

She had to go to the bathroom and her friend looks over at me and smiles. I said to her, “How can you leave your friend all by herself? I mean, don’t you girls go to the bathroom in pairs? Some friend you are! Leaving her by herself…” The friend laughed at that and we talked briefly about why chicks go to the bathrooms. Basically it’s to take a piss…Go figure. Anyways, the girl comes back and her friend leaves to the bathroom. I make the same comment to her. I turned to the guy who the friend was talking to and asked how he was. He said nothing, but nod his head. I said, “Wow, talk about a strong man! Silent and not a lot to say.” The guy was like “what?” and the girl just laughed. I repeated myself to not upset him, and he was ok with it. I went to the bathroom and when I came back, the girl was just watching the screen waiting for me to come back. I made a comment about the “power blower” they have in the bathroom. I told her it was so strong, it pushed my hand down so hard I hit my own cock. Then I ended with, “Maybe I’m just a weak man…no, I mean, what am I talking about? I’m a strong man! (imitating manly voice) I’m a man, after all, a manly man! (started flexing and sticking out my chest) That’s it! I’m a manly man!” She loved that imitation. Then I said, “I really am enjoying this moment I’m sharing with you. We should get together sometime soon and see where things might go. When is a good time to contact you?” and she replied, “Anytime”.

Here are my mental notes:

- She fiddled a lot with her surroundings as she was looking straight at me.
- Smiled a lot at me
- Constantly looking into my eyes
- Every so often her body would face towards me then back to normal positioning
- Her friend kept looking over as if my conversation was better
- Never moved towards me, but was ok with me not keeping distance.

Now, what did I do well and what could’ve I done better? And when she was giving me the triangular gaze, how can I escalate that sexual tension? How would I ask her to kiss? and what is that new thing you taught me earlier about, “something, something, lead”? Thanks!

-Michael

Good question. I guess I should probably tell you now…
Posture – Posture is the foundation of the Walk of Khan. Without good posture, you are more likely to exude the urgency of a hunchback running to reclaim the escaping princess as she flees the ghostly castle, rather than the charming hero coming to your fair maiden’s rescue.
Stand up. That’s right, stand up. Lengthen your spine to as long and tall as possible.
Take a deep breath, allowing your chest to expand.
Roll your shoulders UP and BACK…
Now let them relax, right there.
Nice! Starting to look good… But you’re not done quite yet.
Firmly plant your feet so that they’re slightly more than shoulder width apart.
Allow your arms to hang, relaxed, by your sides.
Puuuurfect
Spotting the fair maiden – Step to is simple: when you see your fair maiden, GO! Don’t wait. Don’t look back. Look straight at her, SMILE (even if she can’t see you yet), and go
The walk – Walk toward your fair maiden in the SHORTEST SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE PATH. Meaning, if there is a chair in your way, MOVE IT! But, if there is an elderly woman, certainly don’t push her out of the way. As you walk, allow your shoulders to sway. You know how you love it when girls’ hips sway when they walk? Yeah, girls feel the same way about guys’ shoulders. Having broad shoulders that sway when you walk is a sign of health and virility.Walking in such a direct fashion and emphasizing your shoulder movements will both help to spike attraction.
Kino Turn– BOOM. Touch thy fair maiden lightly but firmly. If she is facing away from you, gently turn her toward you using her shoulder. If, however, she is facing toward you, you can simply touch the outside of her arm.Why touch? Because, again, it is dominant. Also, it shows that you are a touchy-feely guy (which is GOOD), and it shows that you are comfortable being physical with hot women.Lastly, studies show that people are more likely to comply with a request when they are touched first.As far as we’re concerned, this means that she is more likely to start conversing with you if you touch her first.Not on her special place, mind you… Just on her arm will do the trick just fine!

Remember to be practicing slowing down you rate of speaking. Pauses between ideas in a sentence can dramatically increase the effect of what you say.

Touching during conversations is good, crosses the bridge early. Putting a hand on the lower back of a girl you are with, like when holding the door for her to be guiding her through the door is good. You can also do this when crossing a street together. This too speeds up the feelings of couplehood.

You can pick some lint from her sweater or lightly brush her cheek as if an eyelash were there.

Try saying her name about 3 times in the first few minutes of meeting her. The sound of her name is the sweetest sound to her and it will help you to remember it quickly.

If you see a girl checking out your ID badge, point up to your eyes “My eyes are up here Missy.” and maybe following it up with “I am more than a piece of meat for you to enjoy. I have feelings- DEEP feelings and you need to respect me for that.” Very tongue in cheek-like that she is the pursuer.

Using the pregnant pauses in conversation. After saying “I had to come over and see what you’re like…” give it a beat or two since she may start telling you.

Or after a few minutes of conversation, some attraction and rapport is raised, you can say something like: “You seem like maybe you are really cool, it’s a shame we’ll never talk again.” Letting a beat or two pass gives her a chance to ponder that for a second since maybe she will suggest something. If not it still has shown her a little loss if you don’t trade contact so when you suggest trading contact she may be more likely to want to too.

Which is why I usually say: “Trade contact” since it doesn’t really matter if it is phone or email or Facebook This is another place, if you pause after saying it, she may suggest the method. While phone may be the easiest, the only reason to trade contact is figure out logistics to meet again.

If she asks what you do, you have another opportunity to tease her with a joking reply. You are the one to be qualifying her to see if she is the type of girl you will like more than just her looks.

For example of qualification, you show her she lives up to those if she does. A question like “Do you cook” if she answers “Yes”, I would tell her “I love girls who cook.” and touch her arm letting her know she is living up to the qualifications.

“You look so cool like ice cream, I’d love to spread you on a cone and lick you.” and if she is like “What?” You can simply reply: “What you don’t like ice cream.” putting the interpretation back on her.

Anytime you see that you can tease her is good. That is what raises sexual tension.

Remember talking about a variety of subjects leads to wide rapport. Easy going topics, changing subjects along conversations is how old friends talk. This is how old friends talk.

To breeze past the BF statement:
Her: “I have a boyfriend.”
You: “I have a goldfish.”
Her: “A goldfish?!?
You: “I thought we were just talking about things we have.”

Since she may not have a boyfriend, she may be auto-blocking Doing this enough times you start to calibrate to be able to hear if she really does or doesn’t.

When suggesting dates get descriptive about what is enjoyable about it. Capture her imagination a lead with it. As in how you described the chocolate chip cookie. Those are the ways to describe things to girls how they will receive it the deepest.

Ask yourself: What looks good, sounds good, smells good, feels good, tastes good about what you are describing.

The Big IF’s…
If you were granted one wish what would it be?
If you could transport yourself (for one day) to any place in the world at this moment, where would you go?
If you had to choose one animal to eliminate from the world forever, what would you get rid of?
If you could alter one physical characteristic of your partner or close friend, what would you change?
If you could, change one thing about your childhood, what would it be?
If you had the power to change one thing in the world right now, big or small, what would you alter?
If you could stop aging at any point in your life up-to this moment, how old would you want to remain?
If you could inherit a comfortable home anywhere in the world that you could use but not sell, where would you want it?
If you could suddenly possess an extraordinary talent, what would you like it to be?
If you could wake up fluent in any other language, which language would you choose to speak?
If you could have a starring role in any movie already made, which movie would you choose?
If you were able to return to any year in your life for one year, knowing all that you know now and relive that year any way you wish, which year would you go back to?
If you were to be stranded on a deserted island for the rest of your life and were only allowed one book, which would it be?
If you could have personally witnessed one event in history, which would you want to see?
If you opened the front door to find a small red box with your name on it, what would you hope was inside?
If you had to change your first name, other than your current one, what would you choose?
If you had to lose one of your five senses, which would you give up?
If you had to choose a color to describe yourself, which would it be?
If you had to convert to a different religion, which would you choose?
If you had to name the most terrifying moment in your life so far, which moment would it be?
If you could be guaranteed one thing in life, besides money, what would it be?
If you had to choose a book, already written, to describe your life, which book would you choose?
If you could have one specific power over people, what would it be?
If you could become famous for doing something you don’t currently do, what would it be?
If you could have lived during a different time period in the past, which would you want to live through?
If you had to describe the saddest thing that has ever happened to you, what would you talk about?
If you could possess one supernatural ability, what would it be?
If you had to paint your entire home, inside and out, one color other that white, what color would it be?
If you could eliminate one form of prejudice from the world forever, which would you choose to eliminate?
If your home were to be totally destroyed by fire but you could save one material thing, what would it be?
If you were able to be known to your friends for one single quality, which would you want it to be?
If you could own any company, not for its money but for its product, which would you choose?
If you had to choose your last meal before you died, what would be on the menu?
If you could give someone in your life anything in the world as a gift, who would it be and what would you give?
If you were able to join any band, current or past, which group would it be and what role would you take?
If you were to receive any award possible, which would you want to win?
If you could decide how to spend your last day of life, without restriction, what would you choose to do, and who would you do it with?
If you were to choose what is to be written on your gravestone, what will it read?
If you had to share the single most valuable lesson you have ever learned, what would it be?
If you had to choose an actor, alive or past, to play you in a new film, who would you cast for the role and what type of film would it be?
If you were given one hour in one store to spend an unlimited amount of money, which store would you choose to spend it in?
If you had to choose the best advertising campaign ever, which would it be?
If you were able to donate a million dollars to any charity, which would you give it to?
If you were set to be executed but could decide the method used, which way would you choose to go?
If you had to choose the title of your autobiography, what would it be called?
If you could change one thing about your first sexual experience, what would you change?
If you could read the detailed private diary of someone you know personally, who’s diary would you read?
If you had to change one of your personality traits, which would you choose to change?
If you could commit one crime and get away with it, what crime would you commit?
If you could make sure that your children never have one specific experience you had to endure, what would it be?

…. that they just first met, the woman isn’t really sure or clear that he is interested in her directly. One way to playfully indicate this is to talk about it as future plans. “Oh my God, I am so totally going to start hitting on you in the future because…”

By doing this there is nothing to object to or to reject right now. It is a playful statement you made almost indicating that if she plays her cards right you will get hit on by you. This leaves the potential open without being too direct.

By using this future perspective you can lay a lot of things out just as ‘potential’. “That is so cool! You love food and I love food. I love going to all these different new cultural and hole in the wall restaurants around town, we can be food buddies inside these places out.” This is need any specific logistical details this is just indicating that if she does play cards right there is another fun activity the two of you can do together.

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The affirmations said in morning before leaving house and reminded of before saying hi to new girl
Remember inertia, ‘A body a rest tends to stay at rest and a body in motion tends to stay in motion’ meaning, by not approaching, you are lowering you chances for approaching later…and by going right ahead and saying hi, you are increasing your chances with approaching every opportunity closely available to you.
The first one of the day would be the hardest, so once you have that one done and out of the way, the rest become easier and easier. A disposable interaction just to get the ball rolling, nothing more.
By staying committed to it for at least 90 days, it will become the automatic, unconscious habit of you.
Set aside a specific time for each day, let’s say an hour. For this hour you have chosen in a day, it is just to go up to new people, new girls and start conversations. Then as with any reflex, you will start to slip right into the social mode right away. Your body and mind get ready for it.
I think of how I built into myself the habit of writing. I made a commitment to myself “I will sit down and write, uninterrupted, for thirty minutes a day” Even if I was to sit down and type the same word over and over again, I am fulfilling my commitment, so no matter what, thirty minutes a day. Now it is virtually impossible to sit there and write the same word over and over again when I could be writing something else. That would be boring. If I have to sit for thirty minutes, I might as well about something that interests me to make the time more enjoyable. So I commit to taking the steps. Sitting and writing for thirty minutes. Then to enjoy the time, I might as well write something good.
Same thing with approaching. By making the commitment for spending at least an hour each day, starting conversations, you can just keep going up to people and complimenting something about them. If you need to fill your time up, spend the whole hour going from person to person complimenting their shirt (not that compliments are good first statements for generating attraction, but for building the social habit in you, it is.

Well since you’ve made the commitment to spend the time, you can make it more enjoyable by having conversations and making them last. Learning about new people is more interesting than complimenting their shirt and then leaving, isn’t it? I will write other passages about interesting ways to initiate and nurture conversations, making them flourish but this is just about making a commitment and sticking to it. Get that habit to start installing into you. If you can meet 2 women and make each conversation last for 30 minutes, you have completed the goal. If you meet a woman and the conversation lasts for 10 minutes, you can do the same thing 5 more times and be finished. If after your first conversation lasts 10 minutes but the second one, you guys seem to really click and it lasts for 50 minutes, goal complete. After this amount of time in a conversation I will bet you have traded numbers. If you have been in a conversation for over 30 minutes with a new girl, she has been actively engaged for this amount of time, I would guess she really wants to trade info with you, to pick up another time.
What I would do that I found very helpful is to make a few notes about the conversations I had. You can write how they started and a few things you remember. This way you will be learning from your own experience about what goes well and what doesn’t. You will see how people react to certain things, how different cause and effects are taking place. By actively journaling these things, you will see your progress and this journaling will etch things into your memory much better for further growth anyways, even if you don’t re-read them. Taking the time to gather thoughts and organize them to write them down has a very powerful effect on memory.
To continue the momentum of your success, make sure you do something to reward yourself every time you have, say 10 straight days of maintaining your commitment. Then reward the next 10 and you will see after some time, it becomes harder NOT to be social than anything else.
When she rejects in any way, she is not rejecting YOU. Seriously. She can’t be. She doesn’t even know you yet when you are just approaching her for the first time. She may have a boyfriend, she may have had a bad day at work, she may be feeling sick today or fat or just got a ticket. If she isn’t into to talking right now, it really can’t have anything to do with you. You can’t take it personally since she doesn’t even know you as a person yet. She doesn’t know what fun you are, what goals you have, what joke’s you’ll share, whatever. She doesn’t yet know who you are, how you are, or what you are, so she is not rejecting the person of you. She is simply rejecting the activity of meeting a new person right now. “Hey, great to meet you, I hope you have a great day.” You can say.
Even if she was a bit of a bitch to me, I see that as a good thing. Now I know she has the type of energy I DO NOT want in my life and I didn’t waste a lot of time getting to know her to find this out. By taking herself out of the ‘people I’d want to meet’ category, I can spend more of my time talking to other people who I will like better.
When I hear guys who are focused on the outcome, or are outcome-dependant in a way, I wonder. Wanting to click with a girl is fine, but you don’t want to click with every boring, psycho or issue ridden woman do you? I look at the situations of meeting new girls to be feeling them out to see if they are the type of girl I would want to spend any more time with after we met. I don’t want to spend time with every kind of girl. I have learned there are things about people I like and things about people I don’t like. I am learning about new girls to see if they qualify as the type of girl who I would enjoy spending more time with so the outcome is very variable. If I was after a certain desirable outcome with every girl I met before I knew what they were like, I would have to spend my time with a lot of shitty girls too.
This is another reason I value opening conversations with many people I wouldn’t guess them to be a first pick if all I had was pictures to look at. I find myself making plenty of chick friends too (which are great to go out with when I am looking for a new hott girl to hang out with too) as well as meeting good business contacts or people my other friends might want to network with too.

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Roam your eye contact around wherever you are. Here in Boston, since people are generally socially standoffish to a point, I have a smile ready for anyone who meets my gaze and holds it to the 2nd second. Once that first second is complete & my smile comes in, I get many of them back, at this I usually say something simple like: “Hi” or “How’s it going.” I have no need for the conversation to go any further or for them even to greet me back… but if they do, then that’s great. Maybe I will have a follow up statement. If it is a girl that I think is cute, I may just follow it up with “Hi, I’m C.J., I don’t think we’ve met yet” since I do like meeting new people in the area and making new friends all the time.
When you are in a venue and comfortable making contact with people around the room, with your head high, this is what you see with high status people. The people with many friends do this since they may already know people there or think they should meet a new person which has come. People with high confidence make eye contact regularly and by holding it for a moment or two shows another person that you may be interested in meeting them. If a woman holds my gaze for a full second, I will smile at her in the next one. Many girls have said how powerful it is when A GUY JUST SMILES AT THEM. A smile shows that you like what you see and that feels good for a girl to receive. She may smile back which is great, walk over and say hi but even if she doesn’t, she may keep checking back to you, looking over at you. Again, she is only going to do this if she wants you to come over. By seeing you walk over from her doing this, she will feel you are communicating on an unspoken level, and that she invited you over so she will be very welcoming once you get there.

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Posted by Jordan, April 13th 2013
Now that you’ve made a connection online by perfecting your profile and being wickedly charming–so charming, in fact, that now you have her cell phone number, it’s time to bring that mojo to the small screen. Now is not the time to drop the ball and give out cheesy mean-nothing lines like, “How’s your day going?” on a text message. That’s just boring. Your goal should be to continue to engage and intrigue in order to get to your ultimate goal–the first date. The best way to stay compelling is through having a wicked sense of humor and by catching her off guard.

Wonder how soon you should text? Should you wait the traditional three days so as not to look like a desperate loser? Put the calendar away and send her a text as soon as you get her number. And don’t, for all things holy, send a lame line like, “Hey, it’s [your name] you just gave me your number.” Here’s a few suggestions:
“hello my little midget ninja!” (or any callback humor / nickname you can create)
“what are you up to crazyface?”
“What has a bottom at the top? -[your name]” (the answer to this one is “your legs, silly!”)

All of these are ultra cheesy yet interesting enough that she’s going to want to text you back. So far, so good.

She might text you back something like “who is this?”, but don’t lose your cool. Just keep the flirty texts coming, and send her something sassy like…

“Your arch-enemy of course…” (and then, tell her your name, as the guessing-game tends to get annoying after a very short while)

Text Frequency

The amount of texting should match your level of interest, but that doesn’t mean sending a text to her every hour on the hour. Text too frequently and she’ll think you don’t have a life. Don’t text enough and she’ll think she’s just not that important to you and then move on.

-text just enough to banter back and forth without getting into deep conversation or rapport topics.

-the purpose of texting is to handle logistics for a meetup and keep her interested in between those times.

-if the banter is going well, keep it up for a few minutes. If it’s slower, every other day or so is fine. Again, the point is to arrange a meetup.

To learn more about how to grab (and keep) her attention, get more information http://www.howtotextgirls.com.

Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert and coach. He is the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm , a dating and relationships coaching company. If you dig this and want to learn more from Jordan and The Art of Charm team, then visit http://www.pickuppodcast.com. You can also interact with Jordan on Facebook or Twitter.

Cj Clark Keep a journal/diary.
It sounds like a very monotonous habit at first, but when you get into it, that little book will become a great way to organize your thoughts and track your growth over the years. Most of us already stay awake in bed at night pondering the events of the day anyways so why not document those thoughts in an organized fashion? That will allow you to look back and observe how your way of thinking has changed over time.
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Cj Clark Learn to use and trust your subconscious/intuition.
When you spend time in silence everyday, listen not for words but for a feeling that tells you to do something. Do not mistake your own reasoning and thoughts for those of your subconscious. If you can track where the thought came from, (this thought led to that thought which led to this thought, etc.) then it was not from your subconscious. Learning to accurately discern between the two will allow you to tap into knowledge that you don’t consciously have.
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Cj Clark Develop a charismatic personality.
You know, the kind of personality that is surrounded by people constantly and is the life of the party. Start visualizing yourself as THAT person. Maybe take a short course on dynamic speaking and learn some jokes. Take the time to learn some party tricks and sleight of hand. Most importantly, believe that you already are charismatic even if you fail at being the center point of the next party. Lie to yourself constantly and tell yourself that you are more warm and gregarious than Ronald Regan. Belief is the first step! Reality will come soon after.
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Cj Clark Love is all there is.
If you truly want to be a master of life, let love be in your every action. Love your friends, family and enemies alike. This is the most difficult thing to do out of this entire list, which is why it is listed at #50. But if you accomplish this, you will be seen as a leader among everyone that allows hate, envy, disgust and all other negative emotions into their lives. Think Gandhi. Love is so rare in this world when compared to the massive presence of hate that by exuding love, you will immediately see yourself and the people around you change. Love. Love. Love.
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I’ll even share a favorite of mine here. It is for special occasions and it is called the Helicopter Hug.

I reach under my girls arms, under her armpits so I can lean back and spin.

This way her body swings aroing like a helicopter blade and ahe can feel like a little kid for a moment.

We both can have a little glee so I save this for top notch occassion/reasons.

Foreplay Orgasms:

These orgasms take place during foreplay (or “pre-penetration” as
I like to call it).

Foreplay orgasms are sooo important… because they allow your
lover to “warm up” and have multiple orgasms later when you
penetrate her =)

Every GREAT lover should have the following foreplay orgasms
in his playbook:

Nipple Orgasm: Not all women can have an orgasm through nipple
stimulation alone, but since a personally know a few who can I
had to put it in here to make the article complete!

Clitoral Orgasm: This orgasm concentrates on the clitoris. Not as
intense as the deep spot and other vaginal orgasms but still a
great warm up and relatively easy to give.

“Deep Spot” Orgasm: The “deep spot” orgasm is often the first
time many woman have a true “internal” orgasm, as it’s usually
easier for a woman to have one of these than it is for her to
have one during sex.

“G-Spot” Orgasm: Similar to the deep spot orgasm but not quite
as intense. Still a great orgasm to have in the bag of tricks
to get her “primed” for multiples during sex.

Now let’s talk about some of the orgasms women are capable
of having during PENETRATION:

Penetration Orgasms:

Vaginal Orgasm: Normal orgasm while you are inside of her, much
like the “deep spot” orgasm. Usually more intense than any
foreplay orgasm but for some woman very difficult to achieve.
Far easier to achieve AFTER a foreplay orgasm.

Anal orgasm: This occurs when you have a clitoral or vaginal
orgasm during “rear entry”. It feels very different to a girl
than a clitoral or vaginal orgasm alone =)

Multiple Orgasms: Multiple orgasms are when your lover has an
orgasm and you give her another (or many) orgasms right after.
This is different than the continuous orgasm which is described
next.

Continuous Orgasm: This is when your girl has an orgasm but
instead of letting her sexual excitement come down (as many
women think they have to because they are sensitive) you INSTEAD
keep going and often even harder.

This causes her to start orgasming UNCONTROLLABLY and over and
over. With a continuous orgasm she will often be EXHAUSTED after
and will always say she had not idea how many orgasms she had.
99% of women need to be verbally talked through a continuous
orgasm as it is rare that previous lovers have EVER given this
to her.

She also has no way to do this herself through masturbation.
If you give your girl this she just might become sexually
addicted to you, so only do this with a girl you REALLY like!

When she is getting all worked up in excitement about something, I would tease her with: “I bet your one of those girls who throws her panties on the stage at concerts…”

“Boy you are a bundle of mischief, I better be careful of you.”

When she mentions anything about sex, I may say “You’re a little sex kitten, aren’t you…”

“Boy are you frisky at this hour.” With such a playful grin of mischief

Sometimes she will assert silly claims that I can tease her about: “You better watch out missy… or you going to get spanked little girl…”

If I catch her accidentally make eye contact with a guy’s butt or crotch, I might say “You are one NAUGHTY little girl, aren’t you…” When it is on me, I say “Hey Missy, my eyes are up here. UP HERE.” As I point my two first fingers at my eyes. “I am more than a piece of meat, you know. I have feelings, deep feelings and you have to respect me as a person too.” I recently said that about me being more than a piece of meat to two girls at university I was chatting with. It was very funny how they played along and then more than half of everything they were saying after that was a sexual undertones joke.

If she compliments me, I might say “I’m not that easy… You’re going to have at least buy me a drink before I go home with you…”

Often, as I and a new girl is walking up my stairs to my apartment I will say: “Hey, just because I am letting you come up to my apartment DOES NOT mean there will be any sex happening.”

When she starts her compliments with: “I like your….****.” I tell her “No you don’t, you’re just attracted to me.” I think it is so funny when you see a girl get a pondering gaze after hearing this.
“You couldn’t handle me baby” “We’re totally having a pillow fight later” ”You’re last boyfriend obviously didn’t spank you enough”

When I am talking to a group of people, I look to include everyone. I see who is actively interested. Now it is time to engage the ones who appear less interested. Put them on the spot, ask them a continuing question, with the start of a curiosity point, then asking them to elaborate different points they state in their answer. Series of questions feel like you’re under the hot lights…when following with questions do not directly relate to the one before if it feels like information suckage. People getting listed questions will start to feel defensive, some social doorknob people do this, asking question after question….take, take, take…suck, suck, suck….it becomes a very ‘one side that is giving’ interaction

There are a few ways to avoid this. I have a statement system that indicates inquiry but without any pressures for answer, I will get into that a little later. This is good starter stuff.

After asking a question and getting an answer, there are a few options to keep your convo partner out of the hot seat.

◦Take their answer and make points to the topic from your point of view. Having similar feelings or understand in a great way to build/deepen rapport. Especially if you notice this is a really quiet person. If their point reminds you of a story, go ahead and tell it.
◦Rephrase what you just heard to ensure you heard it right. This will also make your convo partner feel like they have been more fully heard, therefore giving them more conversational confidence. Just take their ideas and rephrase them in your own words
◦Asking them to elaborate on details is good. This as a repeat question does not make the interaction feel like a police lineup interview. By asking for elaboration on different parts of their answer, this shows you are truly listening, you are interested and want to hear more.
◦Use their name when making a point, the others will stay engaged.

A psychologist at a girl’s college asked the members of his class to compliment any girl wearing red. Within a week the cafeteria was a blaze of red. None of the girls were aware of being influenced, although they did notice that the atmosphere was more friendly. A class at the University of Minnesota is reported to have conditioned their psychology professor a week after he told them about learning without awareness. Every time he moved toward the right side of the room, they paid more attention and laughed more uproariously at his jokes, until apparently they were able to condition him right out the door.

– W. Lambert Gardiner, Psychology: A Story of a Search, 1970

SPEAKING

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Speak loud. Pronounce every letter in the words you are saying. There is no rush in getting the words out & by taking your time, speaking slowly and with pauses, will actually will hold attention and be listened to more carefully by the people you are speaking with. When people are rushing through their word, with a self conscious urgency to be finished, the people listening to them will empathetically want them to be finished speaking too.

Yet when you speak slowly, and confidently pronouncing all of words well, people like to listen to this and your relaxed tempo will transfer to them. The will like the comfort in listening to you speak and by speaking slowly does a few things. They will capture your message more completely. This gives a chance for what you’re saying to sink in to their thoughts and be thought about. Also by speaking in a relaxed, slow manner, anytime your words cause them to think of things to interject with, your rate is comfortable to do this. You can mentally bookmark where you were at speaking if you want to pick up there later, and let them have the floor while you actively listen to what they have to say.

I have plenty I like to talk about, yet I would much rather listen to who I am speaking with. I have heard all of my stories and anytime later I can bring them up. If I make a mental bookmark of what they said that made me think of a story, I can later tell them: “Back when you were telling me about X, Y and Z, it made me think of this time….”

By referring back to the story they told you previously, shows you are an active listener, remembered what they told you and actually will have them feeling a bit special. This preface will also have her become a very active listener to your story. She will have appreciated the careful listening you gave to them, and they will also be curious about the parts of your story that you associated to their previous one.

Hey,

When it comes to approaching women, lots of guys
get really caught up in their inner game and they
neglect the fact that you have to be an interesting
conversationalist.

You have to be interesting to attract women.
If you’re masculine, fun and confident, but
you’re not interesting, guess what? It’s not
going to work because you’re not going to be
able to keep it going.

The best way to be interesting is to use humor.
You have to be funny. There’s no one I’ve ever met
who was good with girls that wasn’t funny. That’s
just how it works.

How do you get funnier? Here are a few suggestions.

First, just start trying to make jokes. By ‘jokes’
I don’t mean knock-knock jokes or why did the chicken
cross the road. I mean observational jokes. You notice
something you think is funny and tell somebody about it.

I do this all the time and sometimes it hits and
sometimes it doesn’t. But if you keep doing it,
you’ll get a feel for what gets laughs.

Another thing that you can do is to take an improve
class. Improve classes help a lot because they teach
you to think on your feet. You get used to trying
to make people laugh in outrageous situations.

You get better at performing in front of an audience,
which also helps. There are lots of benefits for your
game.

You can also improve your sense of humor by watching
professional comedians. In fact, if a comedian you
see isn’t too famous, you can steal bits from them
and nobody will ever notice. I did that for a while
in order to get a sense for the pacing.

You’ll gradually learn what’s funny. The unexpected is
funny. Going too far is funny. Humor usually comes
from a superior or inferior position. The humor that
you want to use with women is the humor that comes
from a superior rather than inferior position.

But this doesn’t necessarily mean that you never
want to make fun of yourself. It’s good to make fun
of yourself when a girl realizes other girls like
you in order to appear humble. But in the beginning,
don’t do it.

Humor is the key to approaching women successfully
and it’s something anybody can learn. If you’re the
type of guy who feels like you don’t have a funny bone
in your body, start practicing and you’ll hit it.

Hope this helps,

JS – The King of Content

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10 vital habits to develop
October 25, 2012 ChangeYourLife.net Positive psychology

Although we like to think of ourselves as being free to act and being in control of our owns lives, we are – more often than not – creatures of habit, and our behavior is a result of the grooves our experiences have made in our mind. How often have you wanted to resist that second helping of desert or that drink, only to have caved in and regretted it later? Or how often have you not been to the gym or not got out of bed when your alarm clock range? Next time, I’ll be stronger, you’ve said to yourself.

In fact, our habits – both our physical habits and our habits of mind – largely control where we end up in life. Most people go through life blissfully unaware of this, but for the conscious few who have come to see the importance of self awareness, there can be no more important activity than changing habits.

Samuel Johnson wrote that ‘The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.’ It’s a pessimistic view, but it’s a strong belief of mine that habits can be changed – bad habits can be dropped and healthy habits can replace them. With gentle persistence and time, amazing changes can take place.

Here are ten habits which I’ve tried to develop over the years – I wish I had started earlier!

[content_box_blue width="75%"]The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken (Samuel Johnson).[/content_box_blue]

Habit #1: Learning
Learning or ‘education’ can often be seen as a chore or as a means to an end, something imposed on young people in school and necessary to get a good job. But continually learning new things, especially as we live in such a rapidly changing world, keeps the mind open and can slow the inevitable decline in our cognitive function as we age.

Dr. Robert Epstein, former editor-in-chief of Psychology Today, writes ‘We do not know how to stop or reverse this decline, but it is important for us to resist it. There is some evidence that if you keep learning and stay active cognitively, it probably slows down the deterioration.‘ As Alanna Shaikh shows in this video, staying cognitively active and engaged can slow down the progress of serious neurological disease.

So it really is never too late to start learning something new!

Habit #2: Regular exercise
I don’t think anyone will need convincing about this one! Regular exercise is like a magic pill which improves health in so many ways that, if it were available in tablet form, would be the best selling drug the world has ever seen. From massively reducing your risk of heart disease, diabetes, stroke and cancer to improving your memory and the quality of your sleep, exercise is so important that it should be a core part of your daily routine.

Personally, I see exercise as a necessity, not an optional extra. When something becomes that important, you make time for it.

[content_box_blue width="75%"]We first make our habits, and then our habits make us (John Dryden).[/content_box_blue]

Habit #3: Going without
We live in a culture of consumption, and most of us living in the first world don’t have to go without the basic necessities of life. ‘Going without’ seems like a bad thing. But there was a time when deliberate abstinence was part of life. In medieval Europe, Lent was a very important part of the year and people were expected to observe a fairly strict regime of fasting and going without meat and other produce. until quite recently, Catholics kept Fridays as fast days, and Muslims still observe Ramadan as a time of fast.

I suggest making fasting a regular part of your routine. Skipping lunch a couple of times a week might be a good way to start, and you can build up to a 24 fat once per week. This might sound difficult or even frightening, but it’s surprisingly easy when you get used to it. The benefits of fasting are both psychological and physical. You come to appreciate food more and become more aware of how privileged you are to have such an abundant supply. Fasting can help you lose weight and there is also intriguing evidence, presented in this BBC documentary, which suggests that fasting could prolong life and slow down the development of neurological diseases such as Alzheimers. Needless to say, be sensible and moderate with this and, if you have any medical problems or if you’ve had issues with eating before, don’t fast until you’ve seen your doctor.

As well as abstaining from food now and again, I also like to observe a ‘technology fast’ now and again. For a 24 hour period, I switch off my computers, phones and tablets and live the way I used to live when I was a kid. It’s liberating – technology can enslave you.

Going without something can teach you how addicted and dependent you are on it. Above all, going without teaches you how to be in control – of food, of drink, of technology – and not to allow these things to control you.

Habit #4: Being grateful
Robert Emmons, a psychologist at the University of California, has studied the effects of gratitude scientifically. He asked a group of subjects to keep a ‘gratitide journal.’ All they had to do was record five things every week they were grateful for. After two months of doing this, Emmons writes that ‘Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals (academic, interpersonal and health-based).’ The study also reported that those keeping gratitude journals exercised more regularly and suffered fewer health problems.

It’s easy to get into the habit of complaining about what’s wrong and seeing the negative side of things, but a mental habit of being grateful or appreciative will do you more good. Reality is rarely black or white – we do not see it as it is, writes Anais Nin, but as we are.

Habit #5: Reading
When someone asks me, ‘What’s the most important thing I can do for my child?‘ I always say ‘encourage them to read.‘ When I was growing up, we always had books in our house, and my mother would read to us each morning before school. It’s given me a lifelong love of books and I cannot say how much this has enriched my life. The tangible benefits of reading are to broaden your horizons, improve your vocabulary and your ability to write and speak well, to increase your powers of concentration and memory and to aid your imagination. I think it is a great loss that, because of the availability of video, images and games on the Internet, children no longer have to use their imagination so much.

I cannot stress how important this is – for children but also for adults – turn off the computer (and the TV), just for half an hour each day, and read.

Habit #6: Dreaming
I don’t like goals. Never have. I’ve never got anywhere with them, except that setting them has sometimes given me something to do. The way my life has turned out has had nothing to do with setting goals and making plans. I know this goes against the grain of the self-improvement industry, but I believe there is something more fruitful – and that is dreaming. For me, one of life’s greatest pleasures is to go for a walk and dream – about the future, about how life could be different. This is not about wishing for change or being dissatisfied, but more a kind of open mindedness and a willingness to embrace new possibilities. Who know where you’ll be ten years from now? Why not dream grand dreams?

Habit #7: Spending time with family
In her book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, Bronnie Ware writes that people she interviewed as they approached the end of their life regretted having ‘missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship,‘ and ‘deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.‘

For children, the benefits of spending time with their parents is enormous, as this article shows, from better self esteem and greater confidence, to improved academic results.

Habit #8: Enjoying yourself
Yes, I do think that ‘enjoying yourself’ is a habit. Like most other things, it’s a choice about how you react to situations and, as this article suggests, enjoying life more can even lead to increased life expectancy.

the trick here is to see the good in every situation. Even the most potentially stressful situations, like an exam or a job interview, can be enjoyable if you have the right frame of mind. Learning to see things in a different way is just another mental habit. The techniques of neurolinguistic programming (NLP) can help with this – re-framing, where you learn to think about something in a new way or from a different perspective, can be particularly powerful.

Next time you find yourself in a situation which you’re not enjoying, ask yourself – ‘what can I change about my perspective?’ this simple question can powerfully change your experience of life.

Habit #9: Being alone
Admittedly, I am something of an introvert and I like to be alone. But everyone can benefit from taking regular breaks from other people. Indeed, it is ‘a powerful need and a necessary tonic in today’s rapid-fire world,’ writes Psychologist Ester Buchholz and it should not be something optional in your life.

Author and critic Marya Mannes wrote that ‘The great omission in American life is solitude; not loneliness, for this is an alienation that thrives most in the midst of crowds, but that zone of time and space free from outside pressure which is the incubator of the spirit.’ The main benefits of being alone are that it gives you time and space to think about things, to kick problems around and to be creative (I can never write articles unless I am completely alone and quiet). Importantly, being alone also deepens the quality of your relationships with others.

It can seem difficult to find time to be alone, but there are always opportunities – getting up earlier, closing the door of your room. It’s an important habit to develop.

Habit #10: Relaxing
Relaxing deliberately – not just being lazy and feeling guilty about it – is an important habit for your psychological well being. Stress is sometimes called the ‘silent killer,’ since a chronic state of stress can lead to a host of health problems. Taking time to relax might seem hard but it can be as simple as getting away from the office for an hour at lunch time, putting some emotional distance between yourself and work.

According to Psychologist Joanne Cantor, regular relaxation is important to consolidate learning and improve memory.

Holidays are often a really good way of relaxing, since they put you in a completely different environment from the one you’re used to dealing with on a daily basis and do can take you away from all the petty stresses and strains of your regular life. According to recent studies, taking a holiday is ‘good for your cardiovascular health and your waistline, lowers your cortisol levels and your blood pressure, and may aid in recovery from diseases like cancer.’

Habits take time to form, but they feed off themselves. Once you start experiencing the positive benefits of these habits, it becomes easier and easier to maintain them.

It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are
doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.
- Dale Carnegie

Be true to your values. Be honest. Do your best. Do things that bring you closer to your dreams. Take care of yourself, your family, and your friends. Treat people with respect. Be the person that makes others feel special. Be known for your kindness and honesty.

In other words, invest love into your life. Because when you love life, life will love you back. And there’s no attraction greater than love. People will notice the goodness surrounding you, and they will be naturally attracted to you.

Do the right thing. – Never be afraid to do what you know in your heart is right, especially if the well being of another person’s feelings is at stake. There is no punishment in the world more severe than the wounds we inflict on our soul when we do what we know is wrong.
Stop the gossip and superficial judgments. – Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds gossip about people. Life is much too short to be lived talking about people, gossiping, and stirring up trouble that has no substance. If you don’t understand someone, ask questions. If you don’t agree with them, tell them. But don’t judge them behind their back to everyone else. Read The Mastery of Love.
Lift others up. – If you want to lift yourself up, lift someone else up. To be happy and free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the happiness and freedom of others. When you put faith, hope, and love together, you can nurture positive ideas, relationships, and dreams in a negative world.
Give words of encouragement to those in need. – A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success. We all hit a time when we lose hope and need someone to put their arms around us and say, “I’ve got you right now. You are not facing this alone.” Be that person when you can.
Be positive. – Think positively; speak properly; apologize rapidly; forgive quickly. Evolve your being and inspire yourself and others. Say it out loud, “I am sorry negativity, I have no time for you. I have far too many positive things to do.”
Embrace your uniqueness. – If you don’t embrace your uniqueness, you will spend your entire life striving to conform to the impossibility of being someone else. By celebrating what makes you different, rather than wasting time trying to be the same, you will discover your unique gifts that nobody else in the world has.
Do things for fun and passion. – When you stop doing things for fun and passion, you stop living and you start merely existing. If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind and your actions. Once you are ready to truly devote your time and energy to what calls to your soul, you will find your life unimaginably enriched. Read The 4-Hour Workweek.
Be gentle. – When you least expect it, something great will come along – something better than you ever planned for. Mother Nature opens millions of flowers every day without forcing the buds. Let this be a reminder not to force anything, but to simply give beautiful things enough love and an opportunity to grow naturally.
Drop the need to always be right. – Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. You cannot judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you. Express your opinions freely and politely, remembering that if your purpose is to ridicule or prove others are wrong, it will only bring bitterness into the world. Respecting the opinion of others, without judging, always carries more weight than simply being right.
Be loyal. Be honest. – You can’t promise to love someone for the rest of their life, but you can sincerely love them for the rest of yours. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty and honest affection mean everything.
Be flexible and keep an open mind. – What looks like an obstacle or road block is oftentimes just life steering you in a better direction. Be flexible and keep an open mind to all the changes that are forcing you to grow, and helping you better align yourself with your vibration and purpose.
Believe in yourself and all that you are. – Know in your heart that there is strength inside you that is greater than the challenges you face. No one can do it for you – you have to choose to use your wings.
Believe in your dreams. – Who you hope to be someday is already a big part of who you are now. Your dreams are real. They do not exist in the past; they live in the present, and when you stay committed to doing what needs to be done, you carry them closer to reality as you walk through the gates of tomorrow.
Walk the talk. – You can make whatever you want out of your life, but first you have to not be afraid to try. We all have to start with ourselves. It is time to walk the talk. Take the journey of making the difficult decisions and taking action. Start removing things from your life that are taking away your happiness, and start adding things that bring joy in to your life. Read Psycho-Cybernetics.
Embrace the possibilities of tomorrow. – Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be part of who you will become. No regrets. No looking back. Just hold onto life and move forward. We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – that’s what makes life worth living.

Understand thoroughly what is to be remembered and/or memorized
Spot what is to be memorized verbatim. It is a good plan to use a special marking symbol in text and notebook to indicate parts and passages, rules, data, and all other information that is to be memorized instead of just understood and remembered
If verbatim memory is required, go over the material or try to repeat at odd times.
Think about what you are trying to learn. Find an interest in the material if you wish to memorize it with ease.
Study first the items that you want to remember longest.
Learn complete units at one time, as that is the way it will have to be recalled.
Overlearn to make certain.
Analyze material and strive to intensify the impressions the material makes.
Use concrete imagery whenever possible. Close your eyes and get a picture of the explanation and summary answer. Try to see it on the page. See the key words underlined.
Make your own applications, examples, and illustrations.
Reduce the material to be remembered to your own self-made system or series of numbered steps.
Represent the idea graphically by use of pictorial or diagrammatic forms.
Make a list of key words most useful in explaining the idea or content of the lesson.
Form a variety of associations among the points you wish to remember. The richer the associations, the better the memory.
Try making the idea clear to a friend without referring to your book or notes.
Actually write out examination questions on the material you think you might get at the end of the term. Then write the answers to your own questions. Since you now have the chance, consult the text or your notes to improve your answers.
Follow suggestions for reviewing. This is an important part of remembering

Keep a journal/diary.
It sounds like a very monotonous habit at first, but when you get into it, that little book will become a great way to organize your thoughts and track your growth over the years. Most of us already stay awake in bed at night pondering the events of the day anyways so why not document those thoughts in an organized fashion? That will allow you to look back and observe how your way of thinking has changed over time.

Cj Clark WEAS-EL, I ain’t got the MOUSE-STACHE cruising under my beak. I shave under my nose so I can smell my ladies when I kiss them, pure sweet aromas of heavan
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Cj Clark The Prodigal Son Says: “It feels good. It taste like nothing on Earth, it so smooth, it even feels like skin. It tells me how it feels to be you.” to the wonderful women who brush against his life gracefully., Heavanly.
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Heather Marques · 2 mutual friends
“It feels good. It taste like nothing on Earth, its so smooth, it even feels like skin. It tells me how it feels to be new, tells me how it feels to be new, a thousand voices whisper its true, tells me how it feels to be new, and every voice belongs, every voice belongs to you…… The Cure~ Robert Smith~Kyoto Song
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Cj Clark Those are some of the words my heart learned how to define love with. So instinctual, so real, moment to moment to enjoy the fleeting moments that remind us we are truly alive.
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Heather Marques · 2 mutual friends
Well said!
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Learn to use and trust your subconscious/intuition.
When you spend time in silence everyday, listen not for words but for a feeling that tells you to do something. Do not mistake your own reasoning and thoughts for those of your subconscious. If you can track where the thought came from, (this thought led to that thought which led to this thought, etc.) then it was not from your subconscious. Learning to accurately discern between the two will allow you to tap into knowledge that you don’t consciously have.

From biology of attraction to long lasting love, heartwarming end, http://health.discovery.com/videos/science-of-sex-appeal/

Hi CJ:

Did you send any message in this last email? It didn’t come through.

**-****

On Tue, Oct 2, 2012 at 10:33 PM, C.J. Piona-Clark wrote:

On Sun, Sep 30, 2012 at 10:07 PM, **-**** ** wrote:
You asked me to write down stories about the girls that I talked to. Here are a few (more later). One of them you and I sort of already discussed.

Alisha

I met Alisha at a dance camp that I attended in early July. The dance camp is a major event, with hundreds of people attending from all over the place. It is held yearly at Endicott College in Beverly. People attending stay on the campus, in the dorms, and eat all meals together in the cafeteria. So it’s like a big but intimate get-together.

So the first day I was there, at lunchtime, I saw this very attractive girl sitting by herself at lunchtime. I said to myself, I have to go up to her and just sit down and eat lunch with her. CJ would tell me to do that. Trying to build my courage, I told myself, I’m not going to be my usual shy self. I’m not going to just go sit alone and ignore her. So I sat down at her table, and introduced myself. I thought she was very pretty. Small, short, thin, cute heart-shaped face, and quite voluminous brown hair. Not long hair, but very thick hair, parted in the middle and flowing down the sides of her head. Really flat tummy. And a very nice chest too, which she was showing off with a tight, low-cut shirt. She seemed very outgoing, very lively.

I met her again at the dance that evening. At the dance, she wore a red dress, red as a fire engine, and again low cut and tight around her chest (I thought to myself that she probably knows she has a very nice chest). She looked completely captivating. I danced with her a couple of times, and unfortunately I didn’t dance that well because I’m a beginner and moreover it was the first dance I ever attended in my life. She, on the other hand, was an “advanced” dancer. She’d been dancing for quite a long while and knew a lot about Swing dancing. So I was disappointed in myself, because I thought I really hadn’t been at my best with her, and thought for sure she wasn’t going to think much of me.

The next evening, there was another dance. And so I met Alisha again. I did somehow get the courage to ask her to dance again, in spite of the previous evening’s awfulness, and this time I did much better. She noticed, and even said, oh, this time is much better. Later in the evening, she actually came up to me and said she was going back to her room, and would I like to have the last dance with her. I was just so completely thrilled, I really was, especially because she was an advanced dancer, and yet she was still willing to dance with me, a complete beginner who also had really messed up dancing with her the previous day. I thought she must be a very nice person, and not at all arrogant, and probably very forgiving. All things that I think are wonderful to have in a girl.

So we danced that last dance, and after that, she left the dance floor. I was still talking to her, so I just followed her and kept talking to her. We talked for a while after that, even though she had said she was planning to go back to her room. I found out a lot more about her. She was a tour guide in Louisiana, and she had majored in German in college. So we talked about languages, a favorite subject of mine actually, and we talked about Russian, which neither of us knew but each of us mentioned the few Russian words that we did know. So she then asked me what did I like to do other than dancing. So I said I was trying to do more activities, like dancing, instead of staying at home, sitting in my favorite chair. I was trying to joke with her, and so I told her that really all I did was sit at home in my favorite chair. She thought that was funny. She said she was completely the opposite, and loved parties and going out. I told her she probably had the ideal personality to be a tour guide, and she agreed with that. So then I asked her how often she came to Boston, and I said to her maybe when she visited next, we could go dancing. And she said, but then you’d have to get out of your chair and leave your apartment. And I said yes, but I would have a very good reason to get out of my chair. She smiled, and I guess she got what I was trying to say to her, even though the moment I said it, I thought maybe I should have put it more strongly. So I didn’t really know what to do next, and so I said to her, maybe she could take my email address, and send me email when she was next coming to Boston. So she did that, and then she left.

I had the vague sense that I should have tried to do more with her, though I wasn’t sure exactly what. And then after that evening, I didn’t see her any more, because I think that her last day at camp and after that she went back to Louisiana. I wished I could have made something more happen, but I really didn’t know what or how. And I thought I should somehow have expressed to her how much I liked her, and how great looking I thought she was, but I didn’t know how to do that either.

One thing that surprised me was that no other men seemed to be trying to talk to her. I seemed to be the only one. So I think I had her all to myself, and again, that really made me think I should somehow have made more of my time with her. If only I knew how.

I’ll be thinking about her for a long while. I know it doesn’t make any sense to do that, but I know I’ll end up doing it anyway.

Julia

I recently took a short dance class (Swing dancing), and during the last 3 sessions, I met a girl named Julia. She was another short, thin girl. She was wearing shorts, and I could see she had nice legs, very toned. She had on a blue v-neck t-shirt. By coincidence, it was similar to the v-neck t-shirt that I was wearing myself. She didn’t have as cute a face as Alisha, but still I liked her immediately as soon as I met her. She was very lively and smiling. During class, she told me her name, and I made myself remember it.

The way the dance class works, in each session, right after the instruction is over, we can find a partner to practice with for 30 minutes. I saw nobody had asked Julia, so I walked over towards her, trying to build up my courage as I walked.

She was already practicing by herself, practicing something called a “solo Charleston.” This is a dance move that is solo and so a partner isn’t necessary. I stood near her, but she was intent on her practicing and she didn’t even look up or otherwise seem to register that I was there. So that was kind of discouraging. So I was going to walk away, but instead I just started practicing the same solo charleston thing that she was doing. And then after a while, she was talking to the teacher, and then after that, she left. So I really didn’t get a chance to talk to her or practice dancing with her. That was kind of discouraging.

But I tried not to get discouraged, and at the following week’s class, at the practice session, I walked up to Julia again to try to talk to her. So she actually apologized for not talking to me the previous week, and she said she saw me walk up to her, and she thought it was great that I was practicing the solo charleston alongside her. She said she felt bad for not speaking to me, but she said she had really wanted to get the solo charleston nailed down, that’s why she didn’t speak. I shrugged it off, I said it was ok, it was just fine with me, not letting on how discouraged I had felt. Trying to compliment her, and put her at ease, I told her she was doing a good thing, being very focused on the dancing. So then this time, we practiced dancing together, instead of doing the solo charleston stuff. After we practiced, she asked me if I was walking to the green line. I said yes, so we walked to the green line together (the St Mary’s stop on the C line). On the way there, I learned she had been taking Swing dancing lessons for a while, so she was actually an advanced student, not a beginner like me. I also told her about the dance camp I attended over the summer. It seemed to impress her that I went, maybe because I told her how fun it was and how she should go to the next one. I also told her that the female dance instructor, Aurelie, had made special arrangements so that I could attend the dance camp (which was absolutely true). So Julia said to me, oh, so you’re like Aurelie’s special student. I said maybe not quite a special student, but I said Aurelie did seem to be taking care of me (which is also absolutely true). Then the green line train arrived, and Julia went (she was going outbound, and I was going inbound).

At the last and final class session, Julia seemed especially fun and pleasant. When we were dancing, she squeezed my hands in hers and smiled. I did smile back, and I was really pleased, but I was also kind of startled, and I didn’t really know how to react. Later, a long while afterwards, I thought to myself, I should have squeezed her hands back, right back at her, why didn’t I do that?

So after class was over, I asked her if she was walking to the green line, like she did the previous week, She said she was, and she was leaving in a few moments. But actually a few moments turned into several minutes, because she was talking with some other people. So I just hung around, talking to other people in the class. I didn’t want to leave without her because this was the last opportunity to talk to Julia, since it was the last class. So eventually we left together, and we walked to the green line. She saw her train coming, and so she ran to catch it, without really even saying good bye to me, but then she missed it. She came walking back to where I was, and she said maybe it was good that she missed the train, because now she could say good bye to me properly. It was the last class, and what was going through my mind was how I would ever see her again. I suggested that maybe she and I could go dancing together sometime, but she really didn’t seem to respond to that. So I said to her, how will I ever see you again. So she said maybe she would take another dance class, and she would see me there. And then she said good bye, because she said she had to go to the store for some things. And that was the last I ever saw of her.

I felt kind of discouraged, because I couldn’t figure out what else I could have done, and I couldn’t figure out what went wrong. It seemed like she liked me, but maybe I was wrong. Also, it seemed like I should have been able to get her contact information, and I’m pretty sure other guys in the same situation would have been able to. But I couldn’t make it work, which was really too bad, because Julia was quite likable and I was certainly very attracted to her (hough maybe not quite as much as I was to Alisha). And again, as with Alisha, I had noticed that no other guys seemed to be after Julia, so I sort of had her all to myself. It wasn’t like I had any competition, and still I couldn’t get anything to happen.

Anna

This is one of the worst stories, because it ended sort of badly, for me.

At work, over the summer, we had a summer intern named Anna. She was a graduate student in computer science in Pennsylvania, at Lehigh University.

I had sort of noticed her, because she was very attractive. Really great face, thick black hair, very small and thin, probably weighed about what I do. Somebody had actually introduced us earlier when she first arrived, but I didn’t really try to talk to her. I’m not really sure why. Well, I kind of knew she had a boyfriend, a serious one, back in Pennsylvania, so maybe that’s why.

Anyway, one day, in the middle of the summer, we were at a lunch party, and she sat next to me at the lunch table. We introduced ourselves, and chatted. She reminded me that I’d already met her, that we’d already been introduced earlier in the summer, and she seemed a little miffed that I didn’t remember her name. Anyway, we got over that, and we chatted about a bunch of stuff. She was originally from Iran, and so we talked about Iranian food. I told her that one of my favorite dishes is an Iranian dish called zureshk polo, and she was really impressed that knew the name of an Iranian dish. I told her that in Los Angeles, there are tons of Iranians, and tons of Iranian restaurants. She really liked that somehow. She was very lively, very outgoing, with a very expressive face. I liked her instantly, though I reminded myself that she had a boyfriend (actually she mentioned the boyfriend too, so it wasn’t like I could forget that). At the end of the lunch, she said she was going out with friends during the weekend , and would I like to come along. So we exchanged cell phone numbers.

So I didn’t manage to meet her during the weekend. Somehow we thought we were going to meet up at a movie theater, but something screwed up, and we ended up not meeting. In fact, that sort of thing, where she was with friends and I was going to meet them all at some place, but ended up not meeting them, because something or somebody screwed up, happened once more.

Finally, we arranged a third meeting, at the movie theater, to see Brave, a movie she had said she wanted to see (so that’s why I suggested the movie). So she showed up at the theater, and this time we managed to get everything right and actually meet. But nobody was with her. She had come by herself. When we met at the theater, as I walked up to her, she made a very brief movement like she was going to hug me, or something like that. It definitely registered in my consciousness, but I didn’t hug her, I just stood there. So I don’t know exactly what happened at that moment. She seemed really pleased to see me, and I think I was projecting pleasure at seeing her too, because indeed I was pleased, really really pleased. She was wearing a simple outfit, just t-shirt and shorts, but I thought it was a really great outfit, really attractive. The t-shirt had a picture of something on it, and it was sort of torn or had a cutout at the neckline. It was kind of tight around her stomach, and showed how flat her tummy was. She wore the same outfit at work several times, and once I told her how great I thought the outfit was.

Anyway, we watched the movie, and then we took the red line home. She asked me to walk her home, because her place was not that close to the Davis T stop, and she was a little afraid of walking late at night around there. So I did that for her. We chatted for a few moments outside her place, and then she went inside, and I left.

One thing she said was she was glad this third meeting actually worked. She said she was beginning to think that she and I were jinxed, and she was glad it turned out not to be true. I replied that I was certainly glad too.

She was a really outgoing girl, always had some activity with friends or whatever lined up for the weekend and even during the weekdays. But I started to notice something. Whenever she and I did something together, we were always alone, nobody else was ever along. It was never a group activity, even though I knew she did a lot of group activities with people from work. I kind of liked being alone with her. Actually I liked it a lot. I knew it was kind of fake, because she had a boyfriend, but, I couldn’t help liking it anyway, and I really enjoyed being with her.

The other thing that started happening is that she and I would have lunch at work together, in the company cafeteria. We started having lunch together every single day, most of the time by ourselves. She liked to take noontime exercise classes in the company gym, so I would schedule my lunches to be after her exercise was over. Every day she would send me email, or I would send her email, about lunch. If I couldn’t make lunch that day, I would tell her beforehand. Once, she told me her exercise class was going to run over, so I just went to have lunch by myself. But as I was walking out the door of our building, she had seen me and so she ran after me, saying she would be ready for lunch in a few minutes. So I got to have lunch with her even that day.

Once, on our way to lunch, she said to me that she should have met me 2 years ago, and then she grabbed my waist lightly for a moment. I was startled, but I did have enough presence of mind to do the same thing back to her, but without saying anything (I really didn’t know what to say). I really wasn’t sure what she meant, and she didn’t elaborate.

So we would go out together, sometimes on weekdays, sometimes on weekends. A lot of the time, she was doing some other activity or other, or her boyfriend would be visiting. But I felt she was making an effort to make some time for me, whenever she could. One Tuesday, she asked me if I wanted to go to the Kendall Square Theater in Cambridge to see a movie. I said sure, and so we went to the theater and we ate at the Afghani restaurant near there, a restaurant called The Helmand. I had suggested the restaurant, being pretty sure she would like it, and she did. I drove the both of us there from work. She was wearing that outfit that I liked so much, the simple t-shirt with the shorts.

After the movie, I drove the two of us back to her car, so she could pick up her car and drive home. I parked next to her car, and said good night. We were sitting in my car, in the dark, and she was fumbling for her keys, or with her keys, or something, I don’t know exactly what. I got the vague feeling that I was supposed to do something, not sure why I got that feeling. But, as usual, I just sat there, not sure of what I was feeling or why or what I was supposed to do about it or anything else. So she got out of my car, and I said goodnight again, and she drove home. I later texted her to be sure she got home ok, and she responded that she did.

So this is how it went for half the summer, ever since I met her at the lunch party and we exchanged cell numbers. The situation just about drove me nuts, because I was starting to really really like her, probably because of all the time we were spending together and seeing her every day at work and at lunch. I just didn’t know what to do about the situation. I didn’t know whether she liked me or not, and anyway I was always thinking to myself she had a serious boyfriend, and she would even tell me a few things about him–it was all a mess in my mind. I did tentatively tell her once or twice that I would miss her when she left–I didn’t know how much to say or how far to take it, so I didn’t say too much about that. She did seem to enjoy hearing it, though.

Also, I knew it was inevitably coming to an end, since she was leaving at the end of the summer. That day arrived, towards the end of August, on a Friday. That was the last time I saw her. What I didn’t predict was what would happen to me that weekend. It was just about the most horrible weekend I have ever spent. I felt a depression and a mental blackness such as I had not ever felt, and keep in mind I rarely feel depressed or sad about anything. I was unable to do anything or think anything that weekend. I couldn’t understand what was happening to me, and I couldn’t understand why my mind was in the state that it was. At some point, I did realize it must be because of Anna, because she was gone. It sounded so silly, and yet it had to be the explanation, because nothing else could be the explanation. This horrible mental state lasted for a week. A girl from work, Bonnie, who knew Anna also, said to me, So, Anna is gone, isn’t she? Normally, I wouldn’t have let my awful mental state show, but this time, I couldn’t help it. I replied in a pained voice, I knoooow! I knoooow! and I think I let the pain show on my face. I kind of lost my composure, and that never happens. Who knows what Bonnie thought. I was later a little disappointed with myself, for letting those emotions show, especially to a co-worker.

Eventually, after a week, my mental state returned to normal, thankfully.

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Develop a charismatic personality.
You know, the kind of personality that is surrounded by people constantly and is the life of the party. Start visualizing yourself as THAT person. Maybe take a short course on dynamic speaking and learn some jokes. Take the time to learn some party tricks and sleight of hand. Most importantly, believe that you already are charismatic even if you fail at being the center point of the next party. Lie to yourself constantly and tell yourself that you are more warm and gregarious than Ronald Regan. Belief is the first step! Reality will come soon after.

Zach Galifinakis & Charlize Theron

Love is all there is.
If you truly want to be a master of life, let love be in your every action. Love your friends, family and enemies alike. This is the most difficult thing to do out of this entire list, which is why it is listed at #50. But if you accomplish this, you will be seen as a leader among everyone that allows hate, envy, disgust and all other negative emotions into their lives. Think Gandhi. Love is so rare in this world when compared to the massive presence of hate that by exuding love, you will immediately see yourself and the people around you change. Love. Love. Love.

A psychologist at a girl’s college asked the members of his class to compliment any girl wearing red. Within a week the cafeteria was a blaze of red. None of the girls were aware of being influenced, although they did notice that the atmosphere was more friendly. A class at the University of Minnesota is reported to have conditioned their psychology professor a week after he told them about learning without awareness. Every time he moved toward the right side of the room, they paid more attention and laughed more uproariously at his jokes, until apparently they were able to condition him right out the door.

– W. Lambert Gardiner, Psychology: A Story of a Search, 1970

The Fine Line Between Self-Confidence & Cockiness
By DEREK WHITNEY

We all know people who sing their own praises at every work or social opportunity. You may sometimes wonder if they know something about self-confidence that you don’t. Perhaps their annoying habit is a sign that they’ve discovered some secret to waking up every day feeling ready to conquer the world. Truly, the line between self-confidence and arrogance can seem finer than it really is.

Cocky or Confident?
Cocky people do have confidence, but it comes from a different place than true self-assurance. Arrogance is one result of building self-esteem from outward sources such as financial privilege or constant praise. However, yank the external support system away, and the person’s sense of self-worth goes with it.

You build true self-confidence from within and project it to the world. Confident people have a realistic picture of their own traits and abilities and trust themselves enough to respond to life authentically. They learn from failure rather than letting it define them, and they forge ahead a bit wiser.

A hallmark of the genuinely self-assured person is the ability to admit to a mistake without excessive apologizing or rationalization. A cocky colleague, on the other hand, is more likely to pass the buck.

Four Ways to Tell the Difference
1. Style vs. Bling Addiction.

True style is personal and has little to do with trends. Confident people enjoy what they have without defining themselves by their possessions. These are the folks who survive disasters with a strong and giving spirit. Their sense of self remains constant even if they must physically rebuild.

Arrogant people are more often emotionally devastated by material losses and may struggle harder to define their core values in the face of adversity. Not everyone who flaunts “stuff” is cocky, but ostentation suggests a distorted self-image.

2. Active Listening vs. the Monologue.

That person who insists on holding court in any gathering is probably a frightened jester rather than a monarch.

Arrogant people need to validate their belief of being better than others and are constantly looking for opportunities to sell themselves.

If you like yourself as you are, you free up energy to be genuinely interested in other people. You engage in active listening and ask sincere questions. In turn, people will respond positively to your attentiveness.

3. Ambition vs. Ruthlessness.

Ambition is not a crime. Confident people relish achievement and contributing their talents to the world. They don’t feel threatened by others’ successes and instead try to learn from them.

Cocky people need to believe that they are on top even if reality says otherwise. This can lead to unnecessarily manipulative or callous behavior as they focus on defending a power base at all costs.

4. The Human vs. the Greek God.

As a self-confident person, you accept that you are just a human being. You are intrinsically no better or worse than anyone else. In addition to your successes, you have flaws, failures and really bad hair days or even years. You treat yourself with compassion while taking responsibility for your choices, and you learn from misfortune and mistakes.

Arrogant people can’t risk the fragile persona crumbling in the face of defeat and run from criticism. They tend to go to extremes of either deflecting blame onto others or condemning themselves for being only human.If you wonder about your own cocky moments, you are probably in the ballpark of self-confidence.

Truly secure people evaluate their own behavior and face their doubts. By letting go of fear, you set yourself up for success.

Cherlize wants Zach until he drops the awkward bomb http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=83I_rQUbw8c

Cj Clark Say “I love you” to your loved ones as often as possible.
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Cj Clark Learn to cook, and cook. Cooking and eating together, breaking bread, pow-wow, love.
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Cj Clark Stay out of other people’s drama. And don’t needlessly create your own.
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Cj Clark Smile often, even to complete strangers.
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Cj Clark Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother.
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Cj Clark Be curious. Don’t be scared to learn something new.
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Cj Clark Explore new ideas and opportunities often.
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Cj Clark Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven, and likeminded.
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Cj Clark Keep yourself surrounded with people that you look up to

My Dad told me to think of something I love doing so much I would do it all day every day. Once a living is earned from this, you are a success.

There was an engineer who had an exceptional gift for fixing all things mechanical. After serving his company loyally for over 30 years, he happily retired. Several years later the company contacted him regarding a seemingly impossible problem they were having with one of their multimillion-dollar machines. They had tried everything and everyone else to get the machine to work but to no avail. In desperation, they called on the retired, engineer who had solved so many of their problems in the past.

The engineer reluctantly took the challenge. He spent a day studying the huge machine. At the end of the day, he marked a small “x” in chalk on particular component of the machine and stated, “This is where your problem is”.

The part was replaced and the machine worked perfectly again. The company received a bill for $50,000 from the engineer for his service. They demanded an itemized accounting of his charges. The engineer responded briefly:

One chalk mark $1 – knowing where to put it $49,999.

It was paid in full and the engineer retired again in peace.

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Facebook is social networking. I look at it as a place to work out logistics to meet up and my writings. I made NYE resoloution twice sofar, to hang out with each person on mmy freind list at least once for coffee or whatever. I have let down you and I say fuck NYE resolution. I am simply saying my yes is yes and my no is no. Hanging out to the best exchanges of energies, ideas, whatever

A model girl, I ask her on facbook to one of her photos: “C.J. Clark wonders what you look like socially, without the pose”

She says “There was barely any pose in this pic that’s why I like it!”

1 corinthians verse 13
If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;a but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

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I had the vague sense that I should have tried to do more with her, though I wasn’t sure exactly what. And then after that evening, I didn’t see her any more, because I think that her last day at camp and after that she went back to Louisiana. I wished I could have made something more happen, but I really didn’t know what or how. And I thought I should somehow have expressed to her how much I liked her, and how great looking I thought she was, but I didn’t know how to do that either.

One thing that surprised me was that no other men seemed to be trying to talk to her. I seemed to be the only one. So I think I had her all to myself, and again, that really made me think I should somehow have made more of my time with her. If only I knew how.

I’ll be thinking about her for a long while. I know it doesn’t make any sense to do that, but I know I’ll end up doing it anyway.

Julia

I recently took a short dance class (Swing dancing), and during the last 3 sessions, I met a girl named Julia. She was another short, thin girl. She was wearing shorts, and I could see she had nice legs, very toned. She had on a blue v-neck t-shirt. By coincidence, it was similar to the v-neck t-shirt that I was wearing myself. She didn’t have as cute a face as Alisha, but still I liked her immediately as soon as I met her. She was very lively and smiling. During class, she told me her name, and I made myself remember it.

The way the dance class works, in each session, right after the instruction is over, we can find a partner to practice with for 30 minutes. I saw nobody had asked Julia, so I walked over towards her, trying to build up my courage as I walked.

She was already practicing by herself, practicing something called a “solo Charleston.” This is a dance move that is solo and so a partner isn’t necessary. I stood near her, but she was intent on her practicing and she didn’t even look up or otherwise seem to register that I was there. So that was kind of discouraging. So I was going to walk away, but instead I just started practicing the same solo charleston thing that she was doing. And then after a while, she was talking to the teacher, and then after that, she left. So I really didn’t get a chance to talk to her or practice dancing with her. That was kind of discouraging.

But I tried not to get discouraged, and at the following week’s class, at the practice session, I walked up to Julia again to try to talk to her. So she actually apologized for not talking to me the previous week, and she said she saw me walk up to her, and she thought it was great that I was practicing the solo charleston alongside her. She said she felt bad for not speaking to me, but she said she had really wanted to get the solo charleston nailed down, that’s why she didn’t speak. I shrugged it off, I said it was ok, it was just fine with me, not letting on how discouraged I had felt. Trying to compliment her, and put her at ease, I told her she was doing a good thing, being very focused on the dancing. So then this time, we practiced dancing together, instead of doing the solo charleston stuff. After we practiced, she asked me if I was walking to the green line. I said yes, so we walked to the green line together (the St Mary’s stop on the C line). On the way there, I learned she had been taking Swing dancing lessons for a while, so she was actually an advanced student, not a beginner like me. I also told her about the dance camp I attended over the summer. It seemed to impress her that I went, maybe because I told her how fun it was and how she should go to the next one. I also told her that the female dance instructor, Aurelie, had made special arrangements so that I could attend the dance camp (which was absolutely true). So Julia said to me, oh, so you’re like Aurelie’s special student. I said maybe not quite a special student, but I said Aurelie did seem to be taking care of me (which is also absolutely true). Then the green line train arrived, and Julia went (she was going outbound, and I was going inbound).

At the last and final class session, Julia seemed especially fun and pleasant. When we were dancing, she squeezed my hands in hers and smiled. I did smile back, and I was really pleased, but I was also kind of startled, and I didn’t really know how to react. Later, a long while afterwards, I thought to myself, I should have squeezed her hands back, right back at her, why didn’t I do that?

So after class was over, I asked her if she was walking to the green line, like she did the previous week, She said she was, and she was leaving in a few moments. But actually a few moments turned into several minutes, because she was talking with some other people. So I just hung around, talking to other people in the class. I didn’t want to leave without her because this was the last opportunity to talk to Julia, since it was the last class. So eventually we left together, and we walked to the green line. She saw her train coming, and so she ran to catch it, without really even saying good bye to me, but then she missed it. She came walking back to where I was, and she said maybe it was good that she missed the train, because now she could say good bye to me properly. It was the last class, and what was going through my mind was how I would ever see her again. I suggested that maybe she and I could go dancing together sometime, but she really didn’t seem to respond to that. So I said to her, how will I ever see you again. So she said maybe she would take another dance class, and she would see me there. And then she said good bye, because she said she had to go to the store for some things. And that was the last I ever saw of her.

I felt kind of discouraged, because I couldn’t figure out what else I could have done, and I couldn’t figure out what went wrong. It seemed like she liked me, but maybe I was wrong. Also, it seemed like I should have been able to get her contact information, and I’m pretty sure other guys in the same situation would have been able to. But I couldn’t make it work, which was really too bad, because Julia was quite likable and I was certainly very attracted to her (hough maybe not quite as much as I was to Alisha). And again, as with Alisha, I had noticed that no other guys seemed to be after Julia, so I sort of had her all to myself. It wasn’t like I had any competition, and still I couldn’t get anything to happen.

Anna

This is one of the worst stories, because it ended sort of badly, for me.

At work, over the summer, we had a summer intern named Anna. She was a graduate student in computer science in Pennsylvania, at Lehigh University.

I had sort of noticed her, because she was very attractive. Really great face, thick black hair, very small and thin, probably weighed about what I do. Somebody had actually introduced us earlier when she first arrived, but I didn’t really try to talk to her. I’m not really sure why. Well, I kind of knew she had a boyfriend, a serious one, back in Pennsylvania, so maybe that’s why.

Anyway, one day, in the middle of the summer, we were at a lunch party, and she sat next to me at the lunch table. We introduced ourselves, and chatted. She reminded me that I’d already met her, that we’d already been introduced earlier in the summer, and she seemed a little miffed that I didn’t remember her name. Anyway, we got over that, and we chatted about a bunch of stuff. She was originally from Iran, and so we talked about Iranian food. I told her that one of my favorite dishes is an Iranian dish called zureshk polo, and she was really impressed that knew the name of an Iranian dish. I told her that in Los Angeles, there are tons of Iranians, and tons of Iranian restaurants. She really liked that somehow. She was very lively, very outgoing, with a very expressive face. I liked her instantly, though I reminded myself that she had a boyfriend (actually she mentioned the boyfriend too, so it wasn’t like I could forget that). At the end of the lunch, she said she was going out with friends during the weekend , and would I like to come along. So we exchanged cell phone numbers.

So I didn’t manage to meet her during the weekend. Somehow we thought we were going to meet up at a movie theater, but something screwed up, and we ended up not meeting. In fact, that sort of thing, where she was with friends and I was going to meet them all at some place, but ended up not meeting them, because something or somebody screwed up, happened once more.

Finally, we arranged a third meeting, at the movie theater, to see Brave, a movie she had said she wanted to see (so that’s why I suggested the movie). So she showed up at the theater, and this time we managed to get everything right and actually meet. But nobody was with her. She had come by herself. When we met at the theater, as I walked up to her, she made a very brief movement like she was going to hug me, or something like that. It definitely registered in my consciousness, but I didn’t hug her, I just stood there. So I don’t know exactly what happened at that moment. She seemed really pleased to see me, and I think I was projecting pleasure at seeing her too, because indeed I was pleased, really really pleased. She was wearing a simple outfit, just t-shirt and shorts, but I thought it was a really great outfit, really attractive. The t-shirt had a picture of something on it, and it was sort of torn or had a cutout at the neckline. It was kind of tight around her stomach, and showed how flat her tummy was. She wore the same outfit at work several times, and once I told her how great I thought the outfit was.

Anyway, we watched the movie, and then we took the red line home. She asked me to walk her home, because her place was not that close to the Davis T stop, and she was a little afraid of walking late at night around there. So I did that for her. We chatted for a few moments outside her place, and then she went inside, and I left.

One thing she said was she was glad this third meeting actually worked. She said she was beginning to think that she and I were jinxed, and she was glad it turned out not to be true. I replied that I was certainly glad too.

She was a really outgoing girl, always had some activity with friends or whatever lined up for the weekend and even during the weekdays. But I started to notice something. Whenever she and I did something together, we were always alone, nobody else was ever along. It was never a group activity, even though I knew she did a lot of group activities with people from work. I kind of liked being alone with her. Actually I liked it a lot. I knew it was kind of fake, because she had a boyfriend, but, I couldn’t help liking it anyway, and I really enjoyed being with her.

The other thing that started happening is that she and I would have lunch at work together, in the company cafeteria. We started having lunch together every single day, most of the time by ourselves. She liked to take noontime exercise classes in the company gym, so I would schedule my lunches to be after her exercise was over. Every day she would send me email, or I would send her email, about lunch. If I couldn’t make lunch that day, I would tell her beforehand. Once, she told me her exercise class was going to run over, so I just went to have lunch by myself. But as I was walking out the door of our building, she had seen me and so she ran after me, saying she would be ready for lunch in a few minutes. So I got to have lunch with her even that day.

Once, on our way to lunch, she said to me that she should have met me 2 years ago, and then she grabbed my waist lightly for a moment. I was startled, but I did have enough presence of mind to do the same thing back to her, but without saying anything (I really didn’t know what to say). I really wasn’t sure what she meant, and she didn’t elaborate.

So we would go out together, sometimes on weekdays, sometimes on weekends. A lot of the time, she was doing some other activity or other, or her boyfriend would be visiting. But I felt she was making an effort to make some time for me, whenever she could. One Tuesday, she asked me if I wanted to go to the Kendall Square Theater in Cambridge to see a movie. I said sure, and so we went to the theater and we ate at the Afghani restaurant near there, a restaurant called The Helmand. I had suggested the restaurant, being pretty sure she would like it, and she did. I drove the both of us there from work. She was wearing that outfit that I liked so much, the simple t-shirt with the shorts.

After the movie, I drove the two of us back to her car, so she could pick up her car and drive home. I parked next to her car, and said good night. We were sitting in my car, in the dark, and she was fumbling for her keys, or with her keys, or something, I don’t know exactly what. I got the vague feeling that I was supposed to do something, not sure why I got that feeling. But, as usual, I just sat there, not sure of what I was feeling or why or what I was supposed to do about it or anything else. So she got out of my car, and I said goodnight again, and she drove home. I later texted her to be sure she got home ok, and she responded that she did.

So this is how it went for half the summer, ever since I met her at the lunch party and we exchanged cell numbers. The situation just about drove me nuts, because I was starting to really really like her, probably because of all the time we were spending together and seeing her every day at work and at lunch. I just didn’t know what to do about the situation. I didn’t know whether she liked me or not, and anyway I was always thinking to myself she had a serious boyfriend, and she would even tell me a few things about him–it was all a mess in my mind. I did tentatively tell her once or twice that I would miss her when she left–I didn’t know how much to say or how far to take it, so I didn’t say too much about that. She did seem to enjoy hearing it, though.

Also, I knew it was inevitably coming to an end, since she was leaving at the end of the summer. That day arrived, towards the end of August, on a Friday. That was the last time I saw her. What I didn’t predict was what would happen to me that weekend. It was just about the most horrible weekend I have ever spent. I felt a depression and a mental blackness such as I had not ever felt, and keep in mind I rarely feel depressed or sad about anything. I was unable to do anything or think anything that weekend. I couldn’t understand what was happening to me, and I couldn’t understand why my mind was in the state that it was. At some point, I did realize it must be because of Anna, because she was gone. It sounded so silly, and yet it had to be the explanation, because nothing else could be the explanation. This horrible mental state lasted for a week. A girl from work, Bonnie, who knew Anna also, said to me, So, Anna is gone, isn’t she? Normally, I wouldn’t have let my awful mental state show, but this time, I couldn’t help it. I replied in a pained voice, I knoooow! I knoooow! and I think I let the pain show on my face. I kind of lost my composure, and that never happens. Who knows what Bonnie thought. I was later a little disappointed with myself, for letting those emotions show, especially to a co-worker.

Eventually, after a week, my mental state returned to normal, thankfully.

you live in boston …
a michael pope from boston is coming to live at rainsong, and take over a lot tasks for me.
when can you come back to rainsong ?
how is married life ?
i divorced simon 2 1/2 years ago.
i am very happy being alone . very very happy.
stay in touch, ok !
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why i like animals better than people, by Claudia Morris …. i like animals better than people because they dont talk, they are loyal, they show and give unconditional love, and the only games they play, involve a ball, or frizbee… the end
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Cj Clark ‎”the only games they play, involve a ball, or frizbe” great double metaphor or whatever that’s called , right here
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Cj Clark I may be wrong, but I hear: “While people are notorious for playing games with you, animals are satisfied with games that involve a ball or Frisbee and that’s it”
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Claudia Morris yes cj…animals are innocient….no bullshit
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Cj Clark No I know that, but I was liking, referring to your use of the word ‘Game’ and the two meanings to it. 1. A fun activity to play and 2. The ‘Games People Play’ on a social dynamic spectrum.
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Claudia Morris animals…, i love that they dont play games…..the games people play, on a social dynamic spectrum…. lol…..
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Cj Clark Ya, now that I know that is what you meant, I find that to be a clever use of words
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Cj Clark First time I read it I was thinking that you were saying animals don’t5 know any other games other thanball and Frisbee, had me thinking of all the crazy games I play with my cat that involve neither of those toys
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Claudia Morris lmao…..
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Cj Clark I mean, don’t get me wrong, I tried the Frisbee game with Kitty. However, you can only whack a feline so many times in the little kitty face when she doesn’t catch it… before you realize it is not her forte. NEXT GAME!

Rather than the blue I was stuck with last time, I think the Only color they had left would have been my first choice.

Be as thankful as possible for what you got, & the amount you have to be thankful foir WILL INCREASE.

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When it comes to body language, it does not matter whether she is interested in you. You will attract her attention if you do not play it too needy. If you look out for these signs, you will be able to tell if you are making progress. It also makes for interesting watching whena guy is trying so hard, but the lady is showing no signs of interest. You can’t help but have a chuckle about it.

Her lips:

Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.
Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth.
She wets her lips, some women use only a single-lip lick, wetting the upper or lower lip, while others run the tongue around the entire lip area.
She puts her fingernail between her teeth.
She protrudes her lips and thrust her breasts forward.

Her eyes:

She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.
She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is often combined with a smile and some eye contact.
She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.
While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.
Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile indicates interest in you.

Her hair:

She pushes her fingers through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking motion.
She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.
She is throwing her hair back off her shoulders.

Her clothing:

If she is wearing clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect.
The hem goes up to expose a little more leg.
She is fixing, patting or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better.

While she is seated:

She moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you.
She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
She is sitting with her legs open.
She sits with her legs crossed in a manner to reveal her thigh.
Her legs are rubbing against each other.
Her legs are rubbing against the leg of the table.
Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

Her hands:

She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.
While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.
She rubs her wrists up and down.
She sits with one hand touching one of her breasts.
She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she’s thinking about you and her relating in some way:)
She is fondling keys, sliding hands up and down a glass, playing with toys or other things on the table.
She plays with her jewellery, especially with stroking and pulling motions.
She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you.
She is pretending to look at her watch as you pass her.

Her voice

She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.
She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.
She laughs in unison with you.
In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

Miscellaneous:

She mirrors your body language and body positions.
Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.
She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.
She leans over and speaks into her friend’s ear, just like in junior high school.
She is standing with her head cocked slightly at an angle, one foot behind the other, hips slightly thrust forward.
At a party – every once in a while she seems to appear out of nowhere in your vicinity and if you move to another spot, soon she appears out of nowhere again, you catch her glancing in your general direction (actually, glancing at YOU dummy!:), she bumps into you… accidentally, touches you… accidentally etc:)

When talking to a girl, these are some of the more important signs to watch for:

Can you keep conversation going with her?
Does she react well to your touch?
Does she touch you?
Does she laugh?

Signs of the wrong topic

All these signs usually tell you that the girl is captivated by your charms. As the conversation progresses, you may find that her body language changes and see starts to show fewer signs. If this happens, just change the subject and see what happens.

Signs of interest from across the room

Here are signs of interest sent from across the room. Most are applicable to both sexes. The sequence of the list approximates the courtship sequence.
I’M INTERESTED

Sidelong glance(s)

Looks at you a few times

Holds your gaze briefly

Downcast eyes, then away

Posture changes to alert

Preens, adjusts hair, attire

Turns body toward you

Tilts head

Narrows eyes slightly

Smiles

Matches your posture

Eyes sparkle

Licks her lips

Thrusts breasts
DON’T BOTHER ME

Never sneaks a peek

Fleeting eye contact

Looks away quickly

Looks away, eyes level

Posture unchanged

Does no preening

Turns body away

Head remains vertical

Eyes remain normal

Neutral, polite face

Posture unchanged

Normal or dull eyes

Keeps mouth closed

Sags to de-emphasize breasts

Frequency of eye contact, the more the better. Amount of time she, or he, holds your gaze, the longer the better. How she breaks off eye contact, down before away is great! Shine of the eyes, the brighter the better. Direction of body, toward you, good, away, bad. Overall posture, erect and alert are good. Tilt of head, vertical is bad, increased tilt is great. Where the drink is held, high in front as a barrier, that’s bad. Hand activity, clenched, squeezing or pinching is bad, open, caressing or stroking is great.

Most of us are slightly afraid as well as somewhat excited in settings where social interaction is expected and required. So, most people do not sit or stand in an open posture. But, during courtship, the more open the other person’s posture is, the more open that person is to you and your advances. And, the more open you are, the more likely the other person is to open up to you.

First Conversation Signals

Men, pay attention to all the ways she communicates during the first few minutes as you talk with her.
KEEP TALKING

Alert, energetic

Pupils dilated

Gradually opens posture

Lowers drink

Touches self gently

Caresses objects

Crosses and uncrosses legs

Flashes of palm

Crossed legs steady

Dangles shoe on toe

Hands never touch face

Touches you any reason

Feet firmly on floor

Loosens anything

Leans forward

Steady hands, feet
MOVE ON

Tense, restless

Normal or small pupils

Posture remains closed

Keeps drink high

Grips or pinches self

Squeezes, taps objects

Legs remain crossed

Back of hand gestures

Swings crossed legs

Keeps shoe on

Touches face

Never touches you

Feet on edges or toes

Tightens anything

Leans away

Tapping, drumming

In social settings, most of us start out in a closed, defensive posture because we’re a bit apprehensive. A closed posture feels safe. When the person you are talking with shifts to a more open posture, it signifies trust and comfort. That person is, literally, opening up to you and what you have to offer. It takes courage to open up to the other person. If you go first, she, or he, will usually follow your move from closed to slightly more open. Open up in, slow, gradual shifts of posture.

“today i went to the dr. its amazing what a girl does , before going to the dr…..wax…new sox, bath shower……victoria secret lotion, and bra, panties…..make up……hair done……one might think i was on my way to do a dirty movie….well close enough……only i dont get paid…and in comes big fat nurse with roots……hea chick..i need sexy dr. i did not pretty up my goodies, for it all to be wasted on you….ugh… and where are you goanna stick that……? l.m.a.o……….”

> Walking home tonight, remembering the taste and feel of your beautiful
> cock in my mouth, dizzy with desire. May I take you into my mouth kneeling naked at your feet? I want you.

2012/3/10 Juliet Capulet

“Hello, my friend..I would like to privately pick your brain about something..I am having a bit of a life dilemma..I (think) I have fallen in love with a fellow co-worker who is 13 years older than me (not a prob, just wondering if I have daddy issues). We are both married. Both never cheated until now, and both in not so happy marriages. I know this is wrong, but, IS THIS WRONG??? If it feels so good and so right, I don’t want it to be wrong! We have been secretly seeing each other for rendezvous (whenever possible which isn’t easy) for about 2 months now. Is it love? Is it lust? Is it the turn on of a secret taboo? The reason I think its love is that sometimes I miss him so bad I actually cry. Was hoping maybe an expert on all things relationships could help me pick this situation apart…please?? “

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“Secret’s safe I never mention real names of people’s questions unless they ask to..,

Starting with the age difference. Girls are naturally drawn to older guys since they excel in the most attractive qualities to a female heart. Wisdom, experience, know-how, worldly understanding, they make better providers and protectors for a tribe, for a female companion.

The girl i married in 2006, she w=is more than 10 years younger than me. I first told her we couldn’t stay together since (as I remarked playfully) “Because I am 45 and you are only 23!”

She paused. Then in tearful protest, she was beating on my chest saying “Who cares? My dad is (age) and his wife is (age)” that was more of a difference. I think it is just your natural attraction kicking in rather than when we settle for what we think we are ‘Supposed to’. When you say it feels right, I say “When it feels right, go with it, the heart knows what it’s talking about”

In regards to your new love interest, I see many people going through what you are.

Honestly I see situations and how you explain you are, how you feel: as being total love-LOVE…..

Biologically speaking (American Standard hates when I bring facts to table) committed monogamous love is active as it was at first for approx five years, (to keep guys around until offspring can run/protect themselves, etc)

…and I see love as a very expansive emotion, we can love many ppl, for real…

and the more we do love, like a muscle, the more our heart grows to give out more & receive more love

…while we can truly love different people for different quality packages they each may have, one love does not take from the other, they are just different. . I do love the girl I lost my virginity with. Girls I dated years ago…even staying friends with them, as I do with most, sometimes they comeback, closer to my life, and we recapture our romantic intimacy for a time, enjoyed fully

…much of these things comes with an evolved matured perspective as I see in many other people as well.

‘The secret taboo’ my bring excitement to things, yet the tears over times apart is much more than that… Whereas: ‘Lust’, We don’t cry over physical-only attraction, we cry over bonding feeling distanced.

The way I see it, imho, is life is too short to short-change ourselves. Love is the most valuable resource on this planet, the most fulfilling, generous, outreaching, all healing, abundant flourish of the best parts of life, all intertwined. While you can give and take a million kingdoms, Love is like nothing else, the only one worth cherishing so much. And it has a self flourishing factor that the more, utmost you can give out, brings back more than overfull cups of love back to you on an ever-overflowing basis.

Thank you, I love that you shared your question with me. I am honored you consider me to be one to come to about these things. This is something I never tire of talking about and do love to share everything and all I have learned since that too fulfills me, brings me feelings of Peace and complete that I feel no other way.

Always and Forever, xo C.J.”

“”CJ..first and foremost thank you so much for taking the time to answer me so eloquently and honestly. I love reading what you write. The best part of it all..is that it makes SENSE to me. I get it-I really do. I just wish that I would have maybe known this about myself before I jumped into a committed marriage wit a close-minded, often rude individual. I know I can’t go backwards, though. Since it feels right, I’m not gonna stop. But I don’t like havin to be sneaky all the time..I wish I could put all my focus into the lovin and not HOW I’m goin to get/give the lovin.
And the age part..YES I see what you mean!! It is actually quite a turn on that he’s older! So thank you for giving me some peace of mind, some education, and the opportunity to discuss this with you. I appreciate the thought you put into it..”"

Juliet Capulet to me
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by never (well, perhaps hardly ever) making tentative slightly sexual
advantages, giving the woman the complete and total option of
responding and encouraging you, or rejecting you softly – because
after, all you are friends and you are ..only a man, and we all know
that men are prone to have sex on their minds. (Many or at least some
women do, too, but men are less likely to know that, particular if she
is a “good girl”, which does not mean indifferent to sex.)

So if you were good friends, fond of each other, understanding built
up, then what could have been more natural on your part – and/or hers
- than wondering if you should take it to the next step – sensual,
say. Offering a relatively neutral massage – say, shoulders if she
seems tense, or asking for same if you can reasonably claim to be
tense or tight after sport or exertion in cold weather or stressed or
..whatever. Or to give or receive a manicure, sgtaqrting with hand
massave, of course, Or a pedicure, same logic. Adjusting her clothes
when they need it (or not too much), and asking her to do the same -
to tie your tie, to straighten it. When it’s true, an honest request
and reason, and/or honest offers to help her de-stress, with high
attention paid to the reaction to (implicit) suggestion of more
physical contact.

Bring sex into the conversation from time to time – gently, of course.
How long it’s been, how sad that makes you, how much you miss your GF
and the things you shared – anything along those lines.

Or admiring movies which have strong undercurrent of attraction
between the two leads – Angelina & Brad in Mr & Mrs Smith, Donald
Sutherland & Julie Christie in Don’t Look Now (vv hot sex scene in
this), Warren Beatty in Dick Tracy vs. Madonna (his other movies are
problematic, because he was so famously a shit with women, but since
Madonna has been just as bad with men, this one would be OK).

Jean-Louis Barrault & Arletty in Children of Paradise (les Enfants du
Paradis) – or many, many other French films with strong undercurrents
of sexuality. Belmondo in the Wages of Fear. Jean Renoir (and
others) in Rules of the Game. Deneuve & Depardieu in The Last Metro.
Michele Morgan & Jean Gabin in Quai des Orfevres. Even La Grande
Bouffe or Diva.

English: The English Patient (Ralph Fiennes & what’s her name). Black
Narcissus. Kind Hearts & Coronets. (a good one, this – quite funny,
with with sexual attraction a strong undercurrent.) Major Barbara,
ditto. Rent the DVD’s, share ones you have, or see them in an art
house together – mini-dates.

The best films starring Louise Brooks (Pandora’s Box), Clara Bow (“the
IT girl), Mae West (e.g., She Done Him Wrong), Cary Grant (Only Angels
Have Wings, when he was quite young and smouldering hot would be
particularly good), My Man Godfrey (Carole Lombard & William Powell,
after they divorced but were still quite close and of course had all
that history as lovers), Carole Lombard & Clark Gable, Gable &
Claudette Colbert, Gregory Peck & Jennifer Jones i n Duel in the
Sun. There must be modern American equivalents, but the only one I
can think of (funny, with the mysteries of sexual
attraction/difficulties with the opposite sex central) is Lars & the
Real Girl.

Or perhaps (for some women) even confessing that you’ve picked up Lady
Chatterly’s Lover (for example) to re-read because you’ve been missng
the “real thing”.

Or gazing soulfully into her eyes when she seems receptive, and
saying, for example, sometimes I wonder what it would be like if we
were..if we should be..more than just friends. Friends makes a good
start, doesn’t it? Take your cue from her, laugh it off if she seems
offended, but watch the reaction. You’d only be planting the seeds of
an idea, anyway.

Or doing things together which call for fewer clothes. Swimming is
good, so is sunbathing – athletic, neutral yet sexual.

Meeting at times which are more stress-free and offer perhaps a couple
of hours of free time, with no pressing engagements on either side
imminent.

Getting locked out of your apt. and asking if you could crash on the
floor. Then respecting that engagement as a first step to greater
physical intimacy. Sharing the bathroom, making tea or coffee for the
other, or fresh-squeezing orange juice, or running out to pick up
fresh croissants or Danish or donuts, whatever she likes and would not
have bothered with, or cooking and serving breakfast for the two of
you. Thoughtful, couple-y things. Bringing flowers or wine when you
come over to dinner. Or if she doesn’t cook, then offering to cook
for her and inviting her for a little dinner.

Or surprising her with tickets to a ball game – I prefer Little
League, myself – a joint excursion.

Or confessing shamefacedly – or honestly – that you’ve ;ve begun to
read an erotic book or scene from time to time, to partly make up for
lack of the “real thing” – something respectable, Lady Chatterly’s
Lover or Ulysses (the “yes, she said yes, yes, yes” soliloquy).

Romeo & Juliet works well, as you already know. Casablanca.

These are all slow approaches – successive approximation to the sexual
relation you may ultimately want – but are good practice and should be
possible to do without damaging the friendship. You can always ask
her to set you up with a friend, ask her how she’d describe you. Ask
her to help you write a personals ad.

Moving from slow to quick, I’ve known much faster and more successful
approaches than the trolling the bars/hitting on the babes/SNL
strategies you apparently recommend at least part of the time. One
“success” said he now gets laid once a week. Expensive, manipulative,
and inefficient.

Consensual sex once a week is NOTHING compared to the frequency with
which you (well, I) typically have sex within a sexual monogamous or
monogamish personal relationship. With my husband, 15-20 times a
week. (That was a bit too often for me – so often that I didn’t even
have time to get horny again -but he considered anything less
Lysistrata-like.) With my B-school boyfriend, 23 y.o., strong and
eager, 1-2 hr sessions about 3z/week,. (We were too busy with
schoolwork for more.) With both, sex initiated on first date: with my
husband, his iniative; with my young b-school boyfriend, a virgin I
later discovered – but we fixed that), it was mine.

Another quick flip from colleagues to lovers came in SF when I was
invited out to lunch (with a wingman) by our brilliant graphics
specialist, who I later discovered was a veteran of the SF Sexual
Freedom League. (Read: orgies.) We had lunch at a common work
handout, very polite but he was brilliant, his talk sparkling and his
eyes as well, and at the end of the lunch, in front of his buddy, he
took my hand, turned it over to kiss it on the palm then looked up at
me, still holding my hand, to say “Well? Shall we be lovers or not?”
I was speechless at the time, but quite intrigued, but later invited
HIM to lunch – and we were off, making arrangements to meet at night,
at his place, where work would not interfere.

Anyway, that’s enough of a rant.

She says: “I was like at kid at Christmas opening each little package. Smiling like an idiot, its the small things that mean the most xoxo” — with Cj Piona Clark.
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Cj Piona Clark “Yay! SO happy it came…bet you thought I was sending you cereal!”

Jessica: “i did at first! lol. i was amused but especially so because that is my favorite cereal lol but i absolutely love it because i can tell each item was chosen with care and not just tossed into a box ”

Cj Piona Clark: “Waitaminnit, something there marked: “Do Not Open” looks like it HAS been opened”

Jessica: “well you KNEW that was gonna happen! lol as the old saying goes: curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought her back. ”
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(The “Do Not Open” package HERE:)

She says: “Cops and civilian passersby have caught me in many precarious situations. Lol the funniest memory I have is trying to pull my tube top into a dress to cover myself and the guy i was with couldnt do much other than to ball his shirt up in his lap and the cop knocks on the window. Flashlight blaring looks at us both and the guy say hey officer how’s it going. I lost it completely and just cracked up and the cop did too”

“i have no idea how my legs got in some of the positions they did….
in a car…
…i got caught 2 x by the cops..
..soooo embarassing..
..lol….ahhh..memories….
…and one time..
…again in the woods…
..cops did not catch me…
…but posion ivy did…
…yes… posion ivy has 3 leaves…
..and it does noy have to be shiney…
..lmao…….try explaining to the dr. at the hospital, how you got posion ivy in those areas..
…i had to get stelroids, and some other pills to get rid of it….
..sooo gross….total mood killer…..”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GfzSs2ukNxw"The Thoughts of a C.J." live footage from INSIDE his mind

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Megan: “oh how intelligent.. you ever hear less is more? you just set women back 100 years… discusting, have some self respect….”

Cj: “I love women, I enjoy your energy, grace, feminine energy, I enjoy naturally…and I am proud of who I am and how I love, love. It has set me freer as me, in abundant love, selfless giving without ever expecting any back…I love when you sent me sexy photos to my cell phone, am I evil to enjoy you?”

Claudia: “im enjoying her also….i think a womans body is beautiful , ….on this fb. page we as woman, can express thru art….our bodies…..we as woman have the beautiful abulity to reproduce, and feed our children with our bodies…..i like to call the breast…the built on bubba…..i think we forget….this is why we have breasts…..to give nurishment……and to show them off , in the proper forum….., like this page…….”

When a woman is lying back, totally submissive, blocking one simple sense seems to increase the volume of the others incredibly..More sensitive to touch, more keen on hearing the tiniest of noises …. almost, yes very pleasurable hungry for touch, hungry to have her mouth occupies, have a tongue or cock in her mouth…great responses to pausing on touches too…not knowing when the next ouch will be, where the next sensation will occur…and personally I do love the feeling of sensuous fabrics on my own skin as well, very much.

People ask me about secrets to ongoing happiness, the 5 senses, maximized in pleasure explored is a fantastic way to start…Most guys have to learn their sensuality tho, while it comes naturally to women…Is why I have been very thankful for my understand, enjoyment, immersion of these things all of my life., Very much…even when I was a little defensive when Bill Gormon told me I was androgynous back in the 90′s, I really don’t care anymore. It feels good to embrace who we are in fullest form.

I am SO unbelievable happy, so abundantly for being a part of my life, in what level we share. YOU are a huge reason that I do have and experience the wonder each day, the miracles and fate I get saturated in of adventure more than I ever dreamed possible, Thank you so much!
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Cj Piona Clark Now unfolding and writing itself as it goes along, the BEST “Choose Your Own Adventure” I have ever seen and STILL beyond what I may have been able to dream possible, five years ago, one year ago…even a few short months ago…and the wonder keeps unfolding, on a daily basis,10X more wonderful that it did, just a day before that.
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Cj Piona Clark In complete love with sharing all I have discovered in this wonderful journey, SO PLEASE…even though my schedule gets very booked, overbooked at times, PLEASE contact me when you see some free-time opening up for yourself, I will sacrifice and cancel things to hang out in real-life time, SINCE THAT IS my number one priority, time spent with my family, friends and making new friends…
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Cj Piona Clark The people you are, the people in my life is my most cherished asset, everything else is replaceable, I have learned that time & time again. Lost many kingdoms of riches, only to find that letting them go easily brings the next, super huger, larger better one around the next corner…as long as I keep my focus on my people and share abundantly everything I am granted, which I do best possible
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Cj Piona Clark If there is anything I can ever do for you, no matter how large or small, simply ask & it is granted. Anything with in my power, my reach, my means…if I have it & you want it, it is yours Ask and you shall receive anything you want from me, nothing expected back in return, no string attached, I totally promise as I live: “Death Before Dishonor” There is my word.
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Claudia Morris do you have a book in print? are you published?….i see mutch more money in your future, thru different ways, added to what you already do……not mutch more xtra work tho….im not a fortune teller, i just have a strong feeling……
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Cj Piona Clark There is my word for hundred of honorable people to see and witness to ensure I am absolutely accountable. If you like the shirt I am wearing on a particular day, tell me you want it. As long as you have a replacement at hand so I am not walking public venues shirtless, it is yours. I mean it, thank you \
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Cj Piona Clark Oh Claudia Morris, I thank you To answer your question, I have been published, many times, numerous public high-readership in short form…yet this is a distinct section of the AMAZING contract I accepted on 11/25/201, day after THANKSGI…
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Cj Piona Clark I was asked to take “The Truth Will Set You Free” to its fullest spectrum through my life (although I have been very descreet, incognito about many levels since 1994/95) to be released in four compartments of form. It seems as this all star…
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Cj Piona Clark I was asked to take “The Truth Will Set You Free” to its fullest spectrum through my life (although I have been very descreet, incognito about many levels since 1994/95) to be released in four compartments of form. It seems as this all star…
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Cj Piona Clark Back then, 2008 I believe, I made the video he requested (I’ll link it to this thread later) I filled out an elaborate application he requested and live up to the “ASAP!” he requested. The show was never bought by a network, or so I’ve heard, but there was a bit of a buzz about it when the promo stuff was going around. I was flabberghasted by what I was seeing,
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Cj Piona Clark All of a sudden photos were popping up around the internet, showing support & desire to have me on ashow like that.
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Claudia Morris yup…i see you as a celebrity guest, on someones show……
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Cj Piona Clark Aw jeez Claudia, I so thank you for saying that, but it is larger than that…WAY LARGER than really: Larger than I dreamed (like dreams of impossible things that happen in movies of your mind when your sleeping dreams.)
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Cj Piona Clark There was a ton more all through albums and on my site and this was totally blowing me away…there is a letter to the casting agency from this super-successful doctor who said all of this stuff about me, I never knew…I just kept telling things how they are, any question I was presented, no matter how personal, I never minded sharing https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/36933_410174013717_4663676_n.jpg and being known what it was I go through on any every level of life, no matter how intimate. Ilost the ‘be-too-self-protective’ need since I built & lost kingdoms, figuratively but I Phoenix ed every time and nothing, no matter how devastating it may seem to other people, really bothered me much, I just kept on loving life, and life kept rewarding me for doing so..

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Cj Piona Clark So many people, couldn’t seem to understand how I could be so honest & on the surface about everything and loving every minute of it… I mean, like guy friends would get defensive and sort of protective, or reputation protective when I wouldn’t care sharing I’ve had four gay experiences, all of which I enjoyed. One was out of love for a dear friend Mark Fisher that when he came out he subtly indicated to me he wanted me.. I was friends with him since junior high, we worked together I admire many aspects of Mark as person, deeply. I still do even when he get bitchy…So Him me and Kelley Spada were hanging out one day, she fell asleep & we hooked up : )… He is attractive, very dapper at times and I love him inside and out, and wanted him to have that, I wanted to share that experience with him, express my love intimately and enjoyed it very much (although I blew him and we left it at that after her came. I didn’t really want anything done to me, I want to be the one doing stuff to him)…
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Cj Piona Clark The second experience was with a co-dancer who was gay, that I worked with when I worked a male stripclub dancing in providence 95…He actually had a bunch of coke, which I did some of 15 years ago, and I was so into the partying all out experience, I was into full throttle that night…AND it was a way for me to see what a single-night hookup would stand in my heart. Honestly, I had fun that night, but a detached fun..It help me clarify the questions many of we guys may have wondering, I concluded once again how much I do truly love women. I can easily spot and explain which guys I can see are very attractive, very sexy …Axl Rose, Younger Steven Tyler, Mick Jagger youn and when he was singing with Bowie, etc
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Cj Piona Clark The third experience was a misfire, again a guy I was friends with who indicated he wanted me regularly we were hanging out at a party…and at one point in a pile of laughter and silliness in the kitchen…You see he was sitting in the chair and I was standing next to him…At one point in the laughter, we paused, and locked eyes for a moment…He put his arm around my waist pulling me closer, to which I in good spirits and feeling loving for Jaime friendship wise, I wrapped my arm around his head, hugging back and running my fingers through his hair. Then he started kissing my belly whenre my shirt met the pants, lifting it up…it felt good in the moment so I let him go with what he was doing…Next thing I know he has my cock in his mouth, down his throat (yes he was VERY good with giving oral pleasure) so I enjoyed our moment for about 10 minutes. I stopped him before I came
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Cj Piona Clark And I stopped him since3 there were a lot of our friends in the living room right next door who may have walked in at any moment to get a drink. So I stopped him and pulled him up to me and kissed him deeply to thank him for the pleasure, the effervescent, fleeting moment, but cherished all the same…and that did satisfy a curiosity. Jaime was a super-ultra-sexy guy..practically had sex appeal dripping from him for both guys and girls..so maybe I did ponder the possibility of what it would be like, if I ever gave in to his desirous flirting he would have my way pretty regularly…That was fine, we went on just as good friends and dropping his amount of desirous comments my way a great deal…While there might have been a look here & there I think it was good for us both, good for our friendship. He accepted my straightness and I had a taste of his gayness.
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Cj Piona Clark The LAST TIME was my favorite and not only because it was my last. This was back in 2006 when I got married and I wanted to know what it felt like to get fucked in the ass. I mean, girls have always done this, even on GF stopped in the middle of our sexy-time and practically demanded it. She spun over on her all fours and simply state “fuck me in the ass”…To which I smiled brightly and did so. She loved it. … It was just that before I had the experience myself, i though it hurt girls a hell of a lot more than it does. Not only was I paying super high attention ot what was going on, seeing the other side of the coin, this is what taught me … or help me of what to understand when learning how to give a girl anal sex, for it not to hurt at all, be very pleasurable and to achieve another 1 of the 9 different types of orgasms a woman’s body is capable of. ..and being able to bring a girl to those magical places, through her whole spectrum of incredible pleasures the female body can bring to her, I’ll tell you…Once learning to love a woman like a master violinist loves the violin and the beautiful music that can come from proper technique, there is an inner joy to be felt that seems to equal her pleasure, is yours yet on and in a different plane, very fulfilling. Thank you.

Cj: “This is gonna sound retarded but whatever… people get so thinking that explicit and home-run is the sexiest…while I am …and have been since junior high…a kissing, making out, nibbling affictionado …There can be such a huger, humongous spectrum of variety of sensations and ranges of pleasures from kissing …. you can have a million kisses with the same person and no two of those kisses may seem alike, even close to alike.. Like snowflakes even..”

“Maybe that’s why a kiss and everything surrounding that kiss, the lace, the mood, the tempo…any sounds, ..Songs will remind me of an exact kiss, that one time, in that cool place by the cape cod canal, springtime breeze and sun on my back…pausing to look at your squinty smiling eyes in the sun…running my hands up the outside of your thighs, silky shaven up to that stretchy cotton skirt with the seem, whatever.”

“THOSE memories seem to stick with me like re-live-anle memories, in my thoughts in my journals that bring on those same high feelings, less but still there just thinking them over again ”

“‎(ok very different than my first kiss, now that it dawns on me…afterwards I went behind the garage and kept spitting after having a second tongue in my mouth..maybe that was the beginnings of what is the same today…I prefer penetrating over being penetrated whereas, I enjoyed exploring her mouth and lips with my tongue rather than having my mouth explored…am I being to graphic in my description, I never know.Well, if nothing else, that IS the truth…and yes that is my memory. …Oh ya, just rememebered while I was typing”

“‎(Her name was Jessica, she lived at the top of the street parallel to mine. We kissed at Jeff/Laura Carlson & Debi Glass Bender’s house, in front of the garage..we dated for that summer…I forget her last name now…She told me she lost her virginity to Brian Morse in the woods at the back of our neighborhood…and she talked about that very alluringly and temptingly as if she was trying to subtly suggest things to me..yet I was, well ..pretty super-happy about the kissing itself and wasn’t thinking much about sensual escalation with sexy-time yet…)”

” This is making me think all sorts of things…Weird or not, I remember sharing a new-found base with a different girlfriend each time…. (am I slut or what)…like it was my next girlfriend of that summer, Tijuana or Tjauna or something that we shared second base…Oh ya, I didn’t think anything of it but her older sister & I hooked up after & during that time & they were both cool with that…I was happy sharing love..Carla was like 2 years older than me and very assertive and quite skilled in the art of french kissing as I remember…I was more attracted to Twanya, my age yet twanya was always super bashful”

“Idk even if I should be feeling bad about 2 sisters sharing me like that or that I am revealing my life history in a Facebook thread…I guess the same, I write ‘Nothing to Prove/Nothing to Hide’ diary style on my website too.”

“And it wasn’t the only time 2 sisters have done that with me either. The other two, super lovely, beautiful ladies are currently my facebook friends and all of us use to have tons of fun together, going to Bosstones shows, partying with Kaluah, coffee brandy and milk on Friday (Deborah’s favorite drink) …Awe I miss Deb, such a fun rocker chick with 2 kids, she had 2 more now..Sexy memories, Deb was the first time I was with a girl from behind, her on all fours, SO HOTT…I miss Denise too, my freakin BFF for many years now lives miles and some water to her island apart…”

“‎Denise Nelson taught me the eyeball licking trick & it freaking tickle like crazy…we used ot hang out so many days in a row doing everything…I got her a job at my first job…she was the only girl, washing dishes with a pack of rocker dudes…Lepages with Craig Wallach, Shawn, Shawn2, Mark Fish, Bobby Hutton, Janine Daily, Paul of RISD, Jimmy Porter…Whole place owned & operated by Edward T Kelleher, my favorite boss ever…I am still very thankful to him for teaching such an awesome work ethic”

“Ted would come up stars at the end of our shift and check the kitchen, which we were to clean up, to a T for the end of the night. He would walk around, inspecting our work and if he looked under a machine or something and saw a single fry, way in the back corner he would tell us to get back to work, do it right an not to come down to get him until it was REALLY done. He wasn’t always that extreme, but enough so we got the point.”

“He basically taught me the concept I still live/work with today. That is “Always under-promise and over-deliver” or to do a WAY better job than expected leaves you with a memorable and contagiously spreadable reputation. Very thankful for that since it still rewards me this two decades later. Thank you Ted, wherever you may be. Oh ya, this too”

“How hott, just appeared in my mind…One night, while it was a quiter shift, near the end I was in the back closet, large closet where we kept brooms and mops in. I turn to discover Denise Nelson came here to get a broom or mop or something too. Weird cause neither of us started it really or anything but all of a sudden, we were in the middle of a good kiss, right in the closet at work, so hott. Even there were other peopl that might have discovered out in-work mischief, they hadn’t. We shared our hott moment, then continued to work as if, without skipping a beat.”

“Boy do I miss Denise, but she lives far away…She has the most contagious and easily accessible laugh, I love that about her. And she is super-creative too, she would come up with these thoughts within our conversations having you think “How did you come up with that?”… Funny, I remember too the creativity she would mse out of me. One time, we were talking on the phone”

“We were chatting on the phone and she was smoking, mentioned she blew out the match with her nose. Immediately, while we were still chatting, I started to sketch a guy, with a nose that had a little face on it, The nose had a face of its own and the nose-face was blowing out a match in the cartoon. Thinking of this I will sketch a re-creation of the sketch and link it in this thread….since it did, all start with a kiss. Ttfn ”

Cj Piona Clark”
[Comparison: "It's easy to take off your clothes and have sex. People do that all the time...Yet opening up you soul, your truest self to someone, and by you letting them into your core spirit, your most intimate thoughts, deepest fears, knowing the dreams of your insurmountable future, what you are hoping for, THIS is truly being 'Naked' ..." ]

To which, Jessica Claudio says beautifully: ["Love comes unbidden in so many different forms: A confined heart misses out on the insurmountable bliss that accompanies being 'naked' ..."]
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Cj Piona Clark then says: [To which C.J. takes in, responds with "And a confined heart missing out on that bliss, readily available to us as people, once we learn to accept the gifts though life that present themselves to us...THEN there is and experience in its most abundant possibility." Thank you, Jessica, very much so.]

Forever changing,,,that’s life. When it stops changing,,,,well you get the picture.
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YesterdayClaudia
beautiful……

19 hours agoCj Piona Clark
You are….Very and I bet WAY MORE Thank you’ll ever really realize, really
You are….Very and I bet WAY MORE THAN you’ll ever really realize, really
is what I meant pre-typo

2 hours agoClaudia
very.what?…lol…i worked from 10 am yesterday, to 9 pm…..im changeing my monday hours to 2 to 9 ….. hope you get the pkg today…..hug
i just want to hear you say it…….you are sooo special cj, and god bless you for all you conntribute to the happiness of others….im sooo glad you are in my life…..

21 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
you’d like to hear me say what?

18 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Thank you btw, your last message reminds me I am appreciated regardless of how many ppl take my blessings for granted….doesn’t stop me tho, as I learned in the book when I was a kid…when ppl disregard your kindness or counter it with animosity, you’re supposed to double up the kindness you have coming at them

16 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
I used to stop kindness when it wasn’t met with the same in return, but once I followed JC’s tip///I saw so man people with that angst to give back…they did soften up…or the got super confused, dumbfounded and acted silly enough that they would realize soon after the were being retarded
I am not religious at all, but I do have a huuge faith and saw amazing results when I started putting JC’s lessons to use, modeled his lifestyle in a 21st century sort of way
when I heard “Believe in JC” I analyzed & broke down the word ‘Believe”, it is ‘Be’ + ‘Live’ so I figured the phase means to be and live like the guy, easy enough…

11 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
If I was going to recommend which influences had led to me discovering an ongoing, overabundance of joy, fully appreciated in my life…It would be one part, JC, one part ideas practiced lik those explained in “The Secret”, Law of Attraction, understanding that people in life, friends and family are the most important thing to cherish, everything else is easily replaceable..
“The Way of the Superior Man” by David Dieda is a fantastic , ethereal assistance on how a man can find, embrace his trueness in masculinity to balance femininity in his life the most productively, enjoyably, ways to help both energies to flourish…

4 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Tao of Pooh is pretty good, helping to understand an avatar, or role playing identity is not needed, we can constant change, ebb and flow to the influences around us, wear whatever hat feels best in a moment, bringing us closer to our true selves, which should be allowed to change easily with everything around us that changes, adapts, accommodation evolves…I’d even say to re-visit the A.A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh stories (my first books as a kid) not the disney ones, but after reading Benjamin Hoff’s book, you can see deeper meanings lessons in the interactions of the friends with Pooh, the truest value of friendship, how to deal with whatever comes by…I even learned wonderful lessons from Eeyore how life can be so easy when you learn to accept….Reminding me

2 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
That reminds me of a fantastic book, that is out of print now “F*ck Yes!” by Wing F. Fing….has been my most top recommended bok, I had bought a copies upon copies..reading over & over, learning a person would enjoy grow from the stories, giving copies away…now the book is out of print…I been looking for years, still haven’t found an older copy
Funny as it may be, surprisingly there were priceless lessons in The Big Lebowski…and recently I saw some very interesting truths about love and the balance in today’s 21st century everything in the movie “No Strings Attached” which is now on my repeatable watching list…

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Karla Withrow That’s such a warm n fuzzy feelin!
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Cj Piona Clark Ok scratch that. In my imagination does start those feeling of tingles in my chest, but it is still an ‘almost-feeling’ rather than a complete feeling.
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Karla Withrow I know… Been a loooooooooong time tho (since I had REAL tingles)
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Cj Piona Clark The only distance between what we dream of imagination and what we live is a plan
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Karla Withrow Yeah, I know. Plans are fuckin hard to come by these days, too…. When the weather isnt so up & down I’ll come by….
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Cj Piona Clark IN OUR AREA of beautiful 617?!?, That will never happen, always up & down & always up & down &always up & down &….
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Cj Piona Clark The photo was a funny joke BTW, we used to chat, picnic-table style at least 3 times a week…now zero times a week…there is like this empty space in my worldy time that leaves me feeling a bit incomplete, unfulfilled right now…need a bit more Karla to fill ‘er up!
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Karla Withrow You must say this to all the girls!
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Cj Piona Clark Ya. They get kinda pissed off when I call them Karla, what can ya do, it is what it is.
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Karla Withrow You do not call them Karla!
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Karla Withrow Cute, tho!!! ♥
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Cj Piona Clark Ya honestly I try to stick to honey, baby, sweetheart but they TAKE it as if I called them Karla
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Karla Withrow LOL, youre great at making me laugh! We’ll see each other soon. I miss you.
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Cj Piona Clark Remember when we used to chat, every few days at the picnic tables?
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Karla Withrow Course I do! You spirited me away the 1st day of 2nd semester…. & the 1st thing you ever said to me. I remember all that.
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Cj Piona Clark Spirited you away… (what is that?)…and what did I say?
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Karla Withrow You said my bag was noisy
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Karla Withrow You know what “spiriting” someone away is!!! I was a lil bit reluctant cuz it was the 1st day of the semester, but it did not take much convincing!
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Claudia
lol….okay
this guy wants me to call him
i went to jr. high with him
his name is alan favors
he would not stop trying to have sex with me back then
he always seemed 2 agravisive to me
he lived with me in the village in easton

47 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Re: “he always seemed 2 agravisive to me” Doesn’t sound like fun regardless if I kno what it means

46 minutes agoClaudia
2 pushy

46 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Abrasive +Aggrivation?
So only cal who YOU WANT to call, easy. thats it.

46 minutes agoClaudia
i always felt uncomfortable around him

45 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Then what inspirations to want more contact did he provide to you?

45 minutes agoClaudia
he said he wants to catch up on old times
im not going to call him
i dont feel any connection to him

44 minutes agoClaudia
we shared no
old times
do you know him he is from easton

43 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Name does not sound familiar

42 minutes agoClaudia
he was always trying to get in my pants
did not work then, wont work now

37 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
I think that is a failing stradegy use by way too many guys, ….a little FBV observationon my part

37 minutes agoClaudia
hua
he is trying to guilt trip me….
im ignoring him

34 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Argh, the guilt trip routine…like do guys really want that…a fuck given based of sympathy for a guy’s pathetic state of life?” doesn’t make sense

33 minutes agoClaudia
i know…and um..i dont just give myself to just anyone…
i lost my virginity at 17…
i was a big pervert, but i was all talk
do you want to hear how?
i mean…that story
i feel a connection to you

28 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Yes, I’d like that

28 minutes agoClaudia
i was in the woods
with my first serious boyfriend

27 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
do I know him

27 minutes agoClaudia
i felt ready, but had no clue, as did he, because he was a virgin too
you may…

26 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Ok you guys were clueless, in the woods
planing to have sexy time:)

26 minutes agoClaudia
then we started to make out
and touch eachother,….we got soo hto….
hot
i was so nervous, because of what we were going to do, and the fact that we could get caught
he put his jacket on the grass, i laid down on it, he took mt pants and pannties off
then he let me take his pants off
i put his penis in my mouth, for a little while…
he kissed me everywhere else…
he opened my vagana with his fingers….and began to rub my clitt
he put one, then 2 , fingers inside me
i got sooo wet. then he went down on me
i could feel his soft wet tounge so warm, slide up and down inside my llips

20 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
mmm

20 minutes agoClaudia
i was breathing sooo hard
my heart was beating a thousand miles a minute
the sounds i was making were those of a
wimper, moan,
i never elt a mans tounge inside me before
i remember my face getting sooo red
but thn, i did not care, because it felt sooo good
he kept at it for like 5 minutes
i told him to kiss me, i wanted to taste my pussy on his tounge
he put on a condom, and slid his rock hard dick into me…o my god…
i gasped…he asked if i was okay
it burned, and stung….
it hurt,
but i pretended it felt good
he kept going faster, and fastre
i could see his face change as he came…
when he pulled out, blood was all over the condom
he was like omy god
are u okay…
i said yes…, but i did not cum

12 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
you are awesome

12 minutes agoClaudia Morris
plus i have a tight pussy….

12 minutes agoClaudia
thank you…youre awsome 2

11 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
so what did he say, what happened next?

11 minutes agoClaudia
well…i have to admitt, he then got mad
he got mad, because i told him i wasent a virgin…i lied to him
i wanted to show off….and little did i know i was goanna give it up to him
he got quiet, then said…as we got dressed, i thought you were not a virgin
i wasspeachless…..
i said…well im not now…lol
he said why did you lie 2 me
i said i was showing off
i should have said….lucky bastard, you are the first…stop wineing…
we got dressed, and he walked me home….
what a shitty way to get caught in a lie…..

5 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
WHat a fun way to lose your virginity, in the woods, hott story

5 minutes agoClaudia
i got home, took a shower
and a bath
i dont regret who it happened with
but i think looking back, i would rather not do it in the woods
and i learned not to lie….honesty is the best polocy

about a minute agoCj Piona Clark
ya but woods is hott, I still like woodsy sexy-time out in nature, along the pulse of everything out there

sooo true…that was not the only time i had sex in the woods
do you want to hear the second one
dont tell anyone i told you that story…
its private, between you and me…okay…shhhhh

2:43pm
ya but woods is hott, I still like woodsy sexy-time out in nature, along the pulse of everything out there

sooo true…that was not the only time i had sex in the woods
do you want to hear the second one
dont tell anyone i told you that story…
its private, between you and me…okay…shhhhh

Oh shh

you can use it in your work, just dont put my name 2 it…..
i like when you use my words
have you ever done it outside

Ya I’ll take out your last name or give you a handle or something, I love your words
Yes, several times

sooo awsome

Once on the hood of my car, broad daylight, behind a school on a sunday

hottt

anybody could have driven back there for another reason & discovered us there

Claudia: makes it sooo mutch hotter

C.J.: another memorable time, my wife & I were along the walking trail at canal of cape cod..she was sitting on a rock, skirt on, no panties
I was standing in front of her, we were hugging
I penetrated her during that hug…if anyone came by, it just looked like we we hugging

Claudia
sooo hottt
did she cum

7 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
She gripped the back of my shoulders extra tight as if she did, keeping her voice almost silent tho…almost silent
I never ask…I learned to detect …and to detect the differecnt between real & faked…and Ilove when girls tell me they came by themselves…telling me the amount, the way it felt, where they feel feeling, all over

5 minutes ago Claudia
thats awsome
you have made me cum before

4 minutes agoCj Piona Clark
Mmm, I love that & love to hear you tell me
and tell me again remembering
I’d love to have you here in front of me to he3ar you try to tell me what you feel as you are feeling until words become distant and meaningless

2 minutes ago Caludia
iknow……..sweet….

about a minute agoCj Piona Clark
Sweet, sexy & sassy when the moment is right

is on you, keep your eye contact locked with her as you lean over [private]to your friend to tell him something. It will look to her as if you are talking about this girl you just saw. If you start leaning over when her eyes are locked to hers, she is more likely to hold the contact to see what you are doing.

“You just licked your lips, now you’re touching me…I just wanna talk, slow down missy. You are sitting there waiting for me to talk, waiting for me to feel ready for you. You’re not even listening to what I am really saying….just biding your time until I feel comfortable.”
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